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It is a biological, and therefore emotional one. You obviously have not experienced it yet, because I assure you there is *NOTHING* logical about wanting to experience pregnancy, childbirth, and child rearing. It is a basic, instinctual drive, and there are thousands of years of literature dealing with the trauma of being denied participation in it. (If you are familiar with old testament lore, you will notice that one of the hardest things woman face is being barren, and they frequently "cry out to the Lord" about their plight.)
Currently, one out of five couples are experiencing infertility issues. Possible causes include "waiting" to reproduce, envirnmental issues, and medical issues being survivable that weren't fifty years ago, and sometimes just plain "bad luck".
From a biological point of view, it is "logical" to wish to nurture and support one own young above those of a stranger. The fact that human beings can rise above this is an absolutely amazing thing.
I repeat the charge back at you -- you have the financial resources to parent other people's children, but choose, for purely selfish, personal reasons, not to do so, and yet, with a hypocrasy that borders on Repulican in nature, you deign to offer critical judgment of other people. One hopes your excuse is simply youth, and that you will outgrow it. In the meantime, since your parents didn't bother to teach you basic compassion for the pain and suffering of others, I can only hope you learn a little humility from the experiences of *OTHER* people, rather than having your world turned upside down when you can't create a child "the old fashioned way" with someone you love.
Like it or not, this is not the "19th century" where those who have difficulty reproducing can wander down to a local orphanage and pick up a child or two, nor is this early Roman times, where "abandoned children" are left at the public fountain for strangers to claim. And thank heavens that people like you and Ronald Reagan (who denied funds for infertility research because "he didn't want people playing God") are now in the minority, which allows the rest of us to get on with our lives, and hopefully cherish the children we are blessed to call our own.
I won't be writing you anymore, and your name will be added to my ignore list. In the meantime, I appreciate the reminder you have provided today, of all days, that not everyone is a good and decent human being, and that it will be my job to make sure my children are raised better than your parents raised you.
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