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Dalai_1

(1,301 posts)
Sat Dec 15, 2012, 03:40 PM Dec 2012

Adam Lanza's Father

Adam Lanza's Father Found Out About Son's Role In Massacre From A Reporter

Henry Blodget | Dec. 15, 2012, 9:17 AM

The father of 20-year old Adam Lanza, the alleged "shooter" in the horrific Sandy Hook school massacre, found out about what happened from a Stamford Advocate reporter yesterday afternoon.
Peter Lanza, a tax specialist at GE, was pulling into his driveway in Stamford in a Mini Cooper when reporter Maggie Gordon approached the car.

Lanza rolled down the window and asked if he could help her.

I told him I was a reporter for the Stamford Advocate, and I was surprised that no click of recognition flash across his face. So I continued, explaining that I'd been told someone at his address had been linked to the shootings in Newtown.
His expression twisted from patient, to surprise to horror; it was obvious that this moment, shortly after 1:30 p.m. Friday, was the first time he had considered his family could have been involved. He quickly declined to comment, rolled up the window, parked in the right side of the two-car garage and closed the door.

Moments later he sat at a table in the front of his three-bedroom house, a phone to his left ear and a palm to his right cheek.
Lanza and his former wife, Nancy, who was also killed yesterday, divorced several years ago after 28 years of marriage. He and Nancy Lanza shared custody of Adam, who was 17 at the time of the divorce.
Peter Lanza lives with his second wife in Stamford.

In that one moment, Lanza learned that his son killed 28 people, including 20 children, his ex-wife, and himself. It's hard to even begin to imagine what that feels like.

Source:

http://www.businessinsider.com/peter-lanza-father-stamford-2012-12?0=bi

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Adam Lanza's Father (Original Post) Dalai_1 Dec 2012 OP
Unforgivable on the part of that "reporter". peacebird Dec 2012 #1
Unforgivable on the part of the police Warpy Dec 2012 #2
That too.... Poor man. peacebird Dec 2012 #6
There is a process..and media always "takes cuts" in their rush to report SoCalDem Dec 2012 #15
Yes, I know, it took about 5 hours for notification Warpy Dec 2012 #22
You're right; she should have said "Wouldn't YOU like to know" when he asked her why she was there. Brickbat Dec 2012 #4
It gets better.... politicaljunkie41910 Dec 2012 #12
Obscene.... peacebird Dec 2012 #17
He and his wife kept to themselves, didn't put up Christmas lights. Fridays Child Dec 2012 #3
well fuck, i'd better go put up my christmas lights before they come cart me away n/t yodermon Dec 2012 #7
Honestly! Wind Dancer Dec 2012 #19
the neighbors seem to be hfojvt Dec 2012 #9
But but but...What did he have for lunch that day SoCalDem Dec 2012 #23
His circumstances make me shudder. mn9driver Dec 2012 #5
My grand son has aspergers too marlakay Dec 2012 #10
My understanding is that the Aspergers is unconfirmed. And doesn't it seem like such an odd Squinch Dec 2012 #20
Frustration, sadness, loneliness, yes mn9driver Dec 2012 #24
I doubt it too. Squinch Dec 2012 #25
"tax specialist at GE" Hassin Bin Sober Dec 2012 #8
Nice going, Stamford Advocate, Xipe Totec Dec 2012 #11
"Can I help you, miss?" alcibiades_mystery Dec 2012 #13
Beating the police at giving him the news, I see how it may happen Lone_Star_Dem Dec 2012 #14
No point in blaming the media here marions ghost Dec 2012 #16
How horrible for him. Terra Alta Dec 2012 #18
Damn that reporter!! SajayHobbs Dec 2012 #21

SoCalDem

(103,856 posts)
15. There is a process..and media always "takes cuts" in their rush to report
Sat Dec 15, 2012, 06:31 PM
Dec 2012

anything they hear or are told or they think they know.

The police on the scene were pretty busy, and someone in NJ is probably low on their "do right now" list. The murderer was not a minor child, so his parent(s) would not necessarily be the first one(s) called. They were not even sure which son he was because he used false ID.

