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She sounds very mature for her age. Yes, medicine is very paternalistic when it comes to women's health. My sister in law had her second boy in a military hospital and they refused to give her a tubaligation. She didn't want any more children. My brother ended up getting a vasectomy a couple of years later after leaving the service. Sadly, this happens every day. As patients, we are treated like children. Especially women. It's disgusting. I hope your daughter is okay and the precancer cells are just that. I've heard of many young women having precancer cells and having them burned off, then going on to have several children. But that is her choice, not her doctors.
My aunt was pregnant in the late 60's and got very sick. She went to a male physician who told her it was all in her mind. (her mother in law was his nurse, talk about uncomfortable) He refused to run any tests. She went back to him again, same answer. As the weeks went on she was sicker than a dog and her skin began to turn a pale yellow. When she was finally rushed to the ER with hemorraging and crippling pain, it was discovered that her fetus was dead, she was almost dead and it should have been taken over a month before, when it died. It was poisoning her body. She was never able to have children after that and has had a long life of horrible pain and menstrual problems because of it. This male doctor didn't listen to her, to him she was a young, dumb girl in her first pregnancy and didn't know what she was talking about. So sad, I know this story isn't an isolated circumstance.
For that reason I won't go to a male OB/GYN. I know maybe it's not fair to stereotype based on a few instances in the past, but I wouldn't take my car to a mechanic who'd never owned a car, either.
I will be sending good thoughts to your daughter and her fiance! Best wishes.
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