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Macys apologizes for ad (Original Post) Demovictory9 Nov 2018 OP
I don't even have to click on the link. MontanaMama Nov 2018 #1
Only white families have pets. eom IllinoisBirdWatcher Nov 2018 #3
Actually, the Black woman was the only one without a husband. nt Blue_true Nov 2018 #129
Yeah. The traditional white bunch has a Christmas tree. nolabear Nov 2018 #6
Gawd me too. MontanaMama Nov 2018 #8
'not that there's anything wrong with that' melman Nov 2018 #13
Thank you. Wondered the same. Tipperary Nov 2018 #25
Oh, melman. It's just a Seinfeld reference. betsuni Nov 2018 #26
lol betsuni melman Nov 2018 #29
It's a problem because there were two "traditional" white families, pnwmom Nov 2018 #56
Is a gay family somehow lesser than a 'traditional' family? melman Nov 2018 #57
Careful melman JackInGreen Nov 2018 #58
As the daughter of a gay man, I say: GET REAL. This ad is designed pnwmom Nov 2018 #60
Thank you. MontanaMama Nov 2018 #86
Recommended. guillaumeb Nov 2018 #116
No. That's not what anybody is saying. MontanaMama Nov 2018 #87
btw melman Nov 2018 #38
Oh, melman. The 1993 episode won a GLAAD award. betsuni Nov 2018 #40
well as long as they won a GLAAD award, 912gdm Nov 2018 #44
And? melman Nov 2018 #50
Oh, melman. betsuni Nov 2018 #52
That's not the point. The point is there is no father in the black family... brush Nov 2018 #80
Line from Seinfeld???? MontanaMama Nov 2018 #83
I don't feel that there is anything wrong with that. MontanaMama Nov 2018 #85
No way that woman old enough to have had those kids krawhitham Nov 2018 #93
The two white families are the same family Polybius Nov 2018 #119
I never noticed that! MontanaMama Nov 2018 #120
Oh I was looking at the giant penis shaped bears C_U_L8R Nov 2018 #2
But can they cover every group? What about lesbians? California_Republic Nov 2018 #4
Um... Charlotte Little Nov 2018 #7
You missed the point. They had two "traditional" Mom/Dad families of whites. pnwmom Nov 2018 #55
Oh give me a freaking break ... no wonder people hate liberals and our overly PC nature ... mr_lebowski Nov 2018 #5
Then explain Charlotte Little Nov 2018 #9
You know what's also subconscious? The VIEWERS presumption that the 'missing dad' ... mr_lebowski Nov 2018 #15
You didn't answer my question Charlotte Little Nov 2018 #21
They're clones. OilemFirchen Nov 2018 #41
I needed that laugh. Charlotte Little Nov 2018 #91
Both white families are traditional with cute dogs included. LisaL Nov 2018 #11
And here I thought the bottom left one was Retrograde Nov 2018 #19
SJW is a right wing term JonLP24 Nov 2018 #65
Nope. Swap the single black mom out, and I'd give them a pass. Ms. Toad Nov 2018 #14
Love ya Ms. Toad, but ... I'm sorry ... your arguments are overly-PC for my personal taste ... mr_lebowski Nov 2018 #20
Black families are traditionally portrayed as "broken" Ms. Toad Nov 2018 #24
Maybe dad died in a car accident RhodeIslandOne Nov 2018 #42
Or maybe he died in Iraq, valiantly defending his country ... mr_lebowski Nov 2018 #46
You say so much while yet supporting it with so little evidence. LanternWaste Nov 2018 #102
I'm not raging, only mildly annoyed ... but the fact is, it's a picture, and everyone ... mr_lebowski Nov 2018 #118
If you're used to being stereotyped and marginalized, the concern is not "overly-P.C." EffieBlack Nov 2018 #30
Isn't this the usual typical over privileged white male response to PoC responses to shityness? uponit7771 Nov 2018 #101
Agreed -- on all your points. nt pnwmom Nov 2018 #61
I Can See It Both Ways erpowers Nov 2018 #22
I'm with you. When you have to strain to find things that offend redstateblues Nov 2018 #34
lol, more than jus white folk post on DU. Some of us didn't have to "strain" at all uponit7771 Nov 2018 #105
LOL. You'd think white people would have figured that out by now, pnwmom Nov 2018 #122
Seriously PatSeg Nov 2018 #47
I agree with you lillypaddle Nov 2018 #54
Why couldn't it have been a single white mother or father? pnwmom Nov 2018 #62
Its the same white family. This isnt really an advert. Its random Celerity Nov 2018 #125
finally - I saw the same thing Locrian Nov 2018 #126
yep, seems sometimes like almost all on social media is shite designed to divide and inflame Celerity Nov 2018 #127
Twitter is a fucking cesspool for this. Locrian Nov 2018 #128
I want to see the full series before casting judgement. N/t TCJ70 Nov 2018 #133
Thankyou the uproar over this is ridiculous Fullduplexxx Nov 2018 #66
Looks like a black dad on top right photo to me. The Wielding Truth Nov 2018 #68
He's the ex-husband of the woman in the lower left. Dave Starsky Nov 2018 #71
hahaha... that's deep. To me they are just a bunch of people posing for a pajama ad. The Wielding Truth Nov 2018 #121
