"Why Is It Still So Taboo For a Woman To Date A Shorter Man?"

[Jamaal510]

More: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-life/10180288/Why-is-it-still-so-taboo-for-a-woman-to-date-a-shorter-man.html

At just under 5ft 10in, I consider myself a tall woman. The average male in England is 5ft 10in, while the typical female is a mere 5ft 5ins, so you could say I’m well over average height for my gender. What’s worse, according to statistics, half the men in the country are my height or shorter. When it comes to dating, that makes the chances of finding a potential boyfriend slimmer than most – if, like me, you care about finding a man who's taller than you.

But why does height even matter? Surely I should be able to embrace the possibility of having a boyfriend who is shorter than me? And if I can't, why can't I?

A long long time ago, when men and women were considered to have very specific male and female "duties" – to be a hunter-gatherer (men), and to look after the kids (women), you could say it was almost necessary for the men to be bigger so they were able to successfully carry out said duties.

[Squinch]

1. It isn't.

[Gormy Cuss]

7. +1 n/t

[Luminous Animal]

9. My daughter is 6'2", her boyfriend is 5'7". Not a day goes by where some

stranger makes an insensitive comment about their height difference.

[Squinch]

12. I'm tall. I have dated many men who are shorter than I am. There ARE assholes out there, but that's

their problem.

[Luminous Animal]

33. If course it is their problem. Part of the point is societal expectations.

And it is a largely unexamined expectation that straight women be shorter than their mate.

[redqueen]

56. I had random guys talk shit about my shorter dates.

No idea why they thought their opinion was important.

[snooper2]

95. what year did this happen in?

[bettyellen]

97. yep, I had this happen. I was not polite in my response, LOL.

[redqueen]

98. I was too shocked to know what to say.

Why would men think that's a good idea?

[dawg]

136. They think they are "dominant" since they are taller and perhaps should try to steal you ...

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from the shorter man. (Or at least try and shame you for dating a non-dominant male.)

At least, that's my theory. As a smaller guy myself, I do think short people, especially short men, get unfair treatment from time to time. It's nothing like the crap that women and ethnic minorities have to put up with, but it isn't just imagination or "lack of confidence" either.

[redqueen]

137. Yeah, in one instance that's exactly what they said,

but surely that can't be the real reason, can it? I mean, I'm out with the short guy. I obviously like the short guy. Is bullying the guy I like seriously supposed to make me want to ditch him for a bully? Seriously? WTF are these people thinking?

Ok, now I've worked it out. They're just not very good at thinking.

[dawg]

138. People can be very dog-like in their attempts to be dominant.

I have seen tall men who were very aggressive towards people smaller than them, and I have seen smaller men who were very aggressive to every damn body (to compensate for their perceived lack of dominance, I suppose).

A well adjusted man (tall or short) isn't going to exhibit any of this behavior, of course.

But how many of us can truly say that we're "well adjusted"?

[RobinA]

2. It's Only

as taboo as you make it.

[treestar]

3. Just one of the little "rules" to make sure the woman is weaker

Men are taller on average and so pairing off we are encouraged for the man to be the taller. I guess so he's always, at least within the couple, the stronger. Along with the equally illogical "rule" the woman must be the younger of the two, even if by just a year or two.

[HERVEPA]

31. Don't think so. Many women just won't date shorter men.

who made them make sure women are weaker.

[treestar]

80. Probably goes both ways.

There are probably some men who won't violate the "rule," too.

[HERVEPA]

100. Oh, definitely.

Wouldn't bother me, but I know guys who it would bother.

[stevenleser]

4. Taboo is far too strong of a word IMHO. Undesirable for most? Sure. Not taboo. nt

[LuvNewcastle]

106. Right. It's not even nearly as strong as a taboo.

Incest is a taboo. People don't take their family (at least in most places) out on romantic dates like short men take out taller women. A taboo is something people have to hide from society if they do it. Breaking a taboo is usually some immoral and/or illegal activity.

[stevenleser]

124. That was probably a deliberately sensationalized headline by UK Telegraph

"Women don't prefer short men" probably wouldn't have elicited as much interest.

