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"I give God 10%" (Original Post) proud2BlibKansan Jan 2013 OP
"The God I believe in isn't short of cash, Mister" -U2 n/t Fumesucker Jan 2013 #1
The guy is upset over $6.29???? fasttense Jan 2013 #54
+1 One of the best lines ever written nt treestar Jan 2013 #69
I like George Carlin's take on it: Arugula Latte Jan 2013 #89
The Leadership of BOTH dominant Political Parties... bvar22 Jan 2013 #90
He's got $20 million dollars in his heavenly bank account... Initech Jan 2013 #98
WTF kwolf68 Jan 2013 #2
God for sale to the highest bider. & People wonder why religion comes under such bitter criticism. patrice Jan 2013 #3
Cause God doesn't make below minimum wage? theKed Jan 2013 #4
Deuteronomy 24:14 bluestateguy Jan 2013 #11
How little these right wing "Christians" know about the very religion treestar Jan 2013 #71
Oh, I'm sure some would take the order Fumesucker Jan 2013 #14
Sorry. Tips are optional. What I see on that bill is theft, or fraud. MrModerate Jan 2013 #35
Not leaving a tip is morally reprehensible. baldguy Jan 2013 #42
First off, I think the diner was angry, not stupid . . . MrModerate Jan 2013 #49
As far as living places goes... Democracyinkind Jan 2013 #56
I'd have to agree, "that's just you . . ." MrModerate Jan 2013 #58
So you think it's OK to stiff your server, just to maintain your Trotskyite indignation baldguy Jan 2013 #63
Did I say anything even remotely like that? No, I didn't. So what the hell are you talking about? nt MrModerate Jan 2013 #105
you can't stiff the waiter at that applebee's, apparently. 18% gratuity is mandatory. only HiPointDem Feb 2013 #132
The 15% is a tip in intent. It is just formalized and standardized. Democracyinkind Jan 2013 #78
Distinctions matter. MrModerate Jan 2013 #106
Servers make $2.13 an hour and are taxed on tips whether they get them or not. Starry Messenger Jan 2013 #107
This "stay home if you can't afford a tip" bullshit is really obnoxious. MrModerate Jan 2013 #109
They are assessed taxes on projected tip earnings. Starry Messenger Jan 2013 #112
This bullshit about getting indignant at having to pay for services fairly rendered baldguy Jan 2013 #115
I'll resist the urge to reply in kind and simply point out that . . . MrModerate Jan 2013 #116
You don't seem to understand that you have to pay people when they do things for you. baldguy Jan 2013 #117
Not sure it's worth it, since you seem incapable of listening, but what the heck: MrModerate Jan 2013 #118
You've been very clear: You resent the fact that you have to pay people who work for you. baldguy Jan 2013 #121
Hopeless. MrModerate Feb 2013 #123
Hi-- Tien1985 Feb 2013 #126
I have no problem with a service fee being added to large parties . . . MrModerate Feb 2013 #129
I don't like Applebee's Tien1985 Feb 2013 #134
Well, maybe it's because I've been in and out of the States . . . MrModerate Feb 2013 #135
You are in Australia, but this is in the U.S. ... Rider3 Feb 2013 #127
I've lived in the US almost half my life, so I've seen the conditions . . . MrModerate Feb 2013 #128
a mandatory tip isn't a tip. if restaurants make tips mandatory they should just add them to the HiPointDem Feb 2013 #131
Just about all restaurants add that on for parties of 5 or more. hobbit709 Jan 2013 #59
The bill is under $40, probably not a party of greater than 5. FSogol Jan 2013 #65
all depends on the restaurant. hobbit709 Jan 2013 #66
It was a party of 8 that's asked for a separate check. Separation Jan 2013 #72
Oh, didn't see that. FSogol Jan 2013 #73
Perhaps it was a large party that had the server split the bill GObamaGO Jan 2013 #85
It was a party of 20 justabob Jan 2013 #87
Bullshit. Recommending a tip is not "theft or fraud" SomethingFishy Jan 2013 #97
They've already charged for a "tip" which they've ever-so-helpfully decided is 18% . . . MrModerate Jan 2013 #108
They put the 18% on the bill because the guy was part of a party of 20 SomethingFishy Jan 2013 #120
I saw that blanket statement on Reddit . . . MrModerate Feb 2013 #122
she paid, as the news reports make clear. the 18% was a mandatory gratuity and she was charged HiPointDem Feb 2013 #133
Wow. I hope that is fake. nt ZombieHorde Jan 2013 #5
It probably isn't justabob Jan 2013 #10
Growing up, my mother was a waitress Le Taz Hot Jan 2013 #25
Restaurants you've worked at systematically stole from their customers? MrModerate Jan 2013 #36
excuse me? justabob Jan 2013 #39
I interpreted your "It probably isn't . . ." MrModerate Jan 2013 #44
thank you justabob Jan 2013 #50
Was that you who wrote the comment on the bill? SomethingFishy Jan 2013 #99
Well, gee whiz, thanks for your bucket of information . . . MrModerate Jan 2013 #110
It's not Scootaloo Jan 2013 #53
K&R silverweb Jan 2013 #6
He is a she. Pastor Alois Bell. It is all over and the waitress was fired. nessa Feb 2013 #138
Yes, I got the update the day after I posted. silverweb Feb 2013 #140
