We got to see our first grandson today
and of course he's the best baby ever born.
His father, our son, is tall, blond, blue-eyed. His mother, who was born in Zimbabwe, is very dark-skinned with black hair, and short.
Our baby is going to grow up in a racist society, and already the entire family is worried that he is going to be mistreated by police. He is very long (90% percentile), so he may be tall and threatening. I don't know what color his skin will be--it darkens as he gets a little older; right now he is a lovely cafe au lait, and I find myself hoping that he won't be very, very dark--for his safety, not because anybody in either family cares what color this gorgeous little man is.
His mother has dual citizenship, US and British, and at the first hint of mistreatment she will insist that they move out of this country--which is exactly what I would do if I were she.
How sickening it is that this time of utter joy should be clouded by worries about the possible behavior of ignorant, violent, hateful people. What a dreadful thing to be worried about when a child is less than a month old.
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What a beautiful thing to celebrate!
I understand your fears, and wish I could dismiss them. But we both know better.
Here's to a better world! 
Congrats 
