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Sat Dec 12, 2020, 09:25 AM

I got an invite to a relative's Christmas dinner - 12 other people were invited.

Of the 12 people, only half are family members. The others, are her friends that I don't know well, or have never met. With her and her husband included, 15 people would be gathered.

I expressed my concern about gathering in doors with that many people.
She doesn't see it as a big deal. Even said, her friends have all been tested before and are negative. I said, well that's like taking a pregnancy test last month and saying you can't be pregnant at any other time.

She also invited my parents. Both of whom have pre-existing conditions. I have told them I do not think this is a good idea, even if they were to wear masks indoors. Why risk it?

After going back and forth with her all week, she said my parents and I could come earlier and leave before the other guests. Sigh, my own family member is a dumbass!

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Reply I got an invite to a relative's Christmas dinner - 12 other people were invited. (Original post)
tulipsandroses Dec 2020 OP
CurtEastPoint Dec 2020 #1
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Jersey Devil Dec 2020 #3
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tulipsandroses Dec 2020 #23
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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 09:30 AM

1. No. Disaster in the making.

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 09:32 AM

2. I would not attend

Stay safe

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 09:33 AM

3. Keep your parents (and yourself) away

This is no time to let your guard down!

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 09:34 AM

4. So are you and your parents going ?

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 09:35 AM

5. Good for you

Since half of society won't or can't figure out the seriousness of the virus, we all have to make our own decisions. If folks get angry with us, so be it. Better than sickness and/or death

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 09:42 AM

6. Unless there is no food involved,

Don't go, even ahead of time.

Being unmasked indoors with anyone you are not living with is incredibly stupid and dangerous right now.

(If no food is involved, go masked, ahead of time, and keep your distance, if you really want to go).

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 09:43 AM

7. Do not go. Stay home & stay alive!

Under no circumstance should you travel, visit indoors, or eat & drink indoors with anyone, other than those people in your personal household.

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 09:44 AM

8. the fact that she asked without talking about precautions she's taken

makes this look like a very irresponsible suggestion

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 09:45 AM

9. i havent seen my grandkids for a year.. they are only 3 hrs away..my dtr wants us to come for xmas

...day...a 3 hr drive there and 3 hr drive back. We have done it before and not too bad if the pass isnt snowy...but im just not feeling good about it. They have a big house and only 4 ppl there we will all be masked...and we have a quad, we bought for them, to deliver. The Seattle area is getting hit hard again. And we have a relative coming in mid Jan for a virtual event he and my husband always attend...im not feeling good about that either.



Im thinking everything should be halted until may...

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 09:46 AM

10. I wouldn't go even earlier. I wouldn't go near a house run by someone like that.

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 09:57 AM

11. Stand your ground,,,,

My whole family of origin seems to think 'if you love somebody or if you like somebody alot' they aren't going to make you sick,,,,, whatever, they also seem to think this is all abit of hoax,,,, so my Husband and I are avoiding them all like the plague (pun intended)

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 10:03 AM

12. An oldie...

...but a goodie:

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 11:21 AM

14. Same here... And she takes it personally that we won't go.

Yes, a Republican.

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 11:24 AM

15. Very good advice from everyone above. I'll add here

PLEASE STAY HOME!

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 11:26 AM

16. Tell her you'll see her next year.

Don't go, and try to convince both your parents not to go, either.

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 11:40 AM

17. Please, please, please... DON'T GO.

And do NOT let your parents go, if you can at all help it.

My 85 yr old mother just passed on Nov 22nd from COVID. We all took the recommended precautions - masks, gloves, social distancing - but she was venturing out (grocery, pharmacy, etc.) more & more the last couple months. I told her I thought we needed to tighten up again, that we were getting lax. Now I wish I had locked her in the house.

We are so close. Vaccines are being approved and distributed. Hold on and lock down just a little longer. Please don't chance it. Don't go. Please.

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Response to dixiechiken1 (Reply #17)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 11:52 AM

18. I'm so sorry for your loss.


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Response to dixiechiken1 (Reply #17)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 12:03 PM

22. I am so sorry for your loss.

My mom is 85. She lives in a senior building. She was telling me how many of her neighbors are going 'away' for tbe holidays. Ugh ugh ugh.

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Response to dixiechiken1 (Reply #17)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 12:12 PM

24. I'm so sorry for your loss

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 11:53 AM

19. Nope. n/t

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 11:54 AM

20. Been nice knowing ya.

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 11:56 AM

21. I honestly don't know what is so difficult to understand

(not you)

1) Stay home. If you can stay home and away from other people, stay home and stay away from other people.

2) If you need to leave your home to work, get food, medicine, medical treatment... wear a mask.


As much as it SUCKS, it's simple.


Some of us have been doing this since March. And yeah, we're tired of it.

If MORE people had been doing this since March, the covid numbers would not be this high. If MORE people had been doing this all along a trip to the grocery store wouldn't be so dangerous.

And truth is, even as the vaccine rolls out, the rules will still need to be in place for a while.

I've said it before, I think I suffer more from "stupid fatigue" than I do from "covid fatigue." I'm running out of patience for "the stupid."

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 12:09 PM

23. I will not be going and I am hoping my parents will listen to me and not go

Its just not worth the risk.

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 12:15 PM

25. Husband's family in Georgia gathered for Thanksgiving. 20 people. 14 have COVID, 3 in hospital n/t

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Response to tulipsandroses (Original post)

Sat Dec 12, 2020, 02:17 PM

26. Make it easy for her and just tell her thanks, next year. I mean come early, two separate gatherings

Sounds like lots of work.

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