Hi. Need to talk here

[hermetic]

To old friends.

My mom passed away yesterday, Sunday, at 82. Wasn't unexpected. She'd been comatose for several months in a hospice.

I am many miles away so I've spent the last 24+ hours thinking about stuff,and something occurred to me. When you lose your mom, something changes in you. I can really feel that. I've lost other relatives and a spouse, but your mom, well, there is definitely a different feeling there. So, now, here, I would like to celebrate my mom, because she would have liked this place.

As a child, I could not appreciate her. Then we grew up and we would hang out in the kitchen and have a glass of wine, and talk. She was a good, loving parent and friend and she believed in Astrology and other "weird" stuff like that, and passed it on to me.

Blessings for Ruth Charline Cook.

[I Have A Dream]

1. Oh, enufalready, I'm so sorry.

I am honored to celebrate the beautiful woman who was your mother: Ruth Charline Cook.

I ask that the holy beings help her to quickly and easily pass to the other side where she will enjoy the vitality of life without the restrictions of the human body. (This or something better for the highest good of all involved.)

May you feel her loving presence when you need it, enufalready, for as I'm sure you know, she is still with you. :hug::hug::hug:

[hermetic]

2. Thank you, my dear

I will keep your words.

Last night, in my dreams, my departed spouse was there, and my dreams were calm, thanks to him. I don't know if that was just my brain coping, or a message from beyond, but I sure remembered it when I woke up, unlike other dreams.

Peace to all, is the message I am hearing right now.

[I Have A Dream]

3. I believe that it really was your husband. What an amazing gift you were...

given to help you get through the pain. I'm so glad that you weren't alone during this time. :hug:

[TNOE]

17. May peace be with you

I don't think your "dream" was a "dream" at all - it sounds too powerful and the fact that you remembered it so well. I believe that was real.

Luckily, I have not yet lost a parent, and I dread when that day comes - but I'm glad I have the peace and understanding of things I've learned here and elsewhere of how beautiful death can be. Its the sorrow and pain of no longer having them with us that hurts so much. Just know you were greatly loved and that she is now embraced in the most purest, truest form of love and light. I am very sorry for your loss.

[Delphinus]

4. {{{hugs}}}

I send blessings to your mother, enuf - may her time in the great beyond be just what she needs.

May you here, on this plane, receive the love and light and energy that are being sent to you.

I'm glad you came here to share. That is what I feel most about this forum - that we can share these life journeys with others who care. :hug:

[peacefreak]

5. I'm glad you came here to share this.

She helped create the wonderful person you are. I'm glad she was in your life for so long. The mother/daughter relationship changes when the daughter becomes an adult. If we are lucky, we are able to share things on a deeper level.
As difficult of a time this is right now, I hope you are cherishing her memory & remembering her smiles with joy.
Much love, Peacefreak

[midnight]

6. Sounds like you have peace about this change.

I hope that as you are moving on in your new feelings that peace will keep you. Take care.

[japple]

7. Praise be for the life of Ruth Charline Cook. Thank you

for allowing us to celebrate your mother's life. It's wonderful that you grew towards each other and were able to really communicate. Your mother sounds like a kindred spirit with the great folks in this group. May the angels comfort you and your family as you process her passage. The dream you had about your husband was very real, and what a comfort it must have been for you.

Peace, love, and light.

[LiberalEsto]

8. Blessings of peace and healing

to you and your mom

:hug:

[LWolf]

9. .

This daughter, mother, and grandmother sends you a :grouphug:

[BlueIris]

10. Terribly sorry for your loss, unexpected or no.

All best to you and yours.

[Cleita]

11. My sympathy for your loss.

I lost my mother thirty years ago but she still comes around in my dreams looking as young as she did when I was a little girl. I think you will find too that she isn't really gone.

[NJCher]

12. you said it better than I

My mum's still around but I know this is true from having one of my dearest friends cross over last September. Keep your eyes open for from her--she will communicate with you to let you know she's OK. My friend still communicates with me--I've had several very meaningful incidents. You will know--there's no mistaking these incidents.

It can be a dream, a scent, a sign, and sometimes even an appearance or hearing her voice.



Cher

[Silver Gaia]

13. enufalready, I'm not an old friend. Just a new one, if that's all right.

My heart is with you. I honor Ruth Charline Cook with you this night.

Blessings to you, your family, and to your mother.

[rumpel]

14. Ruth Charline...what a pretty name

comatose for several months, while difficult, she may have given you time to sort out your thoughts and memories. Your mom is the same age as my mom.
It is a bright and beautiful full moon night where I am, and I hope it is where you are, too.
Standing outside on a night like this, it feels like the moonlight is embracing the trees, the critters and everything on mother earth - just like a quiet comforting hug of a mother.

Thank you, Ruth Charline Cook, have a nice trip home.

[hermetic]

15. Love

and thanks to all for your beautiful thoughts. This was the first thing I read this morning and it will bring me peace and comfort throughout the day.

It's good to be here and you, my dears, are living proof that there is love and goodness in this world, and that is cause for hope.

:grouphug:

[Callie McAllie]

16. I'm so sorry

It is very difficult to lose your mom. I'm glad you were able to become her friend in your adult years. I am sure it meant a great deal to her.

:hug:

[davsand]

18. Just got my star back, sorry to be so late getting in here.

My star expired and I was out of this forum for a day or two until I got it back...

enufalready, I am so very sorry to hear about your Mom and her passing. I agree with you that celebrating your Mom is the thing to do, and I am glad to hear that you two had the opportunity to be with each other as adults and interact as sympathetic equals. It is an amazing gift for us all to get to that point in our relationships.

I lost my Dad a little over two months ago after a long illness--as you say it wasn't "unexpected." In spite of the advance knowledge of his approaching death, it still has been difficult to sort thru all of the feelings that come with that loss. Some days I do better than others in dealing with it, but I have held on to one particular of my life experiences in all of it.

Many years ago I lost a dear friend very unexpectedly, and I was devastated by it. She came to me a few weeks later in a "dream"-- which I think is probably the only way I was prepared to deal with that interaction at that time in my life. She told me than that she loved me, she knew I loved her, and she wanted me to have the gift of knowing that "life" does not end with the death of this physical body. She said it gets BETTER after death and that it really is ok.

I have never viewed death the same way after that, and I suspect I never will.

Death is a "parting" of sorts, but it is more like seeing someone go off on an extended vacation, knowing full well you WILL see them again. It may not happen soon enough (in our opinions, anyway) but it will happen. It is ok to feel sad that you can't pick up the phone to call them, but somehow it does help to think that there will come a day when you can express all your love to them without the emotional baggage that everyone carries around. One day, you will be able to express your heart and that is something to celebrate as well.

I dunno if that helps you or not right now, but if it does, I am glad for it.

Peace to you, please know that I care.


:hug:



Laura

[OneGrassRoot]

19. Blessings indeed for {{{Ruth Charline Cook}}} and hugs....

for you {{{enufalready}}}

I've had close losses in the last year as well, and just returned from visiting out of state with my ailing 84 y/o grandmother, who has been a mother to me.

I have no words...this "being human" thing is so very hard...but you are in my thoughts and prayers.

[lildreamer316]

20. Much love

to you and yours.
I'll be thinking about you.

[catzies]

21. {{{Blessings for you and your mom}}}

:hug: