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Nevilledog

(51,104 posts)
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 03:00 PM Sep 2022

She was a 'quintessential pro-life Texan' until she needed to flee her home to get an abortion



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She was a "pro-life" Republican.

When she needed an abortion in her home state of Texas because of medical dangers, she could not get one. She had to flee to New Mexico.

Now she supports abortion rights.

cnn.com
She was a 'quintessential pro-life Texan' until she needed to flee her home to get an abortion
Kailee DeSpain says her doctor told her that before Texas' six-week abortion ban went into effect, she would have advised abortion as "the safest course for you [and] the most humane course of action...
10:32 AM · Sep 9, 2022


https://www.cnn.com/2022/09/09/health/abortion-restrictions-texas/index.html

In November, Kailee and Cade were overjoyed to learn she was pregnant. Full of hope, they posted ultrasound pictures and a gender reveal video of a cannon shooting out blue confetti. They named their baby boy Finley.

Then about three months later, they learned Finley had heart, lung, brain, kidney, and genetic defects and would either be stillborn or die within minutes of birth. Carrying him to term put Kailee at high risk for severe pregnancy complications, including blood clots, preeclampsia and cancer.
Even so, they could not get an abortion in Texas and fled to New Mexico.

"I've never felt more betrayed by a place I was once so proud to be from," Kailee said through tears.

"How could you be so cruel as to pass a law that you know will hurt women and that you know will cause babies to be born in pain?" she added. "How is that humane? How is that saving anybody?"

*snip*


No doubt this same woman was pleased to see Republican policies hiring people she'd been raised to hate. I'm doing my best to feel sympathy for this woman... It's a work in progress.
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She was a 'quintessential pro-life Texan' until she needed to flee her home to get an abortion (Original Post) Nevilledog Sep 2022 OP
Typical white Republican gay texan Sep 2022 #1
Exactly. I was about to post the same thing. Ray Bruns Sep 2022 #4
Precisely CanonRay Sep 2022 #28
Abso...damn..lutely. TNNurse Sep 2022 #32
The article never says that she was ever a Republican. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2022 #54
Seriously? gay texan Sep 2022 #76
Welcome to the reality of the party you belong to Kailee MagickMuffin Sep 2022 #2
She won't. NQAS Sep 2022 #50
Which party does she belong to? WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2022 #55
In the text of the OP, WhiskeyGrinder, thanks for asking MagickMuffin Sep 2022 #59
Do you mean the tweet from someone who had nothing to do with producing the article and was simply WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2022 #60
Well, well, well StarryNite Sep 2022 #3
Yabbut, see, they're special, Sky Jewels Sep 2022 #13
I want to be compassionate toward this woman phylny Sep 2022 #5
Is there a bounty on her? Nt XanaDUer2 Sep 2022 #6
It looks like her journey to change her stance began years ago, before this latest pregnancy. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2022 #7
I love it when someone knows about the Shirley Exception. Nevilledog Sep 2022 #10
Oh, please do elaborate intrepidity Sep 2022 #23
Here's my thread about the Shirley Exception Nevilledog Sep 2022 #25
Thank you for posting, that explains it very well. betsuni Sep 2022 #63
Don't feel sympathy for her. She made her bed. Now she can lie (lay?) in it. Ray Bruns Sep 2022 #8
Lie in it. 3catwoman3 Sep 2022 #52
Thank you Ray Bruns Sep 2022 #71
lay rhymes with place, lie rhymes with recline (that's how I remember) nt Nittersing Sep 2022 #77
I'm sorry she had trouble, but I can't stand empathy-free RepubliQans, which seems to catbyte Sep 2022 #9
Yes, I agree, a work in progress. I know how I should feel Biophilic Sep 2022 #11
The New Mexico Redemption Tetrachloride Sep 2022 #12
Y'all, the headline isn't accurate according to the article. *Last September* she was begging her WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2022 #14
You think she stopped voting for Republicans? Nevilledog Sep 2022 #17
It's not clear from the article that she ever voted at all, so who knows. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2022 #19
I understand your point. Nevilledog Sep 2022 #22
So easy to choose the fate of others Mr. Ected Sep 2022 #15
Republiscum: The Unmitigated Gall Sep 2022 #16
The only way right wingers care about an issue is if it affects them ZonkerHarris Sep 2022 #18
She finds empathy for herself. Joinfortmill Sep 2022 #20
This message was self-deleted by its author Joinfortmill Sep 2022 #21
I hope she becomes a very public advocate for women's health gratuitous Sep 2022 #24
At least she could afford to travel to another state. Demobrat Sep 2022 #26
They had to beg the money from a Trumpy relative, so txwhitedove Sep 2022 #38
K&R Solly Mack Sep 2022 #27
IF she becomes a public advocate for abortion rights DFW Sep 2022 #29
This: perfectly put. fierywoman Sep 2022 #37
If she returns to Texas.... Whatthe_Firetruck Sep 2022 #40
She posted all on Facebook which is WAY public outing in Texas. txwhitedove Sep 2022 #41
The "understanding" is the main part for me. DFW Sep 2022 #64
The couple appear in an ad for Beto O'Rourke. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2022 #62
Yay! txwhitedove Sep 2022 #65
Texas terrorism is great until it's aimed at you, right? Hermit-The-Prog Sep 2022 #30
Now see what you have done DLCWIdem Sep 2022 #33
Bwahaha! The goal is to have that effect on every eligible voter. :) Hermit-The-Prog Sep 2022 #42
Two pears and not one tot. 3Hotdogs Sep 2022 #31
No empathy - sorry. NoMoreRepugs Sep 2022 #34
How many women was she okay with hurting before it hurt her? onecaliberal Sep 2022 #35
I wonder if she squeeze out a tear sarge43 Sep 2022 #39
"But was it legitimate rape?" nt Ilsa Sep 2022 #68
Or that one n/t sarge43 Sep 2022 #69
"...a 'quintessential pro-life Texan" Republican. The question. Grins Sep 2022 #36
The article never says that she was ever a Republican. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2022 #53
Her husband is! Lifelong. To include all his family. Grins Sep 2022 #74
It said he was raised by "extremely Republican parents and grandparents," but also never says WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2022 #75
fuck her, she can go eat shit gopiscrap Sep 2022 #43
Can't trust women to choose for themselves Nululu Sep 2022 #44
At least she changed her views. Usually they get the abortion then Hassler Sep 2022 #45
Literally - right back to the picket line! dchill Sep 2022 #47
Credit where credit is due. Many in similar situations... dchill Sep 2022 #46
I'm tired of giving kudos to people for acting like human fucking beings Skittles Sep 2022 #58
There will be many, many more self-bestowed "hall passes" to come Zambero Sep 2022 #48
Of course NQAS Sep 2022 #49
Religion vs. reality... Mr. Evil Sep 2022 #51
The whole article is very sad and disturbing. niyad Sep 2022 #56
Empathy don't come easy to people who think they're better than you Bucky Sep 2022 #57
Kailee and Cade made an ad for Beto. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2022 #61
She was not betrayed. She got exactly what she always voted for. Roisin Ni Fiachra Sep 2022 #66
Where does it say she ever voted? WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2022 #70
Repugs never see how harmful their votes are untill shit happens to them or their family. Hotler Sep 2022 #67
She still doesn't get it. Mariana Sep 2022 #72
We don't need to feel sympathy for her. yardwork Sep 2022 #73

gay texan

(2,448 posts)
1. Typical white Republican
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 03:02 PM
Sep 2022

All well and good until it effects them personally .

NRS syndrome, Nancy Reagan Syndrome

MagickMuffin

(15,942 posts)
2. Welcome to the reality of the party you belong to Kailee
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 03:03 PM
Sep 2022


This is who they are cruel and inhumane.

Now get ready to VOTE THEM OUT, while we still have that right!


WhiskeyGrinder

(22,345 posts)
60. Do you mean the tweet from someone who had nothing to do with producing the article and was simply
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 09:46 PM
Sep 2022

retweeting it and appearing to add a detail that appears nowhere in the article itself?

StarryNite

(9,445 posts)
3. Well, well, well
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 03:04 PM
Sep 2022

It's a whole different ballgame when it affects them directly. Until then they don't give a shit about anybody else.

WhiskeyGrinder

(22,345 posts)
7. It looks like her journey to change her stance began years ago, before this latest pregnancy.
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 03:06 PM
Sep 2022

IMO the tweet and headline really misrepresent her change of mind.

