of frats, rape culture and #tfm (totalfratmove.com)

[niyad]

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Of Frats, Rape Culture and #TFM

Freshman year of college, as I was on my way to my first fraternity party, I remembered the rule: Don’t bring any guys. Only girls would be let in to drink the free “jungle juice,” concocted by the fraternity guys. Looking back, I now realize what this rule was for: more chances for the frat guys to score.

There have been a number of headlines lately about sexual assaults filed against fraternity members. Two Yale students reported a sexual assault at the Sigma Phi Epsilon house; a Montana State University student was drugged and raped at a Pi Kappa Alpha house; three sexual assaults were reported in less than a month at Sigma Phi Epsilon of the University of Texas-Arlington, and the list goes on. Studies have found that 55 percent [PDF] of campus gang rapes are committed by fraternity members, and fraternity members are three times more likely than non-fraternity members to commit rape.

So why are the sexual assault rates in fraternities so high? For one thing, fraternities tend to enforce gender norms of men showing off their masculinity and power over women. Take the hot-spot website for fraternity members, totalfratmove.com. Popular columns such as “An Ode to Shackers” explain the all-too-common embarrassment felt when a frat brothers realizes he slept with a girl who was than a “10? and not “anything to boast about,” but, hey, she was there, so why not? The article explains:

You figure you might as well take advantage of the situation. You’re still a tad drunk, and some morning sex wouldn’t hurt. … Alright, sexually dissatisfy her and get her the hell home.
Pronto. The website also includes a wall that fraternity members can post to with the hashtag #TFM (total frat move). #TFMs include such gems as “Your friend having a ‘very important and private question’ for you as soon as the ugly girl starts talking to you,” or “Complimenting a pledge’s girlfriend on her cleavage.”
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Sexual assault should not be #TFM


http://msmagazine.com/blog/2014/03/03/of-frats-rape-culture-and-tfm/

[flvegan]

1. #TFM? Spell it out: #TotalFuckingMoron

Reminder of why I never joined a frat, nor darkened the doorway of one. Couldn't imagine being around certain groups that were *nudge, wink* known rapists. Hearing women in my dorm talk about "don't go to that party without a friend or two, or you don't know what will happen" type shit. Really? Is that what we do now, boys?

But then, I never needed to get anyone drunk and I did just fine. Never understood the sausage fest that was the stereotypical frat where I went to school. And totalfratmove.com sounds like little more than a "lets talk about our weiners!" site. But, whatever.

By the way, "Ode to Shackers" and his embarrassment that he slept with less than a "10" should consider hers, as so did she. Some might say, for certain measurements...closer to a 4. *ba-dum-crash*

I laugh because idiots make it easy for me to do so.

[niyad]

2. you spelled it out most correctly.

when I was in college (back before the earth's crust cooled), one of the frats almost got shut down nationally because of all the drinking that went on. so why in the HELL are the national governing bodies of these institutions not shutting them down for THIS??

[niyad]

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