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rucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 12:56 PM Original message |
Being Gay is like being Black |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 12:59 PM Response to Original message |
1. I agree. |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 12:59 PM Response to Original message |
2. Yup. |
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terrya (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:00 PM Response to Original message |
3. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. |
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AndyA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:00 PM Response to Original message |
4. That says it all. n/m |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:00 PM Response to Original message |
5. Marsha Warfield said it's harder to be gay than to be black |
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Catherine Vincent (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:32 PM Response to Reply #5 |
81. Is she gay? n/t |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 05:50 PM Response to Reply #81 |
124. I don't know. She's a comedian, it was a joke, it was funny. Relax. nt |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 07:16 PM Response to Reply #5 |
146. The gay and black man in my family |
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deaniac21 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-31-07 08:47 AM Response to Reply #5 |
162. Plus gay people are really supported in the black Community. |
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Karenina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-31-07 03:03 PM Response to Reply #162 |
168. WHICH segment of the black community are YOU referring to? |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:01 PM Response to Original message |
6. I agree. There are differences in experience, but yes. |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:01 PM Response to Original message |
7. Yep. |
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amitten (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:03 PM Response to Original message |
8. I think that's pretty obvious. Those who believe otherwise just |
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Psychmd (110 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:05 PM Response to Original message |
9. One difference |
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Wcross (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:06 PM Response to Original message |
10. However, you can pretend not to be if needed. |
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Neecy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:10 PM Response to Reply #10 |
11. this is true, to an extent... |
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yardwork (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:11 PM Response to Reply #11 |
12. "Passing" is always demeaning, stressful, and ultimately harmful. |
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soothsayer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:12 PM Response to Reply #10 |
13. yes, but your parents don't hate you because you're black |
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Wcross (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:21 PM Response to Reply #13 |
15. So you agree, being black is not like being gay? |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:34 PM Response to Reply #15 |
25. Do things have to be identical to be alike? |
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NorthernSpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 04:48 PM Response to Reply #13 |
112. no, but everyone else does, apparently... |
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Touchdown (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:14 PM Response to Reply #10 |
14. And...flip the coin. |
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rucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:22 PM Response to Reply #10 |
17. Here's a hypothetical for you... |
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Lilith Velkor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:30 PM Response to Reply #17 |
21. Being gay is more like being Jewish than being black |
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izquierdista (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:37 PM Response to Reply #21 |
29. Opposite sides of the coin |
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Lilith Velkor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:59 PM Response to Reply #29 |
44. Back in my day, it was a religion and not an ethnicity |
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izquierdista (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 05:43 PM Response to Reply #44 |
119. Which tells us your ethnicity |
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Lilith Velkor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-31-07 01:37 PM Response to Reply #119 |
166. How so? |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 06:18 PM Response to Reply #44 |
129. I don't know what day THAT was, but in Nazi Germany it was sure considered an |
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Lilith Velkor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-31-07 01:59 PM Response to Reply #129 |
167. 1970s and early '80s |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:33 PM Response to Reply #10 |
24. And yet they are alike in that they are innate and immutable. |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:37 PM Response to Reply #10 |
28. There are blacks who can and have "passed" for white |
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Wcross (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:41 PM Response to Reply #28 |
32. Also some gays that have passed for straight. |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:35 PM Response to Reply #32 |
54. It's sad all around |
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Karenina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 07:46 PM Response to Reply #54 |
151. You join the disciples of Little Richard |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 08:47 PM Response to Reply #151 |
153. LOL! |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 07:19 PM Response to Reply #32 |
147. Gov. Jim McGreevey, Sen. Craig, and a multitude of others. |
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Catherine Vincent (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:50 PM Response to Reply #28 |
95. Speaking of passing.... |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 04:09 PM Response to Reply #95 |
104. I will have to Netflix that |
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Wcross (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 05:23 PM Response to Reply #95 |
114. I just added it to my list, THANKS cat_girl! |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 05:58 PM Response to Reply #95 |
125. Pinky is okay, but it's no Imitation of Life - and I mean the real 1934 version, |
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CT_Progressive (889 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:44 PM Response to Reply #10 |
34. This is a pretty insulting remark. |
