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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-04-10 11:08 PM
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C'est moi, and I want to share
Edited on Wed Aug-04-10 11:10 PM by babylonsister
something painful in my life that might make this decision better. Today, I signed away 28 years of marriage because my heterosexual husband didn't think our relationship was worth it.

To everyone who loves and respects each other, and wants and needs the validation of a relationship, I'm so glad you finally got it, and I will always support you.

Hug, love, compromise, respect. Did I mention love? I'm so happy for everyone this affects, and I hope eventually this will be the norm vs. a revelation.

:loveya:

And effect vs. affect, meh. I get them confused.
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Botany Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-04-10 11:12 PM
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1. Did I ever tell you that you are my Fave?


I wish you well and that you find happiness

all the best,
tom
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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-04-10 11:21 PM
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3. bot, thanks so much, you make me want to cry.
Edited on Wed Aug-04-10 11:26 PM by babylonsister
I've arrived! :loveya:

And thank you. This isn't a woe is me thread, but a thread to support anyone who loves someone. Like you and Steph. :loveya:
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Botany Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-04-10 11:36 PM
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8. If wasn't for the restraining order and the fact Steph has no interest ......
.... she would be mine. :rofl:

Stop into the KOEB clubhouse 8 to 9 eastern time .... the estrogen is very heavy there

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topics&forum=315

Rev Cheese does the counseling and she works for free.
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Booster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-04-10 11:19 PM
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2. You're husband's a fool.
:hug:
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-04-10 11:22 PM
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4. My dear babylonsister...
I agree with Booster too.

Your husband (or rather, your ex) is a fool.

You deserve better, and I hope he finds you...

And of course I agree about today's decision re Prop.8...

:hug:
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Divine Discontent Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-04-10 11:22 PM
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5. thank you for supporting Equality for all, and better fortunes in the future.
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saltpoint Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-04-10 11:25 PM
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6. A rose for you, babylonsister,
as you have planted many gardens here among us.

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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-04-10 11:36 PM
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7. So have you!
Thanks. Roses are nice, and I don't spiel much, but it's been a day I won't soon forget.

I'm grasping the positive. That's what I do! :pals:
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saltpoint Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-04-10 11:39 PM
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9. And just you keep on doin' it.
:pals: :yourock:
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ruggerson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 12:06 AM
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10. I'm sorry you're going through this babsis
each day will get better and the best days are yet to come. My thoughts are with you.

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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 12:08 AM
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12. Thank you.
We've had our differences; just thank you. :hug:
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Lifelong Protester Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 12:06 AM
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11. I hope that once the dust settles you will become a stronger
person in spite of or because of your experience. I know I did (in other words, I can commiserate with you, but you will come out the other side, survive and thrive)

Thanks for all of your positive posts here, I always click on anything you have posted.

@-'--, @-'--,

(those are my very poor emoticon roses!!)
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snot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 12:24 AM
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13. So sorry to hear it, babe-sis.
Edited on Thu Aug-05-10 12:27 AM by snot
Just want to say, after each divorce or breakup, THIS sis feared she'd never find love or get laid again. But I always did (both).

ALSO, from or through each person I've been seriously involved with, I've learned things I probably couldn't have learned from the others.

Still, divorce is incredibly painful under the best circumstances -- I think most people are slightly deranged for a year or two afterward; I know I was. In fact, when the first guy I dated afterward wrote me a love poem, I corrected it in red and mailed it back.
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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 01:14 AM
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17. Ha! I haven't gotten to the dating part yet, but
I haven't dated in so many years, I don't have a clue.

Yes, very very painful. :cry:

I'm working on it, and thanks, to you and everyone.
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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 12:24 AM
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14. I did not write this to advertise it, but rather to remind
Edited on Thu Aug-05-10 12:30 AM by babylonsister
people to love what they have. Please don't recommend; I didn't write this to be popular. but to be a thought for anyone who is in love.

I was stabbed in the heart by my best friend; don't let anyone do that to you.

Heh, yea, friends.

I love DU for being here for me. I've really needed some of you peeps.

Thanks.
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flyarm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 12:43 AM
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15. wishing you happiness and healing..and peace of mind.
may you feel sunshine each day to help you through this time.

fly
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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 12:52 AM
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16. Wow. Thank you.
Really. :hug:
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JohnnyLib2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 01:18 AM
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18. Wishing you better days and

pleasant surprises around the corner.....
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Touchdown Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 01:51 AM
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19. Hugs
:hug:
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Mojorabbit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 02:21 AM
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20. Been there
and done that. I am so sorry, grieving is healthy. It will get better.
Sending you lots of good mojo and a big hug.
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WillParkinson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 07:06 AM
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21. I can only offer as many hugs as you can handle....
And know that each one comes with love and respect.

Will
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cilla4progress Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 05:27 PM
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22. Oh, babs,
I hope you feel relieved at turning the corner, in any case. I'm sorry for the loss. You are gracious and courageous.
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David Zephyr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-05-10 07:16 PM
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23. As always, you are a class act.
I hate to see relationships desolve and I do think they are "worth it". Having known you here all these years, it's hard to imagine your husband ever remotely finding a gem like you. He is a fool to throw it all away. He will regret it someday.

babylonsister, to think you wrote what you did here on behalf of my GLBL sisters and brothers with what you are dealing with shows such class and great grace. I don't know your ex, but I'm sorry he has hurt your heart because...it is a great heart. I know.

:hug:
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