When You Attract Negative People--Be Thankful...

[bliss_eternal]

Laws of Attraction are clearly defined. What comes back is a reflection of the energy you are radiating. If negative people are being attracted to you, then be self-assured that you are sending out energy that appeared on their radar screen.

Instead of focusing on not trying to attract them. Be thankful you are.

Okay, you say, that might be pushing it a little. Not really. You see, whatever you are attracting is giving you a clear projection of the energy that you are giving off. Or it could be something that you need to heal first in order to clear your energy. Most times, we could not see how we are radiating without this attraction.

The answer is awareness. The key is seeing it quickly so that their negative energy doesn't change or shift your energy and pull you down along with it. However, it’s best not to leave until you have a sense of what is showing up. Yet, sometimes, that isn't possible until hindsight mode.


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taken from:
http://ezinearticles.com/?When-You-Attract-Negative-People,-Be-Thankful&id=3184

[MorningGlow]

1. A good reminder

Hey Bliss! This shouldn't sink like a stone, so kickety! :hi:

This is a good lesson, but a tough one. Nobody wants to acknowledge that they might be putting out negative energy, or be the one actually drawing ickies into their lives. But 'tis true and something we should keep in mind.

I remember reading something...somewhere...don't ask me where...the author said "Everything bad that's happened to me has been my fault." Of course, when I read it, my initial reaction was "Great gods, what self loathing!" But the author went on to explain that s/he recognized that it was his/her behavior or attitude that inspired other people to react in a similar fashion. Really interesting reading.

Personal anecdote from the other side of the line: When I was single, I always noticed that no guys I knew were interested in me, and no strangers/acquaintances tried to "pick me up", until I started dating someone. At that point I was all infatuated with my new guy--happy, glow-y--my aura must have been all sparkly--and then guys would come out of the woodwork--exactly at the point when I DIDN'T need them! :rofl:

[bliss_eternal]

3. Morning Glow...!

Hey--So good to see YOU! :hi:

I like that term, "kickety." LOL!
I have to be honest. I posted this because I apparently threw off some negativity. An awol friend (lol) resurfaced. But this person and I have little in common. Thankfully, she's not around much and her calls have come with less frequence (guess I'm doing something right--hee hee).

Well, I thought of this person the other day. I kind of wondered how they were, while also thinking,"hmmmm...I guess she's moved on....oh well." Wouldn't you know, the person called. Instead of 'participating' in the game of "phone tag" I picked up the phone while they were leaving a message. :rofl:

It was SO clear, they didn't expect (or want) me to pick up the phone....to actually....(gasp)....talk to them. They just wanted to continue to leave messages every now and again, to feign an interest in a friendship. Probably completely hideous of me to not comply. :spray: To refuse to play the passive aggressive, obligatory phone tag game.

I just chatted along, making conversation--pretending to be oblivious to the fact she wanted to go. She finally (after 3 whole mins.)found a way to end the call, of course saying "she'd call me right back" (yeah...I waited...NOT!)

I was kind of sad initially, as we can be when we lose anything--even tumors. ;) But, at the same time I was confused and frustrated. Why was this person that wasn't interested pretending to be and calling me anyway. On my search for an answer, I found this article. ;)

[MorningGlow]

7. Hey chickie!

Did you get my PM? I sent it a couple of weeks ago. Or was it vaporized by this particularly energetic Merc Ret? :(

As for your experience--gah, doncha hate that?! Hee--I love playing dumb when someone's trying to play Spy vs. Spy--completely takes the wind out of their sails.

Still, it is upsetting to find that a person is dodging you and being two-faced. Meh--not worth it. Stick with your real friends, right? :hug:

If you didn't get my PM, I'll send you an update of my new adventure of "mommy". It's quite a trip! :)

[bliss_eternal]

8. Please do...!

...send me a pm update of The Mommy Adventures! I've missed our chats. But knew you were probably in an adjustment period and all that--having just left HELL! LOL! :P

Don't know why I didn't get your pm. Maybe it was during the time we had a few DU outages...:shrug: Or system issues on my end. (sigh)

Yes, I do think I took that person completely off guard. She had that "startled" sound, like "Oh...you're there." Umm...yeah, that happens when you call people. Sometimes they're home and pick up the phone. :crazy: Very much a fair weather person. I was totally there for her "emergency" last summer when she went through some major marriage/family issues. Now that things are better, guess who doesn't get called anymore? ;) I'm no one's doormat. Buh-bye.:hi:

[MorningGlow]

9. You got it!

Check your PMs--I just resent the one I sent on the 13th. Prolly Merc Ret having a ball on Day 1.

