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to your house for a party or dinner and offer suggestions on how you could remodel your bathroom. This has happened to me more than once. I don't invite the super-rich (or even wealthy) to my house any more. They can't help themselves. They actually believe they are being helpful when they suggest how I could put in new floors. It never occurs to them that I don't remodel because I can't afford it. After all, they paid far more to install those beautiful full-grown trees in their backyard than it would cost to put in new floors throughout my house. People who have money and have always had it cannot imagine what it is like not to have it, never to have had it.
Think about Africa or Bangladesh. Think about the many people in the world who do not have a well. It is hard for us to understand why they don't dig a well. It is hard to imagine that they don't know how and can't afford the equipment it requires to dig deeply enough to strike water.
Regardless of how rich or poor we are, each of us deserves dignity. We all deserve to be seen for what we are, not for what we have.
If, as a society, we could acknowledge the dignity that is inherent in each of us, poor and rich, maybe there would be less greed and less crime caused by greed.
The media is particularly guilty of failing to understand that, regardless of our material wealth or poverty, we all have the right to dignity, respect and recognition for what we are. We should not be judged primarily based on what we have or what we earn.
Where in the media do you see depictions of the simple lifestyle that most Americans can afford? Has anyone every seen a TV show -- a TV show about normal, functioning families with ordinary problems set in a trailer court? Living in a trailer court is always equated with moral impoverishment, not just financial poverty. So, poverty is equated with being trashy. The poor are depicted as lacking dignity. That message is false, and the media needs to change it.
By the way, the super-rich and wealthy people I know suffer from illness, difficult children, mental illness, divorce, death, just like the rest of us. Pain, disappointment, frustration. They are all great levelers. Problem is, our society tends to blame the poor person whose child takes drugs or who drives while drink. The wealthy person gets the benefit of the doubt, just hires a really good lawyer and makes a deal. If Anna Nicole Smith had lived in a trailer court, the media would have covered her story very differently. In fact, it would have been more likely featured on America's Most Wanted than on prime time news.
Until we face the fact that most of us are poor, and will likely never be super-rich, we will fail to recognize our own worth. By failing to claim our worth and our dignity regardless of our poverty, we make ourselves vulnerable to manipulation and exploitation. So the answer is that we have to be willing to be poor and proud.
Let's remember, those of us who are not already homeless are just an illness or a bank crisis and a few missed rent or mortgage payments away from homelessness. We fool ourselves into believing otherwise.
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