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madamesilverspurs

(15,800 posts)
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 07:52 PM Feb 2020

Yet another parking lot encounter

It was just a couple of weeks ago that a rock pinged off my car as I was parking at the grocery store. I turned in time to see a guy yelling something about "libruls" and waving his fists in my direction; he was being dragged away by a woman who didn’t look happy with his behavior. They disappeared among the cars and I just shook my head, glad that I’d had the windows rolled up.

This afternoon I was putting some groceries into my car when an older woman, whose car was parked a couple spaces away, approached me while pointing at my bumper stickers. She smiled and asked if she could give a hug to a fellow Democrat. “Absolutely!” I said, and she laughed and gave me a squeeze, saying that it was so refreshing to know that she isn’t alone. It was acknowledgement that it’s not easy living in a community that is routinely ruled by Republicans. We chatted a bit, and I gave her some stickers and a couple of pins. When we parted, she returned to her car where she handed one of the pins to her wheelchair bound passenger, and he raised his head and gave me one of the most beautiful smiles I have ever received.

I’ve shared before that when my car was still new it got keyed the length on both sides as objection to my bumper stickers. If the intent was to shut me up, it failed. Since then, I’ve been cursed at and gesticulated at, and have now had a rock thrown at me. But I’ve also had a number of happy parking lot encounters like this afternoon’s.

Before getting into her car, the woman today repeated, “I really like your stickers!” As she said that we heard sirens getting closer, and I said “Sounds like they’re onto us, we’d better hurry!” We both laughed, and drove off smiling, and one of us is already planning more stickers.

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Yet another parking lot encounter (Original Post) madamesilverspurs Feb 2020 OP
nice....we really are everywhere stillcool Feb 2020 #1
That's very nice gratuitous Feb 2020 #2
It's barely still a free country. defacto7 Feb 2020 #3
How wonderful! Glad you all bumped into each other...keep your hopes up! Karadeniz Feb 2020 #4
I go to a 24 hour fitness place every day in northern Wisconsin. Usually around 7:00 am. johnthewoodworker Feb 2020 #5
When I go to France and someone asks where I am from, I tell the "United States but I did NOT CurtEastPoint Feb 2020 #6
And I am an elderly white woman who voted twice for Obama and this will be my second time for Doitnow Feb 2020 #40
Sound like Sawyer County. Scruffy1 Feb 2020 #25
Good, a fellow Zunker voter. CaptYossarian Feb 2020 #36
You've probably mentioned it in other threads Dagstead Bumwood Feb 2020 #7
Personally, I like the one that explains voting is just like driving. soldierant Feb 2020 #12
Mostly state and local candidates. madamesilverspurs Feb 2020 #13
It really sucks that someone keyed your car. That is blatant vandalism and I wish I had been there. Evolve Dammit Feb 2020 #8
Off topic, but I love your screen name! BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2020 #31
I wonder if there is a way to have cameras in your car to catch the vandals? Maraya1969 Feb 2020 #34
Wow Youtube video showing woman keying a Tesla Maraya1969 Feb 2020 #35
There was a demo at our local Best Buy of a car alarm that CaptYossarian Feb 2020 #38
I was at my local liquor store the other day... kag Feb 2020 #9
the criminal organization running the white house inspires law breakers who damage things. nt yaesu Feb 2020 #10
Thank you for hanging in there. PoindexterOglethorpe Feb 2020 #11
I'm next door in Colorado. madamesilverspurs Feb 2020 #14
I moved to Santa Fe, NM, in 2008 after a divorce. PoindexterOglethorpe Feb 2020 #26
I loved Santa Fe! Richard58 Feb 2020 #37
You could consider moving into some one of the mountains, PoindexterOglethorpe Feb 2020 #39
I know that the fact I live in KY immediately makes you think of Moscow Mitch Stonepounder Feb 2020 #15
Nice! Aussie105 Feb 2020 #17
" even a few Confederate Flags flying" mitch96 Feb 2020 #30
Bumper sticker FlaGranny Feb 2020 #16
They will like it! Aussie105 Feb 2020 #18
I guess. FlaGranny Feb 2020 #20
I don't think I'd do it in the part of Georgia where I live. Different Drummer Feb 2020 #19
Congrats, you get Friendlies!1 I get accosted regularly by the thank-you-for-your-service types UTUSN Feb 2020 #21
I've taken a break when a republican has won the presidency Poiuyt Feb 2020 #22
⭐️️⭐️️⭐️️⭐️K&R⭐️⭐️⭐️️⭐️ spanone Feb 2020 #23
Awww, thanks so much for sharing. Very heartwarming 😍 iluvtennis Feb 2020 #24
I'm in awe of people brave enough to put political stickers on their cars. I have Croney Feb 2020 #27
I've had many similar encounters. Kath2 Feb 2020 #28
Nice! calimary Feb 2020 #29
You are brave, Madamesilverspurs. Joinfortmill Feb 2020 #32
I was recently screamed at by a redneck in a pickup truck. abakan Feb 2020 #33