The problem is that when you don't give any thought to photos like this pnwmom Nov 2018 #123
May be lame to you but you're not African American. brush Nov 2018 #81
I agree JonLP24 Nov 2018 #84
+1 uponit7771 Nov 2018 #106
If this ad truly represented my community violetpastille Nov 2018 #92
Is this a joke? If not, "Si'rus (Sir) Masters" probably says, "get off my lawn" a lot. PSPS Nov 2018 #10
Seems to me melman Nov 2018 #18
It IS a joke. Dave Starsky Nov 2018 #72
More Diversity would be good, too.. Cha Nov 2018 #12
well, one family has more than 2 children Retrograde Nov 2018 #16
Good point ... I'm actually most offended by the over-populating families ... mr_lebowski Nov 2018 #49
I'm sorry I could not detect anything wrong with the ad. nt UniteFightBack Nov 2018 #17
I'm not sorry Awsi Dooger Nov 2018 #23
I didn't notice anything until someone pointed something out...seriously LeftInTX Nov 2018 #27
She's not their Mom...she is their Aunt. nt UniteFightBack Nov 2018 #31
That's what I thought too, that it was a group of kids. Luciferous Nov 2018 #74
This picture is typical for some of us and it didn't need to be pointed out at all. We could tell uponit7771 Nov 2018 #108
No Latinos or Asians? Mixed marriages? Not all heteronormative? Hekate Nov 2018 #28
I'm actually kind of surprised Charlotte Little Nov 2018 #32
Thank you. Good post! n/t pnwmom Nov 2018 #63
Well I, for one, am fucking OFFENDED... Dave Starsky Nov 2018 #73
What is with the random capitalization? Tipperary Nov 2018 #33
Two dogs are being forced to wear pajamas without their consent. milestogo Nov 2018 #35
Here's their web banner on Father's Day LeftInTX Nov 2018 #36
Post removed Post removed Aug 2021 #134
Time for pizza. marble falls Aug 2021 #135
I'm offended that there aren't any Latinos LeftInTX Nov 2018 #37
I see nothing wrong with those photos AlexSFCA Nov 2018 #39
Why are there no menorahs? OilemFirchen Nov 2018 #43
Im kinda pissed there is no FSM 912gdm Nov 2018 #48
I think I get it now. OilemFirchen Nov 2018 #45
FFS! "The man, the boy, and the donkey" Behind the Aegis Nov 2018 #51
Gotta love the casual homophobia of so many of the African Celerity Nov 2018 #53
I just think it's cool that they went for diversity at all. Maybe the black Dad just doesn't like ma lindysalsagal Nov 2018 #59
Macy's apologized JonLP24 Nov 2018 #64
All the parents look d_r Nov 2018 #67
What I noticed first was the colors of the outfits. dansolo Nov 2018 #69
They could have put in a grandma or grandpa. tavernier Nov 2018 #70
If you look hard enough at anything you'll eventually see something. egduj Nov 2018 #75
People are happier than we think? pwb Nov 2018 #76
How can you have dogs dressed up, with no antlers? There are no antlers on those dogs!! TheBlackAdder Nov 2018 #77
I honestly don't see the problem here. People are being too sensitive with this. bearsfootball516 Nov 2018 #78
Macy's does JonLP24 Nov 2018 #79
No problem with the ad. GulfCoast66 Nov 2018 #82
Or making the 'others' non traditional ? Not everyone who post on DU is white uponit7771 Nov 2018 #112
The moral here is "Never be happy that someone made a commendable effort....... WillowTree Nov 2018 #88
obviously the ad is ageist and weightist, duh. Mosby Nov 2018 #89
I'd Like To Know RobinA Nov 2018 #90
THERE ARE NO MEXICANS violetpastille Nov 2018 #94
Been a long time Macy's customer...hope they go the way of Sears HipChick Nov 2018 #95
Because of this ad? n/t violetpastille Nov 2018 #96
Even Stevie Wonder can see what's up HipChick Nov 2018 #97
20 years ago the idea of an ad featuring a interracial gay couple would have been groundbreaking RhodeIslandOne Nov 2018 #98
A lot of people that work at Macy's will lose their jobs if they go the way of Sears. violetpastille Nov 2018 #99
Jobless is going to happen anyway HipChick Nov 2018 #100
Patterned pajamas are a trend? guillaumeb Nov 2018 #103
The white families are traditional the pictures that included the "others" are not. uponit7771 Nov 2018 #109
Agreed. Mine was humorous, guillaumeb Nov 2018 #110
Ah, Got it, ... and agreed there are some responses here in this thread calling folk too PC uponit7771 Nov 2018 #111
And that fails to recognize that racism is not only explicit. guillaumeb Nov 2018 #113
+1 uponit7771 Nov 2018 #114
Single Black Mom mrsv Nov 2018 #104
Black families with Dad, Mom and kids do exist! mrsv Nov 2018 #107
They sell pyjamas for dogs? muriel_volestrangler Nov 2018 #115
Advertisers seems to have big issues with having black families protrayed. Basement Beat Nov 2018 #117
I just saw a news story about Chris Watts, the Colorado guy who murdered his wife and kids. betsuni Nov 2018 #124
Let me simplify. Iggo Nov 2018 #130
Upper left pic - That could be a single teen mom living with her mom & dad eleny Nov 2018 #131
So we've got four disparate picture from a series... TCJ70 Nov 2018 #132

