Girl troubles.

[ccharles000]

I am a gay man and I am having girls trouble. I have a friend sara and we met like 5 months ago and became friends. She knows I have bad fashion sense but always asks me to help her shop for clothes(which is the kind of shopping I hate the most). Now I am not masculine and I snap way to much but it feels like she and some of my other girlfriends expect me to be a fashion expert. I hope she does not want me to do her hair because I might just try and maybe she will not ask of me things I can not do.

:rant:

[terrya]

1. I have horrible fashion sense for a gay man.

That was the thing that sort of bothered me about "Queer Eye". The idea that all gay men were supposed to be experts on fashion and food and design and hair care. That is certainly not me, by any stretch of the imagination.

Just tell them that you're not interested with the things they're suggesting.

I hope your friends like you and appreciate you simply for who you are. Regardless of your fashion sense. :-)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

2. tell her you dont like to shop. i am a girl and I flat out refuse to go shopping wiht my friends

no matter how much i love them

i have great fashion sense. just dont like shopping.

[momster]

3. Say no....

Practice every day in front of the mirror and remember 'no' *is* a complete sentence. Though you could say, 'no, but I'll meet you for lunch."

I'm terrible at it...but I'm getting better. I find relying on my innate laziness a big help. I was a 3-toed sloth in my last life but found it too stressful.

[Zuiderelle]

4. Go shopping with her and pick out a nice outfit like this:

That'll teach her.

[gaspee]

5. OMFG

I just nearly spit coffee across the room!

[papapi]

7. That looks like Sindy McShame before she lost weight.

[papapi]

9. Here's Sindy after.......

[terrya]

8. God....it's Doris Roberts with botox and an ugly wig!

[galledgoblin]

10. is it wrong

that I kind of like that outfit?

those pom-pom scarves are usually made with rabbit fur though...

[readmoreoften]

14. I agree. It's a green coat and scarves. So what? I don't get it.

[gaspee]

6. Yeah, got the same girl troubles

It's like people expect me to enjoy shopping because I'm female. :shrug: Go figure.

Only kind of shopping I like is books and electronics.

My friends know better than to even ask now. Took quite a few "No thank you's" in response to invitations to get to this point.

[one mean sheath]

11. Oh no.

Minus ten homo points.
jk jk haha.

You might want to inform your friend that there's more than one kind of gay guy just like there's more than one kind of straight guy.
I happen to have a fantastic fashion sense for other people and yet am fairly androgynous myself.

[davidinalameda]

12. the first few horrible outfits you pick for her will solve your problem

[Tresalisa]

13. I have zero, zilch, nada fashion sense,

but I wear what I like. I would never ask anyone to help me out by going shopping with me, I just don't effin' care about clothes. As long as they cover me and I'm comfortable, I'm fine.

I was in a gay bar in CA on a really hot day years ago, wearing red overall cutoffs with yellow Tweety-birds on them and a sports bra - I know, but I already told you I have zero fashion sense - when this lady I liked starts talking about how she wanted me to go shopping with her so she could pick out a dress for her straight brother's wedding. I looked at her, looked down at my clothes, looked back at her and said "Do I look like I know how to pick out clothes?"

:rofl:

Oh, yeah, I did have a point with this post - tell your friend you don't want to go shopping with her. If she doesn't understand, or like your comment, she's not really a friend to begin with.

[yardwork]

15. It seems like there are two separate issues here.

One is the enduring stereotype in some people's minds that all gay men are interested in shopping, fashion, and other "girly" things. The second issue is your own discomfort with telling friends no when they ask you to do things you don't want to do, like shopping.

If you say, "I'm not really interested in shopping and I don't know a thing about women's clothes, but I would really like to (fill in blank with something you'd enjoy doing with your friends) with you," then you take care of both issues! You stand up for yourself and ask for what you need in the friendship, and you help counter this silly stereotype that still exists.