Teen girl kicked out of prom because dads said her dress conjured ‘impure thoughts’

[Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin]

Some sick dads I guess.

A 17-year-old Virginia girl said she was kicked out of a prom for homeschooled teens because she aroused “impure thoughts” in some adult male chaperones.

Clare Ettinger wrote a post on her sister’s blog about the incident, saying that her dress met the event’s dress code but was asked to leave anyway.

The Richmond teen said one of the women who organized the prom checked her dress and she showed her that it met the “fingertip length” requirement.

But the woman reminded her to keep the dress pulled down so it met the requirement.

The 5-foot-9 girl, who said her dress looked short because of her height and long legs, said she was amused to find herself surrounded at the prom by shorter girls in much shorter dresses.

But Clare said she and her friends noticed a group of fathers ogling and talking about her from a balcony above the dance floor, which she said mildly disgusted the teenage girls.

The same chaperone who had checked her dress then pulled her aside while she swayed to the music and talked to her friends.

The woman told her that some of the fathers who volunteered at the event thought her dancing was “too provocative” and could provoke “impure thoughts” in boys at the dance.

Clare told the woman she had not been dancing, but the chaperone insisted her dress was too short and kicked her out of the event.

The teen’s friends left with her, and prom organizers promised to refund their ticket purchases.

So far, only Clare had her money returned.



http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2014/05/13/teen-girl-kicked-out-of-prom-because-dads-said-her-dress-conjured-impure-thoughts/

[Gravitycollapse]

1. If there is a better symbolic example of patriarchy, I've never seen it.

Strange older men expressing a sort of eroticism of power while literally looming over a roomful of teenage women.

[villager]

2. More evidence that all rightwing politics is projection

n/t

[pscot]

3. The only source for the "dads" concerns

seems to bbe the woman who measured the young woman's dress, then later kicked her out. Just sayin'.

[Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin]

6. No

Again from the article

But Clare said she and her friends noticed a group of fathers ogling and talking about her from a balcony above the dance floor, which she said mildly disgusted the teenage girls.

[pscot]

14. That is an inference arrived at after the fact.

All we know for sure is that the lady who measured her dress asked her to leave. Who knows what was going on in that woman's head or what may have been said to her.

[MattBaggins]

21. Who knows what evil lurks in the heads of teenage girls... pscot knows

Really blame the girls?

[ieoeja]

43. The poster is blaming the woman who kicked her out, not the girls. n/t

[MattBaggins]

20. Just Sayin? is that you Hannity?

[Journeyman]

5. My experience has always been, when I have "impure thoughts" they are imaginings of my making. . .

and when they involve women with whom I am not romantically involved, I curb my impulses.

I would never think to impose my personal repressions on another, especially a young woman feeling her way through the vagaries of budding life.

[dhill926]

7. well said….

[nomorenomore08]

18. Thoughts/fantasies do not in any way necessitate action. Very true.

And this is coming from a guy with a (probably) above-average libido who nonetheless manages to behave in a civilized fashion.

[MattBaggins]

22. But you are an actual man and civilized. These homeschool types rant about "real men"

but have no clue what it means.

[maryellen99]

8. If you read the comments on her blog

Another reason she might have been asked to leave is because her date was black.

[sakabatou]

9. If true, it makes the situation worse

[csziggy]

10. Clare sounds like a very astute young woman!

From the link above:

In the guest post on her sister’s blog, Clare asked Richmond Homeschool Prom to refund her friends’ tickets and “issue an apology for kicking me out of my senior prom because their husbands felt as though my body was something they had a right to control.”

“I’m not responsible for some perverted 45-year-old dad lusting after me because I have a sparkly dress on and a big ass for a teenager,” she concludes. “And if you think I am, then maybe you’re part of the problem.”

You go, Clare!

[RKP5637]

29. K&R !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Skittles]

31. SNAP!!!

loving Ms. Clare!

[Dorian Gray]

34. Good for her.

[hamsterjill]

42. Good for Clare!!!

At least one person in that environment has not fallen in to the brainwashing!

Good for Miss Clare for standing up for herself.

[TreasonousBastard]

11. For those who can't, or won't...

dig into this story...

http://www.hannahettinger.com/fuck-the-patriarchy-guest-post-by-clare/

The dress:



The Date:


NOW what do you think?