MontanaMama

(23,314 posts)
1. I don't even have to click on the link.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:22 AM
Nov 2018

JFC. Really Macy’s? The single mom is a woman of color...the only AA man is gay (not that there’s anything wrong with that) and the two white families are steriotypically balanced. Did I miss anything? Just who are these ad managers? Somebody needs to lose their job.

nolabear

(41,963 posts)
6. Yeah. The traditional white bunch has a Christmas tree.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:32 AM
Nov 2018

These ain’t ANY old holidays for them. They’re the CHRISTMAS MOTHERFUCKING HOLIDAYS, OKAY?

I’m getting testier by the day...

 

melman

(7,681 posts)
13. 'not that there's anything wrong with that'
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:50 AM
Nov 2018

Then why is it noteworthy? You've singled it out as a problem but then say there's nothing wrong with it? Obviously you feel there is. Are gay families lesser somehow?

 

melman

(7,681 posts)
29. lol betsuni
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:22 AM
Nov 2018

Yeah I've seen Seinfeld but thanks anyway...I guess. That clip is just terrific.

But still. The gay family was singled out as a problem. And I think it's kind of gross to do that.


pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
56. It's a problem because there were two "traditional" white families,
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 05:56 AM
Nov 2018

headed by straight white parents -- and ZERO families headed by straight black parents.

 

melman

(7,681 posts)
57. Is a gay family somehow lesser than a 'traditional' family?
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 06:09 AM
Nov 2018

Because that seems to be what you're saying. I mean, I can't see any other way to read what you've written here.

If it's so bad that these children have gay parents, and that they don't have straight parents -- and that is what you're saying -- then that must mean that it's preferable to be straight. I mean you are basically out and out saying a straight family is the ideal.

So if a straight family is the ideal, then a gay family must be less so. That is what you're saying. That's gross. To say the least.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
60. As the daughter of a gay man, I say: GET REAL. This ad is designed
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 06:38 AM
Nov 2018

for a culture that still privileges straight parents and "traditional" families over gay-headed families; and white people over black people.

Hence, the ads show two "traditional" families composed of straight white parents; one black father who is gay (with a white spouse); and one black mother who is single.

It's no accident that they didn't make the traditional straight families be headed by BLACK parents, with the single mom (or dad) being white. That wouldn't fit the stereotype.

guillaumeb

(42,641 posts)
116. Recommended.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 02:36 PM
Nov 2018

The bias is implicit, but the images convey a very nasty view of what comprises a family.

MontanaMama

(23,314 posts)
87. No. That's not what anybody is saying.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 11:43 AM
Nov 2018

Straight families are not the ideal but that is what the ad is, in fact, portraying.

 

melman

(7,681 posts)
38. btw
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:42 AM
Nov 2018

the (very obvious) point of that Seinfeld bit is that Jerry and George are very uncomfortable with the topic. In other words they actually kind of think that there is something wrong with it.

So maybe not the best way to make...whatever point it was that posting that was supposed to make?

 

melman

(7,681 posts)
50. And?
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 05:16 AM
Nov 2018

I don't recall saying there was anything objectionable about the episode.


George and Jerry are very uncomfortable with the idea that the writer thinks they're gay. They're also worried about appearing homophobic, so they deny that they're gay but also say 'not that there's anything wrong with that"

Is this not what happens in the episode? It is. It is what happens.

But obviously if they are so uncomfortable that they have to go around denying it, then they do have at least a bit of a problem with it.

Again, they don't want to appear homophobic...they are at least aware that that is a bad thing to be, and yet they still actually kind of are homophobic.

That's the whole thing. I mean, you have actually seen this thing haven't you? Because that's the whole point of the bit.

betsuni

(25,519 posts)
52. Oh, melman.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 05:40 AM
Nov 2018

The comment was, "The single mom is a woman of color ... the only AA man is gay (not that there's anything wrong with that)."

You: "Are gay families lesser somehow?" "The gay family was singled out as a problem."

It was just a Seinfeld reference.

brush

(53,778 posts)
80. That's not the point. The point is there is no father in the black family...
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 10:26 AM
Nov 2018

but the white families have fathers.

Get it?

MontanaMama

(23,314 posts)
85. I don't feel that there is anything wrong with that.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 11:40 AM
Nov 2018

Really well known Seinfeld reference. I’m sorry it wasn’t more obvious.



Polybius

(15,411 posts)
119. The two white families are the same family
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 03:57 PM
Nov 2018

Well the husband and wife definitely are the same, as is the older child. The younger kid looks different. And they switched dogs.

California_Republic

(1,826 posts)
4. But can they cover every group? What about lesbians?
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:27 AM
Nov 2018

Single moms, elderly caring for absent parents, Indians, Asians, mixed marriages?.

I’m going to give them a pass

Charlotte Little

(658 posts)
7. Um...
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:35 AM
Nov 2018

Looking at the ad, they had 1/4 the photo to play with. I mean, did we really need to see the (seemingly same) blonde wife & brunette dad with kids and a dog? Why not just one photo of that and one photo of a traditional mom/dad AA family, one of gay men, one of gay women...or whatever. But TWO whitey-white-white? (As for the single mom, how do we know she's not a lesbian?)

Whether intentional or not, they totally missed the mark.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
55. You missed the point. They had two "traditional" Mom/Dad families of whites.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 05:52 AM
Nov 2018

And none with a black dad. There was a single black mom and a gay black dad.

 

mr_lebowski

(33,643 posts)
5. Oh give me a freaking break ... no wonder people hate liberals and our overly PC nature ...
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:32 AM
Nov 2018

Srsly, this is a ridiculous complaint.

Why couldn't the 'guy who left the black woman' ... have been an Indian guy? Maybe SOME of the kids were adopted? Like the gay couple in the one pic?

There's TONS of diversity here, there's no way that the one devising thought to themselves 'let's make it look like the ONE absent father is BLACK, to make an offensive political statement!'

We should be pleased with this collection of images, and the complaint about this is, IMHO ... lame.

Charlotte Little

(658 posts)
9. Then explain
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:38 AM
Nov 2018

The two almost identical photos. Why? Why two photos of blonde mom, brunette dad, little cute white children, two dogs?

And dude, I've worked in advertising in the past. Trust me, they pour over every photo/video/promo with a fine-toothed comb. Many executives had to green light this ad. Which tells you that either it was intentional OR it was subconscious. Not sure which is worse to be honest.

 

mr_lebowski

(33,643 posts)
15. You know what's also subconscious? The VIEWERS presumption that the 'missing dad' ...
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:52 AM
Nov 2018

... you know ... types like you and me ... the one's complaining ... must be BLACK.

Despite the fact that are obviously adopted children in the same ad.

I'm happy to see this level of diversity from a major American retailer ... it includes a gay family, and a single mom family ... I really don't think this is some kind of 'diss', and I think you REALLY have to be annoyingly PC to insist that it is ...

Sorry, JMHO.



Charlotte Little

(658 posts)
21. You didn't answer my question
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:05 AM
Nov 2018

Because you can't negate my observation, otherwise known as reality.

Two photos of a white model mom and dad - blonde woman/brunette man, perfect kids, perfect dogs. Two.

There are four opportunities and the advertisers chose the same exact same image twice (to me, the couple even looks the same as if they ran over budget and couldn't afford another white couple with different hair coloring and/or body shapes).

Not by accident, whether conscious or subconscious.

Nothing at all to do with PC and everything to do with "I believe my eyes."

OilemFirchen

(7,143 posts)
41. They're clones.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 02:10 AM
Nov 2018

Note that the actual family has an older daughter and big dog.

What could be more inclusive than clone families?

LisaL

(44,973 posts)
11. Both white families are traditional with cute dogs included.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:42 AM
Nov 2018

Meanwhile, one non-white family is a single mother with three kids, and the other is a homosexual family.
Yes, I see what the issue is here.

