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Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:25 PM

So I have a moral dilemma. Advice welcomed .

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I had my physical today. Iím 54 and have lost almost 30 pounds in the last 14 months. Diet change and more exercise.

Anyway, the nurse asked me if I plan on getting the Covid vaccine. I told her I would drive to Jacksonville right now to get it(3 hours away). I was kidding but I would do it.

Apparently because Iím technically obese and have hypertension I qualify under our Governorís new order allowing those under 65 with co-morbidities to get the vaccine. I have hypertension but medication keeps it below 130/80. So not horrible. And Iím 5í11Ē and 220 but very big boned. No one would call me fat, just real stocky and muscular. So my Doctor gave me a signed letter allowing me to be vaccinated.

The only reason Iím considering it is the wife. She is over 60, working everyday(Iím still furloughed) and Iím worried about her.

If it were just me I would put the letter aside. But now Iím torn with concerned for the wife. I would welcome input.

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Reply So I have a moral dilemma. Advice welcomed . (Original post)
GulfCoast66 Mar 2 OP
Skittles Mar 2 #1
GulfCoast66 Mar 3 #51
Skittles Mar 3 #54
50 Shades Of Blue Mar 2 #2
In_The_Wind Mar 2 #3
brer cat Mar 2 #4
JoeOtterbein Mar 2 #5
perfessor Mar 2 #6
LakeArenal Mar 2 #40
hlthe2b Mar 2 #7
GulfCoast66 Mar 2 #41
brush Mar 2 #8
Jerry2144 Mar 2 #9
Dorian Gray Mar 2 #10
Lefta Dissenter Mar 2 #11
bottomofthehill Mar 2 #12
gratuitous Mar 2 #13
CincyDem Mar 2 #14
KarenS Mar 2 #37
crickets Mar 2 #44
blm Mar 2 #15
bottomofthehill Mar 2 #16
c-rational Mar 2 #17
brewens Mar 2 #18
GulfCoast66 Mar 2 #43
CentralMass Mar 2 #19
beaglelover Mar 2 #20
questionseverything Mar 2 #21
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Ocelot II Mar 2 #23
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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:29 PM

1. is your wife eligibile?

regardless, if you can get it, go get it

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Response to Skittles (Reply #1)

Wed Mar 3, 2021, 12:09 AM

51. No, she's not. Skinny Minnie and will live till 100. Not yet 65 the minimum age.

Honest to god she looks 45.

But DU has convinced me. Iíll get it ASAP.

I just feel bad for the older folks at real high risk who canít. But I have to protect my wife.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Reply #51)

Wed Mar 3, 2021, 12:27 AM

54. don't feel bad

it's not your fault the rollout has not been optimal....you just do what you have to do to protect your wife and your loved ones.....which means getting the vax as soon as you can

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:29 PM

2. You qualify. Get it!

If you're going to regret it either way, better to regret you got it!

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:29 PM

3. Get your shot.

You can't help your wife through these trying times if you get sick.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:29 PM

4. Get it without guilt.

You are doing what is best for you and your family.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:29 PM

5. Get it to protect...

...the public. The docs know what they are doing.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:32 PM

6. Get it.

Supply is going to surge quickly. You won't be depriving anyone. Get it, then do what you can to get your wife vaxxed.

So, I guess you now owe me two cents. Cheers!

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Response to perfessor (Reply #6)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:14 PM

40. Hmm I always thought it meant you throw in the two cents.

Not get paid two cents. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:32 PM

7. You aren't sure you want to get the vaccine? or not sure you want to get it now?

Not to be rude, but get it as soon as you are able/eligible. As a front-line HCW who has seen the ravages--even among those who swore to me that they were staying home and taking "every precaution," this is a no-brainer.

If your wife is not yet eligible, still get it. You are protecting her as well.

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Response to hlthe2b (Reply #7)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:17 PM

41. Oh no. I'm really want to be vaccinated. But so many people over 65 still have not.

Donít want to jump the line. But DU has reinforced my initial thoughts. I have to protect the wife and although over 60 is not 65 so not eligible.