A year after they were married [several years ago], Kailee miscarried at 16 weeks and was hospitalized for severe complications, including blood clots and infection. It was one of three miscarriages she had in the early years of marriage.

"It made me realize that pregnancy can be dangerous," she said. "It made me think of my little sisters, and I wanted them to be able to have a choice if they ever had to go through something like that."

Last September, when a restrictive anti-abortion law took effect in Texas, Kailee pled on Facebook for people to contact their elected representatives to protect abortion rights.


Even people who support abortion rights can be under the impression that there's a Shirley Exception.

catbyte

(34,386 posts)
9. I'm sorry she had trouble, but I can't stand empathy-free RepubliQans, which seems to
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 03:07 PM
Sep 2022

be their dominant trait. They're against it until it happens to them.

WhiskeyGrinder

(22,345 posts)
14. Y'all, the headline isn't accurate according to the article. *Last September* she was begging her
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 03:11 PM
Sep 2022

friends and family to support abortion rights. She was pro-life when she was raised and got married, then started thinking about the issue more after her first miscarriage.

Mr. Ected

(9,670 posts)
15. So easy to choose the fate of others
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 03:12 PM
Sep 2022

But when others choose YOUR fate, you go cry to the newspapers.

No sympathy. Politics isn't about ME. It's about US.

The Unmitigated Gall

(3,812 posts)
16. Republiscum:
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 03:14 PM
Sep 2022

“It hasn’t happened to me, so I really don’t care”.

Democrat:
“That shouldn’t happen to anyone, and that’s why I care”.

Response to Nevilledog (Original post)

gratuitous

(82,849 posts)
24. I hope she becomes a very public advocate for women's health
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 03:32 PM
Sep 2022

Life and its attendant health care are a lot messier than some folks realize. I hope Kailee talks to her former fellow travelers and shares her story to illustrate that the oversimplified neat-and-tidy anti-abortion stance doesn't comport with reality. A person's health care choices should be made by that person in consultation with a qualified medical professional, not by some ignorant legislator who doesn't understand basic biology and anatomy. Perhaps she can speak to them in a language they understand.

txwhitedove

(3,928 posts)
38. They had to beg the money from a Trumpy relative, so
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 05:46 PM
Sep 2022

that person's eyes were opened a bit by this situation too.

DFW

(54,379 posts)
29. IF she becomes a public advocate for abortion rights
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 03:57 PM
Sep 2022

If she is willing to actively go around Texas telling her fellow Republicans why she is now pro-choice, and why anti-choice is so cruel, and so WRONG, then I say: that is her salvation. If she is just singing "Poor Poor Pitiful Me," then I am not interested in her tears. Only if she not only sees her wrong and is willing to do something about it, so that other women don't suffer as she has, has she really learned anything.

Whatthe_Firetruck

(557 posts)
40. If she returns to Texas....
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 05:49 PM
Sep 2022

.... Having admitted to the procedure, the forced birthers could sue her for the sweet, sweet $10k bounty.

txwhitedove

(3,928 posts)
41. She posted all on Facebook which is WAY public outing in Texas.
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 05:50 PM
Sep 2022

And the link is to a CNN article, that's National news.

DU should have it in their hearts to understand when the veil is lifted and someone becomes more educated and understanding.

DFW

(54,379 posts)
64. The "understanding" is the main part for me.
Sat Sep 10, 2022, 01:13 AM
Sep 2022

After what happened to her, she’s educated enough, no question. The important part is understanding that what happened to her under current state law can happen to ANY WOMAN IN TEXAS. If she’s willing to stay active in opposing that, I’ll be the first to cheer and send contributions.

Hermit-The-Prog

(33,346 posts)
30. Texas terrorism is great until it's aimed at you, right?
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 05:22 PM
Sep 2022

Roe, Roe, Roe your vote
against theocracy!
Republicans revoke your rights
and kill democracy!

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sarge43

(28,941 posts)
39. I wonder if she squeeze out a tear
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 05:48 PM
Sep 2022

for the raped ten year girl in Ohio.

Doubt it. If she thought about it at all, probably "it was her fault".

Grins

(7,217 posts)
36. "...a 'quintessential pro-life Texan" Republican. The question.
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 05:42 PM
Sep 2022

So the question now is: “Is she still a Republican?”

After all that if she still is, and if her Republican husband who had to go begging to his also-Republican family for financial help still is - I don’t give a damn about them.