[JI7]

5. i didn't know it was

[HereSince1628]

6. Better to have loved a short, than never to have loved "a t all"

[redqueen]

57. Nice.

[Skittles]

8. it isn't

only weenies thing that way

[pink-o]

10. I'm a 6'1" woman. If that were my taboo, I'd pretty well never date anyone

And although I prefer men closer to my height, I'd throw every last bloke over for 5'6" Jon Stewart if he wasn't already married with 2 kids.

Something tells me height wasn't a consideration for his wife Tracy either!

[Squinch]

14. Not if I got there first!

[LeftyMom]

11. Because Peter Dinklage won't return my calls?

[redqueen]

58. Hell yes.

[BainsBane]

64. I like him too

[Squinch]

143. Right?

[madrchsod]

13. never thought about this..but

i think you are making to much out of this. if one meets someone they feel they could have a relationship with who cares what other people think.

[WillowTree]

15. I didn't know it was.

[Bonobo]

16. Many women are downright nasty and cruel to short men

Many will not date men under 6 feet. It is their version of "fat chicks".

https://twitter.com/expsnghghtsm

[cyberswede]

17. And many women don't give a shit.

I'm 6' tall, btw. My husband isn't taller than I am. (But my 13 y.o. son is!)

[Bonobo]

20. Yup, that's the corollary of "many do". nt

[TexasProgresive]

82. I tell kids i know

"no matter how tall you are, you are not allowed to look down on your mom."

[WillowTree]

19. They're not worth concerning onesself about.

Any more than the men who can be nasty and cruel to "fat chicks". Life's just way too short to waste on such tiny, shallow people.

[R. Daneel Olivaw]

26. Yep. Lot's of dumb shallow people out there: pretty on the outside, dark and twisted within.

Pay them no mind.

[tazkcmo]

83. Saw lots of ugly '''pretty" people as a bartender

One of the beautiful people saddle up to the bar, flash that perfect smile and start talking to reveal the black hole where their soul used to be thus transforming them into a hideously malformed being. Happened every night. Then the "fat chick" arrives, raising the average intelligence at the bar and doubling the humor quotient, makes my night and gets a few free shots just because she's so hot! Happened all the time.

[LuvNewcastle]

109. I used to be a bartender, and I know exactly what you mean.

It was striking to me how many hopelessly broken pretty people were out there. The whole package -- looks, brains, and a sense of humor -- is a very rare thing. Believe it or not, people with the whole package sometimes have trouble finding love because people are so intimidated by them. The world can be a very ugly place.

[Matariki]

24. You're using TWITTER to back up your statement?

weird.

[Bonobo]

46. The largest social website in the world is not a good example of a social phenomena?

Weird.

[Matariki]

50. It's not a particularly reliable way to back up your generalization of women, no.

[Bonobo]

52. I said "Many women" not all women or even "most women"

How much more careful could I be and still try to introduce something that many men experience?

[Matariki]

55. What does that even mean then?

"Many women"? Three or four you know or something?

What does it prove? What point are you trying to make? Wouldn't "some women" have been clearer and more accurate?

[Bonobo]

63. Some, many

I think there's only a small difference.

From my perspective, it is many. The amount on that Twitter could be described as either "some" or "many".

The point? The point is that it is an issue that men face and this OP is about the short men/tall women issue.

I really don't see your objection to my bringing this up. It is reality for many men.

[Gravitycollapse]

25. Many men are downright nasty and cruel to short men.

[Bonobo]

27. I don't understand that line of argument

Why is it that when men bring up an issue that discusses any difficulty in being a man that someone always says "Well MEN do that to other MEN!"

Does that make it any less difficult for the victims?

"Millions of men die in wars" > "Well, who sends them!?"
"Millions of men are incarcerated" > "The Judicial system is Patriarchy!"
"More men are victims of violence" > "It is MEN who are committing the violence"
"Men are discriminated against for being short." > "Men do that to other men!"
Etc.

I don't understand the logic of that counterargument unless it is the proposition that if victims and perpetrators both have penises than the effect of being victimized is somehow mitigated.

[Gravitycollapse]

37. That's a nice little rant you have there. Too bad it's the opposite of my point.

Which was actually to point out that short men are nearly universally abject.