stillcool

(32,626 posts)
1. nice....we really are everywhere
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 08:12 PM
Feb 2020

so much is made of the squeaky wheels, and not enough about the majority that is we.

gratuitous

(82,849 posts)
2. That's very nice
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 08:25 PM
Feb 2020

As for the other reactions your car provokes, you didn't care what those knuckleheads thought when you put the stickers on your car. You can continue not caring what they "think" when they offer their opinion.

 

johnthewoodworker

(694 posts)
5. I go to a 24 hour fitness place every day in northern Wisconsin. Usually around 7:00 am.
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 08:56 PM
Feb 2020

This is a republican county of about 16,000 people. There are a large number of older men who are ardent Fox news viewers. I have ordered about 8 tee shirts that I wear to workout. They are: 'Impeach the mf', 'Republicans, the party of traitors', 'Trump lies', 'Anti- racist anti-sexist anti-trump pro-dog', 'No one is illegal on stolen land, 'Close the camps', 'Anti trump AF'. The republicans don't talk to me (a benefit), and I've had about five people compliment me on my shirts.

I actually wear these shirts all the time. I am a 60 y.o. bearded white male and I don't want anybody I meet to assume I'm a republican.

CurtEastPoint

(18,639 posts)
6. When I go to France and someone asks where I am from, I tell the "United States but I did NOT
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 08:59 PM
Feb 2020

vote for Trump.' I always get agreement. I am an older white male. Do NOT assume I am a Repube.

Doitnow

(1,103 posts)
40. And I am an elderly white woman who voted twice for Obama and this will be my second time for
Sat Feb 22, 2020, 07:22 PM
Feb 2020

Bernie. I had parents who talked about Roosevelt in the thirties. I remember John and Robert Kennedy and how people cried in streets when they died. And so they did when Martin Luther King died. My husband went to school on the GI Bill and so gave our family a good life.

I live in a sea of Republicans, but I have my Bernie sign in my front yard.

Scruffy1

(3,255 posts)
25. Sound like Sawyer County.
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 11:25 PM
Feb 2020

I lived there many years ago. Met a lot of nice people. It was the poorest county in the state so of course only had one political party;Republican. This was before talk radio and the people were really tolerant of other people even ones with on the lunatic fringe. I was working so much I never got involved in local politics, but the county was run by a handful of people who made all the decisions in their own best interest. Looking back, I have some great memories but vowed never to live on the east side of the Mississipi again.

CaptYossarian

(6,448 posts)
36. Good, a fellow Zunker voter.
Sat Feb 22, 2020, 03:04 PM
Feb 2020

This one's gonna be tough. Each of the two Repubs got as many votes as the combined amount for our side. Dave Obey carried this district for 43 years, but it had blue Portage County in it before the cluster-mandering.

Dagstead Bumwood

(3,625 posts)
7. You've probably mentioned it in other threads
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 09:07 PM
Feb 2020

but what are some of the stickers you have? I'm curious what's provoking such strong responses, positive and negative.

I put a few stickers on my first new car - sports teams I followed - but I've not done that with any cars since. The older I get the more cranky I am about my car's appearance. I allow myself a license plate frame, though.

soldierant

(6,847 posts)
12. Personally, I like the one that explains voting is just like driving.
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 10:01 PM
Feb 2020

But my arthritis makes it tough toget out to the car and put it on, and especially now when I'm having a flareup.

And I also am always interested in hearing of more.

madamesilverspurs

(15,800 posts)
13. Mostly state and local candidates.
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 10:03 PM
Feb 2020

Also have Obama stickers that have held up better than any of the others. They even survived the hailstorms that shredded most of the stickers. And I live in a red part of a purple state.


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Evolve Dammit

(16,725 posts)
8. It really sucks that someone keyed your car. That is blatant vandalism and I wish I had been there.
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 09:40 PM
Feb 2020

Obviously free speech is in jeopardy, and I thank you for you compassion, generosity and humor. I'm losing mine, except for fellow Dems or tolerant people willing to talk.

Maraya1969

(22,478 posts)
34. I wonder if there is a way to have cameras in your car to catch the vandals?
Sat Feb 22, 2020, 02:21 PM
Feb 2020

Actually there is. And according to one car surveillance camera they say this:
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Parking mode
Monitors your car's surroundings while your car is parked and the engine is not running. Requires parking mode cable, sold separately; professional installation recommended."

It would be great to have post these videos right to the internet. I wouldn't do it with my car right now but if it was older I'd think about it.

CaptYossarian

(6,448 posts)
38. There was a demo at our local Best Buy of a car alarm that
Sat Feb 22, 2020, 03:09 PM
Feb 2020

sounded like a machine gun. Everyone ignores the old, tired alarms, but this would get people's attention.

kag

(4,079 posts)
9. I was at my local liquor store the other day...
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 09:53 PM
Feb 2020

And the owner was chatting with a customer and another employee (all older white men) when I walked up to the register. He was describing a trip he had taken to Europe (France, I think) to buy booze wholesale, and how the tariffs are having an effect on the prices. The employee said, "Well, what are you gonna do?"

Without knowing any of their politics I quickly answered loudly, "Vote Democratic in November!"

All three laughed and agreed whole-heartedly.

My town tends to be pretty liberal, but it was still nice to see.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(25,851 posts)
11. Thank you for hanging in there.
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 09:56 PM
Feb 2020

I don't happen to have any bumper stickers on my car, even though I live in a reliably Democratic area. Northern New Mexico.

I have zero tolerance for those who will key a car, or worse, just because political sentiments are expressed. I would NEVER do that to a car that has anything expressing opinions I don't agree with. Period.

Most people really are good and nice.

thank you for this story.

madamesilverspurs

(15,800 posts)
14. I'm next door in Colorado.
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 10:06 PM
Feb 2020

Northern part, most seats held by republicans. Love your state, went to high school in Albuquerque, have been back for some reunions and got waaay lost.


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PoindexterOglethorpe

(25,851 posts)
26. I moved to Santa Fe, NM, in 2008 after a divorce.
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 11:26 PM
Feb 2020

It was the best thing I could have done for myself. The state is mostly Democratic, but unfortunately there is a lot of corruption here. It's sort of like the state wants to be like New Jersey, but can't begin to make it that far. Sigh.

What I truly love is the weather. Not too hot in the summer, not too cold in the winter. Although locals tend to behave as if until a couple of years ago the climate was like San Diego, which strikes me as rather odd. Okay, so it gets a bit chilly in the winter. Big deal. Have you ever been to Minnesota? Or northern New York State? I've lived in both and trust me, winter in Santa Fe is a cakewalk compared to them.

Here's the really weird part. You know that large room at the front of your house, the one with the large roll-up door? The one you keep all of your crap in? Well, guess what. It's called a garage and normal people keep their car in it. Yeah, really. I have NEVER lived anywhere that people don't use the garage for the car, but for all of their junk and park the car outside instead. How bizarre is that?

Trust me, this is not normal. In most places people use the garage for the car. If you have so much stuff that the car won't fit, then re-think your priorities.

Meanwhile, I really, really love living in Santa Fe.

Richard58

(239 posts)
37. I loved Santa Fe!
Sat Feb 22, 2020, 03:05 PM
Feb 2020

I visited New Mexico for the first time last year and I have to say I found it infatuating. (BTW, I am from Pennsylvania.) I can see why they call it the Land of Enchantment. My girlfriend and I visited Santa Fe and Taos and I fell in love with both places. I loved the area, the people and the nice weather. I would love to live in Santa Fe but my girlfriend likes areas with a lot of green foliage. Oh well--such is life. But I will go visit again!

PoindexterOglethorpe

(25,851 posts)
39. You could consider moving into some one of the mountains,
Sat Feb 22, 2020, 03:38 PM
Feb 2020

like around Taos for greenery. But then you'd be a lot farther off the beaten path, which for me isn't appealing.

What I like about Santa Fe is that it's not very big, so there's not the crazy traffic of a big city, and it's near enough to Albuquerque to get all the big city things you might like.

For sure, visit us again.

Stonepounder

(4,033 posts)
15. I know that the fact I live in KY immediately makes you think of Moscow Mitch
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 10:28 PM
Feb 2020

but... the community I live in leans Right... even a few Confederate Flags flying. But there are enough Dem bumper stickers and yard signs (when election rolls around) that we all just get along. My next door neighbor had a Confederate flag flying when we moved in. But, when he was trying to learn how to use a computer he would come over and ask me for help. And when I was in the hospital having my gall bladder out, without saying a word he came over and mowed my lawn so my wife wouldn't have to do it.

We don't talk politics, but we don't rag on folks who don't agree with our politics either. One small corner of what the US used to be.

Aussie105

(5,383 posts)
17. Nice!
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 10:42 PM
Feb 2020

More people should focus less on the horror and negativity of the abstract world of politics and more on the positivity and the niceness you can inject into the reality that is your life and those near you.

In short, don't let the clown-shit affect who you are and how you live your life.

Should be more of it.

mitch96

(13,895 posts)
30. " even a few Confederate Flags flying"
Sat Feb 22, 2020, 09:07 AM
Feb 2020

I like to piss those guys/gals off with my tee shirt. It has the Betsy Ross 13 stars and 13 bars and says "the original Rebel Flag
Truth hurts but someone has to tell 'em, right?
m

Aussie105

(5,383 posts)
18. They will like it!
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 10:44 PM
Feb 2020

So will the Democrats. But they tend to be deep thinkers compared to them Republicans.

Different Drummer

(7,614 posts)
19. I don't think I'd do it in the part of Georgia where I live.
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 10:48 PM
Feb 2020

But if you can do it safely where you are, go for it!

UTUSN

(70,684 posts)
21. Congrats, you get Friendlies!1 I get accosted regularly by the thank-you-for-your-service types
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 10:54 PM
Feb 2020

I wear my Navy/ship's cap and *won't* stop wearing it, but it's a magnet for the aforesaid ones, who are usually of the Wingnut/Chickenhawk variety. I've got good radar and can tell (and appreciate) the other kind (the sincere ones).

Ever since SHITLER burst on the scene, the ones who accost me are wearing the red caps. Before that, it was the Shrubbites/Iraq ones, who were more circumspect.







Poiuyt

(18,122 posts)
22. I've taken a break when a republican has won the presidency
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 10:55 PM
Feb 2020

Bush in 2004 and them trump. I became too depressed so I just took a good break.

Croney

(4,659 posts)
27. I'm in awe of people brave enough to put political stickers on their cars. I have
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 11:41 PM
Feb 2020

a Penzy's Spices sticker; pretty subtle I know.

Kath2

(3,074 posts)
28. I've had many similar encounters.
Fri Feb 21, 2020, 11:43 PM
Feb 2020

My vehicle is a rolling liberal manifesto. I get the the finger and the dirty looks but I also get the love and support.

Resist and persist.

abakan

(1,819 posts)
33. I was recently screamed at by a redneck in a pickup truck.
Sat Feb 22, 2020, 02:12 PM
Feb 2020

My car has a lot of bumperstickers and last week I was trying to merge into traffic from a parking lot.
I was waiting to shoot the gap between oncoming traffic both ways and apparently I was taking too long for the guy behind me. What I was subjected to was a guy with a beet red face, screaming at me. "Turn you damn liberal!" The only thing I could think to do was to come out with a big belly laugh. He was behind me for some distance down the road and I laughed at him the whole way. When he finally turned off his face was so red I thought he might stroke out.

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