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This is my third holiday season without a family. sinkingfeeling Dec 2019 #1

Hugs dear. I'm sorry for your losses. OhNo-Really Dec 2019 #2

My Mom died this last November 11. She was 95, had bladder cancer, wasn't in pain and abqtommy Dec 2019 #3

Yours is a beautiful story. OhNo-Really Dec 2019 #4

I am going through their stuff now - Loryn Dec 2019 #5

I'm so sorry. OhNo-Really Dec 2019 #6

Thanks Loryn Dec 2019 #7

sinkingfeeling

(51,457 posts)

1. This is my third holiday season without a family.

Reply to OhNo-Really (Original post)

Mon Dec 23, 2019, 04:03 PM

Dec 2019

OhNo-Really

(3,985 posts)

2. Hugs dear. I'm sorry for your losses.

Reply to sinkingfeeling (Reply #1)

Mon Dec 23, 2019, 04:19 PM

Dec 2019

The missing is hardest this time of year for me. We can honor their memories by remembering our good times together like the huge hot light rack dad used to film our descent from our sleepiness to Santa’s surprises.

Onward we go!
✨✨❤️✨✨

abqtommy

(14,118 posts)

3. My Mom died this last November 11. She was 95, had bladder cancer, wasn't in pain and

Reply to OhNo-Really (Original post)

Mon Dec 23, 2019, 05:05 PM

Dec 2019

died in her sleep with her caregiver present, miles away from me. Since I've had possession of most of
Moms stored things for many years (due to the caregivers desire to make room) I did a quick inventory
of Mom's stuff then set it aside. Now that she has died I've gone through it thoroughly. Some things I've kept for myself and some things I've sent to my niece, mostly because she's the only family member who showed any interest. I've got the wedding ring that my step-Dad bought for Mom when they were married in 1957 (I was there) and I wear it around my neck. I have photos, greeting cards and even
3 dollars cash (in Kennedy half dollars) I found. I also have a few of the rocks my Mom collected, ones that I gave her years ago. I think having these physical mementos helps out the grieving process.
Yes, my Mom was a pack rat and I'm glad. As far as I'm concerned, memories and grieving go nicely
together.

OhNo-Really

(3,985 posts)

4. Yours is a beautiful story.

Reply to abqtommy (Reply #3)

Mon Dec 23, 2019, 05:17 PM

Dec 2019

Love the sentiment “memories and grieving go nicely together”. This captures the experience perfectly. Thank you.

The grieving does soften over time I promise.

Hugs and sincere condolences for your recent parting ✨✨❤️✨✨

Loryn

(944 posts)

5. I am going through their stuff now -

Reply to OhNo-Really (Original post)

Mon Dec 23, 2019, 08:36 PM

Dec 2019

Funny how life comes down to stuff, and paperwork.

My mom died January 29th, my dad on February 21st. I am not up for holidays this year.

Maybe next year.

OhNo-Really

(3,985 posts)

6. I'm so sorry.

Reply to Loryn (Reply #5)

Wed Dec 25, 2019, 12:51 AM

Dec 2019

Take your time to mourn. Best advice someone gave me.

Try to keep your health though. It’s very hard to regain. I made this mistake.

Peace and compassion during this melancholy season, Loryn. The days do brighten in time.

✨✨🙏✨✨

Loryn

(944 posts)

7. Thanks

Reply to OhNo-Really (Reply #6)

Fri Dec 27, 2019, 12:27 PM

Dec 2019