Thank you.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:33 PM

8. Get it ASAP so you don't have to worry about giving covid to her...

or anyone else...or getting it from her or anyone else. Her turn will come up soon.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:33 PM

9. get the shots

If you can't arrange a shot for your wife, your getting the shot will help minimize the chance you bring it home to her and also ensure you're there to help her out if she gets ill. Everyone who gets vaccinated, regardless of category, contributes to protecting all of us including those who cannot get the vaccine or are too stupid to take it when offered to their group because some propaganda says not to.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:33 PM

10. Get it

you qualify and you are doing your part. no guilt.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:35 PM

11. One step closer.

You get the vaccine, you get us one person closer to herd immunity. You also help to ease the load on the health care professionals. Thank you for doing your patriotic duty!

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:35 PM

12. You are in Florida, you qualify for the shot

Get it before the governor sells it to the highest bidder.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:36 PM

13. Get it

We're all going to be vaccinated in the next 12 weeks. You aren't taking a shot away from anyone else. Think of it as heading for the checkout line at a crowded supermarket. You get in the line you think is going to go fastest or that's the shortest. After standing there for a few seconds, another checker comes on duty and pulls your cart over to her register. Everyone waiting to check out is still going to check out, the store isn't going to close without processing everyone's purchases, and you just got gifted three minutes.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:36 PM

14. Get an appointment late in the day, take your wife...maybe they have some extra doses...


Neighbor...47...perfect health...took his mother to get her shot. She got her shot and the nurse asked him if he had his because she had a couple extra doses in the vial that were going to go to waste. So he took her up on it, got his card, and got scheduled for his 21-day second shot.

It's a crap shoot but it does happen. Results may vary by state depending on local rules but it happens in OH.

(There's also the camping out at the local pharmacy around closing time - several friends have "scavenged" their shots that way in OH and GA).

Good luck.

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Response to CincyDem (Reply #14)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:08 PM

37. What CincyDem says,,,,,

If she can go with you take her with you,,,, I've heard several stories from folks I know about vaccinating the whole car,,,,

If she cannot go, then get it anyway,,,, you're protecting her by doing it.

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Response to CincyDem (Reply #14)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:24 PM

44. Great suggestion.

Go get the vaccination regardless, GulfCoast. Your doctor saw fit to give you the opportunity now. You should grab it with both hands, for your wife's sake and your own.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:37 PM

15. Get it

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:38 PM

16. You are in Florida, you qualify for the shot

Get it before the governor sells it to the highest bidder.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:38 PM

17. I say get the vaccine. More supply is on the way. I do not feel you will be depriving anyone else

from a limited supply, thanks to President Biden. My wife called Walgreens on a friend's recommendation this evening and asked if they had any extra, and the pharmacist said if you get here in 15 minutes you are good. They just could not promise the 2nd shot. I got my first shot 2 weeks ago. We are both thankful. You will be doing yourself, your wife and your community a favor. Go for it.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:38 PM

18. Get it for sure. I lost weight and got off the BP meds. I was about in your range with medication,

now at 60, I get 120 or a little lower over around 75. I walk about an hour a day and eat a healthy diet. We sure picked the right year to lose weight.

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Response to brewens (Reply #18)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:21 PM

43. Covid got me to lose weight! Lowered my chance of dying.

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I cook healthy food at home every night. Nothing processed. I was told I eat more healthily than most of my doctorís patients...just too much of it! Oh, and beer!

My diet has totally changed. Not what I eat. But how much.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:38 PM

19. Get it.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:40 PM

20. Get the vaccine. Consider yourself lucky!

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:41 PM

21. Every person that is vaccinated gets us a step closer to herd immunity

Get it

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:42 PM

22. I detect no moral dilemma


You qualify for the shot. Get it.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:43 PM

23. Do it. The more people who get it ASAP the better off we all are.

If you qualify medically, it doesn't matter that you don't look overweight or that your hypertension is controlled. If your BMI is 30 or more you are technically obese and you qualify. Get the vaccine for your own sake, your wife's, that of the medical people who would have to take care of you if you got sick, and the people you might spread it to. Do it!

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:44 PM

24. GET IT

anyone that has the chance GET IT

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:45 PM

25. Just do it

Please

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:49 PM

26. You have a moral and practical responsibility to get the vaccine asap.

To yourself, to your wife, to society.

If you get very sick, your hospital care is more expensive than the vaccine.
And if you get sick, you could infect others and possible kill them.

