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TeamPooka

(24,223 posts)
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 01:43 AM Jul 2014

My Breakfast with James Garner

When I first moved to Los Angeles in January of 2001 my best friend had an office in Malibu on the PCH that I would visit from time to time.
One day, during my very first week here, on the way to his office, I stopped to have breakfast at the restaurant in the Malibu Country Mart.

I bought a newspaper, ordered my food, started to read and waited for my meal.
An older man with big eyeglasses, also sitting alone, at the table right next to me, asked if he could borrow my Sports section.
"Sure thing. Here you go." I said.
As I handed him the LA Times Sports section I realized it was James Garner next to me doing the borrowing.

Now, you have to understand that I love, love, love James Garner and his work. THE ROCKFORD FILES, his SUPPORT YOUR LOCAL... movies, 36 HOURS, MAVERICK and almost everything else he had done were my favorites. I am probably one of the world's biggest Jim Garner fans, period. So I'm kind of proud about how cool I acted when this happened.

He and I shared the paper, chatted about the news and sports, and ate breakfast for almost an hour in a way two local guys would at any diner across the country. The NFL payoffs were going on at the time and we talked about my NY Giants chances to go all the way. He didn't think they would do it, but they did later that month. I did not "go fanboy" on him.

About 20 minutes in, while talking sports, I called him "Mr. Garner", acknowledging that I knew who he was, he told me to call him Jim. So I did, and he called me Kevin when I introduced myself and we shook hands. We never discussed his work as an actor or how much I loved it, and him over the years. We simply had a nice conversation over breakfast.

James Garner is the first famous person/superstar that I met when I moved to Los Angeles and was the nicest, most pleasant, funny and charming guy during the encounter.

It is rare to meet a personal hero that lives up to your image of them in your mind. Talk about the best Welcome Wagon ever. I was the happiest person on Earth afterward.
Cloud 9 exists.
I've been there.

I never met or saw him again after that morning, but I probably went to that place for breakfast about 20 times over the next few years hoping for another run-in.

The memory of this meeting came flooding back to me this morning with the news of his passing. It made me as happy as the news of death saddened me. Later today I'll go for a drive and listen to that iconic theme song to The Rockford Files while cruising up the Pacific Coast Highway to Paradise Cove.

Rest In Peace Mr. Garner, and thank you for your time.

http://www.deadline.com/2014/07/rip-james-garner/

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My Breakfast with James Garner (Original Post) TeamPooka Jul 2014 OP
What a great story, my dear TeamPooka! CaliforniaPeggy Jul 2014 #1
A breakfast, that you will never forget. Uncle Joe Jul 2014 #2
Great story. A few years ago Hissyspit Jul 2014 #3
What a private eye! Gigi is beautiful like her parents.. thank you, H. Cha Jul 2014 #5
A wonderfully poignant story, TeamPooka! Another big James Garner fan here but Cha Jul 2014 #4
The story you generously share here confirms... nikto Jul 2014 #6
K&R! Omaha Steve Jul 2014 #7
My husband and I both absolutely loved him in Murphy's Romance with Sally Field..... a kennedy Jul 2014 #8
I love that movie TeamPooka Jul 2014 #20
I saw an interview with Sally Field, who said James was the absolute best co-star kisser of 'em all classof56 Jul 2014 #25
That's exactly how I would imagine him. progressoid Jul 2014 #9
This message was self-deleted by its author MADem Jul 2014 #13
That's a mighty nice example of how he was with people. calimary Jul 2014 #43
Thanks for sharing that. n/t deutsey Jul 2014 #10
K & R !!! WillyT Jul 2014 #11
That reporter did a great job bringing that memory to life--I'll bet it's one she will never forget. MADem Jul 2014 #12
Actually that was my story. I just included the link with the news for those who had not seen it. TeamPooka Jul 2014 #18
Oh, my mistake!!!!! LUCKY you to have had that personal encounter!!!! MADem Jul 2014 #19
Awesome. Thanks for sharing that. nt sufrommich Jul 2014 #14
I just read an autobography not too long ago. leftyladyfrommo Jul 2014 #15
Great, great story. It must have given him great pleasure to have a normal breakfast as a regular Rowdyboy Jul 2014 #16
A great man. immoderate Jul 2014 #17
The Support You Local... movies were so funny. FSogol Jul 2014 #21
It must have been a pleasure for him to be treated and conversed with as an ordinary guy. Voice for Peace Jul 2014 #22
If I had a car with rear-wheel drive... Blue Owl Jul 2014 #23
Very cool. mac56 Jul 2014 #24
Great story. Lucky you and thanks for posting. classof56 Jul 2014 #26
He was/is my Faux pas Jul 2014 #27
Great story WoodyD Jul 2014 #28
I am on another message board that is golf related AngryAmish Jul 2014 #29
That's great to hear. I like golf too but hardley ever play anymore. TeamPooka Jul 2014 #47
Excellent Story. n/t DirkGently Jul 2014 #30
Thank you for sharing a lovely story. What a wonderful memory. mountain grammy Jul 2014 #31
So cool you got to meet him... Dr Hobbitstein Jul 2014 #32
I forgot about Barbarians At The Gate. Great picture. TeamPooka Jul 2014 #46
An old-fashioned guy married for 57 years. Faygo Kid Jul 2014 #33
Oh, lucky you! I watch "TRF" daily at noon! And I LOVE his character in "The Great Escape"! What a WinkyDink Jul 2014 #34
Thank you for your great story! mrsadm Jul 2014 #35
Noticed at the link that he won two purple hearts. senseandsensibility Jul 2014 #36
Two good guys, just havin' breakfast. nolabear Jul 2014 #37
He lives again in your story tavernier Jul 2014 #38
K&R! Wonderful story! Rhiannon12866 Jul 2014 #39
k and r--thank you for sharing this beautiful story with us. I did not learn of his death until niyad Jul 2014 #40
I'm sorry to note that no one has mentioned the movie he was most proud of; cadaverdog Jul 2014 #41
Thanks for the tip senseandsensibility Jul 2014 #42
Love this story, TeamPooka! calimary Jul 2014 #44
What a wonderful story! Thanks for sharing. RIP, James. You'll be missed. N/T nirvana555 Jul 2014 #45

