It hit home....

[LeftHander]

A coworker brought treats in to celebrate his engagement. He was very happy and there were congratulations all around...I am happy for him too. I was married for 19 years and know how important marriage is for two people in love and who are sharing their life together.

Not only is it a deeply personal experience but it is a public affirmation of your bond, recognized not only by religion but by the public, by the government.

I was temped to say something snarky and pithy but I held my tongue and celebrated briefly.

I sat listening to the congratulations, the date, the plans and the stories of all the married people around as they recount their stories. As they laughed and talked I looked over at the picture of my partner and I, taken at the last years company party, a great wave of sadness overcame me and I turned away and fought back tears. I love him so much that I would not hesitate one second to share that joy with everyone in the marriage ceremony and the build up that leads to it.

I know that is not possible. We could go through the motions with a commitment ceremony but we both are already committed to each other and without the legal status and recognition of marriage simply makes the ceremony though gracious and emotional, lacking teeth and substance.

So the irony of marriage, the cruelty of the laws passed by the citizens of Wisconsin it thick in my cube this morning.

I am sorry I feel this way.

[msongs]

1. the mormon church chalks up another victory nt

[Mira]

2. There is no way I can say "I know how you feel" - I have to draw

on how other monumental injustices that impact me personally enrage me, but my shared fury and my inclusive love to out to you.
It will change. And in our life times.
Fight on.
K&R

[LeftHander]

3. thanks...

I know I shouldn't feel so selfish...but it nags at me.

[FireFly70]

5. Its not selfish

to want to be treated fairly and with respect and dignity. I thankfully live in Oregon and my partner and I are "Domestic Partners". We thought about having a ceramony and sending invitations and the whole bit. but after 12 years together, it seemed like it was just for show, because we still wouldn't be married. We decided against it for now and want to wait until all our lesbian and gay brothers and sisters have the same rights that our hetero counterparts enjoy. I believe it WILL come in our life times.

[tbyg52]

6. It is absolutely not selfish at all.

Even though you are happy for them, they have something you *should* have. That's my $0.02, anyway.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

4. i know exactly how you feel. its how i feel everytime a friend of mine gets married

on the lighter side, i saw a comedian on logo a couple days ago. He is a black gay comedian and apparantly he tells his straight friends who invite him to their weddings "Why should i go? i cant get married? if this was the 50's i wouldnt go to watch you vote either" i thought that was both funny and sad

[mrbarber]

7. Should have told them to stop..

"pushing" there "lifestyle choices" on the people around them.

[NMMNG]

8. It's sick, isn't it?

The way they flaunt their sexuality and shove their relationships down our throats? How long before you have to hear all about the fruits of their unprotected sex (IOW, babies)?


Can you tell I'm bitter? I'm in CA where it looks like they're going to uphold Prop 8 and I'm pissed for us and on behalf of every state where hateful anti-gay laws have been passed (and are in the works). I'm sick to death of moral grandstanders trying to run our lives while they can't even keep themselves under control.


Don't ever be sorry for how you feel. It's not wrong to be disgusted when you're society's kicking bag.