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(15,415 posts)
Sat Dec 4, 2021, 10:27 PM Dec 2021

Have you had an abortion? Poll. Women only.

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Yes, I had an abortion
38 (51%)
No, I've never had an abortion.
36 (49%)
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Have you had an abortion? Poll. Women only. (Original Post) Hamlette Dec 2021 OP
At the risk of being pedantic, the language within the abortion rights movement has evolved such WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2021 #1
Thank you! n/t Ms. Toad Dec 2021 #3
You're welcome! WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2021 #5
You could use another category. DURHAM D Dec 2021 #2
I had a miscarriage(also known as a spontaneous abortion), and there's no category for that. n/t CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2021 #4
I had 2 miscarriages and a doctor yelled at me when he saw sponateous abortions in my records. demigoddess Dec 2021 #24
Trans & Nonbinary People Get Abortions, Too Celerity Dec 2021 #6
Yep, and not acknowledging that is garbage. WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2021 #10
It's not okay iemanja Dec 2021 #11
Things come up and no one is obligated to babysit a thread, and besides, it's a Saturday night. WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2021 #13
Looks like you're still waiting. BlackSkimmer Dec 2021 #25
Nope, I had my tubes tied BigmanPigman Dec 2021 #7
True cate94 Dec 2021 #9
I'm glad you were able to do that. shrike3 Dec 2021 #22
came close once, but couldnt. mopinko Dec 2021 #8
I've never been pregnant iemanja Dec 2021 #12
When a husband gives up his fertility... ProudMNDemocrat Dec 2021 #14
No, but drmeow Dec 2021 #15
No I haven't MustLoveBeagles Dec 2021 #16
Same here. shrike3 Dec 2021 #20
Men's Poll Instead Praek3 Dec 2021 #17
Exactly! Artistree22 Dec 2021 #21
Not me, but I went with my sister when she had one. Greybnk48 Dec 2021 #18
No but fully support any woman wanting one Tree Lady Dec 2021 #19
kick for visibility lamp_shade Dec 2021 #23


(22,740 posts)
1. At the risk of being pedantic, the language within the abortion rights movement has evolved such
Sat Dec 4, 2021, 10:29 PM
Dec 2021

that it acknowledges that people who aren't women also get abortions. "Women only" excludes people who aren't women who also have abortions.


(6,651 posts)
24. I had 2 miscarriages and a doctor yelled at me when he saw sponateous abortions in my records.
Sun Dec 5, 2021, 03:51 PM
Dec 2021

He thought that I had real abortions. This was before Roe v Wade. I have a condition that caused miscarriages in early pregnancies. Later ones go fine.


(44,577 posts)
6. Trans & Nonbinary People Get Abortions, Too
Sat Dec 4, 2021, 10:48 PM
Dec 2021
Nonbinary and Trans people need to be included in the Reproductive Rights conversation. Learn more about how we can be more inclusive in our conversations about abortions.


There is an unfortunate misconception tied to abortion treatment: that those seeking abortion care are exclusively cisgender women (women whose gender identity aligns with the sex that a doctor assigned them at birth). Of course, this is not the case. “Abortion is an issue for all people capable of pregnancy, for their partners, their families, and their communities. Transgender men, nonbinary and gender queer people assigned female at birth do seek abortion services. Excluding them perpetuates the idea that abortion is a "cis" women's health issue. This moves further from the very important conversation about how abortion effects cisgender men, families, geographic communities, as well as the LGBTQ+ community,” said Natalie Hinchcliffe, Associate Medical Director at Planned Parenthood Hudson Peconic.

Abortions are normal, and transgender, nonbinary, and genderqueer people get them too! "Statistics of transgender, intersex and nonbinary people having abortions continue to validate how vital this service is for all who seek it. It is estimated that 462 to 530 transgender/nonbinary individuals obtained abortions in 2017 and that 23% of clinics provide transgender-specific care."