Retrograde

(10,136 posts)
19. And here I thought the bottom left one was
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:55 AM
Nov 2018

a Lesbian couple and their kids. And the other was an interracial couple. Looks like I need either my eyes or my SJW credentials examined.

Ms. Toad

(34,072 posts)
14. Nope. Swap the single black mom out, and I'd give them a pass.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:51 AM
Nov 2018

They have a gay couple - which inlcudes a black man. Kudos for having a gay couple, and kudos for not always making the gay couple white.

But don't make all the white families mom, dad, 2.5 kids and a dog - both white, and don't reinforce stereotypes with the photo of the single mom.

 

mr_lebowski

(33,643 posts)
20. Love ya Ms. Toad, but ... I'm sorry ... your arguments are overly-PC for my personal taste ...
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:00 AM
Nov 2018

Obviously, respect your opinion, to each their own, agree to disagree.

I think the collection is just fine, and nicely representative of the diverse nature of modern American families.

You really have to be 'looking for something to be mad about' ... IMHO.

Ms. Toad

(34,072 posts)
24. Black families are traditionally portrayed as "broken"
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:10 AM
Nov 2018

Largely with dad missing.

If you are going to fun an ad campaign with two "traditional families," and one non-traditional one - don't choose the black family to represent the stereotypical absent black father.

 

RhodeIslandOne

(5,042 posts)
42. Maybe dad died in a car accident
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 02:15 AM
Nov 2018

Or maybe he's a cop or a firefighter or a long haul trucker and had to work Christmas Day.

This is silly.

 

mr_lebowski

(33,643 posts)
46. Or maybe he died in Iraq, valiantly defending his country ...
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 03:07 AM
Nov 2018

The idea that just because the Black Woman in the ad (who is beautiful, and jubilant, as are her children) is pictured w/o a man ... that therefore there's a purposeful insinuation, a Political Comment, if you will ... meant to convey that Black Men are irresponsible jerks who wantonly abandon their partners and children, and that therefore Blacks are intentionally being show as 'lesser'?

I'm sorry, I don't subscribe to the idea that this a purposeful 'statement' of that kind. If I thought it WAS, I'd find it deplorable, to be clear!

In fact, it's almost a little racist to 'read' this ad in that particular fashion. I mean, you have no idea why a man is not present, so why assume you do? Seems like stereotyping on the part of the VIEWER to me.

It's not like the kids were wearing t-shirts displaying a mug-shot of Huggy Bear, with bars superimposed on the shot, and a speech caption above him saying "See Ya Kids!" ... Obviously that's a ridiculous extreme, but my point is ... absent some kind of 'obvious political statement' of that nature? I disagree with the assessment some people are making here WRT 'the intent'.

Ads are designed to show things that people can relate to, and to promote happy feelings. They're not meant to be 'political'. The reality is ... there's lots of mothers (of ALL races) who are ... for a WIDE variety of reasons ... spending this Xmas without the father of their kids present. I'm SORRY that's the case, but there is.

When you make an ad, you try to appeal to real-life situations and scenarios that people can relate to. I really don't think there's any more to it. The idea here is clearly (to me) that a Single Mom (regardless of their race) and her Kids ... ARE STILL A FAMILY. Just like the Happy 'Whites', and the Happy 'Gays'.

To be honest, unless it was pointed out to me that I'm SUPPOSED to 'find the issue' (as was the case here), personally, I'd just see a happy mom and her happy kids, and call it a Family ... and I don't even notice/think about ... the fact that they're black. They're just PEOPLE to me, like other people are. Sorry ...

The above ... is just MHO.

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
102. You say so much while yet supporting it with so little evidence.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 02:15 PM
Nov 2018

But I get it... your righteous rage has found delicious chum upon which to first rationalize, then feed.

Again, just MHO...

 

mr_lebowski

(33,643 posts)
118. I'm not raging, only mildly annoyed ... but the fact is, it's a picture, and everyone ...
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 03:42 PM
Nov 2018

is free to fill in whatever back-story and 'meaning' ... that they want to.

And personally I think if you look at that advertisement and say to yourself 'uh-yep ... that's meant to be political commentary, depicting that a shit-heel black father up and abandoned his beautiful wife and babies!' ... it may say more about you ... than it does about the artist.

So you tell me ... where's your evidence that this photo is MEANT to convey ... what some are alleging that it does?

Because to my eyes, it's meant to convey that a mom and her kids can still be beautiful and joyous, and more importantly, still constitute a FAMILY. Just as a gay couple and their adopted kids do. Just as the other two white families do. I find it overall positive and inclusive.

