Posting one's sexual kinks on DU...

[MineralMan]

It's fine, if you're OK with people knowing the information about you. If, however, you're doing so based on the belief that you are anonymous behind your screen name, I advise caution. Malicious websites dedicated to all things detrimental to DU and DUers have proven themselves to be skilled at digging out real identities behind screen names.

Few people who are truly active in online discussions are actually securely anonymous.

I don't care what anyone's kinks are, but there are those who seek out vulnerabilities and gleefully exploit them. Proceed with due caution.

[Nuclear Unicorn]

1. So I probably should post about swinging from the chandaliers in a furry costume, huh?

[BainsBane]

2. Did you say furry?

Edit: I keep getting the nuclears mixed up.

[MineralMan]

5. Certainly. I won't mind.

Too yiffy, though, and a jury might not approve.

[Nuclear Unicorn]

9. "...a jury might not approve."

Sometimes I think we're a little too prude for our own good. Yeah, yeah, "community standards" and all that but I'd rather leave social cons to be the ones too uptight to discuss adult subjects.

[MineralMan]

12. It was an attempt at humor.

[Nuclear Unicorn]

13. Still, you spoke the truth.

When DU3 first started up I had an OP hidden wherein I shared a text conversation I was having with Lover Boy. It's amazing what I can discuss with friends in public that would be hidden on DU even though we're supposed to be the open-minded ones.

[Phentex]

17. Well when I joined DU, sex threads weren't even allowed...

not cartoons, no open talk, and sometimes even innuendos in the Lounge got locked. It didn't seem to bother anyone.

[steve2470]

19. yep "no sex threads" was the word nt

[Buns_of_Fire]

18. Are we talking about pandas again? I like pandas.

But always abide by the cardinal rule: Tickling your partner with a chicken feather is erotic -- tickling your partner with the entire chicken is kinky (not to mention probably illegal in several states).

[Nuclear Unicorn]

20. "...probably illegal in several states."

Sign me up just for that.

[Thor_MN]

32. Is it grilled or fried chicken?

I can see fried chicken being considered kinky...

[tblue37]

55. Well, there is that creepy scene in the Matthew Mcconaughey

movie Killer Joe.

[Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin]

41. You must be the second guy

[Warren DeMontague]

59. "Pandas? Did somebody say Pandas?"

[In_The_Wind]

67. What Pandas?

[antiquie]

71. You innocent, you.

Richard Nixon’s Tips For Getting Pandas to Have Sex, Caught on Newly-Revealed Audio Tape (1972)
Starts at 1:30

[In_The_Wind]

77. — "to sort of learn, you know, how it’s done."

I see. Sure, learn the ropes—

How did I miss that all those years ago? Guess I was a little preoccupied with my own life.

[abakan]

63. But common in many...

[Renew Deal]

50. That was you?

[BainsBane]

3. Absolutely

They can hunt you down inside an hour.

[MineralMan]

10. And they have, and damaged people's lives.

[MineralMan]

23. I have no connection to Free Republic, and

have been banned from that site for eight years. "Anti-freeping" was why.

[darkangel218]

4. Then what is it left to talk about?

Lol seriously though. I think you're over reacting. Personally I could care less who knows what my "personal kinks" are. Malicious websites? Such as the low lives from CC? Screw them, the only think malicious about them is their low IQ. I find them pitiful.

[MineralMan]

8. If it's not of concern to you, then my cautionary

Comment doesn't apply...

[BainsBane]

64. For those who have lost jobs as a result of stalking

It is hardly an overreaction. If you're not bothered, no problem. I do think it helpful to remind people that info on this site is publically available, while some show an obsessive fixation on members of this site.

[darkangel218]

75. How saying you like BDSM going to get anyone fired??

Even if I had everyone at my work know I like bdsm, how would that jeopardise my job?
Bdsm is a lifestyle preferance completely legal, and you'd be surprised how many people (from all walks of life, mind you) are part of it.

[BainsBane]

81. The person who got fired

hid a remote control to a television set. Whether one gets fired depends on their employer. Obviously you don't care, so it doesn't apply to you. You, however, are not the only person here.

[darkangel218]

82. Those are two completely different things.

And you know it.

Bdsm /,kinky life style is not illegal and not breaking any rules/laws. It's actually against the law for employers to discriminate based on sexual preference. So I dont get your or the OPs "point".

[riqster]

78. Speaking as an IT professional, MM's point is well taken.

We are not anonymous online. Never were, never will be.