God doesn't get any of your money (nor does He need it) bluestateguy Jan 2013 #7
passing the plate to protect pedophiles, for example Skittles Jan 2013 #12
+1 proud2BlibKansan Jan 2013 #17
Also, you don't need money if you don't actually exist. Arugula Latte Jan 2013 #88
Poor excuse for being cheap siligut Jan 2013 #8
Could this be the "Soliciting Sex Acts from a Child" Pastor Wes Bell???? NYC_SKP Jan 2013 #9
Hard to say. It's a fairly common name. proud2BlibKansan Jan 2013 #18
Is that scribbled word "pastor"? NYC_SKP Jan 2013 #19
Looks like it to me. proud2BlibKansan Jan 2013 #20
More to the story here: SomethingFishy Jan 2013 #102
It definitely says Pastor Wes Bell -- how many of those could there be? gateley Jan 2013 #28
matter of fact.... name rings a Bell oldhippydude Jan 2013 #55
Creepy pastor! Ewwww! NYC_SKP Jan 2013 #81
It's a woman. Pastor Alois Bell nessa Feb 2013 #136
Douchebag! nt longship Jan 2013 #13
+1 PrezHillary2016 Jan 2013 #37
+2 NutmegYankee Jan 2013 #43
Same here. cordelia Jan 2013 #46
Same here. smirkymonkey Jan 2013 #119
the fallacy of shifting percentages. "god" gets 10% of his INCOME; waitstaff gets 18% of one meal. unblock Jan 2013 #15
god, protect me from your cheapskate followers! yortsed snacilbuper Jan 2013 #16
1 penny out of every dollar pokerfan Jan 2013 #21
Oops! pinboy3niner Jan 2013 #23
The waiter got the 18% anyway alcibiades_mystery Jan 2013 #22
I can explain the discrepency justabob Jan 2013 #27
You're assuming it's a service fee . . . MrModerate Jan 2013 #38
Ok, I see where you are coming from with the "systemic stealing" upthread justabob Jan 2013 #40
It's usually stated on the menu that parties of six or more will have an 18% fee alcibiades_mystery Jan 2013 #62
This is one of my big arguments with organized religion.... OldDem2012 Jan 2013 #24
That's because god doesn't exist. AtheistCrusader Jan 2013 #31
Fucking moron doesn't realize the tip is already included. MrSlayer Jan 2013 #26
credit card chits are NOT thrown away justabob Jan 2013 #30
Yeah, I was being too glib. MrSlayer Jan 2013 #32
but doesn't it look like he even crossed out the 18% gratuity? renate Jan 2013 #92
Hey ASSHOLE Warpy Jan 2013 #29
Because god isn't slaving for your ass in an industry that has weaseled out of the minimum AtheistCrusader Jan 2013 #33
God doesn't need to pay rent. Hekate Jan 2013 #34
he only gives 10 percent to God ? JI7 Jan 2013 #41
From his attitude there, that seems like all he puts into it. JHB Jan 2013 #48
An old joke quaker bill Jan 2013 #45
Isaac Newton RULES, beeyotches!! Manifestor_of_Light Jan 2013 #93
I'd bet his collection plates don't get many checks payable to "God"... JHB Jan 2013 #47
That is a perfect example of contempt for the poor King_Klonopin Jan 2013 #51
I bet the server earned every bit of that 18% with this asshole liberal N proud Jan 2013 #52
Back when I was flush with cash Pool Hall Ace Jan 2013 #57
Because "God won't spit in your meal" Bay Boy Jan 2013 #60
+100% demwing Jan 2013 #74
A Pastor? Hell bound. Buzz Clik Jan 2013 #61
The damage to this guy's rep is more than enough of a tip DainBramaged Jan 2013 #64
It's a woman. Pastor Alois Bell. (nt) nessa Feb 2013 #137
People who don't tip shouldn't eat out. wildeyed Jan 2013 #67
Two thumbs up fifthoffive Jan 2013 #82
He's going to begrudge a waitress? treestar Jan 2013 #68
I thought it was 15% nt el_bryanto Jan 2013 #70
Is it this guy? Renew Deal Jan 2013 #75
Pastor Alois Bell. nessa Feb 2013 #139
Cleo Bell jberryhill Jan 2013 #76
These people are disgusting!! Liberal_Stalwart71 Jan 2013 #77
Although the customer's outlandish response is stooopid I will say this- cecilfirefox Jan 2013 #79
Perhaps it was a large group... Oilwellian Jan 2013 #91
The 18% was added because it was a party of 20 who tried to get out of the tip SomethingFishy Jan 2013 #103
So the pastor was paying everyone's bill with "God's money"? JHB Feb 2013 #130
Certainly not the first time someone used god in order to be a dick. sadbear Jan 2013 #80
Gives 10% to a RW political religious group that should be paying taxes Zorra Jan 2013 #83
And I wonder what God thinks when he looks down and sees you do that? gollygee Jan 2013 #84
This would make a great internet meme poster gollygee Jan 2013 #86
Jesus is all about injustice. This fits his philosophy perfectly. Manifestor_of_Light Jan 2013 #94
Time To Outlaw Religion harrose Jan 2013 #95
my response: 'fuck you' spanone Jan 2013 #96
He would be wise not to set foot in that restaurant again. Initech Jan 2013 #100
Sad rjj621 Jan 2013 #101
A big difference though HarveyDarkey Jan 2013 #104
Remind me to give 0% to this jerk's church derby378 Jan 2013 #111
God needs a new accountant. The deity is always broke despite the protection money paid to him. Tierra_y_Libertad Jan 2013 #113
I'm suspecting this receipt is fake pauldemmd195j Jan 2013 #114
god gets nothing from me but waitstaff gets 20% odiumestpuritas Feb 2013 #124
Welcome to DU, odiumestpuritas! Heidi Feb 2013 #125
 

fasttense

(17,301 posts)
54. The guy is upset over $6.29????
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 08:07 AM
Jan 2013

Really? Does he know the waiter is NOT even paid minimum wage? So, basically this fool wants to be served for half price.

I agree tipping is a very stupid institution that gives restaurant owners an excuse to underpay their employees.

That aside, a waiter makes 50 to 80% of their wages off of tips. Many restaurants barely pay $2.00 an hour for their employees and then they pad the tips so it looks like the employee is making minimum wage. In other words they cheat their employees out of their wages. But that is the American way.

If he doesn't want to pay a tip, go to a fast food restaurant. If I ever saw that person in the restaurant again, I would make a point to spit in his food.

bvar22

(39,909 posts)
90. The Leadership of BOTH dominant Political Parties...
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 01:12 PM
Jan 2013

...are convinced that there is an "Invisible Hand" that reaches down from the heavens and "corrects" Free Markets, so there is no need for government to intervene on behalf of consumers and citizens.
I don't know which belief is more laughable, or more fraudulent, but I do know this:

If you Work for a Living, don't trust ANY politician who professes a belief in an "Invisible Hand".
It doesn't exist,
and that politician is not your friend.

theKed

(1,235 posts)
4. Cause God doesn't make below minimum wage?
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 02:26 AM
Jan 2013

Maybe he'll take your order, next time, though...cause if any server knew it was you that did that? They sure as shit wouldn't.

bluestateguy

(44,173 posts)
11. Deuteronomy 24:14
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 02:37 AM
Jan 2013

"You shall not oppress a hired servant who is poor and needy, whether he is one of your brothers or one of the sojourners who are in your land within your towns"

treestar

(82,383 posts)
71. How little these right wing "Christians" know about the very religion
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 09:35 AM
Jan 2013

They claim to espouse.

It's as if God is just for them and cares about no one else. Not very consistent with the words of Jesus.

 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
35. Sorry. Tips are optional. What I see on that bill is theft, or fraud.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 05:19 AM
Jan 2013

I wouldn't have added the comment, however.

 

baldguy

(36,649 posts)
42. Not leaving a tip is morally reprehensible.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 06:49 AM
Jan 2013

People who are too stupid to understand that should stay home.

 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
49. First off, I think the diner was angry, not stupid . . .
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 07:29 AM
Jan 2013

Although it's hard to tell just from the evidence of the bill s/he scribbled the rude comment on.

And if I was presented with a bill blithely assuming what tip I was going to leave and automatically charging me, I'd be angry, too. If it's not a tip but a 'service charge' of some sort, then the restaurant engaged in fraud by calling it a tip — another reason to be angry.

Secondly, what's foolish and self-defeating (although perhaps not stupid, per se) is to support a system where the employer is allowed to (even expected to) screw both the employees and the customers as a matter of course.

In what other business is the employer allowed to pretend that the uncertain kindness of strangers is a legitimate component of an employee's compensation? In what other business is the customer expected to make up for the fact that the employer is cheating his/her employees of a fair wage? In the US, tips are not given to reward good service. They're given because diners know that the restaurant owners engage in scummy practices that keep their employees impoverished and guilt and custom induce those diners to try to make it right.

It's flatly nuts.

In Australia, where I live now, you don't tip. Instead, restaurant owners pay servers (and bussers, and hostesses, and kitchen staff, etc., etc.) a living wage. And build those costs into their pricing model. Yes, restaurant prices are higher than in the US, but at least you're not having a meal off someone else's back.

Tipping is a disease, and the cure is for food service workers to demand a living wage and not continue to let themselves (and those who patronize their workplaces) be cheated.

Democracyinkind

(4,015 posts)
56. As far as living places goes...
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 08:12 AM
Jan 2013

I live in a country where 15% of any bill is added as a tip. And yet, people still give additional tips. Never once have I heard anyone complain about being "defrauded". This all in a country were servers very much make a "living wage".

Personally, I feel obligated to give tips. Anytime that I'm in a restaurant, I reflect on the mere biographical accidents that lead me to living the good life while others my age still bust their asses off serving people and happily give an extra tip. I really don't see it as that much as an issue. In fact, I'm so conditioned by the habit and my inner reasoning that I think I couldn't eat somehwere without giving a tip even if the food and service were shitty altogether. But that's just me.
 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
58. I'd have to agree, "that's just you . . ."
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 08:24 AM
Jan 2013

I've only passed through Switzerland and didn't really pay attention to the restaurant bills (who does while on vacation? -- it's just too horrifying). However, if there's a 15% fee included in any bill, it's not a tip (as that term is understood in the US), but a component of the bill, and hence not fraudulent.

In the US, as I'm sure you'll recall, tipping is customary but entirely optional. To charge a 'tip' would be fraudulent, and to include a service charge incurred because of how many people you have in your party and call it a tip would be doubly so. Especially since the server is very unlikely to see a penny of that tip anyway.

I resent tipping. I resent the US system that makes it necessary, and I think the practice of structuring wages so people can't survive without tips is immoral.

A little industrial action is called for here.

 

baldguy

(36,649 posts)
63. So you think it's OK to stiff your server, just to maintain your Trotskyite indignation
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 09:08 AM
Jan 2013

over the oppression of the working class?

 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
105. Did I say anything even remotely like that? No, I didn't. So what the hell are you talking about? nt
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 09:51 PM
Jan 2013
 

HiPointDem

(20,729 posts)
132. you can't stiff the waiter at that applebee's, apparently. 18% gratuity is mandatory. only
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 07:47 AM
Feb 2013

the management can stiff the waitstaff & i bet they do.

Democracyinkind

(4,015 posts)
78. The 15% is a tip in intent. It is just formalized and standardized.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 10:39 AM
Jan 2013

There is no other justification for the deducation, it is for "service". So yeah, it is different than the states, but the intent behind the 15% deduction is the same intent that you (or in this case, someone else I guess, since you don't tip) have when you tip. And still people like to give additional, individual tips.

So no, it's not just me. Whole cultures exist without the outrage! Then again, many roads lead to solidarity and I'm fine with yours as you are fine with mine.
 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
106. Distinctions matter.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 09:58 PM
Jan 2013

A fee explicitly charged and made a part of servers' compensation -- as part of a business' cost model presented clearly and consistently to the consumer -- is OK with me. You tell me it's common practice in Switzerland and is charged automatically. Hence, it's not a "tip" as that term is defined in the US.

