I met with some supportive discrimination the other day.

[Bertha Venation]

"Supportive discrimination?" Yes, it was a WTF moment.

Someone at work asked if I was taking any time off this summer. I said yes, a few days in September; I'm getting married. She gushed as many people would, then asked how long we'd been together. Ten years, I answered. She said that's wonderful. She said she believes that if a couple has been together for a long time they've proven their commitment and should be allowed to get married.

WTF?

See what I mean about supportive discrimination?

She's a nice woman and I like her but she is obviously completely ignorant.

I didn't call her on it. It just is not worth the aggravation -- nor, in this setting, the alienation. I don't know if she's a gossip. I've been there almost two years and I don't know anyone well, have not made any friends, just acquaintances. But I have no intention of contributing to my own trashing. I could take it -- words intended to hurt do not hurt me -- but as I said, it's not worth the aggravation.

[Minimus]

1. So what constitutes a "long time" to her?

Is the time frame different depending on if you are gay or straight? Apparently she is an idiot that couldn't just congratulate you... she had to add in her two cents worth, and in my opinion her two cents worth is worth nothing.


I know you must be getting excited. The big day is getting closer! :woohoo:

I hope you post some pictures here or on facebook.

[Bertha Venation]

2. I wanted to ask that question.

I wanted to say something about straight couples who hightail it to Vegas after three weeks of frenzied sex make them decide they're perfect for each other, but I refrained.

VERY excited! I will post pictures, at least here. :hi:

[tigereye]

3. well, I think a lot of folks think that any couples who "hurry" into marriage

too soon and haven't been a couple for many years, might have an issue, gay or straight. But I still remember the folks who thought "living in sin" was a problem for straight couples... :rofl:


It's really weird how marriage seems to be everyone else's business, when it really shouldn't be anyone's business but the people who choose to get married. I also think it's bizarre that an institution that produces at least a 50% failure rate, has so many defenders screaming to protect it from more people simply choosing to cement their relationship legally - it's kinda crazy. I really don't get why it's such a big deal.



Again, wish you both well, Bertha and hope it is a lovely day for you both and your families!