[Bonobo]

42. Sorry if I misunderstood your point. nt

[lumberjack_jeff]

41. It's actually pretty simple.

Men suck, so they get what they deserve.

But don't call it sexism, because the belief that one gender is inferior to the other is sexism only half the time.

[tblue]

62. Those men don't need them anyway.

Height is a matter of personal preference, like other attrubutes. You can't make someone feel attracted to something that doesn't appeal to them. But you can't make someone not like something that appeals to them either.

There's nothing less appealing than criticizing a person for something they can't control.

[brettdale]

68. agree 100%

Im five foot 3. Some of the comments I have heard, are amazing.

[Skittles]

76. good way to weed out the superificial folk

[CTyankee]

142. My first husband was about my height. I didn't marry him for his height and I didn't divorce him

for his height.

I am now married to a taller man. His height had nothing to do with my choosing to marry him. How he treated me and how much in synch he was with me and my values was why I married him. It just boils down to that.

[Warpy]

18. Well, women did the gathering and supplied 90% of the calories

Meat didn't happen all that often and most of what men did was practice with their gear for the next hunt--or war.

Most mammal males are larger because they're expected to fight each other to ensure only the best get to pass their genes down. Winning a fight isn't by brawn alone so it mostly works.

Trying to explain why males are taller and with heavier bone structure by the tribal habits of evolved human beings is silly and untrue.

ETA: I should mention that I'm dead average for a woman, 5'6" Most of the guys I've dated have been around my height as well as my age. An aversion to high heeled shoes partially explains it.

[HipChick]

21. It's not taboo...I just don't care for short dudes

[Gravitycollapse]

23. Have you ever stopped and asked yourself why you hold such a preference?

[HipChick]

30. Same preference I might have for green eyes over blue..

[Gravitycollapse]

34. That doesn't explain the preference. It just defers explanation.

[kwassa]

36. Excellent.

[Donald Ian Rankin]

66. De gustibus non est disputandam

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Not much more one can say than that, I think.

[stevenleser]

92. It may come down to that, but there might be more at play here.

I think there is a good possibility that something about how we raise girls tends to make those that are hetero want 'this' and when I say 'this' I mean a tall, big man.

I think that is problematic from a number of perspectives. I'm 5' 10" so I am generally not negatively personally affected by this in terms of dating, but there is a point, if the species continues getting taller because of this kind of selection, that it could go beyond what our muscle-skeletal and cardio-vascular infrastructure can successfully deal with. One only has to look at what human interference in the breeding of dogs has done to certain breeds.

It's also problematic as it may be indicative of raising women to want to be protected rather than as fully confident and actualized beings.

[Zorra]

118. Amen. Exactly. nt

[JI7]

39. how about brown eyes ?

[alcibiades_mystery]

90. Understated

(And very much to the point)

[snooper2]

96. Just like saying most redheads are hot!

some aren't but the majority are

[Squinch]

140. Yes. We are.

[liberal_at_heart]

48. I think one of the problems with dating preferences is that you could be missing out on

someone great. We live in a culture where some people will only date super attractive people. How do these people know their true partner in life is going to be super attractive? Maybe their true partner is just average looking and they miss out on being with their true partner because of their dating preference.

[The2ndWheel]

69. How is dating preference a problem?

Maybe the true partner of someone that's gay is someone that's straight. Maybe the true partner of someone that's straight is someone that's gay. Maybe the true partner of a woman is the man she's with through an arranged marriage. Who knows?

Personal choice in who you spend your time with. Where is the problem in that? Isn't that the whole point of being free to choose whatever? If you prefer X, then possibly missing out on Y doesn't mean much to you. Maybe they're finding everything they want in their preference.

[liberal_at_heart]

107. sorry but your post was so ridiculous I laughed out loud when I read it. First of all being gay

is not a preference just like it is not a chosen lifestyle as conservatives call it. Secondly, choosing to date someone based on height, weight, skin color, eye color, or any other physical appearance is a choice and one we can change. The trouble with choosing someone to date based on physical appearance is that you miss out on choosing someone based on character. Martin Luther King Jr. said he hoped for a day when people would be judged for the content of their character and not the color of their skin. Whether it is skin color, eye color, weight, or height if people take the time to look at people for who they are, their personality, then they might be surprised to find that they find someone attractive that they would not have found attractive simply by looking at them. And it is that character, that personality that truly bonds people, not their looks.

[The2ndWheel]

111. Glad I could help

First of all being gay is not a preference just like it is not a chosen lifestyle as conservatives call it.

I was saying that maybe their true partner in life may not be gay/straight, because you brought up the "true partner" thing. Just as your true partner may not be super attractive, perhaps someone's true partner isn't of the same sexual orientation. Who's to say?

Secondly, choosing to date someone based on height, weight, skin color, eye color, or any other physical appearance is a choice and one we can change. The trouble with choosing someone to date based on physical appearance is that you miss out on choosing someone based on character. Martin Luther King Jr. said he hoped for a day when people would be judged for the content of their character and not the color of their skin. Whether it is skin color, eye color, weight, or height if people take the time to look at people for who they are, their personality, then they might be surprised to find that they find someone attractive that they would not have found attractive simply by looking at them. And it is that character, that personality that truly bonds people, not their looks.

Not necessarily. You might miss out on choosing someone based on character, or you might not. If someone wants to date someone based on their physical appearance, who cares? It's their own business. If someone wants to date someone based on their character, who cares? It's their own business. There's no right or wrong involved. It's dating.

I'd also say you might be stretching that MLK phrase just a little bit too far. Again, personal preference in dating, not social injustice.

[treestar]

81. Agreed; all of those shallow things are probably silly

for both sexes. Get to know the person. Focusing on a trait like that is likely to mean they will project qualities onto the person that the person doesn't have.

[Vashta Nerada]

22. It's a nightmare for this short guy to find a girl

Who wants to date a short guy in a college town. I'm 5'5" tall and apparently that's too short.

[Bonobo]

29. Yup, but if you say that, you are a "whiner" or a "poor men" type, I guess. nt

[Vashta Nerada]

32. You're exactly right.

[hfojvt]

131. perhaps though it is not ALL about height

It's not like I had a lot of luck dating as a near six footer.

I know biology does not work that way, but sometimes I would wish I was 5'8" or something. If my same weight was on a shorter frame, then maybe I would not always be known as "the skinny guy", maybe I would not look like a strong wind would blow me over.

I have a co-worker who is perhaps 5' 5" and he is so good looking and so well-proportioned that his height doesn't slow him down at all. Well, at least he has kids from three different women, so he's doing okay.

[FreeState]

45. Im shorter by half an inch ;)

And my boyfriend is two inches shorter than me - he is the only guy I have dated that was under 5' 11. I've never really even given my height any thought when it came to dating. But maybe thats because I'm short?!

[Courtesy Flush]

28. It's a self imposed taboo. Date anybody you like.

Here's a picture of me and my wife -- taken exactly 30 years and five months ago. No, she wasn't in heels.

[JI7]

38. yup, self imposed

nice pic , very 80s .

[eridani]

85. His father in law gave him a stepladder as a wedding present

How about that wry British humor?

[Dash87]

35. It's a nonsensical cultural rule.

Like with most cultural rules, there's no reason for it and it's silly.

[kwassa]

40. It is not a taboo, it is simply a prejudice.

There are all types of dating prejudices in this world, this is simply one more of them. Weight, height, color, politics, religious belief, wealth, social class, neighborhood, job title, marriage track record, etc.

[Gormy Cuss]

130. Yep.

Once you define it as a prejudice (or the softer term, stereotype) it's easier to understand that it's a foolish qualifier.

[UTUSN]

43. thats what we want to know!1 nt

[Meandyou]

44. I know guys that felt uncomfortable being shorter than their partner

I think it boils down to feeling emasculated.

[Shrike47]

47. Any man shorter than me buys his clothes in the 'boy's department.

[Bonobo]

54. And has a near impossible time finding a partner I bet.

Think about that.

[Chan790]

49. The heart wants what it wants.

To call a culturalized personal preference a bias is silly. We all have them, some of us are just more willing to admit them.

[Gravitycollapse]

60. Are you denying that personal preferences can also reflect bias?

[seveneyes]

88. Everything in nature has a bias

[Chan790]

89. I'm saying one is not the target of bigotry if someone doesn't want to date you.

Even if the basis of your supposed lack-of-attractiveness is a cultural bias or personal preference of the people you want to date. Nobody has an inalienable right to companionship or getting laid.

More often though, the cause of their universal undesirability has less to do with with what they think is wrong with them in terms of cultural bias...and more that nobody wants to listen to them whine and if they're going to whine "Why don't women want to date short men? Oh woe is me! I'm sad so sad." then when that problem is rectified for them, they're going to find new cause of lament.

[Xyzse]

123. Agreed.

[Squinch]

144. + eleventy thousand.

[redqueen]

51. It's not, some people are just shallow and superficial. nt

[Tx4obama]

53. I am a FIVE FOOT tall woman, I've never dated a man shorter than me...

... probably because there aren't many

[laundry_queen]

70. ha. I'm 5'3.5"

and the last time I dated someone shorter than me was 7th grade. He was a whole foot shorter than me too. Same guy is now over 6 feet, LOL. No, we didn't last, but it wasn't because of the height thing.

I have no preference for height. If someone is shorter than me, but is nice and we have the same interests and we care about each other...then it seems pretty stupid to have height be a deciding factor. I don't get people like that.

[redqueen]

99. That's how short I am too but I dated shorter guys several times.

The last time was in my 20's.

I also hit on a couple of shorter guys in HS and also in my 20's and got shot down, so if not for those rejections I'd have dated even more shorter guys.

[a la izquierda]

79. Me too, I'm 5'1"

I don't think I've dated someone shorter than me ever.

[LadyHawkAZ]

59. Meh.

I've dated several men shorter than me. Never bothered me.

[Tikki]

61. Not me...I'll notice a man 5'9" and under before any man taller...

I really feel more comfortable around guys my height or shorter.
I am exactly the same height as Mr. Tikki.


Tikki

[BainsBane]

65. It's not

Think of all the tall actresses and models with shorter husbands and boyfriends. It's quite common.

[Tikki]

67. Super cute couple…Seth Green and his wife Clare Grant..

Tikki

[brettdale]

71. All these posts prove the OP point

It would appear a short guy can get an attractive woman if he is a film star.

[Tikki]

73. The post before mine talked about stars of different height getting married…do you want me to..

post my wedding picture and my sister-in-law's wedding pictures?


Tikki

[Tikki]

146. Here..we were both 5'7"…prob a bit shorter 47 years later...

...old people shrink a bit…



The Tikkis

[JI7]

74. i have seen non famous guys with taller girlfriends/wives and at the very least

most don't have trouble finding a date.

[LuvNewcastle]

117. Seth Green is a hot little firecracker.

He's cute, funny as hell, and probably rich to boot. Any straight woman or gay man would be out of their mind to turn up their nose at him.

[Tikki]

125. Yes he is…I have had a secret crush on him since he became an adult*..

He and his wife sound perfect for each other…so much in common.

I always wish any couple a life of happiness together…

Tikki
*he has been acting since he was six years old..

[zazen]

72. I've known way more men who won't date taller women

than short men who don't get dates.

Now, do those short men get dates with those women who are the most conventionally attractive? I don't know.

I think there are millions of wonderful women written off because their breasts aren't big enough or they're heavier than the cultural standard or they don't appear like they're 28 anymore who'd love to go out with decent men of any height. If a woman rejects a really great guy because of height, he should count himself lucky that he was spared someone who was really shallow. She's saved him time, really, so he can go about finding a mate who values more substantive attributes.

I assume male height goes into the same pool of standards that constrain all of us who are measured by gendered standards of beauty, the most oppressive of which is the requirement that all women appear as close to ages 18-28 as possible and that their worth as a human being declines with increasing evidence on their body that they've lived a rich, active life. All of it is a shallow crock of shit that limits our appreciation of the human soul, but then, that's not something that's going to change in my lifetime. I tend to fall in love with a guy and then love his body because it "belongs" to the person I love, and as a result I have very wide standards of what I find attractive. I'm certainly susceptible to secondary sex characteristics mattering (hirsuteness in particular--male body shaving baffles me), but height is the least of these. I would never not date a wonderful guy because he was shorter than me.

[treestar]

84. I agree for all the problems short men may have

they are subjected to far less than women when it comes to these issues. Women have many - height, weight, hair length, hair color, looks, shape (you can be thin but have hips too wide, that was me) - just everything.

Short men can always find a short woman. Maybe she's not thin enough for them.

[Marr]

113. Are you a short man?

Also, what makes you think weight, looks, fitness, style, etc. don't figure into a man's prospects for dating?

[treestar]

128. But less than for women

They don't seem to have to worry about it all so much. Sure good looking men will do better, that's true.

[leftyladyfrommo]

116. I dated a short guy for about a year.

Turned out he was just a short asshole. He had such a thing about being short. And of all things he was a football coach.

I finally just gave up. He tried so hard to come across like this funny, likable guy but underneath he was just a little jerk.

Would I date another short guy? Well, of course if he wasn't a jerk.

[treestar]

129. It's often thought there is some attempt to compensate

It would be pretty hard to be a short and/or skinny man in this society. But then there is a lot of reassurance that you'll still be desirable if you make money, etc. Men have another way other than to be physically attractive. Supposedly.

[redqueen]

103. Excellent post!

Very well said.

[Squinch]

145. Great post.

[JI7]

75. i think some guys assume women wont date them because of their Height when

it's probably not the case at all.

i'm short so there aren't many guys shorter than me. but just about all the friends i had who were tall had no problem going out with guys who were short.

it's like those guys who claim women don't really want nice guys because they were rejected. when the truth is that they are not really nice guys .

[Cali_Democrat]

77. I'm 6 feet and I've dated women taller than me

Loved it too! Not sure it's taboo....

[Dorian Gray]

86. I wouldn't use taboo

but I've heard more men make fun of fat chicks than women make fun of short men. Just saying.

[LiberalElite]

87. Former Mayor Bloomberg -

has a longtime girlfriend who's taller than he is.

[badtoworse]

91. I'm 5' 8" and before I married my wife, I had a girlfriend that is 6' 2".

She was (and I assume still is) very attractive and that was the only thing I got comments on. I never felt uncomfortable about the height difference and neither did she.

[Bettie]

93. I don't know, but it is silly

My DH is the same height as I am...I admit, I use it as an excuse to avoid high heels, or rather, I did when I was younger and actually thought of wearing such things!

But he's so wonderful that I'd adore him if he were shorter or taller.

[MineralMan]

94. Superficiality. That's why.

It's that simple. People are funny that way, I guess.

[dipsydoodle]

101. I'm not fussy.

[redwitch]

102. 5'9" here. Hubby is 5'6"

Why is it an issue? I don't get it myself.

[LanternWaste]

104. I can certainly understand...

I can certainly understand the convenient self-satisfaction obtained in holding responsible those things we're unable to change rather than our personalities and how we treat others... it allows us to maintain the wonderfully validating illusion that we're funny, interesting and smart, and indict others as shallow and cursory when our awkward attempts at currying someone's romantic favor is quickly interrupted by who we choose to be.



Not that the above is true in every single instance, but if we're honest to ourselves in regards to who we actually are...

[Xyzse]

105. Ummmm. Tom Cruise... (n/t)

[Vashta Nerada]

119. Yeah, he's a successful actor millionaire.

If he was an average guy, no woman would look twice at him.

[Xyzse]

121. I guess.

Still, I don't really see it as a taboo, more a preference, and dare I say insecurity.

I mean, it happens, women being with shorter guys, however you're right that it is not as common.

I don't think it taboo, some just don't expand their selection choices.

[LanternWaste]

135. Interesting allegation that says very little...

"If he was an average guy, no woman would look twice at him...."

Interesting allegation that says very little of the many short people out there who indeed, date quite a lot.

[clyrc]

108. I'm marrying a man 3 inches shorter and 14 years younger

And besides that, he's from Pakistan. I know people will look at us funny, and make unflattering assumptions. I'm pretty sure I can handle it.

[LittleBlue]

133. Good for you

Wonder how many of those people casting nasty glances your way have perfect marriages. None of them, I'd guess.

Congrats on your engagement, btw.

[clyrc]

148. Thank you!

We're still waiting for him to come over on a fiance visa.

[MineralMan]

110. The daughter of a good friend of mine is 6'2" tall.

Her father was about 5'6". When she was a teenager, she dated guys who ran the full range of heights. I guess she didn't see how height mattered.

Neither do I. When I was younger, I was 6'2" in height (less now that I'm a geezer). I dated girls and women through the years in a wide range of stature. I couldn't see how it mattered. I never did date anyone who was taller than my self, but I would have if I had met anyone in that category.

One type of person I never dated, though, was the kind of person who lets superficial stuff determine their choices. That never seemed worthwhile.

[Ganja Ninja]

112. I don't know you better ask a woman.

Men and especially short men aren't the one's responsible for that.

[ScreamingMeemie]

114. After spending far, far too many hours photographing couples at my son's Homecoming...

I'm thinking we're discussing something that is dead (yes, as a doornail) with regard to our next generation. My son's last girlfriend was the same height (6') that he was at the time. He is now 6'2" and there's still a lot of girls close to that in his class. So, I think we can close the book on it. I am constantly amazed at how much more open minded my son's generation is than mine.

[kestrel91316]

115. It isn't taboo. It's strictly personal preference.

I happen to prefer taller men. One of my gentlemen friends is a foot taller than me, which I happen to like a lot.

[mnmoderatedem]

120. Many years ago I was watching a Barbara Walters piece on 20/20

don't ask me why, I have no idea why,

Anyway, this piece was specifically about the trials and tribulations of short men and dating life and their expressed frustrations. They took a few short men, and had them meet and greet taller women and get to know each other. The men all had all these positive (on the surface) qualities, good jobs, good conversationalists, engaging personalities, etc. After meeting them, each of the women gushed about that an "eye opening" experience it was for them, and when asked about following up with the men in question, each of them said they would be happy to, as the whole experience opened up new doors for them, blah blah blah.

But they reported a week later, all the women had in fact declined to actually follow up, despite their words.

It's not taboo, and there are exceptions of course. But by and large, women just don't want to date shorter men.

[Marr]

134. I saw a similar tv show.

They lined up... I believe it was seven short men, all 5'4" or under, IIRC. All were average looking, well educated, well dressed, nice, well spoken men with careers like doctor, lawyer, etc. One spoke seven languages. Then they added a 6'1", unemployed college drop out. Every single woman on the panel chose the drop-out. And these weren't 18 year olds, either-- they were 30-ish and above.

[MicaelS]

122. "Women trash short men on Twitter"

Some women obviously have a real problem with short men. In fact "cruel" is an understatement. Don't click the link unless you want to read some really nasty comments.

https://twitter.com/heightismwatch

[CFLDem]

126. I find it a little odd.

I personally wouldn't consider a taller woman.

But those that can are bigger men than I.

[Neoma]

127. My family on my dad's size are trees.

6 foot females are the norm in this family. Both my dad and brother are 6ft 7ins. Tallest man is 6"11.

The only thing that people has bothered me about height is how I must play basketball. How tall my man should be? Never mentioned. Marrying shorter people is pretty much bound to happen and no one has really questioned it as far as I can tell.

[nolabear]

132. Next: Men Who Lack Depth and the Women Who Love Them.

We've about covered everything else, haven't we?

[Jenoch]

139. I had an uncle who was 5.2".

He would joke that he used to lie about his height and claim to be 5'3".

I had two other uncles, 5'5" and 5'7" and both of my aunts towered over them. My besf friend is 5'6" and his wife is 5'9". There are always exceptions to every 'rule'.

[leeroysphitz]

141. Short people got nobody to love. n/t

[bettyellen]

147. It is not a taboo, but I imagine people who insecure about ANY prticular thing, may imagine that

thing is what is holding them back. generally when you act like something is not a big deal, it isn't treated like a big deal.
including not getting to date everyone who you'd like to. Move on, you didn't even know them, LOL.