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I've known gay people being raised in nuclear families who are physically abused and injured by their fathers. And who were rejected by both parents (and siblings, though that's less common) due to their sexuality. Literally thrown out on the street, forced to make their own ways.
And I think a lot of gay people are raised in homes where people WANT to believe they love their gay children without reservation, but they really don't. They don't want their gay children to be gay, they don't encourage them to form relationships with other gay peers, they actually would prefer their gay children die than have to face dealing with an openly gay child. It's just so fucked up. Leads to gay people with fucked-up personalities, sadly.
As an openly gay person, I often meet men who have sex with men but can't bring themselves to admit that they are gay - sometimes, they aren't gay but bi, but often times it's only due to such hostile families, or homophobic cultural backgrounds. It's difficult for me to get involved with such people with whom relationships are likely to be dead-end, and the tragic thing is that a gay relationship is exactly what they need - but what can you do? They think they are fine with sex and nothing more. Had many, many boyfriends like that. :cry: One of them recently called me but I didn't pick up even though I miss seeing him a lot, because I knew it was essentially for one thing - not that I don't want or need that, but I don't want to fall in love with someone like that, and I have and could again, if I don't control it.
Can anyone relate to that? Peaceful, flame-free discussion. :)
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