Had he had a fake ID with John Smith as the name, would the police start calling every Smith in the phone book?

The father had been out of the home for 3+ years , and the older bother lived in another state as well.. They were not that connected to the murderer and had not been for a while.

I have a brother in Texas, and if he did something terrible, I would not know about it or know of anything about it for a while. I would react the same way if cops/media showed up at my doorstep immediately after/during an "event" created/caused by him.

Brickbat

(19,339 posts)
4. You're right; she should have said "Wouldn't YOU like to know" when he asked her why she was there.
Sat Dec 15, 2012, 03:53 PM
Dec 2012

politicaljunkie41910

(3,335 posts)
12. It gets better....
Sat Dec 15, 2012, 06:14 PM
Dec 2012
"...Moments later he sat at a table in the front of his three-bedroom house, a phone to his left ear and a palm to his right cheek. ..."

Gee, how did they know that, did they have an telescopic lens trained on the couples living room? Shhhssss.

Fridays Child

(23,998 posts)
3. He and his wife kept to themselves, didn't put up Christmas lights.
Sat Dec 15, 2012, 03:51 PM
Dec 2012

Do you suppose that the writer is trying to paint some sort of sightly malevolent picture of the kid's father?

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
9. the neighbors seem to be
Sat Dec 15, 2012, 04:27 PM
Dec 2012

but the report also gives you all the infomation you need "He wore a blue-and-white striped button-down shirt, his hair neatly parted to side."

Read more: http://www.stamfordadvocate.com/news/article/Reporter-broke-news-to-father-of-suspect-4119559.php#ixzz2F9bmoZYj

and the car is a mini Cooper and a blue one.

But I am wondering what color his pants were?

And what color were his shoes?

Not to mention his parachute.

mn9driver

(4,425 posts)
5. His circumstances make me shudder.
Sat Dec 15, 2012, 03:54 PM
Dec 2012

The divorce, the son, the aspergers, the length of marriage, the remarriage----everything matches my own circumstances.

Except for the final horror he faces, thank god. I picked my son up and took him out breakfast this morning and we talked and hugged for a long time.

marlakay

(11,457 posts)
10. My grand son has aspergers too
Sat Dec 15, 2012, 04:27 PM
Dec 2012

Its a very hard thing to live with for the parents. I know my daughter and son-n-law try hard but its a struggle.

He is 6. They tried to put him in first grade with a special aid and ended up having to put him in a special school after 2 months.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
20. My understanding is that the Aspergers is unconfirmed. And doesn't it seem like such an odd
Sat Dec 15, 2012, 07:00 PM
Dec 2012

behavior for a person with Aspergers? In my experience one of the things that people with Aspergers completely lack is malice of any kind. Frustration, yes, but nothing directed violently outward in a concerted way.

mn9driver

(4,425 posts)
24. Frustration, sadness, loneliness, yes
Sat Dec 15, 2012, 08:21 PM
Dec 2012

Especially in young adulthood. Lashing out violently is NOT part and parcel of the condition. That being said, these young people are just as capable of any emotion as anyone else.

Whatever was going on in his head, I doubt it had anything to do with Aspergers.

 

alcibiades_mystery

(36,437 posts)
13. "Can I help you, miss?"
Sat Dec 15, 2012, 06:19 PM
Dec 2012

"Yeah, you know your whole family? They're all fucking dead and your kid will be known forever as a monstrous butcher. Do you have any comment on that?"

HORRIFIC. Nightmare territory.

Lone_Star_Dem

(28,158 posts)
14. Beating the police at giving him the news, I see how it may happen
Sat Dec 15, 2012, 06:21 PM
Dec 2012

Spying on the man in his home while he's living the single worst moment of his life, and then "reporting" what you witnessed. that's unethical. It's the sort of crap a sleazy tabloid would do.

Terra Alta

(5,158 posts)
18. How horrible for him.
Sat Dec 15, 2012, 06:41 PM
Dec 2012

His child will forever be known as a monstrous killer, not to mention his son killed himself, too. I'm sure he is grieving not only for those innocents killed, but his own son as well.

What a horrible way for him to find out.

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