Sorry to be harsh, but there it is.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:49 PM

27. Get it and don't look back.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:51 PM

28. Go get your vaccine and be well.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:52 PM

29. Get...The...Shot!!!

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:55 PM

30. I went to get mine as soon as I could once I was eligible

I was made eligible on 24 Feb made appointment on 25 Feb for 27 Feb. I don't regret doing so at all. I teach in person (though with small class sizes and compliant students) and am in your position medically (though heavier than you). I did so without regret or guilt.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:55 PM

31. By all means, get it.

Being given the opportunity to protect yourself and your wife is a gift. Take it.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:56 PM

32. Everyone who wants the vaccine should be able to get it by the end of May

so don't hesitate to go get yours now!

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:57 PM

33. Do it! with the new strains and for your health and your wife do it!

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 10:58 PM

34. Get it.

I had a similar but different moral dilemma a few weeks back. About a month ago I got a Slack message from a former college professor about the need for vaccine volunteering in my county. I jumped at the chance; filled out all the paperwork and then a few days later signed for a shift.

When I got to the volunteer location I was told that volunteers get to get vaccinated. I was both thrilled and felt terribly guilty that there were others who might be more in need.

But I wanted to be a regular volunteer, which does mean potential exposure. So there you go... one Moderna down and the 2nd one scheduled.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:00 PM

35. Get it

My husband got his yesterday and I am so relieved since he is vulnerable. Plus relieved that it is very unlikely that we would both be sick with covid at same time and not physically able to care for each other

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:01 PM

36. Protect your wife -- get the vaccine

And congrats on the weight loss!

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:08 PM

38. Vaccines in arms.

If you can legitimately get it, do so.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:11 PM

39. Get the shot...no qualms...

Protect your wife and yourself. The more people who are vaccinated the better.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:20 PM

42. Get it

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:27 PM

45. Ok. So my initial thoughts are confirmed on DU. I'll start the nightmare process

Of the Florida system tomorrow.

I was concerned that so many older folks who donít have technical abilities canít get it. I already have a good idea of how to get an appointment.

Thanks DU for the reassurance. It does help.

Since my OP the wife pretty much read me the riot act to get the vaccine!

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:42 PM

46. Get the shot.

You qualify, the fact that you are in better shape than you have been notwithstanding.

Get the shot. You owe it to yourself and family.

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Response to TomSlick (Reply #46)

Wed Mar 3, 2021, 12:35 AM

57. Thanks. I'm going to ASAP. How are things in S. Arkansas?

My uncle in Lafayette county had choice words about this winter. Hope you were ok.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Reply #57)

Wed Mar 3, 2021, 02:43 PM

59. We had very nearly two feet of snow. I've never seen anything like it.

I've also never seen such an extended period of really cold weather.

However, the power stayed on - water continued to flow - we never lost cable/internet service. So, on balance, we did OK.

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Response to TomSlick (Reply #59)

Wed Mar 3, 2021, 02:48 PM

60. Glad your ok. 2 feet in south Arkansas? Crazy.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:49 PM

47. I feel like a broken record here but get the shot

You qualify for it so don't feel guilty. Let us know how it goes.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:50 PM

48. If it was the other way around and she could get

it but not you, you'd tell her to get it right. So stop doubting yourself and your wife and get the jab.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:53 PM

49. Go for it! Biden said more vaccines are on the way to

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cover the nation by May, and thatís right around the corner.

Any increase in vaccinated numbers all contributes to an end in sight for all of us. You met certain requirements and got a qualification letter, so go for it.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Tue Mar 2, 2021, 11:59 PM

50. Get. The. Shot. Period.

End of reply.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Wed Mar 3, 2021, 12:25 AM

52. Get it. She will be safer because...

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Wed Mar 3, 2021, 12:27 AM

53. It's your turn to get it.

So go get it.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Wed Mar 3, 2021, 12:28 AM

55. Get it. I know several couples with split vax status

for various, legitimate reasons.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Wed Mar 3, 2021, 12:32 AM

56. You meet the standards to qualify and it will help protect both you and your wife.

Get it and don't you dare feel guilty.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Wed Mar 3, 2021, 02:07 PM

58. Get your shot

If you're eligible please don't hesitate. Every person vaccinated is a step in the right direction. You'll be protecting not just yourself but everyone around you.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Wed Mar 3, 2021, 02:54 PM

61. Get it.

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Response to GulfCoast66 (Original post)

Wed Mar 3, 2021, 02:57 PM

62. Lucky you!

I would definitely go for it.



If you decide to get your vaccination, let us know how your body reacts.



Good luck, GulfCoast!



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