Public humiliation or sound parenting?

[Decaffeinated]

http://www.ebay.com.au/itm/4-X-one-direction-tickets-sydney-Friday-25th-October-/171129708772

THIS AUCTION IS FOR ALL 4 ONE DIRECTION TICKETS IN SYDNEY OCTOBER 25th. You can thank my daughters self righteous and lippy attitude for their sale. See sweety? And you thought I was bluffing. I hope the scowl on your bitchy little friends faces when you tell them that your dad and i revoked the gift we were giving you all reminds you that your PARENTS are the ones that deserve love and respect more than anyone. And your silly little pack mentality of taking your parents for fools is one sadly mistaken. Anyhow. Your loss someone else's gain who deserves them! THE TICKETS ARE SEATED IN ROW O section 57. REMEMBER AUCTION IS FOR ALL 4 TICKETS and will be sent registered post



...OH YOUR FRIENDS THOUGHT THAT A FEW PRANKS CALLS WOULD PUT ME OFF SELLING THE GIFT WE BOUGHT FOR THEM for YOUR BIRTHDAY because YOU all LIED to us about sleep overs so you could hang like little trollops at an older guys HOUSE????? Pffft!! I find it HIGHLY amusing that you girls think you invented this stuff. Tricks like this on OUR parents is how HALF of you were conceived .....And why a lot of your friends DONT have an address to send that Fathers day card to!!! I'm not your friend. I'm your MOTHER. And I am here to give you the boundaries that YOU NEED to become a functional responsible adult. You may hate me now..... But I don't care. Its my job to raise a responsible adult..not nuture bad habits in my teen age child
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Glad to see some proper parenting... I'm sure someone will think that this is too much and damaging to a young girls young ego...

[Brickbat]

1. One of the oldest sales tricks in the book.

Make your product stand out by giving it a history.

[Decaffeinated]

2. Maybe...

Either way... it's entertaining...

[el_bryanto]

3. "I don't know if I'm that excited to see a concert, but a chance to humiliate a teenage girl?

I'm sold!"

Bryant

[Johonny]

16. If it sells the tickets then its a win

How do I know they even have a daughter Advertising it still works!

[Brickbat]

18. Exactly -- and people are posting the link all over the place. Buzz 101.

[NOLALady]

4. Way to go, Mom!

[The Magistrate]

5. Call Your Daughter A Trollop, Sir --- You Are An Ass-Hole, And Not Competent To Raise A Goldfish

[NYC_SKP]

9. .

Yes, Sir. Well said!

I was trying to be a bit more kind in my reply, below, but you probably nailed it in a fashion more in keeping with the general mood of the household.

Cheers.

[The Magistrate]

11. The Actual Elements Of the Situation, Sir, As Claimed, Anyway

Are that the daughter and friends lied about sleep-overs to get space to go to a party house, where at minimum drink and sexual activity were probable.

I would certainly do something over a child of mine doing that, and canceling a promised trip might well be my response, if such a lever were available. And I would certain give a lecture which I would like to think would still be remembered years later.

But I would not employ terms of sexualized denigration towards my child, not in private and certainly not in public. Indeed, if I saw someone addressing a teenage girl in these terms in public I would intervene, and 'she's my kid' would not be sufficient to back me off.

Taking the account at face value ( and a healthy space must be left for the possibility the whole thing is a hoax ), I would consider it a window into a fairly toxic family environment. It seems pretty clear the parent has no respect for the child, and where that is the case, the parent can hardly expect respect from the child.

[NYC_SKP]

12. Toxic, indeed, Sir. The entire household needs adult supervision, at a minimum.

As no adults are in evidence.

[gollygee]

19. Agreed

People shouldn't call their kids nasty names. What we tell our kids becomes their inner voice.

[kcr]

21. Wish I could rec this

[NYC_SKP]

6. Just a *little* too much self-satisfaction in the tone of that write-up, IMO.

Sometimes there's a mother-daughter competition that ain't healthy.

And, I HAVE to wonder where the girl learned to be "self righteous and lippy"....

Sounds like a nasty household and I always look to the parents first.

I think the whole mess is evidence of dysfunction.

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[Mariana]

17. Kids can easily learn to be self-righteous and lippy

at school, and/or from their friends, even if their parents never exhibit such behavior.

I don't think that's the case here, though. This parent is a nasty piece of work.

[handmade34]

7. NOT sound or proper parenting!!

a good parent does not respond to disrespect by calling a child out publicly...

fine to sell (or otherwise not allow the girls to use) the tickets but the rest is (in my not so humble opinion) disgusting!!

No wonder there is so much dysfunction and disrespect in society today...

[virgogal]

8. I raised six. I'd get rid of the tickets but the publicity is way too much.

[Gormy Cuss]

22. Yep.

Public shaming of the daughter and her friends especially using terms like trollop and asshole seems like bad parenting.

[liberal_at_heart]

23. I agree. If the kid is lying and staying the night the at someone's house the parents do even

know about the kid deserves to lose the tickets. But it sounds like this parent needs to get control of themselves. There have been many times when my daughter especially has made me so angry I have wanted to rant like this. But I hold my tongue and wait until my anger is under control and I go and have a rational talk with her tell her what her punishment is. We are the adults. Our brains are fully formed and we have knowledge, skills, and life experience that is suppose to help us act more rationally than children do. And calling her and her friends trollops borders on verbal abuse in my opinion.

[RevStPatrick]

10. Mom sounds like Alec Baldwin...

See almost had it right.
Calling her daughter and her friends names crossed the line.

[DLevine]

13. Wow. Mom needs a time-out, and some good parenting skills.

She is clueless.

[Precisely]

14. Protection from schlock pop

It's a public service

[MineralMan]

15. +5 points for using "trollop" in a sentence.

-25 points for public daughter humiliation.

[seveneyes]

20. Some of both

No need to be such public jerks about it. Just yank the tickets and be done with it.

[Shrike47]

24. Tickets are up to $710 Australian. Wonder if that's over face price?

Good publicity draw, bad parenting. Just sell the tickets and ground the kid if you think that's appropriate. (In my house, a gift given cannot be rescinded. So the tickets would not be the parents' to sell, although the recipient could still be grounded and not allowed to use them.)

[Sheldon Cooper]

25. Proper parenting? You gotta be kidding me.

Those parents are Assholes, with a capitol A. Public humiliation is a nasty tool used by nasty people.

[ecstatic]

26. In general, I think people should refrain from writing or sending bitter and angry messages

All it does is give the recipient the upper hand (because the writer looks erratic, unhinged). I think the mom humiliated herself more than the child. She should have just taken back the tickets and called it a day.

[petronius]

27. Skillful marketing perhaps, but utterly atrocious parenting (if true)... nt