Dadgum, I just know my heart came from one of you lovely folks

[MorningGlow]

So thank you thank you thank you! :grouphug:

I know I've been AWOL for a couple of weeks while I try to figure out which end is up in my new life, and that means I've left some precious friends waiting around wondering if I've fallen off the face of the earth. Not so--just trying to see through the dust cloud while it settles. I feel that things will calm down very soon! In the meantime, I bop in whenever I can to see what everyone's up to on the board. Looking forward to having time to join in the discussions and PM folks once again! In the meantime, bright blessings to all, and don't do anything I wouldn't do! :evilgrin:

[stellanoir]

1. You just smooch "bright eyes" for all of us. Okay ?

And I don't feel at all out of line speaking for others when it comes to that little cutie pie.

[MorningGlow]

5. Oh lots of smoochies for him! No worries!

How you doin' stella? Got your documents on the docket for perusal--promise!

Bright eyes is still happy as a pig in you-know-what that mama is home--plus I had to be a classroom mommy at preschool yesterday, which he also loves. I just love spoiling that kid rotten, I must admit! I'm gonna make him some chocolate pudding!

:woohoo: :rofl:

[stellanoir]

7. oooooooooo I'll be right over for some pudding

:) Nooooooo pressure about what's on the docket whatsoever.

You know I was never much of a disciplinarian with my kid and people wouldn't get why I indulged him so much. The only discilplinary threat I gave him was that I'd send him to charm school for having monosyllabic conversations exclusively on the phone. Hearing a Gemini with Merc in Gemini in the 10th grunt over the phone grated my ears is all.

Really I don't think a lot of these kids CAN be spoiled. They are too pure of heart for such jadedness methinks.

[MorningGlow]

8. Big bowl reserved for stella--the slow-cooked kind, not instant!

I agree about the spoiling thing. The latest--well, ongoing--issue in our house is that Jr. won't sleep through the night in his bed. He had a pretty bad time of it when we moved--even though I made his bedroom as appealing as possible, he was freaked out that it was "so far" from ours (actually closer than the old house, but it was DIFFERENT). He also got some nasty virus just after we moved in, which didn't help. To him, new house meant "barshing" (barfing). For quite a while, he woke up every couple of hours and called for me, absolutely trashing mama's sleep pattern and making her a wreck. So we moved his bed into our bedroom.

Unfortunately, that just made it easier for him to scramble into the big bed. Sigh.

And get this--the pediatrician says the only way to fix this is to lock him in his room. Pardon me, but that smacks of child abuse (pun intended). She says it'll only take a weekend for him to give up trying to get to us and sleep peacefully in his own bed. Dang, she doesn't know this stubborn kid--the last time we tried the force method, he cried till his nose bled.

As far as I'm concerned, he can crawl into our bed whenever he wants. He's a "toucher"--needs to be able to put his hand out and feel someone else there for reassurance. Now who in their right mind would deny him that?

I'm willing to be patient--I really don't see him continuing this at 14 years old! :rofl:

[stellanoir]

9. Well my kid slept with me until he was about 7 due to limited space.

He was a thrasher so I slept on about 8 inches of mattress most of the time. Then he wanted his own room and we managed it. I went through empty nest syndrome quite early. LOL

If you want me to look at his chart to see when might be an easier time to wean him off your bedroom, I'd be happy to do so.

Incarceration does seem. . .more than a little extreme.

Some parenting advise is so bogusly selfish and insensitive.

He needs you close right now. Maybe sage and salt his room with him. He might be picking up on something beyond the move, distance, and association with illness.

Just before the New Moon is a great time to sage.

A cool night light might help as well.

[MorningGlow]

10. That's a great idea--thanks, stella!

11/4/03 7:42 p.m. ET if you need the info again.

I'm infinitely patient with the child, but DH, who is a bit mugglish, worries what "everyone" will think (as if they know or care)--or that Jr. will turn into Norman Bates if he sleeps next to his mommy for a bit. :eyes:

Thing is, Jr. does sleep through the night in his own bed as long as he stays covered and warm, but he is a thrasher too (ohhh how I know about those 8 inches of mattress space!) and always kicks off the covers. Then he wakes up and his first thought is "where's mama"--actually he's barely awake and thinking--it's all instinct--so before anyone can react, scoot scoot scoot he's in the big bed. And, quite frankly, I'm too darned exhausted to banish him to his own bed.

