I feel bad tonight UPDATE

[macwriter]

Last edited Thu Mar 4, 2021, 02:29 AM - Edit history (1)

My husband and I are in our early seventies and anxious to get a covid vaccine. I can't tell you the number of waiting lists I have been on and the online forms I've filled out. Waited for leftovers at clinics and pharmacies at the end of some days. So, today I was thrilled to get through to CVS and book a first and second vaccine -- but here's the sad part: I could only get one appointment. So, I booked it for my husband, who has heart stents and diabetes. It was a no brainer for me. I love him like crazy and I have no comorbidities. My husband is so upset I didn't book this for myself. He says he feels like he's taking my seat on the Titanic lifeboat. Look, I know my turn will come, but it is so upsetting to see how conflicted my husband feels about this. This should be a day to celebrate. We've been cooped up for so long, and it's been making me so depressed. Winter and snow doesn't help. Thank God Biden is working to right the ship of state. Today, it got to me. Sorry, just had to vent.

UPDATE! UPDATE! UPDATE! MARCH 4

I was finally able to get my first vaccine. My husband was so happy he cried. I said. Hey, I the one getting stuck with a needle, you don't get to cry. He just said he was so relieved because the guilt of getting the vaccine before me was killing him. We are both so happy now. Everybody: thanks for listening and your support. I don't know how I would have gotten through the Trump years or the pandemic without DU. Bless you all.

[mr_lebowski]

1. Well, good luck, sorry you are feeling bad.

I couldn't read all that due to the eye-tiring lack of any line breaks (i.e. paragraphs) but I hope it all works out

[dweller]

2. This

is one of the sweetest, loving messages I’ve read on here all day, almost a Valentine’s missive to a couple’s care for each other ❤️❤️

I hope you both get the vaccine soon, and hold on to each other for a long time

✌🏻

[alwaysinasnit]

3. Maybe you could tell him it's your Valentine's gift???

[c-rational]

4. You did good. My wife has spent hours on the phone. I got mt first shot today at Walgreens.

With President Biden acquiring 200 million more doses it should not be long for you. Hang in there.

[FuzzyRabbit]

5. Good for you, Macwriter.

Tell your husband you have survived covid this long by masking and social distancing, and that you can do it for a few weeks more if you have to. And give him and yourself all of our best wishes from DU.

[calimary]

6. YES! Thank God Biden is in charge now!

Just that fact alone has put a little spring back in my step!

Glad to hear you can see light at the end of the tunnel! My husband will be eligible for vaccination in the last week of February. My turn comes March 1st.

I think we’re all starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel by now.

Hang in there - NO WAY are you slogging through this alone. As Biden put it - “help is on the way.” And we finally have a President whose word we can count on.

Fancy that!

Virtual

[murielm99]

7. I would do the same thing.

We are 72 and 76. My husband has COPD.

I am still spending a lot of time on the phone and Internet. We do not have appointments yet.

I am glad you have at least one.

[royable]

8. What a wonderful and selfless thing to do.

I agree with the advice from FuzzyRabbit and calimary. It could also well be that your husband feels a bit adrift with his societally-impressed role as male provider and protector having been blunted; I don't know. But the two of you can work together to continue to be safe, and love each other, and perhaps even find some new things to do to enjoy and celebrate the beauty of winter (videos of alpine skiing through fresh powder?, photos of freezing soap-water bubbles showing the intricate crystalline patterns of icy dendrites?) and the coming spring. (Purchase some bulbs to grow into blooms? I'm enjoying four blossoming orchids right now that I've carefully tended for a year and more since their last blossoming.) Our wonderful new and oh so capable president has brought fresh hope to the country with his vaccine push, and I think that you'll find an appointment for yourself very soon.

[TomDaisy]

9. his vaccination also protects you to some extent - make sure he knows that

[Warpy]

10. The last administration didn't care

so of course the rollout would be tough and there wouldn't be enough vaccine to go around. I'm afraid it's going to take at least until March for supplies to start to increase.

If you haven't gotten Covid yet, you must have been doing something right, so keep on doing it. Hubby has 2 major risk factors, being male and diabetic, so tell him to go get stabbed as soon as he can.

He will still need to wear a mask after he has the shots because people who are protected can still be infected to the point of shedding virus. They just won't progress to being ill with the disease.

We'll likely be masked at least through the summer and possibly into next fall.

[GoneOffShore]

12. This

The whole mask thing is starting to get to people.

But we carry on.

[GoneOffShore]

11. It's getting to us all. And the weather doesn't help.

It looks like my wife and I won't be getting the vaccine until April or May.
I'm 73, a little high blood pressure, but otherwise ok. She's 61 and a breast cancer survivor.
We'd have a better chance of getting a jab if we lived in England than we do living in France.
Presently the rollout here is like an aging Citroen 2CV loaded with eggs chugging along a single track road.

We all vent.

I said to Mrs GoS yesterday that we've turned into hedgehogs: Prickly all the time.

Hang in there. Stay safe. Bonne chance.

[ribrepin]

13. Boy it is hard to get an appointment

We finally got our appointments but couldn't get them together. I got mine and went right back in to get my husband's. All appointments for the next three days had filled up in the 15 minutes it took me to sign up so we go twice. You did right to do your husband with COPD first. Keep trying. I was on multiple sites with multiple passwords.

[kag]

14. I would have done the same thing.

And my husband would have reacted the same way.

We're not in the same position because he's ten years older than me. He's 67 and I'm 57, and we, too, are on multiple waiting lists. He's currently eligible, but we haven't started calling about appointments yet. I guess we should. He's got a heart condition and has an ICD (pacemaker/defibrillator) so I would have definitely sent him for the first shot if we were in your shoes.

But I know how you feel because he would have reacted the way yours did--upset that I didn't take it for myself.

I guess love is like that. It's one of those "good" problems to have--to love and be loved so much that you argue over who gets the first appointment.

Stay strong.

[colorado_ufo]

15. This is our 21st century version of O. Henry's "The Gift of the Magi."

If you have never read this classic short story - a Christmas tale - this is a good time to do so.

[Bernardo de La Paz]

18. That story came to my mind as well. Good call. . . . nt

[leftyladyfrommo]

16. His getting it first makes everything safer for you, too. nt

[secondwind]

17. We are still waiting for the vaccines here in Dominican Republic.

I don’t understand the delay...... indigenous people in the Amazon are getting vaccinated, and here we wait. Thank goodness for the sunshine, the dogs, the birds and the pool in the back. But we’re getting anxious.

I’m 74 yrs old.

[NNadir]

19. I don't know if it makes you feel better, to be so deeply loved, and to love so much...

...as if in an O. Henry story, is an occasion for continuous elation.

Those of us who have the privilege of experiencing that need to remind ourselves from time to time.

I'm getting my vaccine this morning; my wife is driving me to get it, but as she's younger than me, she's still on the waiting list.

[handmade34]

20. same situation here

tell your husband that the best gift he can give you is to get the vaccination...

[Skittles]

21. try not to feel bad, macwriter

you and your husband did not cause this situation, the dismal Covid handling by Trump did........I think you made the right choice