When Illness Makes a Spouse a Stranger (can we talk?)

[Omaha Steve]

Last edited Fri May 8, 2015, 01:41 PM - Edit history (1)

First I want to thank the 40-50 DUers that knew about my condition and kept my deepest secret.

Why OS doesn't really exist anymore is in an old NYT article below.

I had it long before I was diagnosed with FTD (I prefer to call it brain atrophy from the article below) just before Christmas 2013. I guess I'm lucky, some victims get this in their 20's.

My new symptoms point to me having a second deadly disease (ALS) that will shorten even more the quality time I have left. Projected lifespan 2 years. I'm just waiting to see the specialist for a confirmation diagnosis. I'm in no hurry to get there.

I so desperately wanted wanted to stay on the DU through November of 2016. But I've overstayed my time, it is so obvious. All I have done is ruin what OS used to be on the DU. My own fault for wanting to stay.

On current events. I was asked to do something by a DU Hillary supporter earlier this week. I spent the time and effort. It was pointed out to me point blank this morning because of something I did a few weeks ago, a huge "stick it" was the way it was treated by many. I had already heard it through the grapevine. It still hurt. Since then I haven't been able to stop crying.

And this morning an OP brought this reply: "I think you should delete this thread, because it sounds demented."

On the money in my case.

"you don't have Nixon to kick around any more, because, gentlemen, this is my last press conference." (http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/r/richardmn116455.html)

I've enjoyed being a part of the DU and all the friends I've made here.

As far as OS and life in the future. I won't go out violently. I won't go out on FTD's terms.

A glass to the good old days. To a win in November 2016...

OS AKA Algernon or Don Quixote

PS Make a copy before this gets locked.

http://www.theaftd.org/

http://www.theaftd.org/understandingftd/disorders/ftdal

When Illness Makes a Spouse a Stranger

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/06/health/a-rare-form-of-dementia-tests-a-vow-of-for-better-for-worse.html?_r=1&pagewanted=all

By DENISE GRADY MAY 5, 2012

He threw away tax documents, got a ticket for trying to pass an ambulance and bought stock in companies that were obviously in trouble. Once a good cook, he burned every pot in the house. He became withdrawn and silent, and no longer spoke to his wife over dinner. That same failure to communicate got him fired from his job at a consulting firm.

By 2006, Michael French — a smart, good-natured, hardworking man — had become someone his wife, Ruth, felt she hardly knew. Infuriated, she considered divorce.

But in 2007, she found out what was wrong.

“I cried,” Mrs. French said. “I can’t tell you how much I cried, and how much I apologized to him for every perceived wrong or misunderstanding.”

FULL story at link. Video: http://nyti.ms/1jY2ew8 via @nytvideo



Looking back, Mrs. French thinks her husband's mind began to slip a decade earlier. Credit Béatrice de Géa for The New York Times

[Agschmid]

1. .

Sometimes the disruptors win.

[etherealtruth]

2. Thank you for being you ....

... and making DU a very special place.

[Scuba]

177. + Eighty Gazillion

[ret5hd]

3. Please stay as long as you want to be here.

There is a need for you here.

Use "ignore" liberally.

[Demeter]

39. Agreed

Don't let the bastards ruin anything for you.

[LoisB]

42. Absolutely agree.

[calimary]

59. Totally and unabashedly agree.

Please stay. We'll all struggle through this together.

DU still has many many pairs of broad, strong, sturdy shoulders. You don't have to deal with this alone. Too many DUers here have described this place as truly a kind of family. I've certainly witnessed that many times, on a personal basis. I probably bore people by now with my recollection of how DUers flocked to comfort me - after I posted on the night my mom died.

Don't pull away if at all possible! Please let us tag along on the path stretching out ahead of you.

DU will buoy you up.

[Hekate]

81. My only caveat, calimary: stay in a Group and avoid GD like the plague it is after this post.

However, I think OS is trying to tell us he now lacks the discernment to do that. This reads like a valedictory post, and I will respect that. It's a wise person who knows when to leave the party.

Dang, I'm in a coffee shop and starting to tear up.

[calimary]

113. {=(

Sad too, Hekate. I got that same feeling. I wish we could all go hug him. I hope he has the chance to read our posts, or that someone is reading them to him. I hope he can still know how much he means to so many of us here.

I'm tearing up, too.

[bullwinkle428]

51. I'll agree with that 1000%.

K&R.

As someone who lost his father to Alzheimer's several years ago, I can relate to a degree to what OS and those closest to him may be going through.

