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Somebody asked me last night why I was "fanning it", referring to the fact that I just won't stop getting pissed off and outraged about the homophobic stuff posted on DU lately. I thought about this late last night and here is my final post on this subject, and on DU for awhile. No, I'm not leaving DU, so "don't let the door hit you on the ass on your way out" replies are useless and will be ignored.
I classify myself as a straight woman, albeit slightly "bent" but, for the most part, I am a straight white woman who, if I wish to do so, can haul my fiance down to the courthouse next week and get married. I won't, but I have that choice. It's there for me and I've never NOT had that right. My oldest daughter, when she turned 18, thought it would be a wonderful idea to marry her high school sweetheart and, despite my objections that they were too young, went and exercised that right. She was divorced a little over a year later but, if she finds another guy that tickles her fancy, she can go get married anytime her little heart desires. She can also have a child and raise it however she sees fit, whether it's as a single mom or as a married woman. She is seriously troubled and should not be able to make these decisions, but she CAN.
My daughter, who is in the other room as I type this, will be eighteen in June. She's gay. If she ever wants to get married, she has to move to another state and STAY there. If she wants to have a child and raise it with her partner, some nosy busybody somewhere along the way will scream "BUT THEY'RE GAY!!! TAKE THAT CHILD AWAY NOW!" If she cannot conceive a child of her own, she will not be able to adopt, although she absolutely adores kids and would make a wonderful mother to any child. Even right now, at her young age, she is wise beyond her years and, at times, I trust HER judgement over my own. None of that matters, because she figured out one day that it was for real, she really was attracted to girls and that wasn't going to change. It's sad, because as happy as I was when she came out to me, because I think it's MUCH better for her to come out now, then after years of trying to deny it, she faces so damn many problems that my other children will never have to face. Just because she happens to like girls.
So yeah, I will fan the flames whenever I see homophobia posted on DU. I will post about my outrage and, if I have to, I will eat granite in the process of calling out every single asshole that posts on a LIBERAL, PROGRESSIVE website and pretends to be a liberal, yet somehow tries to rationalize hate and intolerance towards anyone who isn't like them in their sexual orientation.
I've heard every argument in the book. We'll lose the election if "those gays" don't stop jumping up and down over their treatment as second class citizens. We must excuse homophobia because gays scare people and go around hitting on us poor straight people. C'mon guys, can't you just WAIT a few more years to be treated like the rest of us? It's for the greater cause. BULLSHIT! To be perfectly honest, any candidate I vote for better damn well be able to look my daughter or others like her in the eye and PROMISE them that they will fight for their rights. The greater cause to me is EQUALITY. I'm not going to sit here in my comfortable straight life and say, " Oh well, I got mine and isn't it a shame that my kid doesn't. Maybe in another 10 years or so, she'll get treated like a human being"
Flame away, I doubt I'll be answering, but have at it.
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