So after months of being unemployed I get a job, and then:

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Poll question: So after months of being unemployed I get a job, and then:

The guy I work under, at this job with no benefits all, starts to berate me and insult me, between throwing tantrums that have nothing to do with me, barely into my second week, and in my case he's a friend, somewhat anyway - do I stick with it, or tell the asshole to go f himself? I kinda told him to go f himself. I had a lot riding on that job, not the least of which was to avoid a full foreclosure on my house. My lawyer told me to keep the job. But this guy got in my face about stuff I didn't do that he never told me to do, barking at me, and I just said, "you know what, this is over, how do you want to pay me?"

What else could I do? I'm not going to set a standard where it's ok to randomly verbally bash me and slap me around.

So now I'm unemployed again, same as two weeks ago. And my lawyer tells me I need a job now.

Should I have taken it? Should I have submitted myself to the abuse? God, I just couldn't. I'd almost rather lose my house than go to work for a tyrant like that. And I well may lose my house because I didn't just suck it up. Aaaaggghhhh. This happened today. I don't regret a thing.

Fyi, it's a very small company, cell phones, one store, he owns it, he hired me to run it. Not like there is a higher level of management to go to.

Ok, whatever. Was I right to leave and risk my home, or should I have taken the bullshit for the time being?

[mnhtnbb]

1. Ouch. Hoping you find something else quickly that's not abusive.

[Bunny]

2. Do you have a spouse or kids who are going to be tossed out of the house with you?

If so, you should have just sucked it up for a while until something else came along. If you're by yourself, I guess it doesn't matter as much what choice you made.

[guitar man]

3. Fuck him

I've been in the work force since 1979 and I can tell you, you can't go into a job like that every day for very long. It will eat the heart and soul right out of you. And yes I know, times are tough, but you probably wouldn't have lasted long in that environment anyway.

You handled it better than I probably would have. I would have been tempted to hand him a good ol country ass whipping on my way out the door. :evilgrin:

[pitohui]

4. if you can't handle verbal abuse then you're going to have an unhappy life

verbal abuse is not like physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, at least not if you're over the age of 13

if you're not tough enough to deal w/ berating -- isn't that just a fancy word for yelling? and didn't you have a mother, shouldn't you be able to handle some YELLING to save your home -- then what job can you do?

any job that involves contact w. the public, you'll at some point have a shithead who yells at you, it sounds like in this job, you just have the one shithead yelling

seems the thing to do was listen to your lawyer and let the berating/yelling/whatever you like to call it roll off your back until you find a different job

if you walked out to take a better job, leaving the asshole in the lurch, YOU WIN, but instead you walk out to nothing, probably to lose your home and now to look even more undesirable to employers so the asshole wins

you really want the guy who was "berating and insulting" you to have such a big win that you will lose your home?

i just don't understand it

as i said, i had a mother, i've been yelled at before, and i'll be yelled at -- excuse me, berated -- again, and it's better to get paid to be berated than to be just berated as a scrub, don't you think?

a great many bosses/supervisors are petty tyrants, if you want to have a job, and you're not related to someone influential, it's unavoidable, isn't it?

right now you're looking like a quitter and the guy who "berated" you is congratulating himself that he got away without a long probationary/training period because you were a wash-out right away

sorry that's my take on it

guys yell, i don't like it either, esp. since a woman who yelled and berated would be considered a you-know-what, so it's doubly unfair...but it's life...saving my house would be worth putting up with some temper tantrums

[Dora]

5. Verbal abuse IS emotional abuse.

Coming from someone who's finally leaving an 18 year relationship because I'm not tough enough to deal with the berating any more.

[SoxFan]

6. Other

[PassingFair]

7. Do you have kids?

Gotta suck it up if you do.

If you want to keep everybody together....

:hugs:

Hug from someone stuck in a nightmare job.