[merrily]

108. +1

[catnhatnh]

4. Steve

I hardly know where to begin but to say I'm sorry. You are among the dozens of DUers that although I've never met or often never even spoke with that I've considered friends. Of course I think that with this revelation we can all excuse any minor lapses in your postings. Please continue to post when you can and be as gentle towards yourself as I have seen you act towards your lovely wife. Know I wish you only the best.
Regards Always
Cat

[SnowCritter]

23. My thoughts exactly

I'll miss your postings, OS.

[BlancheSplanchnik]

142. if I were eloquent in this way, I'd say what you said.

(((((((((((((OS))))))))))))

[mike_c]

5. good luck to you, OS....

Solidarity.

[still_one]

6. I hope things get better for you Steve

[kiva]

7. I have enjoyed your posts, OS -

they have informed me and made me laugh and make me think and some have made me sad. You need to do what is best for you at this point - you already know that; also know that if you choose to post many DUers will still read and support you.

[hrmjustin]

8. You are beloved here. We hope you stay as long as you feel comfortable here.

We hate to see you go.

[DeadLetterOffice]

65. This yes. So much.

[Nay]

220. Exactly. You are beloved. I always read your posts and treasure them. Stay as long

as you want. We will always communicate our love.

[Mz Pip]

9. My thoughts are with you.

Take care.

[corkhead]

10. We haven't always agreed, but I have enjoyed reading your posts. Please stay as long as you can

[SoapBox]

11. Please, please, please stay...

We need you.

[longship]

12. Just know one thing, OS.

We all love you very much here. I sincerely hope that it helps you and Marta in your situation.

Know this now. Although you might have to eventually give up DU, we will never, ever give up on our love and respect for you.

[jwirr]

26. This /\ I have loved your history posts, the animal rescue stories that make me cry and laught,

and above all the union articles that keep us up to date. Take care and know that we love you and Marta.

[mercuryblues]

112. exactly

I will miss reading the same things.

Suggestion? Post the articles and ignore the rest. Put a little sticky not on your laptop saying post articles only. 1 hour time limit. The log off DU

[jwirr]

114. And friend stay out of the political fights over who is going to win the primary. That part here on

DU is getting bad. I ignore a lot of posts now.

[beveeheart]

203. My thoughts exactly.

Bless you for all your contributions.

[In_The_Wind]

13. Stay with us as long as you can Steve. I remember when you were Algernon.

As for this OP, speaking as a non-host, I doubt if this will be locked.

[panader0]

14. I'm a big Omaha Steve fan.

Your devotion to unions and animals show me the kind of person you are. Please stay as long as you can. We need you Steve.

[narnian60]

163. +1000

[stonecutter357]

15. K&R!

[mopinko]

16. my dear steve

fuck it all. fuck the disruptors. fuck the disease.
we are your friends. we will miss you terribly.
and we understand if you make some missteps. big fucking deal.

[Lochloosa]

24. I was just about to post the same thing. Fuck'em. Stay as long as you want Steve.

We have your back!

[steve2470]

125. +100000000000000000000000000000 nt

[lumberjack_jeff]

17. I wish you would stay, but you gotta do what's right for you.

I especially appreciate all your hard work in keeping union issues front and center.

Take care
Jeff

[LeftishBrit]

18. We love you and wish you all the best.

I hope you stay, but obviously you need to do what's best for you.

Please let us know if there's anything any of us can ever do to help.

[uppityperson]

19. Best wishes to you Steve, be healthy and stay with us as long as you can.

[TorchTheWitch]

20. Please don't leave!

I know how hard it is and have cried many tears because of people like that as well. To be kicked when you're as low as can be is the worst feeling their is even by internet strangers. There are so many here who love and care about you. I just can't be alone desperately wanting you to stay as long as you think you can with your illness and worry about you when you haven't posted. I think about you so often even with all my own troubles. Please, please, don't let the vipers here chase you away!

[Go Vols]

21. :(

Best to you man.

[WillowTree]

22. I think you have many more admirers here than you know.

Do what's best for you.

And take good care.

[elleng]

25. Stay as long as you care to, OS,

and remember: Lurking doesn't hurt.

[TinkerTot55]

27. Steve......

.....please don't go.

[cyberswede]

28. Very sorry.

I'm sorry for your health issues, and I'm doubly sorry that some asshat insulted you in that thread. I hope that person is ashamed.

Please take care, and if you stop posting, I'll miss your posts very much,

[gwheezie]

29. I loved your posts

I will miss you. Maybe you feel like you're not you anymore but you make sense to me.

[onecaliberal]

30. Please stay here as long as you can.

I deeply respect you.