[darkangel218]

83. see my replies to BB. nt

[NightWatcher]

6. I can take an hour on the tower of power as long as I gets a little golden...

Great, now that song is stuck in my head

[zappaman]

7. You just made my day.

I guess it's still hooked on but now it shoots too quick.

[NightWatcher]

11. and you're a miserable son of a bitch

[Nuclear Unicorn]

14. OK. I think there's a reference I'm totally missing out on.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

27. are they mixing metaphors? ... I got this ...

[Bluenorthwest]

29. It's Frank Zappa at his most furiously homophobic

He was one uptight heterosexual white man.

[zappaman]

34. Never thought of him as homophobic.

Writing in the Guardian Adam Sweeting declared that in his lifetime Zappa 'railed against America's corporate complacency and political lurch to the right and deplored racism and homophobia'.

In 1979 Zappa's song 'Bobby Brown'--an outrageously indecent account of the supposed psychological and sexual effects of women's liberation on the American male--was a top ten hit in Norway. A couple of years later it hit again in Germany. Why? It had become a cult record in gay discos. Analysis of the lyrics could show that Zappa's sexual politics are mainly paranoid fantasy (and dubious fantasy at that), but gays took to the song because it mentioned aspects of S&M culture--it could be used by an oppressed minority.
http://pubs.socialistreviewindex.org.uk/...

Interview with Playboy -
Playboy: Because of songs such as Dinah Moe Humm ("I got a forty-dollar bill say you can't make me come&quot , He's So Gay and many others, you have been accused of being sexist, misogynistic and homophobic.

Frank Zappa: Some people miss the joke. In general, I was a convenient enemy and they could get exposure for their causes by coming after me. But I'm not antigay. When Ross Perot announced he was running for president, I wanted him to choose Barney Frank as a vice-presidential candidate. He is one of the most impressive guys in Congress. He is a great model for young gay men.

Playboy: But you were criticized for Bobby Brown Goes Down and He's So Gay.

Frank Zappa: But see, I'm a journalist of a sort. I have a right to say what I want to say about any topic.
Source:
http://home.online.no/~corneliu/playboy....

[NightWatcher]

39. I just took that song to mean Bobby was an asshole

Starts as a date-raper and ends up being all used up by whatever he could find.

He was way out there and I could not begin to decipher his motives behind any of his works. The man might have been from another planet for all we know.

[zappaman]

40. It was meant to be that way, IMO

How could anyone take this seriously?

I got a cheerleader here wants to help with my paper
Let her do all the work 'n' maybe later I'll rape her
Oh God I am the American dream
I do not think I'm too extreme
An' I'm a handsome sonofabitch
I'm gonna get a good job 'n' be real rich

[randome]

16. I no more want to know about someone's personal sex life...

...than I want to know when someone picks his/her nose. Usually the people who want to talk about sex the most are those who aren't getting any.

And they unknowingly advertise that fact.
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[Zorra]

31. The classic, definitive "sour grapes" post.

[randome]

43. Right. I'm just down on sex.

There shouldn't be any topic that's forbidden on DU. It just seems that those who need to 'brag' about their sexual preferences might be projecting their own 'sour grapes'.
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[Eleanors38]

47. Me, I'm on SS, but I got fondling memories.

[Omaha Steve]

21. I don't know how they do it

They figured out my name is Steve and I used to live in Omaha, Jeez they are good.

[Throd]

22. I thought I was a pervert. Then I got the internet.

[RKP5637]

25. ...

[yurbud]

58. I think I'm a pervert--until I talk to almost any other guy for more than 30 seconds

[yurbud]

24. Where are these sites that post this info?

[MineralMan]

26. I won't publicize them with links.

[conservaphobe]

28. Sleepwalking roleplay. nt

[Aerows]

30. Define kink

and then provide links to posts, please

[TDale313]

33. Good advice.

And applies to any personal info that you wouldn't necessarily want broadcast to the world with your name attached to it.

[Voice for Peace]

35. live without shame, it's the only protection. nt

[randome]

44. Absolutely true. Say 2 words to a blackmailer: "Go ahead." And you've disarmed your opponent.

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[tblue37]

56. That's what Letterman did when someone tried to blackmail him--and he had them arrested. nt

[Zorra]

51. +1 nt

[KoKo]

36. I don't think anyone who would post that stuff here..

is "Unaware." I think they are perfectly honest in their posts and the links they give. I don't see why they should worry. There's nothing in the DU RULES that forbids giving links to "fetish.com" or advertising contacts for Classes one gives for those who wish to find ways to participate in BDSM.