[Ed Suspicious]

12. That changes everything. Seriously. She was ejected from the dance for "dancing with black."

no doubt about it. The dress is just not that revealing, but the skin color of her date is.

[Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin]

16. Were any of the other girls' dates black?

She doesn't suggest race was an issue in her write up.

[nomorenomore08]

19. I think it would be a little naive not to at least *suspect* that race was a factor.

[Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin]

24. Yet she doesn't bring the issue up

Only the fathers leering at her.

[nomorenomore08]

27. Maybe it was both. I don't know, I'm trying not to assume one way or the other.

But I'm always suspicious of these things, probably with good reason.

[Orrex]

17. She probably should have worn shoes.

[MattBaggins]

23. OOOOOHHH now we know why she got kicked out.

[IronLionZion]

32. Yup, i think the real problem is next to the girl

unfortunately that is deemed inappropriate behavior by a few too many even now. Women of any race with a black or dark skinned male of a different race are slut shamed for some reason. I've seen this happen to conservatively dressed deeply religious virgins too.


And the dress is shorter than any I saw at my prom, which was about 13 years ago. So this is a convenient excuse to deny the real issue.

[Le Taz Hot]

33. Well, there's the explanation

and it has nothing to do with the dress -- which is EXTREMELY modest by today's standards.

[mn9driver]

13. They couldn't verbalize the real reason.

The pictures tell the story, and it wasn't about her dress.

It was about her date.

[pnwmom]

26. Exactly. n/t

[Egnever]

15. Home school prom

Should tell you all you need to know about this.

[pnwmom]

25. I think another reason was that the blonde girl had a cute African American boyfriend.

The combination was just too much!

[RKP5637]

28. Sounds like a bunch of horny old men were at the prom getting hardons! And, they

can't stand the white girl with the black guy.

[madaboutharry]

30. I don't see the problem with the dress.

There is nothing wrong it.

[oldandhappy]

36. This tells us a lot about the dads.

ugh. Lovely young lady. sick dads.

[scheming daemons]

38. It was about her date

Don't let their bullshit story about her dress fool you.

[oldandhappy]

39. got it!

Still tells us a lot about the dads, and the culture, and the whole 'adult' mindset. She sounds sane. Hope they let her go out of state to college.

[scheming daemons]

37. This had nothing to do with her dress... and everything to do with her date

They were pissed that a pretty white girl had a black guy for a date.

And they couldn't say THAT was the reason.


But we all know that it was.

[MineralMan]

40. Home school prom. Pretty white girl with a black date.

Fundamentalist white fathers in balcony letting their imaginations run. Kids get kicked out of prom. End of story.

The dress was fine.

[Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin]

44. It may be racism but one can't conclusive say so.

She never mentions the race of her date only the dress.

Being conservative does not necessarily make one opposed to mixed race couples. A couple of examples

1) Clarence Thomas is married to a white woman.

2) L.A. Clippers power forward Blake Griffin father's black while his mother is white. He was home schooled till the seventh grade. His parents are fundamentalists, Griffin expresses belief in creationism as a result.

http://www.rollingstone.com/culture/news/blake-griffin-plays-coy-about-kate-upton-not-about-creationism-20140415

If reads comments on the internet it's quite obvious racism is not dead. I just need to see more from the story of the girl's prom to say yes it was an issue in this case.

[csziggy]

45. She may know that, and we may think that, but it was not the stated reason

Given the quote from Clare at the end of the OP linked article (quoted in my post above), Clare could easily be smart enough to realize the real reason and to shame the people in charge by taking their stated reason to the logical conclusion. And her take on it shames the sh*t out of the people in charge.

Either the people in charge are perverted fathers or they are racist bigots. I wonder which they'd prefer to be known as?

I still say:
You go, Clare!

[hamsterjill]

41. This just makes my blood boil!

For so many reasons.

Why wasn't there some adult - ANY ADULT - at that function who would stand up for this young lady?

Yes, we all know the "real" reason that she was targeted, and it's disgusting that such blatant racism still exists.

The woman chaperone should be ashamed of herself for going along with this orchestrated attack on this teen. Whether it was for the reason given ("impure thoughts"??? Give me a break!!) or for the obvious reason.

[StevieM]

46. Sounds like a story out of Saudi Arabia (eom)