[Fla Dem]

31. For you and Marta

I know the future will be difficult and scary for you both, I wish it wasn't so,

May the road rise to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the sun shine warm upon your face
The rains fall soft upon your fields
And until we meet again
May God hold you in the palm of his hand

Peace to you both.

[KT2000]

32. Do what is best for you

but know that many of us appreciate your posts. So glad for your union issues and history posts and the animal stories are always so touching. The animal stories have a way of keeping us grounded!
Please don't let rude people run you off - that would make them in charge!! No Way!!
I'm sorry this has happened to you and I wish you the best.

[No Vested Interest]

33. My spouse had a similar problem. Each person is different, with

different symptoms and results; different on different days.

You, Steve, may feel differently tomorrow or next week than you feel today.
Know that you are loved here on DU, and any postings you make are regarded in love by those who know you.
In addition to all your notifications re labor and politics, we love your postings on the birds and nature that surround your home.
Sharing even just that makes your presence here precious.

Do as you think best today, then tomorrow do as is best on that day, and so on.
We'll be here.

[appalachiablue]

134. Same here, please know you can always do your postings. We love & support you.

Shame on the deleters and what they said. Some of this is going around now.
It can hurt, take a lot out of anyone. And you might feel better soon; if so please come back.
In the meantime take good care, ok?

Peace

[Omaha Steve]

232. .

[madokie]

34. You are loved my many of us here

I want you to know that Steve.

[niyad]

35. OS, forget those other people. You are loved and valued here. please stay as long as you can,

as long as you want. we need you.

[dembotoz]

36. do what you need to do..but remember you will always have friends here

A limited os is better than
No os

[boston bean]

37. Yes Steve I am an ass and no good person.

I am very sorry for your illness and have always really liked you. You and I spoke via pm this morning. I had no idea about the type of illness you have. So if you are saying that post we discussed was not something you meant and was posted due to your illness I am very sorry. I had no idea and was not one of the forty to fifty people who knew the what your illness was. take care and don't leave especially because of me.

[yallerdawg]

76. Remember...

[secondwind]

38. I don't know you and I already love you.. You are so fearless and accepting... I am not sure

I would be able to do what you just did .

Your wife is very lucky to have met you and married you. I am the better for having known you and read your posts on DU.

Farewell, OS.... ROCK IT!

[madamvlb]

40. I'm a big fan of your posts OS, please stay as long as you can.

[sabrina 1]

41. Please stay here for as long as you can.

We would miss your wonderful posts and I may be wrong, but anything can happen in two years, miracles even, so if it's only because of a few people, just know that a majority of DUers would miss your posts terribly.

[Bossy Monkey]

43. I've enjoyed your posts & would prefer you to stay. If you go, I'll miss you but want you to know

that I hope you have the best possible time with the rest of your life. PS: if people don't like your posts, screw them.

[Tom Rinaldo]

44. Steve, you are being so corageously open

First, thank you for that. There are so many here like me who have always honored your contributions, though we never made a close connection - but you've made it for me by being so open that you feel like a friend to me, But there are others here who do have an ongoing close connection with you, you spoke of them just now...

There is no reason for you to withdraw from DU just yet, I think. If you are concerned about the content of what you want to write remaining up to your standards, pick a few friends here who you feel closest too, and ask if they can volunteer to be your editor for as long as that still works for you. You can PM them a copy in advance of any OP you want to post at DU and get feedback from them about it first before you post it. I know you know who you can trust to help you in that way. Why not ask? You had the courage to write this piece, I think you can accept honest feedback and some help editing if need be from those you are closest to here, for awhile at least. If I were one of those people I would be honored to do that for you.

You still have it, most of it anyway, it is obvious from reading this OP. It is beautifully crafted. There is no need to cut yourself off from this community yet unless you are certain that is the best way for you to make the needed adjustments to your changing circumstances. Think about it. Not only are you loved here, but you still are making valuable contributions and we love remaining in contact with you for as long as possible.

[femmocrat]

45. Dammit, Steve.

No one had the right to make you feel sad or uncomfortable. You are much loved here and those who know you would never be unkind. I didn't know your diagnosis, and I am so sorry to hear what you have revealed here today.

If you feel like posting something that you have found interesting, please do it!!! I always read your Labor History and animal rescue posts, as do many others. In a way, I would think that keeping your cognitive skills active would be good "therapy"... if I'm wrong, I sincerely apologize.

If you feel it is too much for you now, we understand. Everyone wishes you well, Steve. We love you and care about you and would miss seeing you here. Stay strong and keep on fighting! Never give up.

[magical thyme]

46. I know you mostly through your animal love...

I hope you will stay with us longer, but of course you must what is best for you.