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Wcross (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:59 PM Response to Reply #34 |
60. I am not saying gays should HAVE to pretend. |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-31-07 09:18 AM Response to Reply #60 |
164. People do discriminate. Gay people, however, do not have even the protection of the |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:55 PM Response to Reply #10 |
40. actually so can SOME black people, hence the invention of the term passing, |
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goddess40 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:38 PM Response to Reply #10 |
89. I'd liken it to being atheist |
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NOLALady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 07:01 PM Response to Reply #10 |
141. "Kind of hard to not be black at the interview" |
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Wcross (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 07:10 PM Response to Reply #141 |
142. Yep, it depends on the individual. |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 07:12 PM Response to Reply #142 |
144. And what do you do after the interview anyway? If you get the job? |
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Wcross (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 09:07 PM Response to Reply #144 |
155. Have you ever asked a black man that question? |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 09:10 PM Response to Reply #155 |
156. I might ask a gay black man - but I don't know why I'd ask a straight black man about |
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Wcross (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 09:16 PM Response to Reply #156 |
158. Yep, I knew you would try to waste my time. |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 09:18 PM Response to Reply #158 |
159. I knew you wouldn't bother to support you "point". |
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DU9598 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:21 PM Response to Original message |
16. Don't forget |
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ellacott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:23 PM Response to Original message |
18. Why is there a comparison? |
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Karenina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:32 PM Response to Reply #18 |
22. Comparison? It's a commonality. |
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ellacott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:40 PM Response to Reply #22 |
31. commonality |
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rucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:09 PM Original message |
that would be the purpose of the comparison. |
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Karenina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 06:26 PM Response to Original message |
130. Kinda like Truth and Reconciliation. |
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Lex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:24 PM Response to Original message |
19. Black parents, family, friends expect their children to be black |
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ellacott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:11 PM Response to Reply #19 |
67. and don't assume that you know what I'm going to say(post) |
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Der Blaue Engel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:28 PM Response to Reply #67 |
76. That wasn't an assumption of what you were going to say |
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ellacott (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 04:02 PM Response to Reply #76 |
102. No problem butting in |
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Skidmore (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:28 PM Response to Original message |
20. Too bad it seems that we can't all work on being human together. |
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jgraz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:33 PM Response to Original message |
23. I mean this in the nicest possible way: who cares? |
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Lex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:34 PM Response to Reply #23 |
26. it's not just about sex |
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jgraz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:50 PM Response to Reply #26 |
37. It is to these right-wing freaks |
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rucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:44 PM Response to Reply #23 |
35. Maybe they have no choice in their sexual preference... |
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jgraz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:49 PM Response to Reply #35 |
36. I think we're in violent agreement |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:58 PM Response to Reply #23 |
42. Being gay isn't about my "sex life". |
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jgraz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:11 PM Response to Reply #42 |
47. See post 37 |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:23 PM Response to Reply #47 |
52. But you were saying YOU think the answer is to say "get out of my sex life". |
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jgraz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:31 PM Response to Reply #52 |
53. The response to the homophobes. Making sense yet? |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:02 PM Response to Reply #53 |
62. I think we agree more than we don't, so I don't want to belabor the |
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jgraz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:06 PM Response to Reply #62 |
65. Yep. Chalk up my inelegant language to how much this issue pisses me off |
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LeftHander (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:35 PM Response to Original message |
27. What if you are black and gay...? |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:39 PM Response to Reply #27 |
30. We don't exist |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:52 PM Response to Reply #30 |
38. like real bisexuals? who are also apparantly unicorns |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:22 PM Response to Reply #38 |
50. Invisible unicorns! |
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rucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:00 PM Response to Reply #27 |
45. Identity is more complicated than the categories we put them into. |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:42 PM Response to Original message |
33. Just one other thing. Gayness can be hidden in most cases. Black can't in most. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:53 PM Response to Reply #33 |
39. passing is something that has occured in the black community before. |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:56 PM Response to Reply #39 |
57. only a very few blacks could ever pass for white |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:58 PM Response to Reply #39 |
