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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 08:44 AM Original message |
Daughter In Laws, a question for you (and for the Men out there) |
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Heidi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 08:51 AM Response to Original message |
1. I adore my mother-in-law (age 74), and if I thought she were apt to forget CMW's birthday, |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 08:54 AM Response to Reply #1 |
2. ok, thanks. |
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Heidi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 10:26 AM Response to Reply #2 |
4. Yes, we do. |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 09:18 AM Response to Original message |
3. kicking for the editing. thanks. |
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YellowRubberDuckie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 10:32 AM Response to Original message |
5. My MIL passed away a couple of years ago. |
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Phentex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 02:37 PM Response to Reply #5 |
21. That's how I feel about mine. She is still alive, though... |
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Lisa D (317 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 10:36 AM Response to Original message |
6. It depends |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 11:50 AM Response to Reply #6 |
86. What's really behind it? ... I am not sure...read on for insight and details. |
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hippywife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 10:44 AM Response to Original message |
7. My MIL is a wonderful lady. |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 11:00 AM Response to Reply #7 |
10. does she always manage to take you out on the Very Day... |
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hippywife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 11:06 AM Response to Reply #10 |
11. No, she usually calls |
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MorningGlow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 10:49 AM Response to Original message |
8. My MIL is nice, but she never remembers any special occasion |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 10:55 AM Response to Reply #8 |
9. yes, very much. thanks. |
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Kaleva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 11:14 AM Response to Original message |
12. I wouldn't really care if i got a card or not. |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 11:28 AM Response to Reply #12 |
13. thank you for the male perspective. |
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Rosie1223 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 11:58 AM Response to Original message |
14. Well, my MIL is certifiable |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 12:02 PM Response to Reply #14 |
15. actually, I am the sister of the son. It is my Mother. How I got in the middle... |
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monmouth (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 01:02 PM Response to Original message |
16. I've been divorced from the "son" for well over 40 years but plan |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 01:09 PM Response to Original message |
17. no, i would not remind MIL. no i would not be upset (does she love him?), enough said. |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 01:11 PM Response to Original message |
18. My mom is 78. She forgets things all the time. |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 11:51 AM Response to Reply #18 |
87. yes, most of us in our family try to keep things light. thanks nt |
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OffWithTheirHeads (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 02:13 PM Response to Original message |
19. In my opinion, celebrating any birthday without a 0 in it after 21 |
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Chan790 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 02:39 PM Response to Reply #19 |
22. nevermind. |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 11:51 AM Response to Reply #19 |
88. heh ... pretty much my take on all this as well. thanks nt |
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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 02:33 PM Response to Original message |
20. Whoever cares about a missed birthday card is per se a shitty person |
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Missy Vixen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Oct-10-10 02:34 PM Response to Reply #20 |
30. Thanks. |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:41 AM Response to Reply #30 |
57. I am tending to agree with you and AngryAmish in all of this. It should be noted |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:43 AM Response to Reply #57 |
60. ahhhhhm. bad DIL. lol. nt |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:47 AM Response to Reply #60 |
63. heh...who would care except that she has decided to chastise someone |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:50 AM Response to Reply #63 |
65. exactly. and i would probably say something to SIL. that is funny. nt |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:58 AM Response to Reply #65 |
70. gosh, I can just see myself calling SIL |
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Chan790 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 02:40 PM Response to Original message |
23. Well... |
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Biker13 (609 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 03:48 PM Response to Reply #23 |
25. That's It!!! |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 03:58 PM Response to Reply #23 |
26. ! |
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quakerboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Oct-10-10 06:31 PM Response to Reply #23 |
33. I like your brother |
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Chan790 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Oct-10-10 07:07 PM Response to Reply #33 |
35. Oh I give as well as I get. |
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LiberalAndProud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-09-10 03:34 PM Response to Original message |
24. Responses: |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 11:49 AM Response to Reply #24 |
85. thank you for this. |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Oct-10-10 10:06 AM Response to Original message |
27. *~*~*~*~*~thanks everyone for replying.*~*~*~*~*~ UPDATE: |
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Rosie1223 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Oct-10-10 06:49 PM Response to Reply #27 |
34. I'm so sorry T A |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:58 AM Response to Reply #34 |
71. thanks Rosie1223 |
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laundry_queen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:56 AM Response to Reply #27 |
69. WOW |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:59 AM Response to Reply #69 |
72. really? I may do just that, thanks. Any insight would be appreciated. |
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mopinko (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Oct-10-10 10:21 AM Response to Original message |
28. anybody that would pout about a birthday card at that age |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 10:24 AM Response to Reply #28 |
80. yes, I agree...brother should change his attitude in all this, too. nt |
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madmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Oct-10-10 10:22 AM Response to Original message |
29. No I would not call to remind her, after all it's her son. If she is forgetful then he |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 11:52 AM Response to Reply #29 |
89. thanks for replying. nt |
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AwakeAtLast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Oct-10-10 03:53 PM Response to Original message |
31. I wouldn't call my MIL for anything |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 11:53 AM Response to Reply #31 |
90. I am sorry. That is terrible. |
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quakerboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Oct-10-10 06:25 PM Response to Original message |
32. I happen to hate Cards |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 11:54 AM Response to Reply #32 |
