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hookaleft

(938 posts)
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 07:48 PM Jun 2021

I live in a family of trumpers

From my parents, to my siblings, to my children, and to all extended family. I am the only sane one. They listen to faux news 24/7 and AM talk radio. There is no reasoning with these people. They are off the rails. They think the election was stolen and they worship trump. They think Biden is an idiot but they are speechless when I tell them that Biden and his policies garner a 63% favorabilty for both. I am in a fight right now with both my mom and sister over this....Jeez talk about divide and conquer.... When you can't even reconcile differences amongst family members....the stuff just got real.

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I live in a family of trumpers (Original Post) hookaleft Jun 2021 OP
My God iemanja Jun 2021 #1
I sure hope you have some like minded friends to help keep you sane 💖 MLAA Jun 2021 #2
among all the havoc and death he caused (Trump) XanaDUer2 Jun 2021 #3
I have been surprised.. Permanut Jun 2021 #4
My theory, still developing it, but main BootinUp Jun 2021 #19
As much as I hate to admit and tried not too for so long, he does have a perverse charisma Nexus2 Jun 2021 #28
Same kind of 'charisma' as vampires and zombies? lagomorph777 Jun 2021 #36
Oh no SallyHemmings Jun 2021 #5
I can't imagine how sad and frustrating this is for you. We're always here! Karadeniz Jun 2021 #6
You have my sympathy CanonRay Jun 2021 #7
SAME IS TRUE BETWEEN MYSELF AND MY SISTER & BIL. Her 3 adult kids are dumb trumpers. Trueblue1968 Jun 2021 #8
Sorry to hear. I couldn't imagine living like that. Let this be a warning to us all that we will Pepsidog Jun 2021 #9
Let us commiserate StClone Jun 2021 #10
Am I looking in a mirror? Generic Brad Jun 2021 #13
Worse my best friend, and constant phone pal,... StClone Jun 2021 #34
My mother listened to Limbaugh which I found very offensive Rhiannon12866 Jun 2021 #37
Wow. That is awful. I wish I knew a way to support you and make that easier. Scrivener7 Jun 2021 #11
when I was young dianaredwing Jun 2021 #12
Family is overrated. SaintLouisBlues Jun 2021 #14
For sure. SammyWinstonJack Jun 2021 #25
I can deal with all the extended family except one of my kids. chia Jun 2021 #15
Stay safe- it's got to be hard to be surrounded by them dawg day Jun 2021 #16
They're everywhere... WarGamer Jun 2021 #17
It can be very lonely when you're the only one. BarbD Jun 2021 #18
as I have said for decades, there are a great many advantages to being an orphan. niyad Jun 2021 #20
Good one. n/t moonscape Jun 2021 #22
This message was self-deleted by its author niyad Jun 2021 #21
To be fair, not all AM radio is bad dflprincess Jun 2021 #23
All I can say is that you have my condolences. Crunchy Frog Jun 2021 #24
My family as well bluestarone Jun 2021 #26
Be strong ! but if you want to see how speaknow Jun 2021 #27
suggestion: point out that limbaugh told millions/day for 30yrs that smoking doesn't cause cancer certainot Jun 2021 #29
Thank gawd for small mercies. I don't have any of that type in the immediate family. thenelm1 Jun 2021 #30
Most of my family are RWers but I make sure we never talk politics when we're together, so all works napi21 Jun 2021 #31
First stop fighting Warpy Jun 2021 #32
yep... myohmy2 Jun 2021 #33
I feel very bad for you Marrah_Goodman Jun 2021 #35

XanaDUer2

(10,664 posts)
3. among all the havoc and death he caused (Trump)
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 07:54 PM
Jun 2021

rifts between friends and families is awful. I got unfriended bc of it.

Permanut

(5,604 posts)
4. I have been surprised..
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 07:55 PM
Jun 2021

at how many people are willing to drink a few gallons of kool id and join the Mango Mussolini cult. Sounds like you are as well, and I don't have an answer. Same phenomenon rampant in Germany in the thirties.

BootinUp

(47,144 posts)
19. My theory, still developing it, but main
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 09:54 PM
Jun 2021

Thrust of the theory is that a large part of the puke population is going along with many of these culture wars just to be in the party that opposes the D party. How many interviews of Trumpers have you seen where they can barely be understood because they mangle the talking point that was literally drilled into their brain for uncounted hours? And then they had zip else on it. In other words manufactured outrage is so regular now. It’s all they got practically.

Nexus2

(1,261 posts)
28. As much as I hate to admit and tried not too for so long, he does have a perverse charisma
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 10:21 PM
Jun 2021

that appeals very strongly to mindset that is uncomfortably common.

lagomorph777

(30,613 posts)
36. Same kind of 'charisma' as vampires and zombies?
Thu Jun 24, 2021, 01:15 PM
Jun 2021

I just don't get how a monster that ugly attracts followers.

Trueblue1968

(17,217 posts)
8. SAME IS TRUE BETWEEN MYSELF AND MY SISTER & BIL. Her 3 adult kids are dumb trumpers.
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 08:25 PM
Jun 2021

only her youngest boy at 34 sees the evil and harm done by Trump.

Pepsidog

(6,254 posts)
9. Sorry to hear. I couldn't imagine living like that. Let this be a warning to us all that we will
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 08:27 PM
Jun 2021

never convert Trumpers. We must out vote them to oblivion and erase the scourge that is Trumpism.