[Why Syzygy]

2. I'm attracting both ...

The people at work like to gossip and get all emotional about Trivia! They are blowing a gasket because a customer blew one and the employees don't think the customers should complain!
Talk about take a look at a mirror! If it isn't the customers, it is a family member, etc.
I don't hang out with them. I wouldn't be able to tolerate the level of discourse.

But, there are also those in groups and meetups (and this forum) who are putting their lives together, choosing to live consciously rather than unconsciously. We all have our own reasons.

Something that re-occurred to me today, thinking about our discussions about these issues, is that often the hardest thing to do is LET GO of the old crap. That includes people, places, habits, dearly beloved opinions, et al. It sometimes means going out on a limb when we are all alone, except for our guardians and Spirit. And at times it seems like they step into the shadows too.

In regards to your other thread, it is Fear that keeps us trapped in situations that don't serve our highest good. How can we pray for the highest good for all concerned, but ignore what we know to be OUR highest good? That is not congruent. So, overcoming fear is a cornerstone concept. And we are often very fearful of closing down relationships, or having them transform. The basic teaching is that nothing is born until something dies. When we are birthed, we literally die from the womb and are born into a new environment. I can't have a great new love affair while I'm dilly dally'ing around with someone who isn't right for me. Etc. You get the idea.

Letting go. It is really tough. We don't only have to release our manifestation dreams, but we must let go of the old stuff, no matter what it is. Detachment is probably the most difficult thing for me.

[bliss_eternal]

4. Hi votes...

What a great post! Seriously. So appropriate and dead on! Thank you!

You're so right, fear of letting go CAN absolutely be the negative thing that keeps drawing negative people and experiences to us. (See my response to Morning Glow above this one, for why I even went looking for this article. ;))

I'm glad to hear that you keep your distance at work, but it does sound challenging. Also it is SO representative of most places. Your descriptions brought back memories of my office/customer service days. :scared: ;)

[I Have A Dream]

5. Thanks, bliss_e. I hope that I can keep my head when I'm in one of these...

situations so that I can transform at least my part of the interaction.

I see that there are also lots of other good articles on the ezinearticles.com website. I look forward to spending time there!

:hi:

[bliss_eternal]

6. Hi Dream...!

...I'm still amazed I found that site, out of seeking answers for negativity I experienced.
I couldn't believe my good fortune, as so many there seemed to address issues we discuss here.

So I linked a couple here for everyone to share, so glad you approve! You consistently
link some of the best articles to our forum, and I really appreciate that. :hi:

[u4ic]

10. Thank you, bliss_eternal

Interesting.

I have found times when I am at my happiest that someone with equal negative energy may (re)appear. I think some are energy vampires - they feed off any strong energy. I am able to deal with them much easier - as votesomemore alluded to earlier, let them go, rather than getting wrapped up in their actions or attitudes towards me.


I also think that there are negative people who are attracted to the positive energy - that is something they aspire to, but do not know how to make it manifest. Sometimes we can be inadvertent teachers. :hi:

[rumpel]

11. this is a tough one to swallow

but most likely true.

HH Dalai Lama would say that negative energies are not inherently bad or wrong - they're there for you to get the best out of it.

Starting with my ex and the many years of scammers I encountered, the energy of "need" must have been there, right within me. Not on the material level but trust and friendship? Thinking as I type here...the ex was an energy zapper, he drained me and my self confidence...thereafter, to this day, I think it is the lack of self-confidence.:banghead:

The key is seeing it quickly so that their negative energy doesn't change or shift your energy and pull you down along with it. However, it’s best not to leave until you have a sense of what is showing up. Yet, sometimes, that isn't possible until hindsight mode.
totally applies here...

but I forgive and I am forgiven, my karmic contract is now complete. :)

[I Have A Dream]

12. rumpel...

:hug:

:loveya:

[rumpel]

13. ....

:hug: