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Clash City Rocker

(3,396 posts)
Wed Oct 28, 2020, 09:32 PM Oct 2020

I'm waiting to hear that my cousin has died from Covid-19

My oldest cousin is named Sharon. She’s my only cousin who grew up in the same town as me. She has special needs; her family was closer to mine than to any other relatives because we always included her and treated her as a person. Her parents have both passed and she’s lived in assisted living for several years. I love her.

Almost two weeks ago, I learned that she tested positive for Covid-19, but she had no symptoms and was in good spirits. Last Thursday she was taken to the hospital and given oxygen. There were signs she was getting better, but I learned today that she’s on “comfort measures only,” which means they are just trying to keep her comfortable until she dies.

In a competent democracy, there would be measures in place by now that might have saved her life, but we’re stuck with Trump. Damn you, Trump. Damn you to Hell.

Thanks for listening. I just really needed to vent to someone who would sympathize.

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I'm waiting to hear that my cousin has died from Covid-19 (Original Post) Clash City Rocker Oct 2020 OP
... handmade34 Oct 2020 #1
... Nevilledog Oct 2020 #2
I am so sorry. tblue37 Oct 2020 #3
Peace to you and Sharon. sheshe2 Oct 2020 #4
I'm so sorry. Phoenix61 Oct 2020 #5
I'm so sorry- JohnnyLib2 Oct 2020 #6
So sorry jpak Oct 2020 #7
F'ing Trump MizLibby Oct 2020 #8
I am terribly sorry Jarqui Oct 2020 #9
that is so heartbreaking and so terrible renate Oct 2020 #10
I can't imagine your pain MLAA Oct 2020 #11
So sad malaise Oct 2020 #12
I'm so so sorry. nt chowder66 Oct 2020 #13
I'm so sorry BainsBane Oct 2020 #14
So sorry bdamomma Oct 2020 #15
So sorry Meowmee Oct 2020 #16
So sorry to hear this! SheltieLover Oct 2020 #17
Sorry to hear that. Boogiemack Oct 2020 #18
I am so sorry. nt Sloumeau Oct 2020 #19
... alwaysinasnit Oct 2020 #20
I'm so sorry for your pain cate94 Oct 2020 #21
So sorry... Silver Gaia Oct 2020 #22
so sorry for your loss. essaynnc Oct 2020 #23
I am so sorry for you and your cousin Sharon. smirkymonkey Oct 2020 #24
"I love her." Botany Oct 2020 #25
I'm so sorry for Sharon and you...everyone's so helpless. It doesn't seem that she has much family. Karadeniz Oct 2020 #26
Who made the decision for comfort only? EndlessWire Oct 2020 #27
My condolences CCR The Polack MSgt Oct 2020 #28
((Clash)) blm Oct 2020 #29
Im so sorry, Eko Oct 2020 #30
So very sorry for your loss. Virtual hugs, and vibes. For peace and healing for you and your niyad Oct 2020 #39
So sorry ... nt bluecollar2 Oct 2020 #31
So sorry.... Heartstrings Oct 2020 #32
Crying Dakota Flint Oct 2020 #33
Sympathies. Going through it too. Can't get over linking Laura PourMeADrink Oct 2020 #34
I am sending my love to you and dear Sharon. MontanaMama Oct 2020 #35
My heart goes out to you. iluvtennis Oct 2020 #36
Virtual hugs for you and Sharon. Sending vibes for a gentle crossing for her, and peace and healing niyad Oct 2020 #37
God Bless your cousin flying-skeleton Oct 2020 #38
It's terrible to lose someone you love lunatica Oct 2020 #40
I'm so sorry. onecaliberal Oct 2020 #41
I'm so sorry. I hear the stress and anguish in your words. Backseat Driver Oct 2020 #42
I'm so sorry, Clash ... calimary Oct 2020 #43
I am so sorry 💔 UpInArms Oct 2020 #44

Jarqui

(10,124 posts)
9. I am terribly sorry
Wed Oct 28, 2020, 09:45 PM
Oct 2020

Sometimes imagining Nov 4 headlines has given me some relief:

"Trump Fired!
Americans overwhelmingly dump the most corrupt, immoral and heartless politician in US history"

essaynnc

(801 posts)
23. so sorry for your loss.
Wed Oct 28, 2020, 10:19 PM
Oct 2020

I hope that she hasn't been in much pain. warm thoughts to you and those that loved her.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
24. I am so sorry for you and your cousin Sharon.
Wed Oct 28, 2020, 10:24 PM
Oct 2020

This just breaks my heart and makes me so angry at the same time. It just didn't have to be this bad.

My heart goes out to both of you. Sending you healing thoughts and compassion.

Botany

(70,504 posts)
25. "I love her."
Wed Oct 28, 2020, 10:24 PM
Oct 2020

Say no more. I wish you, your cousin, your family, and your friends well.

This song me through some tough times.

Karadeniz

(22,513 posts)
26. I'm so sorry for Sharon and you...everyone's so helpless. It doesn't seem that she has much family.
Wed Oct 28, 2020, 10:26 PM
Oct 2020

Who is handling the funeral? I know I sound cold, but I'm too practical. I really do regret how life has treated her. This is nothing but sad...except for how your family treated her. I'm sure she loved you for it.

EndlessWire

(6,526 posts)
27. Who made the decision for comfort only?
Wed Oct 28, 2020, 10:35 PM
Oct 2020

We should all get living wills made up with people of our choice to make the decisions.

K., I am so sorry for you and your family, for Sharon, and for her caregivers working in such tragic circumstances. Every life is precious; every life a life well lived. Hang in there.

Eko

(7,282 posts)
30. Im so sorry,
Wed Oct 28, 2020, 10:55 PM
Oct 2020

One of mine died on Monday night. I dont really know how you are feeling but I am feeling anger, rage and immense sadness. I know the sadness will become less every day, I hope the anger and rage dont.
Eko.

niyad

(113,302 posts)
39. So very sorry for your loss. Virtual hugs, and vibes. For peace and healing for you and your
Wed Oct 28, 2020, 11:36 PM
Oct 2020

Loved ones. We are here for you.

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
34. Sympathies. Going through it too. Can't get over linking
Wed Oct 28, 2020, 11:22 PM
Oct 2020

it to trump. It multiplies one's hatred toward him exponentially. Every loved one who dies is a trauma in life. Many have lost loved ones to police killings, many have lost loved ones to utter accidenal happenstance, or to horrible, painful disease. Guess losing a loved one to trump is no different.

Medics have learned so much since my dad died in May. Good vibes your way and hoping your cousin pulls through!!

niyad

(113,302 posts)
37. Virtual hugs for you and Sharon. Sending vibes for a gentle crossing for her, and peace and healing
Wed Oct 28, 2020, 11:31 PM
Oct 2020

for you. Remember that your DU family is here for you, holding you in support and love.

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
40. It's terrible to lose someone you love
Wed Oct 28, 2020, 11:38 PM
Oct 2020

I don’t blame you for being mad. Who wouldn’t be?!

Hugs to you.

Backseat Driver

(4,392 posts)
42. I'm so sorry. I hear the stress and anguish in your words.
Thu Oct 29, 2020, 12:26 AM
Oct 2020

and, if I may, approach and send you a virtual dear Clash City Rocker.

calimary

(81,250 posts)
43. I'm so sorry, Clash ...
Thu Oct 29, 2020, 12:38 AM
Oct 2020

Thank you for allowing us to keep this vigil with you. You’re not alone in this struggle.

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