Would your spouse, partner, boyfriend or girlfriend forgive you for doing what Weiner has done?

[trumad]

I think my wife would forgive me once---but I do not that even with forgiveness she would kick my ass for a very very long time.

A second time?---not a fucking chance.

[liberal N proud]

1. My wife would make my life a living hell

And it would be til death do us part hell.

[trumad]

3. Yeah I know...

Hell---I come home late with some buddies and the silent treatment is murder.

[Happyhippychick]

2. I wouldn't drag my husband onto a podium to profess his love for me.

That's the worst part, the spouses seem to feel they have no choice.

[trumad]

5. You have a podium?

cool

[Happyhippychick]

8. Now you!

[Agschmid]

35. Huma was not at the resignation...

But she does seen to have been at all the others (it's weird to even have to say "others&quot

[nessa]

4. He would forgive me, but he might not to be with me any more...

Especially if it was an ongoing public thing, especially if I was not willing to give up a public life and I continued to cause the whole world to ask "why is he staying with her?"

[sakabatou]

6. Not a bit.

[bunnies]

7. I have no idea.

Id never put him in that situation.

[trumad]

9. What if he put you in that situation?

Not saying he would...

[bunnies]

12. If I were her and he were him...

I'd throw his ass right out the door. No way I'd be humiliated publicly like that.

[loli phabay]

10. depends on whether i had permission or not, i still dont know if weiner had permission

[frylock]

20. they went to therapy..

does that sound like she's cool with it?

[loli phabay]

27. until she rells us then i dont know, either way.

Therapy could be for any aspect of their relationship, we just dont know.

On edit, for all we know the therapy may have been for her and she accepts who and what he is, mayby his sex drive is just more intense than hers and he has kinks, through the therapy she accepts him being that way. We just dont know, yet eberyone assumes that the therapy was to try to fix him and change his sexual desires.

[Savannahmann]

11. Oh I may find forgiveness.

But I'd be missing a small portion of my reproductive system in the process.

[MrSlayer]

13. Probably not.

She'd be salty that I was sending pics to people other than her. And probably insulted that what we give each other isn't enough for me.

But everyone is different. Some women are into that sort of thing and some will Bobbit you for it.

[bunnies]

43. salty

I love it used that way. Havent heard it before.

[arely staircase]

14. I couldn't look my partner in the face if I got caught doing some skeevy shit like that

I think I might have to just disappear. that's what gets me about weiner is the utter shamelessness of him.

[Ilsa]

32. Exactly. Like "everybody does it." Well, everybody

isn't doing it.

I'd be dropped fast if I did something like this to my husband, twice.

[geek tragedy]

15. Mutually, the answer would be no. nt

[Puglover]

16. Frankly I would not be at all surprized to find

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out that Huma and Weiner had an arrangement. A lot of people style their marriages to suite their needs. What does anyone actually think they would step to the podium and actually say that? Our stick up the ass society would collectively pass out from the vapors.
My partner has had phone sex since we have been together. My reaction. "Was it fun?"

I really like being gay and in a male male relationship. I am not speaking for all men or all gay men but for my partner and I sex is not the barometer of our commitment to each other. And no, we do not have an open relationship. At the get go we made a promise not to be monogamous but to always be honest with each other about what we were doing. And for 16 years it has worked just fine with no drama.

[frylock]

21. she sez they went to therapy..

do people go to therapy if this sort of thing is arranged?

[Puglover]

25. As I said, do you really think she would say

"Anthony and I have an arrangement, he play on the phone as long as it doesn't go any further." Please that bit of honesty would kill any career aspirations a lot faster then the groveling mea culpas.

[frylock]

33. i'll go by what she said and leave you to speculate or read between the lines..

“Our marriage, like many others, had its ups and downs,” said Abedin, wearing a tight smile, as she faced a media horde. “It took a lot of work and a whole lot of therapy . . . but I made the decision to stay in this marriage.”

: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/election/weiner-admits-racy-web-chats-article-1.1406865#ixzz2a0bqcVAe

[Puglover]

38. What part of "I would'nt be surprised" blew right past you. I didn't say "I think or I'll bet that..

I couldn't give two shits about either of these two. I'm not from NY so what I think doesn't mean squat. Frankly it's another idiotic distraction. Worthy of the National Enquirer.

Trumad asked a question and I tried to answer it in the context of my relationship which isn't built on such a simplistic bullcrap foundation.

And you know what you can do with your snark.

[frylock]

40. i really couldn't give two shits myself..

being about the furthest thing from a prude that I can imagine. what i'm having difficulty with understanding is the circling of wagons around this shitbag lying douche. the guy is a blowhard that used to love to get his face on the sunday morning teevee circle jerk. he doesn't have any legislation with his name attached, progressive or otherwise. he didn't really do shit during his time in congress other than shamelessly self promote his lying ass. but he's a democrat, so people are going to go to the mat for him. peace out.

[Puglover]

42. And I guess I think

"and he is different from other narcissistic douche bag politicians how?" Or how many other idiot men that can't keep their libido in check. Even given the huge stakes that he was involved with.

My point is tweeting a dick pic and engaging in sophomoric sex talk is (at least to me) a big meh. Lying to your partner about it is another matter entirely and much more difficult to recover from Frankly it would be easier if they DID have an arrangement.

[Sen. Walter Sobchak]

17. If she wasn't publicly embarrassed in the process... probably

Given I got annoyed with her for posting and tagging a shirtless picture of me on facebook she would probably find the hypocrisy hilarious.

But... if it got around I was doing that behind her back, they would never find my body.

[Coyotl]

18. Better question, Do they want you to do what he did?

And send them to themselves of course.

And, if the relationship ends, how do you get those pictures back?

[vankuria]

19. I couldn't imagine

being in Huma's place and the fact that he's in the public eye would only make it worse. He's already been caught doing this and had to step down from a promising career and now he's out there again making a fool of himself while trying to regain his political momentum. What Anthony Wiener does is not only a betrayal to his wife and the people he serves (or will serve), but it is down right creepy. He obviously has some issues with control and can't seem to stop doing this. How many times does he have to embarrass his wife before she say's enough!

If I or my husband engaged in this type of behavior, trust would be gone in our marriage and that's important to us, not sure we could go on.

[cherokeeprogressive]

22. For what Weiner's done with at least 7 different women? Absofuckinglutely not. n/t

[rurallib]

23. maybe in 30 or 40 years.

[backscatter712]

24. Flip the genders...

If Anthony Weiner was a woman, would her husband stand behind her the way that Huma Abedin did?

[Puzzledtraveller]

26. Nope

[etherealtruth]

28. Possibly the first time

... after that I would have to assume that he understood the risks , consequences pain that his actions caused

[DCBob]

29. my wife? not a chance.

I would be toast.

[FarCenter]

30. Forgive? Not a chance. I'd hear about it forever.

[Ilsa]

31. "Fool me once..." certainly not for a second episode. nt

[Nye Bevan]

34. Maybe if I took her to a nice dinner at the Olive Garden (nt)

[taterguy]

41. Your wife has rotten taste

Obviously

[Horse with no Name]

36. He needs to go deal with his issues

a public stage isn't the place to do it.

[pennylane100]

37. I think that there is a lot more than forgivieness involved.

If my spouse cheated on me, possible I would forgive him, especially iif it were a brief one night affair. However the Weiner situation is a little different.

I have not knowledge or understanding why he would need to do the things he did. I do not know if it is a result of some kind of psychological problems. If so, I would possible be able to forgive him. However I am too repulsed by his actions to ever have him in my life.

[LadyHawkAZ]

39. It wouldn't be a harm/forgiveness issue

because nothing has happened that needs forgiving. Either it's accepted or or they get kicked to the curb, this is all discussed and agreed to at the beginning of my relationships. People who are so insecure/possessive that they can't handle no-contact chats, nevermind full-contact sex, are not welcome in my life.

[Fla_Democrat]

44. I'm not dumb enough to try and find out.

I like my sleep too much. Hard to get rested keeping one eye open all the time,

[rustydog]

45. So? My wife is not Wiener's wife

If she choses to forgive him, that is up to her, not you, not me, not my wife, just her and her alone.