And if it wasn't presented to me like 'find what's wrong with this spread' ... it never would've occurred to me that there's some 'hidden slight' involved. TBH, for the first couple minutes I stared at it, I thought that 'the problem' ... was that only the White families ... had dogs.

But then, of course, I'm not a minority, so ... I'm probably not attuned in the proper way. Forgive me.

 

EffieBlack

(14,249 posts)
30. If you're used to being stereotyped and marginalized, the concern is not "overly-P.C."
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:22 AM
Nov 2018

It’s bad enough having to deal with this kind of thing in the mass media every day, but it’s really annoying having our feelings dismissed.

You say we’re being “overly PC” for your “personal taste.” Yet you’ve posted three comments in this thread trying to negate our feelings. Perhaps it is you who are looking for something to be mad about.

uponit7771

(90,339 posts)
101. Isn't this the usual typical over privileged white male response to PoC responses to shityness?
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 02:15 PM
Nov 2018

Or is that question too PC?

erpowers

(9,350 posts)
22. I Can See It Both Ways
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:09 AM
Nov 2018

The moment I saw the ad I knew the complaint. I likely would not have had a big problem with the ad. I would have probably thought it was a poor choice, but that they were just trying to show different types of families. However, I can see it from the other said also. Why was the single mother black? I at least partially think many white people would have felt the same way as this poster if the single mother had been a white woman.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
122. LOL. You'd think white people would have figured that out by now,
Wed Nov 21, 2018, 04:44 AM
Nov 2018

knowing how active African Americans are in Democratic politics.

PatSeg

(47,430 posts)
47. Seriously
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 03:34 AM
Nov 2018

Apparently some people have far too much time on their hands. There are plenty of things to be outraged about and some people choose this?

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
62. Why couldn't it have been a single white mother or father?
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 06:45 AM
Nov 2018

Why did they use the stereotype of a black single mother?

Why did they have two white families with a mother and a father and NO black families with the same?

Celerity

(43,358 posts)
125. Its the same white family. This isnt really an advert. Its random
Wed Nov 21, 2018, 05:59 AM
Nov 2018

product images strung together. You can plainly see this by the wording that is cut off. The twitter user is manipulating images to try and cause conflict.

As a mixed race lesbian, I have zero issues with the LGBTQ couple being racially mixed. I also don't even assume that it is a single mum in one of those pictures. Too little info to definitively declare that. It could so be me and my nephews.

Locrian

(4,522 posts)
126. finally - I saw the same thing
Wed Nov 21, 2018, 08:26 AM
Nov 2018

It's a mashup - the poster is intentionally setting the "tone" more than the individual pics. Shows how easy it is for people to stir shit up.

Russell said the pictures that set off the controversy were “product images” that were cut and pasted together rather than an official ad.

Celerity

(43,358 posts)
127. yep, seems sometimes like almost all on social media is shite designed to divide and inflame
Wed Nov 21, 2018, 09:23 AM
Nov 2018

divisions. The ironic thing is that so many on the 'left' think that all or most 'Russian' style (or even actual Russian) trolling and dragging is always from a RW fake news or Bernie Bro big whack attack on 'corporatist' Democrats meme glide path. I, however, and others, see so much shit like this that gets into nuts and bolts LEGIT issues of social justice, civil rights, intersectionality of historically oppressed groups and twists shit up just a wee bit to weaponise it via a false narrative that guarantees max impact of division. Twitter is a fucking cesspool for this.

Locrian

(4,522 posts)
128. Twitter is a fucking cesspool for this.
Wed Nov 21, 2018, 09:48 AM
Nov 2018

indeed.

Some of it is believing that the poster has such *astounding* insight that HAS to be shared with everyone. Usually a half baked potshot at some complex issue reducing it to a simplistic post.

Some are trolls that get a rush from string people up and then feeling smug with themselves. Equivalent to a 5 yr old throwing poo for attention.

Of course the bots, paid trolls, etc

And people fall for it again and again. All of it takes away from legit issues and divides people.

yes a fucking cesspool.


Dave Starsky

(5,914 posts)
71. He's the ex-husband of the woman in the lower left.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 08:09 AM
Nov 2018

This ad encourages closeted gay men to leave their families and pursue committed homosexual relationships.

That's what I got out of it. Subliminally, at least.

The Wielding Truth

(11,415 posts)
121. hahaha... that's deep. To me they are just a bunch of people posing for a pajama ad.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 05:07 PM
Nov 2018

Doesn't seem any thought was given to their relationships by the Macy's . Maybe I'm wrong...?

