The difference between those who rape and those who don't
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A day or two ago, somone posted this article:
Woman Tweets About All The Times Men Didn’t Rape Her To Teach A Lesson On Consent
https://www.boredpanda.com/not-a-rapist-story-mara-quint/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic
Her conclusion: 
In one tweet, she tells about the guy she is with saying, "Seems like you're not into this... it's only fun if you want it."
When I read that, i thought that right there is the difference between those who assault and those who don't - do they care about consent, or do they not? Think of the "grab them by the pussy-when you're famous you can do anything..." tape. Or getting them too drunk or drugged to resist.
I just ran across this illuminating article from Psychology Today:
Rape is Not (Only) About Power; It’s (Also) About Sex
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-therapy/201602/rape-is-not-only-about-power-it-s-also-about-sex
The researcher Rachel Jewkes of the University of the Witwatersrand and her colleagues (2010) have looked at some of the motives of rapists. A random sample of men (ages 18–49) from the general population of the Eastern Cape and KwaZulu-Natal were asked anonymously about their rape perpetration practices, motivations, and consequences. “Asked about motivations, men indicated that rape most commonly stemmed from a sense of sexual entitlement, and it was often an act of bored men… seeking entertainment. Rape was often also a punishment directed against girlfriends and other women, and alcohol was often part of the context.”
In addition, laboratory research has consistently shown that rapists differ from nonrapists in their patterns of sexual arousal. Rapists show higher erectile response to hearing scenarios of nonconsenting sex. This fact does not exclude the possibility that the rapists are responding to the implied violence in the nonconsent scenario, rather than to the sex. However, research has shown that rapists do not differ from nonrapists in response to scenarios of non-sexual violence. For example, in 2012, Canadian researcher Grant Harris and colleagues summarized the research on rapists’ sexual responses thus: “Violence and injury without sexual activity do not usually produce much erectile responding among rapists.”
In other words, rapists have a unique taste for nonconsensual sex rather than for nonconsensual violence per se.