And I do tip when I'm in the US -- I just don't like it very much. I consider it unfair to the server and unfair to the customer.

I happen to think that Australia's model is superior to either the Swiss or US models, in that such costs are built into the price charged. What you see is what you get.

Starry Messenger

(32,342 posts)
107. Servers make $2.13 an hour and are taxed on tips whether they get them or not.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 10:02 PM
Jan 2013

You can resent the system all you want, but you're hardly going to gain allies for "industrial action" by stiffing the waitstaff. If taxes were optional, you might have a point, but they aren't. If you can't cough up a few extra bucks for a nice evening, than stay home and cook.

 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
109. This "stay home if you can't afford a tip" bullshit is really obnoxious.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 10:15 PM
Jan 2013

It's also a terrible argument. You really think supressing patronage is going to help?

As I understand the taxing practice, servers have to pay on actual tips, not theoretical, so your tax argument holds no water.

And the only reason I'd be looking for allies in industrial action is because I think food service workers are screwing themselves by letting their employers cheat them. As a customer of restaurants, it makes me uncomfortable supporting an unjust system.

So I do tip, but I don't like it. Sue me.

Starry Messenger

(32,342 posts)
112. They are assessed taxes on projected tip earnings.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 10:21 PM
Jan 2013

If they are suspected of under-reporting, they get audited.

 

baldguy

(36,649 posts)
115. This bullshit about getting indignant at having to pay for services fairly rendered
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 11:27 PM
Jan 2013

is REALLY, REALLY, REALLY obnoxious. Enough for altercations to occur.

(What's the next step up from "obnoxious"? That word really doesn't convey the abject debasement of your attitude.)

 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
116. I'll resist the urge to reply in kind and simply point out that . . .
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 11:52 PM
Jan 2013

In many places around the world, employers are not allowed to pretend that the uncertain kindness of strangers constitutes a legitimate component of an employee's compensation.

And that if a service is fairly rendered, it should be charged for at an industry-standard rate and included in the cost of all services rather than being presented as a "gift" to one person in the production chain.

Tipping sucks. It screws the employee and it screws the customer.

I preferentially patronize restaurants where there is no tipping because the employees are paid a living wage and the cost of all services rendered is included in the published price. Nevertheless, I (resentfully) tip when it's called for. But I'll be damned if I'll praise doing so.

Why is that so hard to understand?

 

baldguy

(36,649 posts)
117. You don't seem to understand that you have to pay people when they do things for you.
Thu Jan 31, 2013, 08:27 AM
Jan 2013

It's called doing a job. Do you think those people are giving you food because they like you? No, they do it because they expect to be paid for it.

Perhaps your douchebaggery stems from the mistaken belief that a tip is a "gift". IT'S NOT A GIFT! How's that? Does that make it clear to you?

 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
118. Not sure it's worth it, since you seem incapable of listening, but what the heck:
Thu Jan 31, 2013, 08:43 AM
Jan 2013

If it's optional, it's not part of the services cost. I'm willing to pay the cost of services, but I'm not willing to subsidize scummy employers.

I happen to live in a country where no one tips. How do servers survive? Because by law and custom, employers pay them a living wage. Diners know exactly how much a meal is going to cost because the price is right there on the menu. The price is calculated by the owner based on costs (including wages) and profits.

It's honest, fair, and pleasant. Tipping is none of those things. Tipping is a mechanism whereby restaurant owners dodge a big chunk of their costs of doing business by playing on the guilt of their customers.

It sucks. And anyone who thinks tipping is superior to a fair wage is a fool.

 

baldguy

(36,649 posts)
121. You've been very clear: You resent the fact that you have to pay people who work for you.
Thu Jan 31, 2013, 12:31 PM
Jan 2013

If you don't like it, limit your dining experiences to McDonald's or Burger King.

Tien1985

(920 posts)
126. Hi--
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 07:18 AM
Feb 2013

I think there may be something lost in translation here. I'm from the US, but I have done some traveling. I agree with you that we should be fighting tooth and nail for waitstaff to be paid fairly.

What you may not know, is that in US it is common for resturaunts to state directly, "If you have a party of X number of people an X% gratuity will be added to your check." It is written sometimes right at the doors of the establishment, and it is almost always written somewhere very obviously on the menu. This isn't a new practice, it's been like that for a long time and people should be aware of it.

So people might not like it, but they aren't being surprised by it, especially at a chain like Applebee's where it is probably franchise policy. And honestly most people I know take it as read that if you have a party of 8 or more, tip is included in cost. It actually makes it easier.

 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
129. I have no problem with a service fee being added to large parties . . .
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 07:36 AM
Feb 2013

Although calling it a "gratuity" is almost as bad as calling it a "tip."

But the receipt the OP posted (which is apparently from Applebee's, according to what I've read since this issue popped up) lists a tip and then an additional tip. That is extremely deceptive (fraudulent, in my opinion), and while the diner's comment was thoroughly dickish, I understand where the anger comes from.

Service fees are OK. If you bring a large party to just about any restaurant in the US, you'd expect a service fee. But for a restaurant to call a fee a tip is just going to piss people off. The larger Applebee's organization is pretty crappy anyway, so I'm not entirely surprised they'd try such an underhanded scam.

Tien1985

(920 posts)
134. I don't like Applebee's
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 07:51 AM
Feb 2013

I don't appreciate the way we (the US) handles gratuity at all. I think we rob waitstaff.

The second line is for adding more tip if you want, since 20% is actually what is common. I think they picked a number between what is suppose to be min. 15% and what is common 20%. This is how nearly every big chain does it here. It may just be that we've gotten used to what we should consider fraud. However, it's been like this so long, I don't see how they don't know it's going to happen. They probably should have just gone somewhere else. It seems like they even knew it was going to happen because they tried to get out of it by splitting the bill.