91. it has been a real WTF for me too. thanks for replying. nt |
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haele (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Oct-10-10 09:20 PM Response to Original message |
36. On good terms with my MIL, and my husband calls his mom often - |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-11-10 10:56 AM Response to Reply #36 |
43. This is my philosophy about it all, too. who needs the drama? |
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SwampG8r (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-11-10 01:07 AM Response to Original message |
37. do i have this right? |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-11-10 09:08 AM Response to Reply #37 |
40. lol lol.... no drama king there, |
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SwampG8r (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 01:51 AM Response to Reply #40 |
50. hey i meant it |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 06:18 AM Response to Reply #50 |
51. ah, i hear ya |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-11-10 10:52 AM Response to Reply #37 |
41. to some degree, yes. there is more to the story, of course --- involving |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-11-10 10:59 AM Response to Reply #41 |
44. it sounded like SIL instigator. thanks for clarification |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-11-10 11:06 AM Response to Reply #44 |
45. yes, SIL started all this...whether or not her intentions were good (who knows) |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-11-10 11:38 AM Response to Reply #45 |
46. totally agree. and never take it to the others level. yes. nt |
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OffWithTheirHeads (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-11-10 02:11 AM Response to Original message |
38. Frankly. if this is the most important thing you have to worry about |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 11:55 AM Response to Reply #38 |
92. at this point, it is an exercise in human nature for me. Trust me, this takes my mind |
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Kaleva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-11-10 03:21 AM Response to Original message |
39. In post 27, Tuesday Afternoon wrote: |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-11-10 10:55 AM Response to Reply #39 |
42. thanks and that is what I intend to do...also see post #41 for more detail, if interested. |
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Kaleva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 07:55 AM Response to Reply #42 |
52. Some thoughts after reading your post #41 |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:33 AM Response to Reply #52 |
54. ok, let me see ... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:42 AM Response to Reply #54 |
59. i think it is sad. my family, we are passionate. talk about everything. blunt. i would call |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:45 AM Response to Reply #59 |
62. you have a valid point ...maybe I should call brother. He will not appreciate it ... |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:49 AM Response to Reply #62 |
64. we have always been that way, so doesnt matter what we address, how we say it, we know |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:54 AM Response to Reply #64 |
67. I am also a peacemaker...years ago I would have called and tried to bring about peace |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 09:34 AM Response to Reply #67 |
75. then |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 10:12 AM Response to Reply #75 |
77. the same thing happens with me...they all come to me for advice |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 10:17 AM Response to Reply #77 |
78. then they don't take it!.... h hahahahaha |
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Kaleva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 09:33 AM Response to Reply #54 |
74. My views on this have changed as I've read more. |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 10:22 AM Response to Reply #74 |
79. I will go a step farther and say that since DIL started all this DIL |
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Kaleva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 11:26 AM Response to Reply #79 |
82. I think you just nailed it... |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 11:33 AM Response to Reply #82 |
83. there is more to it that however, you are entitled to your opinion. I was just asking a straight up |
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Kaleva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 12:03 PM Response to Reply #83 |
96. I do not think the Dils actions were justified. |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 12:13 PM Response to Reply #96 |
97. I really think Mother was in shock when she got that first message. |
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Kaleva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 12:43 PM Response to Reply #97 |
98. I'll clarify |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 07:55 PM Response to Reply #98 |
102. see, very blunt, straight to the point, and project so they arent saying... what? |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 11:42 AM Response to Reply #74 |
84. MIL did take the high road, imo by ignoring the DIL's first message. |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-11-10 12:36 PM Response to Original message |
47. Nope, never. |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 11:56 AM Response to Reply #47 |
93. I am thinking both DIL and son have some serious issues that are now being |
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Zavulon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-11-10 07:16 PM Response to Original message |
48. No, I would not. |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 11:57 AM Response to Reply #48 |
94. would you be terribly hurt if the call was a day early or a day late? nt |
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Zavulon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 06:35 PM Response to Reply #94 |
99. No, not at all. |
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Solly Mack (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-11-10 07:39 PM Response to Original message |
49. No |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 11:58 AM Response to Reply #49 |
95. shrugged it off...yes, I can see doing that. |
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av8rdave (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 07:57 AM Response to Original message |
53. I just found out I'm about to gain a Daughter In Law |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:38 AM Response to Reply #53 |
55. this is the other way around... |
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av8rdave (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:41 AM Response to Reply #55 |
56. That would be tough....I would hope she would remind be BEFORE the event |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:42 AM Response to Reply #56 |
58. now you have the picture ...also remember the dynamics between |
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av8rdave (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:44 AM Response to Reply #58 |
61. Very true! |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:52 AM Response to Original message |
66. I achieved maturity quite a while ago, so no, I would not be upset if mother forgot a birthday. |
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laundry_queen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 08:55 AM Response to Original message |
68. That same thing has happened before |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 09:04 AM Response to Reply #68 |
73. well, my Mother is a very busy woman with health issues. She has |
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laundry_queen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 09:40 AM Response to Reply #73 |
76. Well, that makes it different. |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 10:32 AM Response to Reply #76 |
81. yes, that is pretty much what has happened. Mother has her faults |
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Broken_Hero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 06:58 PM Response to Original message |
100. Okay, |
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Manifestor_of_Light (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-12-10 07:54 PM Response to Original message |
101. There is one solution to the MIL problem. |
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