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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI'm so sorry for the good DUers played by a sociopath pretending to be in an abusive relationship
The way they were toying with someone who is in extreme emotional distress and enjoying that people were fooled by their story could only be one thing: sociopath.
To those who bared their soul and those who tried help, please don't be disillusioned. It only means you are good people who were abused by someone who is defective emotionally. Someone who is literally incapable of empathy.
Just know that you are a real person and the one who did that this morning is not.
fredamae
(4,458 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)It is still an incredibly mean and crazy thing to do.
fredamae
(4,458 posts)99Forever
(14,524 posts)Actually, I'm happy I can't wrap my brain around it.
It was encouraging however, to see many DUers try to help.
grantcart
(53,061 posts)When people start apologizing about a sociopath on DU I feel compelled to make sure it wasn't something I said.
99Forever
(14,524 posts)Here ya go:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10021135214
I mean, that totally sounds contrived, but who here was willing to take that chance? What a horrible thing to do.
UnrepentantLiberal
(11,700 posts)going in. I didn't pick up on it and I'm usually very good at spotting a con man.
Atman
(31,464 posts)It was locked and the poster removed before I could cast my vote, which was, btw, to hide it.
However, I was a bit surprised that so many people got taken in by it, as I offered in my jury explanation. It seemed to me to be a political statement right away, obviously open-ended with few specifics. A few respondents also picked up on it, but most did not.
The metaphor of an abusive relationship has been used frequently on DU to describe the GOP, but I've never seen it done in such a callous, insensitive way.
UnrepentantLiberal
(11,700 posts)I guess we'll never know if one or more jurors cast the "freedom of speech" vote.
BeHereNow
(17,162 posts)Sorry, I have no idea who/what you are talking about...
BHN
UnrepentantLiberal
(11,700 posts)BeHereNow
(17,162 posts)Missed that one, fortunately. LOL
BHN
RagAss
(13,832 posts)reflection
(6,286 posts)who was lamenting the fact that in the South, black people never looked him in the eye. Of course it was probably because his head was deep in his rectum, but que sera sera, you know?
Marrah_G
(28,581 posts)Th1onein
(8,514 posts)What an asshole.
Trillo
(9,154 posts)which seems to indicate a human marriage between two people. Thanks to UnrepentantLiberal in post #10 for linking to the thread in question.
The "sociopath" ?) seemed to be creating a metaphor. It certainly seems that the advice given by DUers in that thread could be construed as applicable to all kinds of relationships, such as that between a "Blue state" and a "Red state". Other situations could apply, such as that between a right-winger boss and left-wing employees, or between a corrupt state and, if it is possible to imagine such, a non-corrupt state.
If the advice for humans in abusive relationships is to leave permanently, then why isn't that advice good for states, or for asymmetric relationships such as that between Occupy and Police? If the police are continually abusing people exercising their rights, then why can't the abused people peacefully expel the police from their lives?
I think the poster made a rather deep point, one that is so easy to dismiss because they chose to use the word "marriage", suggesting a human relationship among equals, instead of the much more common abuser that exists in power-asymmetric relationships, where a more-powerful or more-connected group abuses a less-powerful or -connected group.
UnrepentantLiberal
(11,700 posts)who is in emotional distress and people who were trying to help? If you can't see that then I'd say they makes you defective emotionally as well.
BTW, there's nothing deep about using marriage as a metaphor. It's been done countless times.
Trillo
(9,154 posts)unless those folks first tell that poster?
Instead you could argue we are all damaged by various sets of abusers we have encountered in our pasts.
UnrepentantLiberal
(11,700 posts)That's how.
dembotoz
(16,892 posts)could not figure out if it was an out and out jerk
or
someone who really did not do a good job of trying to make a point.
i have been inarticulate to the point of appearing or being stupid in the past.
It WAS useful to me as in i am in an unpleasant relationship and the way the posts ran just reminded me of what i already knew.
abusive--in some ways perhaps but not so much anymore
not physically--but my shields are at 100 percent at all times.....
gkhouston
(21,642 posts)life. My best friend used to be married to an emotionally abusive man. She blamed herself for getting sucked into a bad relationship and staying there for far too long. She had difficulty understanding how it had happened, yet when she read some true crime books I had, she could see the pattern: she could realize that he'd played her from the start, wooing at first and gradually cutting off her ties to others. It made her realize that she wasn't the only one and that she wasn't stupid.
AngryOldDem
(14,061 posts)As soon as I hit Post, the OP let us know we had been punked. The "punchline" appeared right above my post. I immediately deleted what I had written out of pure disgust.
Not appreciated, not funny. For many reasons, today has not been the kind of day that has restored my faith in the basic decency of some people.
xchrom
(108,903 posts)yellerpup
(12,254 posts)After the OP, good people jumped in offering strong, helpful advice. The replies from the OP to those compassionate suggestions set off my bs alarm and I decided not to 'help' on that one. Just another attention whore.
lunatica
(53,410 posts)Everything was just too vague about it. I chose to not answer. If it was real then a lot of good DUers were helping.
Generic Other
(28,979 posts)And some never do. I am suspicious of ones who are too eager. String us along like Uncle Oscar's tall tales.