It's hard for me to call it a "scam" when everyone here should know this is how it's done. I'd be more like to say it's just wrong, and should be done differently (they should just pay waitstaff a real wage and tips should be extra for great service).

 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
135. Well, maybe it's because I've been in and out of the States . . .
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 08:52 PM
Feb 2013

(mostly out) for the last 20 years or so, but this is the first time I've ever seen a tip automatically added on the bill. And I'm sure I've been to a couple of Applebees (regretfully) on my visits back -- and on those occasions I added what I consider an appropriate tip.

I think this is new, or maybe not universal throughout the Applebee's chain. I'll certainly be scanning the check more carefully on future visits, because as much as I deplore the tipping system, one feature of it that I refuse to relinquish is my decision as the customer what to offer.

Rider3

(919 posts)
127. You are in Australia, but this is in the U.S. ...
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 07:18 AM
Feb 2013

You have never waited tables, have you? Otherwise, you'd have empathy for those working an exhausting job under minimum wage.

 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
128. I've lived in the US almost half my life, so I've seen the conditions . . .
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 07:26 AM
Feb 2013

servers work under. They're deplorable. My comment is that it doesn't have to be so. There are better ways to run restaurants and avoid cheating both servers and customers.

 

HiPointDem

(20,729 posts)
131. a mandatory tip isn't a tip. if restaurants make tips mandatory they should just add them to the
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 07:46 AM
Feb 2013

cost of the meal, pay their employees better, & stop calling them 'tips'.

hobbit709

(41,694 posts)
59. Just about all restaurants add that on for parties of 5 or more.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 08:31 AM
Jan 2013

It is usually stated on the menu and on a sign at the door.

FSogol

(45,484 posts)
65. The bill is under $40, probably not a party of greater than 5.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 09:13 AM
Jan 2013

It is my experience that they do that for parties of 8 or more.

Separation

(1,975 posts)
72. It was a party of 8 that's asked for a separate check.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 09:37 AM
Jan 2013

That's why that bill is small, but the %15 charge was added.

justabob

(3,069 posts)
87. It was a party of 20
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 12:00 PM
Jan 2013

From what I read, it was a party of twenty that was trying to get out of the auto-grat for large parties by splitting the checks <assholes>.

http://www.reddit.com/user/gateflan

No. They ran up well over 200$ before taxes or gratuity. They asked for separate checks, thinking it would get them out of the autograt, even though the same man paid for everything.

They had no problem with my service, and told me I was great. They just didn't want to pay when the time came.



[–]gateflan[S] 197 points 20 hours ago

It was only compulsory because it was a table of 20. Parties up to eight at my work may tip whatever they'd like, but larger parties receive an automatic gratuity. It's in the computer, it's not something I do.

SomethingFishy

(4,876 posts)
97. Bullshit. Recommending a tip is not "theft or fraud"
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 03:19 PM
Jan 2013

Notice that the total is not put in, the patron has the absolute right, like this jackass did to not add the tip into the total.

The irony of this is the 18% is shown on the bill because of assholes like this who probably complain about overpaid servers. The minimum wage for servers is.. 2 dollars and thirteen fucking cents an hour. You want to talk theft...

 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
108. They've already charged for a "tip" which they've ever-so-helpfully decided is 18% . . .
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 10:06 PM
Jan 2013

And graciously offered the customer the opportunity to pay even more.

That's presumably because the customer knows the server won't see a penny of the "tip" and the restaurateur is expecting guilt to induce the customer to subsidize the defrauding of both himself and the server with yet another payment.

That's utter bullshit, and highlights how tipping in general is a noxious practice that needs to be replaced with living wages for restaurant employees. It ain't tough. They do it all over the world.

SomethingFishy

(4,876 posts)
120. They put the 18% on the bill because the guy was part of a party of 20
Thu Jan 31, 2013, 11:28 AM
Jan 2013

who was trying to avoid the tip by splitting the bill. Plus the tip is on the bill but not in the total he didn't pay the 18%.

And I'm fine with replacing tips with living wages but until then tip the fucking servers.

 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
122. I saw that blanket statement on Reddit . . .
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 12:03 AM
Feb 2013

with no attribution whatsoever. My bullshit meter went off.

And I do tip the fucking servers, but I'm not obliged to like it.

justabob

(3,069 posts)
10. It probably isn't
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 02:36 AM
Jan 2013

I waited tables for years, and had more than one incident like that, especially on Sundays. Our little joke talking about the church crowd was "10% is good enough for God...." I have gotten prayer cards as tips, have had customers ask me when I go to church if I work on Sunday (serving their pious asses because they want brunch!!!!), and the lady who says "You're the best waitress I ever had, bless you", and then leaves no tip at all. Hey lady.... my self esteem is fine, I need RENT!

Le Taz Hot

(22,271 posts)
25. Growing up, my mother was a waitress
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 04:00 AM
Jan 2013

and she HATED working on Sundays. Not because it was the Sabbath but because she hated working the church crowds. She said there was always a group of them, maybe 10-15 of them, who would sit at some large table, have her running back and forth for this and for 2 or 3 hours, then leave her a .35 cent tip. One good thing about those experiences: It taught me why tippiing your wait staff generously is so important . . . it literally IS the difference between making rent and not making rent.

justabob

(3,069 posts)
39. excuse me?
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 06:01 AM
Jan 2013

I have no idea what you are talking about. Nothing I posted is about cheating anyone. It was pointing out how unpleasant some of the church crowd is to wait on. How is that "systematically stealing" from anyone?

 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
44. I interpreted your "It probably isn't . . ."
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 07:12 AM
Jan 2013

And "more than one incident like that . . ." to mean that you had worked at restaurants that used deceptive practices (including a "tip" as part of the bill) to defraud their customers.