People of all Genders Have Abortions

Trans men, nonbinary, and genderqueer patients continue pregnancies, use birth control, and decide to have children (or not) just like anyone else would. Unlike cisgender individuals, members of the transgender and nonbinary community face additional barriers to accessing safe and reliable healthcare, especially reproductive healthcare. Trans men, nonbinary, and genderqueer patients face a variety of potential obstacles when seeking reproductive healthcare. Some of these risks include:

Being refused medical care
Being misgendered by a provider or staff member
Receiving inaccurate diagnoses and care, based on assumptions made by a provider.
Facing uncomfortable questions or potential judgement by staff
Receiving medical treatment while in an uncomfortable, trauma-inducing setting



(53,180 posts)
11. It's not okay
Sat Dec 4, 2021, 11:33 PM
Dec 2021

but it also wasn't a deliberate slight, I'm sure. I wouldn't have thought of that myself, though I should.


(22,740 posts)
13. Things come up and no one is obligated to babysit a thread, and besides, it's a Saturday night.
Sat Dec 4, 2021, 11:37 PM
Dec 2021

At the same time, I’m interested to see if a change is made in the OP.


(51,821 posts)
7. Nope, I had my tubes tied
Sat Dec 4, 2021, 11:06 PM
Dec 2021

via the wonderful people at Planned Parenthood. And it only cost me $99. They said my reason for getting them tied was one they couldn't argue with. When you are were your 20s they needed to ask your rational with a counselor. This was in the 80s and I don't know the current policy. I said I never wanted kids and never would want kids and didn't feel like using birth control for the next 30 years. I was definite and confident. One of the best decisions I made in my lifetime. It turned out I still got horribly heavy and painful periods though. No fun being a woman as far as health goes.


(4,098 posts)
22. I'm glad you were able to do that.
Sun Dec 5, 2021, 02:06 AM
Dec 2021

After her second child was born, my stepdaughter wanted her tubes tied. Doctor refused to do it because "you'll change your mind." She never did.


(17,286 posts)
14. When a husband gives up his fertility...
Sat Dec 4, 2021, 11:48 PM
Dec 2021

His wife becomes a better mother. The best gift I was ever given.


(5,082 posts)
15. No, but
Sun Dec 5, 2021, 12:20 AM
Dec 2021

I have assisted at least 3 women friends of mine in getting abortions and was prepared, in HS, to assist a 16 year old friend in getting one. I've also known plenty of women who have gotten abortions. A very close family friend is an abortion provider.


(11,775 posts)
16. No I haven't
Sun Dec 5, 2021, 12:25 AM
Dec 2021

I support the right of other women and non binary people to have one. My maternal aunt had one in the late seventies and my paternal great grandma had two by the time she was 15.


(149 posts)
17. Men's Poll Instead
Sun Dec 5, 2021, 12:32 AM
Dec 2021

Question: Men, how many possible pregnancies could you have created because you failed to wear a condom?

As a woman I have never laid an egg on anyone. How many sperms does the man expose his partner to? Millions!

But yeah, another responsibility for women to bear. Like maternal health before and during pregnancy and a lack of care after the fact, it is all about the woman's behavior. The man's orgasm and sexual freedom reign supreme. Makes me want to throw up.


(40 posts)
21. Exactly!
Sun Dec 5, 2021, 02:06 AM
Dec 2021

I terminated a pregnancy that resulted from a boyfriend who woke me up having sex with me. We had already used the only condom we had earlier in the evening. When it dawned on me that he wasn't using a condom, I told him to stop because he was scaring me but he wouldn't until it was too late. I had missed some of my BC pills but I was young and dumb and thought I couldn't have gotten pregnant that one time without a condom. I wish that I would have had access to the morning after pill but this happened before that was readily available.

Now our fascist governor abbott wants to get rid these other options women have to terminate pregnancies besides abortion. It's always been about control and their hatred of women who are strong, independent and uninterested in them.
Their message to prevent abortions has never been directed toward the # ! cause of pregnancy - MALE ejaculation.

I am not ashamed and have no regrets. I knew that I didn't want to have children. It is just part of my story that consists of men forcing themselves on me in different degrees.

It is infuriating and nauseating Praek3.

love n peace

Tree Lady

(11,627 posts)
19. No but fully support any woman wanting one
Sun Dec 5, 2021, 02:04 AM
Dec 2021

My daughter had one while 18 in college. I sat in the doctors office with her boyfriend now husband. It was a tough time but we all supported her.

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