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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsWhite men should be prepared to lay down their lives to fight bigotry
Let's face it. As THE most privileged group on the planet, we have far more ability and responsibility to fix the problem than anyone else on Earth. We are the only ones with the financial and social resources to reach and influence other white men.
Yes, it could cost one's social standing. It could cost customers, employees, career, even one's physical safety.
But we must be prepared to stand up. When someone makes a sexist, racist, or homophobic joke - don't laugh, not even a nervous laugh. Get in their face and make them understand what kind of vile pig they are. Let them know that jokes and statements and every type of bigotry will be punished socially and financially to the best of your resources.
Shame that person in public. Print flyers and post on the Internet about who they are and what is wrong with them. If you have any control over their employment, fire them and hire a disadvantaged person for the job (which should be the default setting until there is no difference in social standing or economic resources between white men and the most disadvantaged groups). If you are an employee, quit. Even if it leaves you and your family homeless and destitute, you will still have your honor.
Shun your family and "friends" if they don't achieve harmony with all races and all genders. And, in those one in a thousand cases where there may be a physical confrontation: accept your beating or (really unlikely) death with dignity, knowing you tried to stand up for those who are incapable of standing up for themselves.
dilby
(2,273 posts)But good luck with that, anything you would like to be added to your Eulogy after you lay down your life?
tabasco
(22,974 posts)or immoral.
dilby
(2,273 posts)It's arrogant to believe the world can only be fixed by white men.
valerief
(53,235 posts)the ruling class, which suppresses and exploits the common man and woman, fight FOR them?
Oh, it doesn't work that way? Well, maybe if the ruling class gave up some of their privileges. Oh, Hell will freeze over before that happens? Well, I'm out of ideas.
1StrongBlackMan
(31,849 posts)the current generation wouldn't/aren't willing (outside of internet claims) to lay down their leaves to address their own income inequity issue; what makes you think they'll lay down their lives for something that does not directly benefit them?
Andrew Goodman and Michael Schwerner were the very, very, very rare exception.
boston bean
(36,222 posts)Throd
(7,208 posts)Let us know how it works out.
Xipe Totec
(43,890 posts)badtoworse
(5,957 posts)IoNP
(29 posts)Llewlladdwr
(2,165 posts)is it okay to laugh, or do I still need to attempt to destroy their lives?
pintobean
(18,101 posts)Should I accept that beating with dignity?
polly7
(20,582 posts)it more often than not IS the blond, brunette, red-head .... whatever, woman telling some of the worst sexist jokes. No-one I know tells racist jokes though, I can't remember hearing even one.
SevenSixtyTwo
(255 posts)too proud that I married a Mexican gal. We overcame it with humor. Didn't take long and he told her he thought he saw her down at Taco Bell trying to pay our phone bill. I thought she was going to wet herself laughing. They used to poke at each other a lot. She was a wreck when he died. Same with co-workers. We joke with each other about stereotypes. Nothing hurtful but funny stuff. There's plenty about me to laugh at. I welcome it. Laughter is the best medicine. We need more of it. If you can't laugh at yourself, you are your problem.
My current wife's (ol' white lady) mom makes comments about black people we see when we're out. I always come back with humor completely counter of the response she's looking for. She's coming around although she's in her 80s. The last one was a young black gal in short shorts with her mom at the DMV. "Did you see that black girl showin' herself back there"? "Did I see her? I couldn't take my eyes off of her! She had a perfect figure! Beautiful gal!" My wife concurred. "Flaunt it while you got it". I'm allowed to look. MIL finally agreed.
We can't change the past. It happened. The future is what we make it.
Gravitycollapse
(8,155 posts)For they have risen like the savior himself to cast out the hypocrites and the wicked! They ride into battle, these white knights, ready to bleed their selfless sacrifice upon the faces of the condemned!
This post lacks even an iota of self-awareness.
Puzzledtraveller
(5,937 posts)boston bean
(36,222 posts)DESPERATION.
FrodosPet
(5,169 posts)I don't want to be the villain. But I guess my parents gave me no choice.
I admit my white skin, anf the privilege it brought, means I will never fully understand the oppression of others, no matter how hard I try.
Should I just give up and accept I am a privilege white asshole, and nothing will ever change it? Should I embrace the villain role?
Please. can you offer me something besides snark?
Puzzledtraveller
(5,937 posts)geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)complicity is a-o-k.
FrodosPet
(5,169 posts)I am seriously, honestly confused about what, if anything, I can do to make the world a better place.
I've acknowledged my privilege. I've looked within my heart and soul, and tried to exorcise any prejudices I may have. I was taught at an early age to respect people who are different than me, so I think that made it easier for me than for others who grew up in less diverse circumstances
I keep reading over and over that the whites who are trying to evolve have a responsibility to stop other whites from committing bad behavior. So when I start a conversation about how to do just that, well I guess that is wrong as well.
I suppose all I can and should do is keep my mouth shut and let wiser people tell me what to say and think. I just wish I was smart enough to know who the wiser people are.
Skip Intro
(19,768 posts)Nobody needs your fucking permission to speak.
TransitJohn
(6,932 posts)White men should strive to not be assholes. Expecting altruism is bullshit.