Grins

(7,217 posts)
74. Her husband is! Lifelong. To include all his family.
Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:26 PM
Sep 2022

He is the one who had to ask his MAGA family for financial help which the reluctantly did, thus making them accomplices, according to Texas law, murder.

I’m willing to go to Vegas and put it all down that she, a lifelong pro-lifer (so she claimed), is a Republican - just like her husband.

WhiskeyGrinder

(22,345 posts)
75. It said he was raised by "extremely Republican parents and grandparents," but also never says
Sun Sep 11, 2022, 03:32 PM
Sep 2022

that he considered himself a Republican.

I’m willing to go to Vegas and put it all down that she, a lifelong pro-lifer (so she claimed), is a Republican - just like her husband.


They didn't say they were Republicans in the ad they did for Beto, so who knows.

gopiscrap

(23,761 posts)
43. fuck her, she can go eat shit
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 05:53 PM
Sep 2022

she was part of the reason why we are where we are at....as far as I am concerned, she can crawl in a hole and stay there

Nululu

(841 posts)
44. Can't trust women to choose for themselves
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 05:54 PM
Sep 2022

Why are these people so eager to cast judgement on others? Their judgements are ignorant and bigoted. So women will die because of cruelty wrapped in religion.

Hassler

(3,377 posts)
45. At least she changed her views. Usually they get the abortion then
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 05:56 PM
Sep 2022

Go right back to the picket line harassing women.

dchill

(38,492 posts)
46. Credit where credit is due. Many in similar situations...
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 05:57 PM
Sep 2022

...are still vehemently anti-abortion. Only THEIR abortion should be allowed.

Zambero

(8,964 posts)
48. There will be many, many more self-bestowed "hall passes" to come
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 06:02 PM
Sep 2022

The "pro-life" trait of favoring the wholesale abolition of individual reproductive rights takes on an interesting twist whenever one of them realizes that they are in desperate need of an abortion. Absent their own predicament, most if not all of them could care less about another individual's plight occurring under the same circumstances.

NQAS

(10,749 posts)
49. Of course
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 06:07 PM
Sep 2022

They’re republicans. It’s not a problem until it’s a problem for them. Fucking hypocrites.

Mr. Evil

(2,844 posts)
51. Religion vs. reality...
Fri Sep 9, 2022, 06:18 PM
Sep 2022

The Death Party uses religion to pass these laws. Yet, they aren't religious even in the most loosely form of the term. It's simply political expediency for them. Laws have to be made based on reality only, not fantasy or mythology.

The only way to truly learn a lesson is the hard way. These draconian laws are only going to put thousands and thousands of women in harms way year after year if they are allowed to remain in effect. How can we progress as human beings and allow this travesty against human beings be allowed?

Why do we allow whatever warped beliefs someone has to be instituted upon the masses? Why is a doctor's knowledge superseded by a politician's beliefs or political desires? It should not be.

Unfortunately, it won't change until doctors go on strike. Until doctors ultimately decide that humanity's reality is paramount to religious and political expediency.

Roisin Ni Fiachra

(2,574 posts)
66. She was not betrayed. She got exactly what she always voted for.
Sat Sep 10, 2022, 08:07 AM
Sep 2022

What did she expect the MAGAT King and his misogynist minions to do for her, and to do to her, when she voted to elect them?

I feel really bad for her. Hopefully she has learned her lesson and will not continue to vote against her own interests by voting for woman hating fascists.

Hotler

(11,421 posts)
67. Repugs never see how harmful their votes are untill shit happens to them or their family.
Sat Sep 10, 2022, 09:30 AM
Sep 2022

Fuck them and their feelings.

Mariana

(14,857 posts)
72. She still doesn't get it.
Sat Sep 10, 2022, 05:41 PM
Sep 2022

"Finley (the fetus) and I were simply collateral damage in a much bigger picture." she says.

No, Kailee, you were not "collateral damage". You were the intended target of this law. The law was written to prevent you, Kaylee, from getting an abortion in Texas. It worked exactly the way it was meant to work.

yardwork

(61,608 posts)
73. We don't need to feel sympathy for her.
Sat Sep 10, 2022, 05:50 PM
Sep 2022

I feel relief that another Republican has seen the light. The people she voted into office betrayed her. The pain she's feeling is a necessary symptom. She's waking up.

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