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
123. The problem is that when you don't give any thought to photos like this
Wed Nov 21, 2018, 04:55 AM
Nov 2018

you may end up making ads that reflect your unconscious stereotypes.

brush

(53,778 posts)
81. May be lame to you but you're not African American.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 10:30 AM
Nov 2018

Allies need to think a little deeper so they get and not dismiss the negative stereotyping.

violetpastille

(1,483 posts)
92. If this ad truly represented my community
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:17 PM
Nov 2018

All of the families would be overweight, Vitamin D deficient and scowling.


Edited to Rant: And where are the Mexicans? They don't even let Mexicans play real life Mexicans. They get Benicio Del Toro or Jennifer Lopez and call it good.

PSPS

(13,598 posts)
10. Is this a joke? If not, "Si'rus (Sir) Masters" probably says, "get off my lawn" a lot.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:40 AM
Nov 2018

Some people are so intent on finding fault in everything that they see it even where it doesn't exist.

 

melman

(7,681 posts)
18. Seems to me
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:53 AM
Nov 2018

the people outraged by this are revealing their own questionable ideas about what is and isn't 'normal'.

Retrograde

(10,136 posts)
16. well, one family has more than 2 children
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:52 AM
Nov 2018

contributing to overpopulation (unless one or more are adopted). And there don't seem to be any people of Asian origin. And there's no one over 50...

Cmon people - 4 panels aren't enough to reflect human diversity, even if you limit it to the US

 

mr_lebowski

(33,643 posts)
49. Good point ... I'm actually most offended by the over-populating families ...
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 03:49 AM
Nov 2018

now that I give it some thought ... you know, recognizing that I'm SUPPOSED to be offended ... that's my first choice.

 

Awsi Dooger

(14,565 posts)
23. I'm not sorry
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:09 AM
Nov 2018

Nothing wrong with it. You can't cover every possibility.

I applaud the attempt. One among four is severely overstating matters, basically no matter where you go with it

LeftInTX

(25,328 posts)
27. I didn't notice anything until someone pointed something out...seriously
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:20 AM
Nov 2018

I didn't even notice the single mom in the bottom left because she looks like a kid herself. To me, they're just a group of siblings.


The white gay guy looks like an awful Ken doll, but his hot partner distracts from stiff Ken.

uponit7771

(90,339 posts)
108. This picture is typical for some of us and it didn't need to be pointed out at all. We could tell
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 02:21 PM
Nov 2018

... by looking at it the first time.

Hekate

(90,683 posts)
28. No Latinos or Asians? Mixed marriages? Not all heteronormative?
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:22 AM
Nov 2018

How am I supposed to be offended? Scratching my head here...

Charlotte Little

(658 posts)
32. I'm actually kind of surprised
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:23 AM
Nov 2018

that some of you are claiming PC on those of us pointing out the obvious.

There are four photos in the campaign for Macy's holiday families (assuming there are only four, but maybe there are more?). Two of the photos are of "traditional" families. In both of those photos the man and woman appear to be exactly the same, blonde & brunette model-looking (maybe they are different models, but they look like the same couple in each photo). The children only differ slightly in each photo with one photo having an extra child, and both photos have man's best friend depicted.

Forget the other two photos.

Why is it that those of you who find nothing wrong (or just plain erroneous and in bad taste) about this ad campaign don't notice that two - TWO- of the photos are practically the same and depict the "traditional" family as white and perfect, complete with dogs?

I'm really baffled. This isn't about being PC, guys. This is just using one's eyes to see what's off here. Assuming there are just four photos for the campaign, why not make one of them ________________ (fill in the blank) versus another white/white/white/furry photo?

Dave Starsky

(5,914 posts)
73. Well I, for one, am fucking OFFENDED...
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 08:14 AM
Nov 2018

That they don't show an Asian family with a Yule log and a cat!

Fucking bigoted bastards!

Response to LeftInTX (Reply #36)

LeftInTX

(25,328 posts)
37. I'm offended that there aren't any Latinos
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:39 AM
Nov 2018

I live in an area that is 70% Latino.

I won't shop at Macy's because they don't have a Latino family in their ad. And not only do that not only have Latinos, they don't have Latinos make tamales.

Sacrilege...Faux Outrage!!!

AlexSFCA

(6,137 posts)
39. I see nothing wrong with those photos
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:49 AM
Nov 2018

much better than most other ads where you only see stereotypical families. Here they have a birational gay couple with kids. Who is outraged? Conservatives? Are Macy’s ads supposed to be educational? In the world of non stop breaking news cycles, it puzzles me how this non-issue even got registered. The funny thing if Macy just had one photo of that blond hetero couple, no one would even notice it.

OilemFirchen

(7,143 posts)
45. I think I get it now.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 02:37 AM
Nov 2018

The white family had to sell their older daughter and big dog in order to buy a couch. If they hadn't been buying so many sets of pajamas, that wouldn't have been necessary. Nor would they be forced into sharing the couch with the other two families.