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,611 posts)
1. What a great story, my dear TeamPooka!
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 02:10 AM
Jul 2014

I can just see you two sitting there, eating, talking, having a relaxed good time.

Thank you for sharing that with all of us.

Uncle Joe

(58,355 posts)
2. A breakfast, that you will never forget.
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 02:35 AM
Jul 2014

Last edited Mon Jul 21, 2014, 06:51 PM - Edit history (1)

Thanks for sharing, TeamPooka.

Hissyspit

(45,788 posts)
3. Great story. A few years ago
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 02:39 AM
Jul 2014

my best friend was online arguing with some right-wing idiot in a discussion on Amazon about Garner's autobiography/memoir. Garner's daughter, Gigi, read the comments and using her real-life private eye skills (no, seriously), she tracked down his phone number and gave him a call to thank him for defending her father.

Cha

(297,196 posts)
4. A wonderfully poignant story, TeamPooka! Another big James Garner fan here but
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 03:04 AM
Jul 2014

you got to meet him and share the paper over breakfast with him! Mahalo for sharing your eloquently written experience.. that is one of those once in a life time happenings.

James Garner~

 

nikto

(3,284 posts)
6. The story you generously share here confirms...
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 03:20 AM
Jul 2014

Just like "Maverick was the legend of the west",
James Garner was the legend of The Best.

classof56

(5,376 posts)
25. I saw an interview with Sally Field, who said James was the absolute best co-star kisser of 'em all
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 04:44 PM
Jul 2014

That scene in Murphy's Romance where he suddenly grabbed her and kissed her in the drug store--she said he literally left her breathless, took her awhile to recover. Wow! I can believe it. Have been a long-time fan of James, and was glad to discover a 1965 movie which I watched not long ago called "36 Hours", with Eva Marie Saint. Highly recommended!

RIP, James Garner. We will miss you!

Response to progressoid (Reply #9)

calimary

(81,238 posts)
43. That's a mighty nice example of how he was with people.
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 11:27 PM
Jul 2014

He was "just Jim". I interviewed him once and was thrilled. My mom always referred to him as her "boyfriend." When the "Rockford Files" would come on, she wouldn't want to be disturbed. "I'm watching my boyfriend." I told him about that. And he feigned a little dejection. He told me, with a sigh but then a chuckle, that every attractive woman he met told him the same thing - that her mother was in love with him.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
12. That reporter did a great job bringing that memory to life--I'll bet it's one she will never forget.
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 10:19 AM
Jul 2014

Thanks for sharing her story with us.

TeamPooka

(24,223 posts)
18. Actually that was my story. I just included the link with the news for those who had not seen it.
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 12:13 PM
Jul 2014

MADem

(135,425 posts)
19. Oh, my mistake!!!!! LUCKY you to have had that personal encounter!!!!
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 12:27 PM
Jul 2014

He had a very genuine way about him, didn't he?

And you write well enough to be mistaken for a reporter....!!!!!!

leftyladyfrommo

(18,868 posts)
15. I just read an autobography not too long ago.
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 11:12 AM
Jul 2014

He was really just an ordinary nice guy. Loved his family. Loved acting.

He said the hardest thing was losing his privacy. He just hated not being able to go out and just be a regular guy. You probably really made his day.

I have always loved him, too. Loved Maverick and everything else.

James Garner and Paul Newman. Two real class acts.

Rowdyboy

(22,057 posts)
16. Great, great story. It must have given him great pleasure to have a normal breakfast as a regular
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 11:19 AM
Jul 2014

guy talking with another guy.

FSogol

(45,481 posts)
21. The Support You Local... movies were so funny.
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 02:01 PM
Jul 2014



...."and then I go on to become one of the most beloved characters in Western folklore."
 

Voice for Peace

(13,141 posts)
22. It must have been a pleasure for him to be treated and conversed with as an ordinary guy.
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 03:01 PM
Jul 2014

Probably the breakfast was memorable for him as well!

Blue Owl

(50,356 posts)
23. If I had a car with rear-wheel drive...
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 03:09 PM
Jul 2014

I'd be pulling an honorary "Rockford" in Mr. Garner's memory. May he rest in peace!

Very much enjoyed your tribute post!



mac56

(17,566 posts)
24. Very cool.
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 04:10 PM
Jul 2014

I've been a lifelong fan of his as well, and agree that he was probably very pleased to have a normal chat over breakfast with someone. Kudos to you.

Faux pas

(14,672 posts)
27. He was/is my
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 05:26 PM
Jul 2014

all time favorite too. Handsome, smart and funny. RIP Jim. (the crying smilie goes here).

WoodyD

(215 posts)
28. Great story
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 05:38 PM
Jul 2014

Thanks for posting that. Always been a huge fan of his and I read yesterday that my favorite James Garner movie was also his favorite - The Americanization of Emily. RIP sir. You will be missed.

 

AngryAmish

(25,704 posts)
29. I am on another message board that is golf related
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 05:42 PM
Jul 2014

He was a big time golfer (his brother was a pro iirc) and a member of Bel-Air. To a man everyone described him as a gentleman who was a tough nut to crack in a match. I always liked seeing him on tv for the Crosby Clambake.

 

Dr Hobbitstein

(6,568 posts)
32. So cool you got to meet him...
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 07:47 PM
Jul 2014

So many cool stories about him.

For me, I always loved him in Maverick and The Rockford Files. Not to mention Barbarians At The Gate and the classic Support Your Local Sheriff...

A good man, and a great Democrat. May he rest in peace.

Faygo Kid

(21,478 posts)
33. An old-fashioned guy married for 57 years.
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 07:53 PM
Jul 2014

I admire him. What a great life. He will be missed. So many favorites, but I go with a late one, "Victor, Victoria" as my favorite. He was such a bemused old guy, and I miss the entire cast (Julie is still with us).

 

WinkyDink

(51,311 posts)
34. Oh, lucky you! I watch "TRF" daily at noon! And I LOVE his character in "The Great Escape"! What a
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 08:02 PM
Jul 2014

man's AND a woman's man!

RIP, Mr. Garner...Jim.

senseandsensibility

(17,026 posts)
36. Noticed at the link that he won two purple hearts.
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 08:55 PM
Jul 2014

What an amazing man in so many ways, and a true liberal. So sorry to see him gone.

tavernier

(12,383 posts)
38. He lives again in your story
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 09:10 PM
Jul 2014

I could envision the impromptu breakfast and both your smiles. Thanks for giving us one final take.

niyad

(113,284 posts)
40. k and r--thank you for sharing this beautiful story with us. I did not learn of his death until
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 10:14 PM
Jul 2014

this afternoon. loved everything he did.

cadaverdog

(228 posts)
41. I'm sorry to note that no one has mentioned the movie he was most proud of;
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 10:42 PM
Jul 2014

The Americanization of Emily. I remember it as one of my first adult themed films growing up and it really struck a chord with me. It was not a huge success with its anti-war theme, but it opened a teenager's mind to to a new definition of what a "hero" really was. And it was the perfect role for the easy going Jim Garner, who is paired up with a young English actress new to American audiences, Julie Andrews.

I hope you will give it look; worth your time. Oh, and btw, it's also very funny.

calimary

(81,238 posts)
44. Love this story, TeamPooka!
Mon Jul 21, 2014, 11:29 PM
Jul 2014

What a treat for you! How neat that you got to spent that quality time with him. How cool is that!

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