Rereading, I see you were probably commenting on the diner's nasty comment about tithing.

My mistake.

justabob

(3,069 posts)
50. thank you
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 07:43 AM
Jan 2013

I was speaking about incidents with ugly customers, especially churchgoers.

However, I have to admit every restaurant I have ever worked in from mom and pops to national chains (1991-2010) automatically add gratuity/tip/service charge to parties of 6 or 8 or more. You cannot avoid it, unless you keep to parties of five or less, sorry. And all those restaurants give an option to add more gratuity on top. It just is that way, and customers are presented a bill with that as well. If you do not understand you check or have a problem with it, ask your waiter or a manager. I repeatedly had to answer questions about auto-grat, additional tip etc.

There is a whole lot to be outraged about regarding the way restaurants do business, starting with the fact that waiters (except in a few states) do not make over 3.00 an hour in wages, and that hasn't changed in the whole 19 years I worked in the business (2.13/hr in Texas). Then we have to tip share with other support staff like bartenders and bussers. (based on SALES, not what you actually make via tips).

SomethingFishy

(4,876 posts)
99. Was that you who wrote the comment on the bill?
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 03:28 PM
Jan 2013

Because you and he seem to have the same attitude.

Maybe you should look into the story more. That bill you see, is one from a party of 20 people, that spent over $200 and who asked that the bill be split up in order to avoid the 18% tip that is automatically added for parties of 6 or more. They asked for the bill to be split but one guy paid all the bills.

In other words you are sitting here defending THIEVES by calling others thieves. They tried to steal from the waitress by splitting the bill and you come in here and call everyone but the thieves thieves. It's fucking brilliant really.

 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
110. Well, gee whiz, thanks for your bucket of information . . .
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 10:18 PM
Jan 2013

Which doesn't seem to be available to anyone else. A source, perhaps?

 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
53. It's not
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 08:01 AM
Jan 2013

Sunday lunch is the absolute worst for tips. You get stupid little notes like this all the time, or prayer cards, or whatever the Pricks of Pedantic Piety are serving up that day.

silverweb

(16,402 posts)
6. K&R
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 02:28 AM
Jan 2013

[font color="navy" face="Verdana"]I hope "Pastor" Bell's comment and signature end up all over the internet, including in his home town, and he's embarrassed, rebuked, shamed, and shunned by everyone for his penurious nastiness.

silverweb

(16,402 posts)
140. Yes, I got the update the day after I posted.
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 09:34 PM
Feb 2013

[font color="navy" face="Verdana"]Sucks that the waitress was fired and I hope she finds a better job soon.

bluestateguy

(44,173 posts)
7. God doesn't get any of your money (nor does He need it)
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 02:28 AM
Jan 2013

That 10% is going to a church to pay for operating costs, charitable activities, salaries, and um, other stuff.

 

NYC_SKP

(68,644 posts)
9. Could this be the "Soliciting Sex Acts from a Child" Pastor Wes Bell????
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 02:32 AM
Jan 2013

Just did a Google, is all:

Barry Caudle, 39, served as youth minister at Harvest Chapel from 2004-2010. He was arrested Tuesday on charges of soliciting a child for sex acts from an undercover online investigation that originated in Rock Island. Caudle was most recently a youth minister at Marengo First Assembly of God.

Harvest Chapel Lead Pastor Wes Bell said he believes the congregation is somewhat removed from the situation because Caudle has been gone for more than a year. Still, he expects there to be some questions from members.

“It’s shocking, surprising and sad ... really sad,” Bell said.

http://www.daily-chronicle.com/2011/11/02/authorites-yet-to-contact-ex-church-of-youth-minister/an43uq9/




proud2BlibKansan

(96,793 posts)
20. Looks like it to me.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 03:12 AM
Jan 2013

Honestly, we have no way of knowing if this is real. I just found it interesting enough to post.

gateley

(62,683 posts)
28. It definitely says Pastor Wes Bell -- how many of those could there be?
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 04:18 AM
Jan 2013

Edit: Corrected the "their", deleted the slam, and had to say hi to my pal NYC_SKP

NutmegYankee

(16,199 posts)
43. +2
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 07:04 AM
Jan 2013

I can't stand assholes like this guy. I always tip 20% (sometimes more) on the after tax amount.

I know some people vary it lower based on service, but I stopped doing that years ago. I figure there are plenty of other people who do, so I just give 20%, and sometimes 25% for excellent service.

cordelia

(2,174 posts)
46. Same here.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 07:24 AM
Jan 2013

If the service is a little less than I expect, I figure the server may just be having an off day like we all do from time to time.

I hope this isn't real. But if it is, the guy's an asshole.

 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
119. Same here.
Thu Jan 31, 2013, 10:33 AM
Jan 2013

This guy is a total f***tard. I know these people make less than minimum and work hard for their money. I always overtip. If I can't afford to do so, I don't eat out. Period.

unblock

(52,224 posts)
15. the fallacy of shifting percentages. "god" gets 10% of his INCOME; waitstaff gets 18% of one meal.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 02:44 AM
Jan 2013

if he had to spend 18% of his entire income on tips, he might have an argument, albeit with an absurd lifestyle.

assuming he even spends 10% of his income on eating out (which is still quite high) that's only 1.8% of income on tips. far less than he gives to "god".



though, really, one might ask, what is he getting FROM god in exchange for that 10%?
it sure isn't how to be a decent person.

 

alcibiades_mystery

(36,437 posts)
22. The waiter got the 18% anyway
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 03:24 AM
Jan 2013

It looks like an automatic service fee, probably because there was a party of six or more. The "tip" line says "Additional Tip," which is what usually shows up when the initial tip is mandatory. He can't just "cross it out."

The question is, what kind of place do you have where a meal for six runs approximately $35? I'd guess breakfast at a non-chain diner, with a bunch of people taking the $3.95 meal with bottomless coffee cups. But the dude, if this is real, is going to be billed off at $41.22 on his statement.

justabob

(3,069 posts)
27. I can explain the discrepency
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 04:17 AM
Jan 2013

A party of six+ can get split checks and the computer will do the math and add the grat. The top of the check where that info is located is cut off in the image, but I suspect this is a split check for he and his wife or kid or whoever. Also, if he's paying with a credit card he can call the company and dispute the charge and the restaurant will have to produce the chit he signed which shows he had no intent to pay the grat. The restaurant will then have to adjust the charge. It sucks, but it does happen.

 

MrModerate

(9,753 posts)
38. You're assuming it's a service fee . . .
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 05:30 AM
Jan 2013

For whatever the restaurant defines as a "large party."

But they don't call it that. They call it a "tip."

That's fraud, in my book, and — while I'd never leave the rude comment — I'd still scratch out the "tip" and raise holy hell with the card company if I got billed for it.

On the other hand, if they weren't trying to defraud me into paying a tip, I'd voluntarily leave one.

If it is a service fee, then someone needs to tell them to call it that.

justabob

(3,069 posts)
40. Ok, I see where you are coming from with the "systemic stealing" upthread
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 06:27 AM
Jan 2013

I know a lot of people really hate the auto-gratuity, but just about every restaurant out there has the same policy, and have had since I can remember. There are usually signs posted in the restaurant, and definitely printed in the menus/bar cards. It is the same whether they call it a service charge, tip, or gratuity, whether it is 15, 18, or 20%. I can see why you don't like the format of the credit card slip, with the sneaky line for additional tip, but really, if it is that big of a deal, ask the waiter to explain the charges and what is what on the slip. Most waiters will happily explain it to you.

 

alcibiades_mystery

(36,437 posts)
62. It's usually stated on the menu that parties of six or more will have an 18% fee
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 09:06 AM
Jan 2013

You can leave when you read that, and befopre you eat.

OldDem2012

(3,526 posts)
24. This is one of my big arguments with organized religion....
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 03:54 AM
Jan 2013

....God never sees a cent of that money, nor does he or she need it.

That food server probably worked his or her butt off to make sure that pompous ass enjoyed his meal.

Asshole.


 

MrSlayer

(22,143 posts)
26. Fucking moron doesn't realize the tip is already included.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 04:06 AM
Jan 2013

At least that's the way I see it. He declined adding an additional tip. The card is also charged by what is on the register, not on the slip. Those slips get tossed as quick as you toss the one they gave you.

justabob

(3,069 posts)
30. credit card chits are NOT thrown away
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 04:21 AM
Jan 2013

Restaurants keep all those signed slips. It is a huge pain in the ass, but customers call their credit card companies to dispute charges and the restaurant has to be able to produce the signed chit, or the cc company will demand a charge back for their card holder.

renate

(13,776 posts)
92. but doesn't it look like he even crossed out the 18% gratuity?
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 01:26 PM
Jan 2013

He wrote the cost of the meal in the "total" line, not the cost plus the gratuity. I think he really did pay no tip at all.

Warpy

(111,256 posts)
29. Hey ASSHOLE
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 04:19 AM
Jan 2013

god doesn't need a dime of your money but that server must eat and needs all the tips s/he gets.

Your god would think very poorly of your 10% to some rich church when you are letting his creatures go hungry.

Maybe you need to sit down and read that book you're so prideful of. It has a lot to say about how you treat other people, especially the poor.

AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)
33. Because god isn't slaving for your ass in an industry that has weaseled out of the minimum
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 05:17 AM
Jan 2013

wage, for starters.

quaker bill

(8,224 posts)
45. An old joke
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 07:22 AM
Jan 2013

has a punchline "well, I take all my money and throw it up towards "heaven" and whatever falls back to the ground I keep, I figure if God wants the money, he will keep it"

JHB

(37,160 posts)
47. I'd bet his collection plates don't get many checks payable to "God"...
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 07:27 AM
Jan 2013

...and if he did, it would become the topic for a sermon pretty darn quick.

King_Klonopin

(1,306 posts)
51. That is a perfect example of contempt for the poor
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 07:50 AM
Jan 2013

and classism
and conceit
and arrogance
and haughtiness
and assholery

all those qualities that Jesus espoused
in the Sermon on the Mount, I'm sure.

Does God work in that restaraunt, too ???

liberal N proud

(60,334 posts)
52. I bet the server earned every bit of that 18% with this asshole
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 07:57 AM
Jan 2013

They probably treated the server with little respect and demanded much.

Pool Hall Ace

(5,849 posts)
57. Back when I was flush with cash
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 08:15 AM
Jan 2013

I used to tip as high as 300%. I've never worked in the food service industry, but if I did, I would be absolutely fuming if I saw a wiseass note like this.

DainBramaged

(39,191 posts)
64. The damage to this guy's rep is more than enough of a tip
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 09:13 AM
Jan 2013

God's way of paying him back, with interest............

wildeyed

(11,243 posts)
67. People who don't tip shouldn't eat out.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 09:23 AM
Jan 2013

And that 10% doesn't go to god. It goes toward stuff like fancy community life centers that are mostly only used by church members. Just a tax free social club. Very little goes toward helping the poor and the community at large.

fifthoffive

(382 posts)
82. Two thumbs up
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 11:27 AM
Jan 2013

This is why I am appalled that churches are tax-exempt. If they want to do the proper accounting and have their charitable works tax-exempt, fine, but don't ask tax-payers to pay for your gymnasium.

Renew Deal

(81,859 posts)
75. Is it this guy?
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 10:08 AM
Jan 2013

Pastor Wes Bell

http://www.harvestchapel.net/about.html

He says it's not on Twitter. He says its Cleo Bell.

https://mobile.twitter.com/wesbell/tweets

Whichever Pastor Bell this is needs a new job. He doesn't understand his to do the one he has.

cecilfirefox

(784 posts)
79. Although the customer's outlandish response is stooopid I will say this-
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 10:41 AM
Jan 2013

I don't know why there is a 18% gratuity add-on on that receipt. Typically, and in good form I believe, you include large percentage tips on checks when the parties are big and there is only one check. I don't see why a bill that low should have that much of a tip put on it absent the volunteering of the customer. Personally, I do 15%- unless the restaurant, location, and culture of an area dictated otherwise.

Still, that's a little over the top- lol....

God, for what it's worth, I assure you cares far less about our material concerns then we do.

SomethingFishy

(4,876 posts)
103. The 18% was added because it was a party of 20 who tried to get out of the tip
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 03:45 PM
Jan 2013

by splitting the bill. They asked that the bill be split, then the "pastor" paid for all the bills. The bills totaled over $200..

All restaurants have a policy of including a tip for parties over 6 people exactly because of people like these.

You can see the story here:


http://www.reddit.com/user/gateflan

JHB

(37,160 posts)
130. So the pastor was paying everyone's bill with "God's money"?
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 07:40 AM
Feb 2013

God's tax-free money, at that. If these people needed a meal, wouldn't a food pantry have Ben a better use for the funds?

gollygee

(22,336 posts)
86. This would make a great internet meme poster
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 11:59 AM
Jan 2013

You know the ones that look like motivational posters?

Like this:

(above photo) CHRISTIANITY

(below photo) You're doing it wrong

 

Manifestor_of_Light

(21,046 posts)
94. Jesus is all about injustice. This fits his philosophy perfectly.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 02:22 PM
Jan 2013

MATTHEW

"For whosoever hath, to him shall be given, and he shall have more abundance: but whosoever hath not, from him shall be taken away even that he hath." Isn't this from the Republican Party platform? 13:12

Jesus will send his angels to gather up "all that offend" and they "shall cast them into a furnace of fire: there shall be wailing and gnashing of teeth." 13:41-42, 50

Jesus is criticized by the Pharisees for not washing his hands before eating. He defends himself by attacking them for not killing disobedient children according to the commandment: "He that curseth father or mother, let him die the death." (See Ex 21:15, Lev 20: 9, Dt 21:18-21) So, does Jesus think that children who curse their parents should be killed? It sure sounds like it. 15:4-7

"Every plant, which my heavenly Father hath not planted, shall be rooted up." 15:13

Jesus refuses to heal the Canaanite woman's possessed daughter, saying "it is not meet to take the children's bread, and to cast it to the dogs." 15:22-26

The ever-so-kind Jesus calls the Pharisees "hypocrites, wicked, and adulterous." Why? For asking for some evidence that Jesus is who he claims to be. 16:3-4

"Whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it."
If you want to stay alive, you must lose your life (kill yourself?) for Jesus' sake. 16:25

Jesus condemns the whole world, saying "Woe unto the world because of offenses." 18: 7

Jesus advises his followers to mutilate themselves by cutting off their hands and plucking out their eyes. He says it's better to be "maimed" than to suffer "everlasting fire." 18:8-9

In the parable of the unforgiving servant, the king threatens to enslave a man and his entire family to pay for a debt. This practice, which was common at the time, seems not to have bothered Jesus very much. The parable ends with this: "So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you." If you are cruel to others, God will be cruel to you. 18:23-35

"And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors." 18:34

Rich people don't go to heaven. For as Jesus says, "It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God. 19:23

Abandon your wife and children for Jesus and he'll give you a big reward. 19:29

The parable of the unfair, lying employer
The kingdom of heaven is like a business that hires workers, paying each the same wage (one penny). Some work 12 hours for the penny; others 9, 6, or 3 hours; and others for only one hour. If one of the 12-hour workers complains about it, his boss says, "Hey, didn't you agree to work all day for a penny? What are you complaining about?

From this parable, David Barton (and the Republicans) claim that Jesus was against the minimum wage.

But the employer didn't say he'd pay each of the workers a penny; he said he'd pay them "whatsoever is right" (vv.4,7). Is it right for one employee to be paid twelve times as much as another when both are doing the same type of work? 20:1-15

Initech

(100,072 posts)
100. He would be wise not to set foot in that restaurant again.
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 03:28 PM
Jan 2013

First rule of the streets: don't fuck with people who serve you food.

rjj621

(103 posts)
101. Sad
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 03:38 PM
Jan 2013

I saw this news story and it's sadly not a surprise. I highly doubt that pastor has ever worked as a waiter or in the service industry, I didn't find it to be a difficult job during my years as waiter or bartender but it's not as easy as most assume, especially when dealing with people who think you're worthless because of your current job. As a waiter I was paid 2.15 an hour in Virginia and 5.50 as a bartender which covered the taxes I paid on tips so my checks were often for zero dollars. So, needless to say I lived entirely on my tips.

In a way I would love to see everyone spend some time as a server in a restaurant so they understand. For me to tip less than 20% the server must be rude and DIRECTLY at fault for my dining experience being horrible. Not the kitchen cooking it wrong, or I don't like it, or the screaming baby that should have been taken outside 10 minutes ago...etc.

derby378

(30,252 posts)
111. Remind me to give 0% to this jerk's church
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 10:20 PM
Jan 2013

If that's the kind of attitude they foster, let 'em shop at the supermarket like the rest of us and be done with it.

 

pauldemmd195j

(36 posts)
114. I'm suspecting this receipt is fake
Wed Jan 30, 2013, 10:25 PM
Jan 2013

However, it wouldn't surprise me if it was genuine. Screw the idiot who wrote that bs. Typical RW Christian prick.

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