If you got married would your parents attend?

[Creideiki]

Watching the episode of Brothers and Sisters tonight, I was thinking about that. I know my parents would be there. And if the guy that I fall for has parents that choose to not attend, I think I would fight for them to show up.

[mac2]

1. Some people just elope and parents aren't there.

You can't tell others how to live their lives regarding their parents. Their parents may be dead or not even involved in their lives. Divorces bring conflict regarding parents. Some parents are too far away and don't want to or can't travel that far, etc.

Guess what I'm trying to say...life and families aren't perfect. To find someone you love and share your life is special no matter how you do it.

[texastoast]

2. If my baby turns out that he wants to be gay

as long as he is happy, that's all that matters. I would bring all my gay friends, and we would all have a blast. But I can't tell phobes what to do.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. wants is a weird choice of word..

[LostinVA]

27. People don't decide they want to become gay; people are BORN gay

[Siyahamba]

3. Yes

My partner and I both have supportive parents, and I realize we're very fortunate in that respect.

[Ms. Toad]

4. My parents DID attend,

My spouse's parents both died shortly before our Friends Meeting took our marriage under its care - but all of her father's siblings attended.

When we had our marriage to gain legal recognition (several years later - and in another country) it was attended by my father's cousin.

[ccharles000]

5. My mom said she would only if we don't kiss on the mouth.

[GodlessBiker]

8. You should have said you were going to trade blow jobs then negotiate down to a kiss.

[yardwork]

18. I'm sorry. That's really sad. I hope that your mom becomes more enlightened.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

7. i think so... they love my partner...

my mom used to hate that i was gay, but she really loves lisa. so now she's ok with it.

[NorthCarolina]

9. You bet my mom would be there

dad passed some time ago.

[closeupready]

10. Not if it was getting married to another man, no.

n/t

[terrya]

11. Mom would attend...and my sisters.

My father passed away 4 years ago.

[Amimnoch]

12. Despite the fact that it was not even legal, both my family and his was there for us.

[hulklogan]

13. My mother would probably insist on performing the ceremony!

She's an ordained minister and would probably see it as a great way to convey some teachings to the people at her church.

My father would probably attend too, but he wouldn't be quite so active.

[pinto]

14. Mine are both dead, but I'd say yes for my mom, iffy for my dad.

My mom lived with my partner and I when she was out here visiting. He made sure she had the requisite tea and chocolate at bedtime...it was a sweet time.

[Falcon_Lights1916]

15. My Mum Did

My mum did

[Marrah_G]

16. It's hard for me to put my myself in the place of any parent that would refuse to go.

I wouldn't miss any of my children's weddings (except perhaps if their choice of partners was criminal) How can you love only part of your child and not all of who they are?

The fact that this is still a real question, in a supposedly civilized and evolved society, breaks my heart.

[closeupready]

20. I think you probably can - I don't know how, and it must hurt,

but I am who I am and that will never ever change.

[yardwork]

17. Yes, my mother and sister would attend. My father is deceased, but he would have come too.

My partner's parents would be there, too.

I'm very fortunate.

[JackBeck]

19. My mother was unable to attend due to end-stage kidney disease.

But was thrilled that we flew out to San Francisco to get married and wished she could have made it to Brooklyn for our ceremony. My sister and future BIL attended, so they could fill her in later that evening.

Brothers and Sisters was rough to watch on Sunday. My husband's parents have let their fundy beliefs inhibit their actions. It was pretty painful for him to watch Sunday's episode.

[Rhythm]

21. I doubt it, but not for the reasons you might think...

To start with, my dad is deceased; i doubt he'll be able to make it, but we'll save him a piece of cake any way, just in case.

My mom and step-dad, though they are born-again conservative Christian Southerners, probably wouldn't make it, but only because my mom has a complete aversion to flying, and having to drive from NC to MA, CA, or Canada at her age would be murder on her arthritis and other maladies. Their absence wouldn't be because of their religious beliefs... heck, they adore Oktoberain, and treat her better than they ever did my former husband. *L*

Oktoberain's family would be there if they could, I'm sure. Her mom and siblings adopted me into the family years ago. :-) besides, i' betting that they wouldn't miss the chance to see me in a dress!!!

[Tyo]

22. Yes, the whole wonderful annoying extended family would attend.

And the caterers would rejoice.

[Falcon_Lights1916]

23. When We Got Married In Windsor

My mom DID attend!

[indigo32]

24. yes

my parents, siblings and their spouses are all aware and supportive.
It breaks my heart though that the situation is completely different with my partners family.
We are 'friends' to them, and they would never come to a wedding between us.

[galledgoblin]

25. most of my family would be there, including my parents

all my siblings and my maternal side aunts and uncles and cousins and grandparents would come...

don't know what my paternal family would think. the subject of my sexuality is not one I've danced around, but I've also never outright said "oh, by the way..."

I'm not too eager to do so, since many relatives on that side are over 70... maybe I'm like Peter Parker, treating Aunt May like she's made of glass, when she could more than handle his "coming out" :P

still, until I actually find a woman to bring home to meet my parents, I'm in no hurry to tell my paternal family.

[keopeli]

26. Yes, but it took 10 years for them to get to that point.

I came out to them at 32. It was bad. My mom vomited. She could not say "I love you" to me for many months.

Ten years later, I just learned that my dad spoke up against intolerance of homosexuals at a bible school class!

Until now, I would have said I wasn't sure.

Now, they both would come to my wedding - and it may happen pretty soon.

Dealing with prejudice among those you love takes a lot of patience and hope.

peace

[DarkTirade]

28. Yes, because my parents are awesome.

I never realized how lucky I was until I moved out on my own and saw how other people my age had to deal with their parents.

[Fran Kubelik]

29. yes.

I am extraordinarily lucky. (Plus, my parents love my partner!)

[ronnykmarshall]

30. We did and they did.

Or tried to. We had a commitment ceremony in 2001. And trust me I was a WRECK!! My step-dad was recovering from back surgery so it was not sure if my mom could go. She ended up surprising me!!! It was wonderful! My dad and step-mom were set to go. They got to Vegas two days before we got married, but my dad was too ill and they had to go home. I was crushed!! I wanted my mom and dad to be together one last time (my dad was dying of heart illness) at something other than a funeral.

My husbands parents would not attend. But his sister was there and was our maid of honor. His nephew and niece were there as well.

Also at my wedding was my favorite aunt and my cousin. I am so blessed.

We are going to SF to get the legal wedding. My step-mom is going to meet us there since she missed our 1st wedding.

[Lannigan]

31. Yes, they did - both sets

We got married in MA (on the beach in P'town, at sunset...a beautiful late September day) last year.

My parents are conservative, but both came. So did my wife's. Hers were really excited about it, though -didn't even blink. Mine were a little reticent, but had a great time. Maybe it's a generational thing? My parents are in their 50s; she was a late-life baby and hers are 80.

Our siblings were there, too, including my sisters' kids (all under 6). We had about 30 people and it was the best day of my life.

I wish I would've seen that ep of B&S; my mom called and told me it was GREAT.