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I had a good friend die last night in a car accident shortly after midnight. He was survived by his parents and his partner of 15 years. He has lived in the Dallas area for 10 years with his partner and his parents live hundreds of miles away in Northern Oklahoma. He was a gay man, part of a long term gay couple and up until last night was in many ways part of what the country sees as a "normal" gay relationship.
He had a wonderful circle of friends who he called "family" and we have the standard get togethers to celebrate all the standard holidays. In our circle we often commented on how while they weren't "legally" married, they certainly as close to marriage as they could be, having filled out all the legal forms, powers of attorney etc.
Now enters the part of WHY we need marriage. After my friend's accident, which took his life, his partner of 15 years and his only real "family" for hundreds of miles was not allowed to get any information from the police on the scene, the hospital, and other agencies. Why? Because he was not a spouse or family.
While he had all the "legal" docs and powers of attorney, how many people when they lose the love of their lives THINK to grab a stupid piece of paper that has all the correct attorney's signatures, etc.
His partner found out about the accident from his partner's family who lives hundreds of miles away. The family was contacted by local police who contacted his next of kin. The accident happened just a few miles from his own home. His partner was understandably in shock. His frustration with authorities, who legally could not give him information was devastating.
I know there will be several suggestions of what SHOULD of been done. My point is it shouldn't have to be done. If they could of been married, the benefits of that marriage would make having all the correct legal papers in place mute.
Think about it. Gay people aren't asking for special rights. They are asking for the same rights that everyone needs to just get by.
I apologize in advance if I didn't communicate clearly enough, misspelled something or used bad grammar.
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