This is a "Brave New World" of freedom we live in. After all if folks didn't mind being spied on after Snowden's revelations and feel "I have nothing to hide...so who cares what the Government does"...then they shouldn't feel threatened posting on "Democratic Underground." After all this is an open internet site and unless a Jury decides the posts don't conform to "DU Standards" ...folks are free to post what they want. If Feepers or other RW'ers want to make fun of them...then who the heck cares?

Nothing wrong with that...

[Peacetrain]

38. Make it stop.. Make it stop...

No more 50, 49 , 48 etc shades of anything.. Of all the crazy things to get obsessed on, this one has been a dilly.. that is for sure.

[KoKo]

42. Were you posting a "code word" there.

WHAT?
You said:
Of all the crazy things to get obsessed on, this one has been a dilly.. that is for sure.

Are you talking about a "fetish?"

I know it's "OTT" ...but, it's DU when Wars are going on and innocents are dying everywhere. Why not do BDSM? Everything I didn't want to know....I now know a bit more about.

Life is just one long journey of enlightenment. Even about things one didn't have an interest in. Who Knows how Far We Can Travel....if we Open Our Minds

[Eleanors38]

48. Thought you meant "dill pickle." A really big one.

[LTR]

46. I can lick my eyebrows

So if the DU stalkers want to spread that, so be it.

[Eleanors38]

49. Everyone will be spreading!

[antiquie]

73. Snort.

[Erich Bloodaxe BSN]

52. Well, once you have the schnauzer, the balloons, and the midget, you

take the grapefruit out from between


I'll have to finish this comment later, I need a private moment right now....

[BlueJazz]

53. I agree. What goes on between me and my vacuum cleaner is no body's business.

[kentauros]

57. If these two Real People can survive such slings and arrows:

Barbara Carrellas

Annie Sprinkle (link may not be safe for work)

then the rest of us can survive, too. Everyone on DU is cautioned when they sign up to have a thick skin. I don't see what the issue here is at all.

[Warren DeMontague]

60. Diana Rigg in jet black leather seared herself into my brain real early on

And I don't give a shit who knows it.

[LongTomH]

87. You, me and a LOT of males worldwide!!!!!

[JesterCS]

61. I had to TrashCan

Threads containing the words Shades.

I love DU, but jesus christ that was annoying

[Mrdrboi]

62. I got couple Fetishes and "Odd" lifestyles.

Fine...Fine I admit I am a ABDL and Furry fan.

I like dressing up in a Cool fur suit and going to conventions and like to wear Diapers and stuff.

[NCTraveler]

65. Kink or not.....

This is good advice and something we should all think about. How much of ourselves do we want out there. The answer will be different for all of us. I know a couple of people with extreme anxiety who use forums like this as their means of conversation and connection. They would be devastated if their true identities were posted. There are also people here who are very open about their identities. We each need to think about how much we put out there, all while understanding that your real name might be exposed at some point.

[Coventina]

66. Poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of another.

But yeah, a certain level of discretion is wise.

[MineralMan]

68. Hmm...but when it comes to sexual pleasures, permission

is always needed, unless you limit yourself to solitary pleasures. Permission and consent.

[Coventina]

69. I think the consent of the participants is implied.

But yeah, I take your meaning and agree!

[MineralMan]

70. I understand, but the saying is badly worded,

since it deals with singular pronouns. "A man" and "another." Some individual men have a very strange definition of what "pleasures" are, and not all of those involve consent or permission. That's why the saying is badly flawed as it is written. But, then, I've never really considered Madonna to be a paragon of wisdom, somehow.

[Coventina]

72. LOL! You win for knowing my source material (girl)!

[MineralMan]

74. I confess. I Googled the quote.

I was a bit surprised at its origin, but still think it's not really that good a quote.

I like Madonna. I'm just not sure she's that much of a philosopher, though.

[Coventina]

76. Agreed, she's not a philosopher. But I do like her attitude toward sex. Hence the quote.

I didn't attribute it, as many people just see "Madonna" and wig out.

A lot of people love to hate her.

[arcane1]

79. What if my sexual kink IS DU..?

[MineralMan]

80. Well, that'd be just weird.

[jberryhill]

84. Wrong Punctuation: "Posting - one's sexual kinks on DU"

[arcane1]

85. There ya go

[Warren DeMontague]

86. ***