Fascism and abusive love.
Love as falling in love with narcissists unawares is a similar pattern as falling for a fascist on a social level .
When the love is new, for a victim red flags are ignored as the new victim gets to know the nice side of an abusive relationship.
Like when the people on the right fell for trump ,extolling his " virtues"
While denying red flags that trump
Would become a criminal, abusive miscreant in the White House.
They are in love with him.
As for liberals we saw through his fascist tendencies right through the narcissism and tried to warn the right wingers of the dangers like he would harm the country.
Like a teenager in love they get angry and deny their boyfriend is dangerous. Like right wingers they say shit like trump is joking,trump cares etc.
After a few inexcusable abuses of power they can admit they see
little problems in the relationship themselves but they are still in denial.
They still sing the praises and make excuses for the abusers bad behavior on public.
Like the trumpers people caught in an abusive relationship they fuse their identity with the abuser/trump. Like Stockholm syndrome.saying they trust him ,and bat away others concerns as an annoyance from people that have no clue about their wonderful "relationship" and those who criticize trump are undermining the "relationship". They have with his fake face.that exists in their minds they have constructed.
People outside see the abusiveness and warn them louder more frequently .
And the lover digs their heels in and refuses to see the obvious While secretly they saw the red flags too,but will make excuses get defensive.because of the so called relationship.they have fused with the abuser.
Will there ever be a day when they get battered and decide to get out?
They said in an article about abuse it takes a few attempts before a victim leaves the bad relationship for good.
They forgo other relationships and the abuser isolated them.
Just like trump and his rhetoric and abuse of power others perceive but the abused still sees it as a more or less positive relationship. The victim further is isolated from Friends and family. Like right wingers push away Friends and family. That are different from themselves.
There are a lot of parallels between the stages of what happens in abusive relationships
And the devotion some abuse victims have on a social level to leaders that abuse a nation like trump does.
There are more similar traits between abuser and victim, trump and trump follower.
and this is well,scary.
I'm noticing this and it is difficult for me to put it in words. This is an attempt. I have PTSD,and this thing I am noticing is triggering as all get out. Thanks for reading it.
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I have been making points about that in my own way concerning loyalty and its importance and relevance to the effect we are seeing.
Thanks for adding your insights on that!
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