58. True. |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:56 PM Response to Reply #33 |
41. True. But I don't think it has done gays any favor. If I had the power |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:09 PM Response to Reply #41 |
46. you mean |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:21 PM Response to Reply #46 |
49. Don't confuse being identified with being identified for the purpose of |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:35 PM Response to Reply #49 |
55. well. that's true. |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:03 PM Response to Reply #55 |
63. Because, as a gay man, I believe relative invisibility hurts us more |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:24 PM Response to Reply #63 |
72. That was my point in the previous post |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:27 PM Response to Reply #72 |
74. Being invisible contributes to gay powerlessness and bigotry. |
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NorthernSpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:43 PM Response to Reply #74 |
92. the ability to pass is an incredible luxury and advantage... |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 05:34 PM Response to Reply #92 |
115. The ability to pass leads to isolation, especially for gay kids who are at high risk for suicide. |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 05:40 PM Response to Reply #72 |
117. You wish you could pass for male???? |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 06:54 PM Response to Reply #117 |
138. There was story on This American Life a while back |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 07:00 PM Response to Reply #138 |
140. Yes, that was This American Life. It was a piece by John Hodgman. |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 07:25 PM Response to Reply #138 |
149. Also - |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:59 PM Response to Reply #41 |
61. Oh I'm not saying that it has done favors. On the contrary not being able to be |
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ecstatic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:15 PM Response to Reply #33 |
48. as someone else said, being gay is more like being Jewish |
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Bluebear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:17 PM Response to Reply #48 |
71. Isn't "being Jewish" a religion? |
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NMMNG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:29 PM Response to Reply #33 |
78. Is that why so many people get beaten/killed |
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Bluebear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:33 PM Response to Reply #78 |
82. once again . . . get out of my head |
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NMMNG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:38 PM Response to Reply #82 |
90. We're barking up the wrong tree |
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weeve (427 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 01:58 PM Response to Original message |
43. All good points ... |
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bigwillq (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:23 PM Response to Reply #43 |
51. Yup (nt) |
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CTD (732 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:52 PM Response to Original message |
56. You mean, even if you pray *really* hard, you can't change your race?!?! |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 02:59 PM Response to Original message |
59. Being Gay is not like being Black |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:04 PM Response to Reply #59 |
64. And no black parent has ever abused or rejected their kid because he or she is black. |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:13 PM Response to Reply #64 |
68. actually, that is not true |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:16 PM Response to Reply #68 |
69. They still weren'tr rejected BECAUSE of their race. |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:26 PM Response to Reply #69 |
73. you said "because they are black" |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:28 PM Response to Reply #73 |
75. Oh, I see. Word games. |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:30 PM Response to Reply #75 |
79. no, clarity. There is a difference. |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 05:35 PM Response to Reply #79 |
116. Fine. Let's be clear: African American parents don't reject or beat or abuse their |
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NorthernSpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 08:17 PM Response to Reply #116 |
152. some whites do |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 09:12 PM Response to Reply #152 |
157. If you can take that story to heart you may begin to understand what it is to be a gay |
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NOLALady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 07:35 PM Response to Reply #69 |
150. Some black families reject darker kids because |
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LanternWaste (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-31-07 10:09 AM Response to Reply #68 |
165. One is specific, one is general. |
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Bluebear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:17 PM Response to Reply #59 |
70. Ah, how do they "hide" their gayness? You suggest the most "effeminate" man can act that well? |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:29 PM Response to Reply #70 |
77. Historically, most gays have done just that, hide it. |
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Bluebear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:30 PM Response to Reply #77 |
80. In the pre-closeted 70's there were a whole lot of murders & assaults too. |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:34 PM Response to Reply #80 |
84. It is still a very poor analogy, and always has been. |
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Bluebear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:35 PM Response to Reply #84 |
86. Oh OK well that settles that I guess. |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:47 PM Response to Reply #86 |
93. glad you agree |
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Bluebear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:54 PM Response to Reply #93 |
99. I don't, but you knew that. Carry on. |
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SidDithers (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:09 PM Response to Original message |
66. I agree, but with one major difference... |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 05:42 PM Response to Reply #66 |
118. That is one major difference, but there is another: |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 07:13 PM Response to Reply #66 |
145. And because they CAN, they are often pressured to do so. Some "choice." |
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NMMNG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:33 PM Response to Original message |
83. Oh, forget it |