Very depressing. I can see why everyone's so up in arms.

lindysalsagal

(20,684 posts)
59. I just think it's cool that they went for diversity at all. Maybe the black Dad just doesn't like ma
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 06:26 AM
Nov 2018

matching pjs???

dansolo

(5,376 posts)
69. What I noticed first was the colors of the outfits.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 07:31 AM
Nov 2018

Three out of the four families are wearing holiday colors, while the fourth is wearing black, white, and gray. The ad is just screaming "one of these is not like the others".

tavernier

(12,388 posts)
70. They could have put in a grandma or grandpa.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 07:51 AM
Nov 2018

Especially since dogs were represented. I’m protesting on behalf of grumpy senior citizens!

Actually, I don’t see anything that terribly offends me. As long as all the children look happy and well loved, it works for me.

JonLP24

(29,322 posts)
79. Macy's does
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 09:19 AM
Nov 2018

That is why they made 3 direct replies to people pointing out what was wrong with it apologizing. They didn't defend it like you see people in this thread.

GulfCoast66

(11,949 posts)
82. No problem with the ad.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 10:44 AM
Nov 2018

To please some people on this thread they would have to had add photos of every conceivable combination of people.

WillowTree

(5,325 posts)
88. The moral here is "Never be happy that someone made a commendable effort.......
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:21 PM
Nov 2018

.......Instead, always focus on what more or different you wish they'd done and then make them apologize for not living up to your oh so perfect expectations."

RobinA

(9,893 posts)
90. I'd Like To Know
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 12:46 PM
Nov 2018

what Macy's has against furniture of color! Also, everybody is good-looking. People with bad hair don't celebrate Christmas? And Christmas! Where are the Hanukkah pajamas? And I don't see the Christ in this Christmas!!!! It's all about consumerism. Apparently, all Macy's wants to do is sell stuff!

violetpastille

(1,483 posts)
94. THERE ARE NO MEXICANS
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 01:54 PM
Nov 2018

No gay ones. No single ones. No Christmas tree ones.

As is customary in all advertisements outside of Univision.

Rule of Life 1. A real life Mexican will always be played by Benicio Del Torro.
Why use a Mexican if there are still plenty of Puerto Ricans (smh)?

Rule of Life 2. If I post twice in a thread I probably forgot I already posted the same thing once already.




 

RhodeIslandOne

(5,042 posts)
98. 20 years ago the idea of an ad featuring a interracial gay couple would have been groundbreaking
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 02:03 PM
Nov 2018

....and led to people on the right wishing the same thing you are (and that hasn't changed a bit so you're in stellar company).

Now it "problematic". SMDH.

violetpastille

(1,483 posts)
99. A lot of people that work at Macy's will lose their jobs if they go the way of Sears.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 02:06 PM
Nov 2018

Macy's is going to be super diligent about their ads going forward and that's just fine.

I want to see some Mexicans. I want to see some South Asians.

I don't want to see more jobless.

HipChick

(25,485 posts)
100. Jobless is going to happen anyway
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 02:09 PM
Nov 2018

Folks need to focus on retooling skills, and not loyalty to anYone company..Amazon has forever reshaped retail

guillaumeb

(42,641 posts)
113. And that fails to recognize that racism is not only explicit.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 02:31 PM
Nov 2018

Implicit racism is just as bad because the message is meant to be subliminally taken in.

Basement Beat

(659 posts)
117. Advertisers seems to have big issues with having black families protrayed.
Tue Nov 20, 2018, 02:42 PM
Nov 2018

Obviously, white families are viewed as the default. A black spouse (frankly, most people of color in general it seems) in ads typically tends to always have a white spouse. Black families are unfortunately a rarity in ads in promotions.

betsuni

(25,519 posts)
124. I just saw a news story about Chris Watts, the Colorado guy who murdered his wife and kids.
Wed Nov 21, 2018, 04:59 AM
Nov 2018

The guy with brown hair and extremely white teeth in both the Macy's White Family photos sort of looks like him and now when I see this ad it makes me uneasy. Both of the dogs look uneasy, too.

eleny

(46,166 posts)
131. Upper left pic - That could be a single teen mom living with her mom & dad
Wed Nov 21, 2018, 02:20 PM
Nov 2018

That's what I thought when I first looked at all the photos in the ad.

TCJ70

(4,387 posts)
132. So we've got four disparate picture from a series...
Wed Nov 21, 2018, 03:17 PM
Nov 2018

...and I’m wondering, what did the rest of the photos look like? Maybe this person picked four (and two contain the same people) in order to make an appearance that isn’t reality?

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