Why would someone call Deborah Singh a traitor?
She's a bright, articulate and political woman who works, volunteers and plays in Toronto's lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans institutions and businesses. Yet a gay man she works with recently called her just that -- a traitor.
Singh, 27, currently has a male partner. She is bisexual, or, more precisely, "a brown omnisexual woman" and she finds that many gay men and lesbians just don't get it. Singh says the traitor remark "really burned because it was like he was saying that I didn't belong in the space or I wasn't queer enough to work there."
In spite of the prevalence of the LGBT acronym, there is often a disconnect between bisexual people and gay and lesbian people.
Of course, bisexuals and gay and lesbian people share a lot: the experience of same-sex attraction and the resulting homophobia and exclusion from the straight world. They differ in that bisexuals may be in opposite-sex relationships, which can bring social acceptance and privilege from the mainstream. Bisexuals may also experience the added prejudice of biphobia, which can come from gay men and lesbians as well as straights. http://www.xtra.ca/public/Toronto/The_fencesitters-1901.aspx(It's an old article, but it's really, really good.)
As a bisexual woman, I can totally relate to this article. After I came out as bi after having previously identified as a lesbian, a lot of not only my straight friends, but my gay and lesbian friends treated me differently. I have a couple friends that, whenever I express attraction to a guy, they'll kind of make jokes about it or act disappointed. Bisexuals may get "the best of both worlds", but we, as one woman in a bisexual group I'm part of said, also get the crap from both worlds!
Thoughts?