I have done everything I can think of to his room, magical and otherwise. Cool nightlight--check. Car bed--check. Nice bright curtains on the window to cover the dark squares--check. Closet door always closed--check.

Doinked with Jr.'s dinnertime...snack/no snack...water or milk or nothing just before bed...tried cutting out the afternoon nap (that was a disaster)...tried footie pajamas (he wants no part of them)...bought him a sleeping bag so he'll stay covered (also not interested).

Even had my "girls" from my coven come and clean the entire house, focusing on his room especially. They didn't pick up anything untoward (and they're really good) except for a vortex of energy (not negative, just...active) spiraling up through the living room and past the window farthest from his bed. Once we blessed the house, that settled down to near-nothing, but I put some granite in that spot just in case. Didn't make a difference.

Sigh.

[stellanoir]

11. Yeah maybe INVOLVE him in acknowledgment of the clearing.

I'm sure your ladies are great at clearing but he may or may not be remembering something from before the place was cleared.

Not sure of the timing.

Footed pajamas? LOL I don't blame him. The kids got class. Maybe some wool socks might help.

Car bed. . .? All I can think of is Vroommmmmmmm. Is that restful? Not meaning to judge. Not knowing his chart or anything, it may just suit him. Mama knows best with most kids.

A lot of kids when they are young, hit a nightmare phase.

Here's the prayer my son and I (though its mostly his-too dualistic for me) wrote when he was about 4. Still it's cute.

"God & Goddess, thank you for all the good things in my life, please allow me to sleep deeply and soundly, and have good dreams or no dreams at all, and please allow me to wake up feeling refreshed and restored, and have a really good day, a really good day, and a really good day."

Did you miss his subtle emphasis on " a really good day" or what?

LOL.

Happy pudding !!!

[MorningGlow]

12. I like the prayer!

You're right--the universe only knows what that kid is picking up! And he does tend to "cling" to past fears, so if something bothered him initially, he might still be fretting about it. That's something I have to work on with him.

Hee--"vrooooommmm" indeed! But he loves it to pieces--after all, the only thing he fixates on is cars--and he doesn't pretend to drive it, so I don't think it's distracting. That is, till he thrashes and whomps his head or his foot on the plastic sides. (He tends to yearn to sleep horizontally for some reason. I thought maybe he wanted to sleep north/south again like he had been in his bedroom, but he never slept soundly north/south OR east/west.)

I'll give the prayer a shot, but if you notice anything in his chart, do let me know! Thanks again, Stella!

[stellanoir]

13. The little darling may love cars but it's certainly more of an active than a passive state.

As I said before "momma knows best" but he needs his reverie and so do you.

If you gave me his data before I neglected to write it down. Please resend through PM if you want discretion.

How's the pudding honey???

[MorningGlow]

14. Hee

I do see your point. But I can't even begin to imagine trying to take the danged thing away from him at this point! :crazy:

Birth data 11/4/03 7:42 p.m. ET Rochester, NY--have at it!

The pudding, alas, has been postponed in favor of shampooing the rug--took longer than I expected--a high-traffic, high-play area = BLECCCHHH--looked like chocolate pudding in the wastewater reservoir of the Bissell. Had to do it twice and it could use a third go 'round.

How's the East Coast? Are you supposed to be getting this snowstorm too? (I guess it's a couple of hours out for us.)

[stellanoir]

15. They are predicting white out conditions by tomorrow night.

Do you know of the trick of using a dry snow instead of dry cleaning? It's a great one.

Arabs taught me to do it years ago on rugs. Just immerse any woolens in dry snow and shake vigorously.

I'll cast "bright eye's" chart shortly after running some errands.

Glad you like the prayer. My darling has said it for well over a decade now. I Love it.

Hope "bright eyes" does too. Love calling him that. Sure beats junior. LOL

[TNOE]

2. I gots the same feeling!

So thank you to whom ever!

[Delphinus]

4. Yes,

since this is my favorite forum (and nobody else knows me except on Peak Oil), I know it had to be someone from here. I am so grateful for the gift - my heart is smiling!

:grouphug: to all!

[bliss_eternal]

3. So good to see and hear from you, Morning Glow!

:hi:

Check in when you can! Holding good thoughts and hopes for you! :hug:

[MorningGlow]

6. Hey, bliss!

:hi:

Thanks for the good wishes!