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Conservatives love to piously insist that their opposition to same-sex marriage is motivated by a desire to "defend the sanctity of marriage". Well, everyone on this board sees this for the transparent canard that it is. If my best friend Stan is ever finally allowed to legally marry his lifelong partner, Darren, there is no way this will have any affect on my marriage to mine, Nancy. To suggest that recognizing the union of two men, or two women, will somehow undermine the stability of traditional marriages is ludicrous.
However, there is a common practice that absolutely does threaten all marriages: prenuptial agreements. When a man (usually) insists on an agreement in advance stipulating the future division of "his" property in the event the marriage doesn't work out, he is effectively putting an asterisk after every line of the wedding vows, and making the failure of the marriage far more likely.
To be honest, the availability of divorce itself is a threat to every marriage. Just knowing that a marriage can be terminated at any time, relatively easily, and that society attaches no stigma to the fact, makes any couple who is facing a rocky patch more likely to bail out, rather than take the more difficult steps to heal their relationship and continue together. O course, no one should advocate for the abolition of divorce. Too many women (usually) would end up trapped in abusive or loveless relationships, and we as liberals should never promote an agenda that punishes youthful mistakes and prevents people from a second chance at happiness, just because they made a mistake in choosing a life-partner.
But prenuptial agreements, by their very nature, make a travesty of the institution of marriage. My version of a true Defense Of Marriage Act would specify that a husband and wife's fortunes will be combined into a single, indivisible whole, period. What the husband owns, the wife owns equally, regardless of what assets either held before the marriage. In the unfortunate event that the marriage ends in divorce, all assets must be split evenly. Obviously there would have to be arrangements for child support, or cases where one spouse would need additional consideration if unable to work, but the presumption would be an even split of all assets owned by either party--no exceptions.
How many of these oh-so-holy homophobes have trophy wives, who will be left with nothing but the clothes on their backs when their hair turns gray, their tits start to sag and they don't look so great on the arms of their successful husbands? Why should we, as a society, be forced to recognize these travesties as true marriages? No, if you're afraid the new bimbo you've got your eye on is just after your money, well then, don't marry her. Standing at the altar saying, "for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, 'til death do us part", with your fingers crossed behind your back is an abomination, and should not be recognized by anyone as a true marriage. When divorce is treated as a foregone conclusion, or even a likely outcome, it cheapens and dilutes the vows the rest of us are expected to take seriously.
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