StClone

(11,683 posts)
10. Let us commiserate
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 08:32 PM
Jun 2021

About 12 years ago my brother and I got into a yelling match about some random political event. After that I saw the lines form with a lot of my family being revealed as Right-wing Wackos. I got into more disagreements and one final one when my Mother defended them all. I said a silent goodbye and have little contact with any of the family Cons. I have missed a lot in family affairs and being close as we had all been all our lives. Thank FOX, Limbaugh, and their ilk for purposely poisoning their brains. And for my sanity, I had to go incommunicado in-part.

StClone

(11,683 posts)
34. Worse my best friend, and constant phone pal,...
Thu Jun 24, 2021, 01:11 PM
Jun 2021

...my older, like-minded Sister and closest companion, fought cancer during this period and died a few years back. My life is pretty much as an orphan now with a niece and a brother in our camp.

Take care and cherish.

Rhiannon12866

(205,320 posts)
37. My mother listened to Limbaugh which I found very offensive
Sat Jun 26, 2021, 09:31 AM
Jun 2021

I realize now that she was suffering from dementia. Her close friend confided to me that my mother also thought she had visited Mars.

dianaredwing

(406 posts)
12. when I was young
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 08:35 PM
Jun 2021

I was enamoured by the 'magic' of advertising and propaganda. Movies and television enhanced that. This is the evil other side of the coin.

WarGamer

(12,440 posts)
17. They're everywhere...
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 09:42 PM
Jun 2021

I work with Engineers, Doctors and Researchers who are Trumpers.

And they make for a strong debate, given their intellectual backgrounds.

But the most consistent quality between all of them, they're self centered.

BarbD

(1,192 posts)
18. It can be very lonely when you're the only one.
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 09:52 PM
Jun 2021

Vietnam was what set me apart from my Republican relatives. It's been downhill ever since, but that's the way it is.

It's my fellow Democrats who have given me strength and understanding. They are my chosen family.

niyad

(113,302 posts)
20. as I have said for decades, there are a great many advantages to being an orphan.
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 09:55 PM
Jun 2021

or, one of my favourites, " your friends are god's way of apologizing for your relatives."

Response to hookaleft (Original post)

dflprincess

(28,075 posts)
23. To be fair, not all AM radio is bad
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 10:03 PM
Jun 2021

I spend most my working day with KTNF, AM950 "The Progressive Voice of Minnesota" on in the background.

https://www.am950radio.com/

bluestarone

(16,939 posts)
26. My family as well
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 10:15 PM
Jun 2021

Religion Religion Religion here. They ALL say the ONLY answer is FAITH and GODS WILL! Total fucking IDIOTS!!!

speaknow

(321 posts)
27. Be strong ! but if you want to see how
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 10:19 PM
Jun 2021

nuts they are, ask them this question. Did Obama win
a fair and free election ? and just watch what they say.
Yes Obama not Biden, you'll see how bad it really is.
good luck.

 

certainot

(9,090 posts)
29. suggestion: point out that limbaugh told millions/day for 30yrs that smoking doesn't cause cancer
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 10:24 PM
Jun 2021

also keep prefacing any arguments by asserting that it is now well known that putin has been using limbaugh and talk radio since at least 2008, like he's been using it in india and brazil and other countries

thenelm1

(854 posts)
30. Thank gawd for small mercies. I don't have any of that type in the immediate family.
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 10:32 PM
Jun 2021

I know there are a few relatives that I seldom see that buy into that bs - fortunately easily avoided.

napi21

(45,806 posts)
31. Most of my family are RWers but I make sure we never talk politics when we're together, so all works
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 10:40 PM
Jun 2021

out well. I know I'll NEVER change their thinking, & they'll never change mine, so life works out much better never trying.

Warpy

(111,255 posts)
32. First stop fighting
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 11:09 PM
Jun 2021

It only makes them dig in their heels and get defensive.

When they start ranting, tell them you are sick of politics. If they don't stop, walk out. Go for a walk drive somewhere, decompress. When you get back, ask if they're done. Rinse, repeat until they get the point.

You are right that you can't do anything with them if you keep contronting them with facts. That's just not going to work. Depriving them of an audience for their bullshit works a bit better.

Sadly, people have a right to believe whatever soul destroying bullshit they want to. They don't have a right to behave badly and abuse you with it. Grow some boundaries, cut them off, don't put up with the crap, slop over with sugar when they're talking about anything else. I did this with my own parents and it worked.

The only other thing you can do is when they come out with something totally insane, like the Jewish space lasers starting forest fires in Califorrnia, is to ask them who told them a stupid thing like that.. It lowers their defenses by blaming somebody else. Usually they change the subject really fast.

myohmy2

(3,162 posts)
33. yep...
Wed Jun 23, 2021, 11:34 PM
Jun 2021

...I've given up...

...when we must interact I'm polite, avoid politics and have been increasing my social distance from these family members out of self-defense...it must have been something like this during our Civil War...

...I have no choice...if I socialize and they're talking shit what am I to do?...pretend I agree?...make shut-up?...defend my righteous views and turn every encounter into a battle?...so I keep my distance...

...I hate to say it, but my love and respect for my family trumpers is rapidly disappearing and I can't do anything about it...I can't hold warm fuzzy feelings for rabid trump supporters...and it's gone beyond trump

...even if they're a moderate republican (there are a couple) I paint them with the same brush...for to be associated with anything trump and his control is like being a complacent moderate Nazi in the 1930's...

...sorry, and yes, it's even effective my Will...

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