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Bluebear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:37 PM Response to Reply #83 |
88. Do you love how every 5 subthreads someone says "you can hide being gay!" |
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NMMNG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:39 PM Response to Reply #88 |
91. Love isn't the word I'd use for it |
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Bluebear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:49 PM Response to Reply #91 |
94. As in they LOVE to highlight how we are different rather than similar. |
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NMMNG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:52 PM Response to Reply #94 |
96. All the easier to keep us down |
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Catherine Vincent (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 04:06 PM Response to Reply #88 |
103. I think they mean you can hide being gay in the eyes of others. |
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Bluebear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 04:20 PM Response to Reply #103 |
105. I know what they mean, but not everyone can "hide" being gay, |
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Catherine Vincent (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 04:30 PM Response to Reply #105 |
106. Yeah, that is true. |
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NOLALady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 07:19 PM Response to Reply #106 |
148. The homophobic blacks that I know |
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rucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 04:35 PM Response to Reply #83 |
108. Thanks |
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NMMNG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 05:14 PM Response to Reply #108 |
113. I know you weren't |
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Der Blaue Engel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:35 PM Response to Original message |
85. Damn straight! |
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Catherine Vincent (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:35 PM Response to Original message |
87. I agree. |
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rucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 04:37 PM Response to Reply #87 |
109. Society sure makes nature complicated, eh? |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:52 PM Response to Original message |
97. Except that most Black people have the advantage |
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NorthernSpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 04:41 PM Response to Reply #97 |
110. they also have the advantage of being easy to pick out of a crowd... |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 05:46 PM Response to Reply #110 |
122. I'd take it. I've never tried to hide being gay as an adult. I make sure to let people |
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NorthernSpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 06:11 PM Response to Reply #122 |
127. I do consider being able to pass an advantage... |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 06:17 PM Response to Reply #127 |
128. Would you pass, if you could? |
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NorthernSpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 06:29 PM Response to Reply #128 |
131. would I pass for what? |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 06:30 PM Response to Reply #131 |
132. For a race or gender or orientation other than your own? |
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NorthernSpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 06:40 PM Response to Reply #132 |
134. why not? |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 06:42 PM Response to Reply #134 |
136. Is that a yes, or a no? |
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NorthernSpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 06:50 PM Response to Reply #136 |
137. you're not sure... there's a certain ambiguity... can't quite put your finger on it... |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 06:55 PM Response to Reply #137 |
139. Do you just not want to answer the question? You can say so. |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 07:11 PM Response to Reply #134 |
143. Why not? Because it leaves you with a sense of shamefulness, |
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Bucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:52 PM Response to Original message |
98. Interesting that you didn't say "It's like being white" |
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Bluebear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:55 PM Response to Reply #98 |
100. Both are minority groups fighting for equality, is that so much of a reach? |
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rucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 04:34 PM Response to Reply #98 |
107. No subtext, but plenty of context |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 05:44 PM Response to Reply #98 |
120. Because it's not as much like being white. Though it is equally innate, the status |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 05:47 PM Response to Reply #98 |
123. But THAT would be racist, wouldn't it? |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-31-07 07:21 AM Response to Reply #123 |
160. dude, your lack of understanding of social issues is monumental. |
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Bluebear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-31-07 09:15 AM Response to Reply #160 |
163. He made a big show of putting me on ignore, but just for you :) . . . |
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Cha (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 03:58 PM Response to Original message |
101. That's right and it's also |
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marmar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 04:46 PM Response to Original message |
111. I think Mel Boozer, a gay black man, sums it up pretty well: |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 05:46 PM Response to Original message |
121. I know black people who would disagree with you until the cows came home and drink each others' milk |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 06:01 PM Response to Reply #121 |
126. They are enttled to be wrong. NT |
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Az (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 06:40 PM Response to Original message |
133. A caveat |
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Toasterlad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 06:40 PM Response to Original message |
135. Per Your Statement, Being Gay is Like Being Black, Yes. |
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Toucano (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-30-07 09:06 PM Response to Original message |
154. So what is "being Black"? |
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Snarkturian Clone (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Oct-31-07 07:49 AM Response to Original message |
161. Thanks for the reminder NT |
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