Please don't let the ignorance of others drive you away. If you post something you later regret, know that now we will know that it is your illness typing.

Thank you for being you, for all you have contributed to all of us.

[BrotherIvan]

47. Dear OS

You add so much to DU, not the least of which is caring and compassion. The people who attacked you only detract from DU. You are a longtime, cherished member. You are fighting for union and working people of this country. You have proven yourself to have a beautiful heart and are a hero in my book. Please, don't leave on account of posters who were nasty because that is their default setting. Don't let them chase you away!

[J_J_]

48. I don't know you but it is obvious You are loved here, and that love is unconditional

Clearly you need this family of friends at DU, don't give up something so important to your health and well being.

Everyone wants you to stay, don't worry about a few rude people.

You haven't ruined anything and certainly haven't overstayed your time.

You make this place human, and seriously bring out the love.

Everyone makes mistakes now and then, and people who love you will overlook it, defend you and still love you.

Please don't leave!

[rurallib]

218. well said

[missingthebigdog]

49. Please reconsider.

We are a family here. When a family member is ill, he or she needs the love and support of family.

Perhaps as importantly, family needs to feel like they are providing that. It is very difficult when a loved one withdraws and doesn't allow the family to be there for him. Allowing people who love you to share the burden and care for you helps to give them closure at the end.

Let us be there. Let us help when we can, and listen when we can't.

[malthaussen]

50. Your contributions are valuable and appreciated.

Only you can decide if you want to put up with the associated crap. But it has been a privilege, a pleasure, and an honor to have known you on DU.

-- Mal

[OneGrassRoot]

52. ^^^ You are loved by so many...

[GentryDixon]

53. I wish you and Marta the best Steve.

[Paka]

54. My thoughts and good wishes,

through this difficult time. Please do post as long as you are able. I don't post often myself, but I have always enjoyed your posts.

My sister died in January from ALS. I was able to be here to help care for her the last year of her life. My heart goes out to you and all your loved ones.

[leftofcool]

55. Oh no! You don't get to leave. There are things to do here!

[KamaAina]

56. Hardly.

No one covers labor issues like you do, and no one else posts anything about Nebraska.

[yallerdawg]

57. You are needed here!

Just this week alone, you have made superlative efforts to keep Democrats informed and to support our candidates.

If you like, there is much more work to be done at your convenience.

If you no like, it is our very serious loss.

Personally, I want at least a 100,000, soldier!

You are very much appreciated.

[Hekate]

58. This shouldn't be locked. It should be pinned so your friends can visit.

[calimary]

60. That sounds like a good idea!

[ancianita]

116. Great idea! Love and thanks to you, Omaha Steve!

[LeftInTX]

120. I agree

Threads get lost around here.

[roguevalley]

61. you are important to this place. I am sorry for the dead headed behavior of others but please stay

steve. I have ever enjoyed reading your posts. May you have peace no matter what. You are loved.

[brer cat]

62. You are among people here who love, respect, and value you, OS.

Please stay as long as you are comfortable. You have made DU a better place, and you will be remembered for that.

My thoughts and best wishes go with you and Marta on this uncertain journey.

[Hoyt]

63. Man. I've read and enjoyed your posts. Please post when/if you can.

[Starry Messenger]

64. You are among the finest people here, OS

Please stay as long as you feel comfortable. ((hugs))

[libodem]

66. I'm so sorry

What a fucked up thing to have happened to you. I love your commitment to unions! I knew something was going on but this is earth shattering. So sad.

Care and concern vibes headed your way.

[ismnotwasm]

67. Oh Steve

My husband has MS, and while it's not the same thing, I wouldn't change a minute of our time together. I don't post much in your threads, but I do pay attention to you.

I hope you are able to stay

When someone asks my husband how he is he always replies "I'm still vertical"

After all these years, I'm still head over heels with that man, despite many challenges

[rug]

68. You're still with us, Steve.

[Omaha Steve]

237. .

[Surya Gayatri]

69. I'm extremely touched by this OP, dear Steve.

I gleaned from some of your OPs that you'd been diagnosed with a serious and potentially terminal illness.

But, I didn't imagine anything as heartbreaking as FTD.

You and your family will be in my thoughts and meditations, whether you continue to post or not.

Above all, know that you are and will always be a valued member of DU.



Surya

[Freethinker65]

70. I have been visiting DU for years and...

have ALWAYS enjoyed your posts. I understand that you need to do what is right for you. If you decide to leave DU, or just post less frequently, I want you to know that you will be missed. Peace.

[1monster]

71. Steve, stay as long as you are physically able. When you give up something you love

due to an illness, you also give up a reason for fighting for the best quality of life you can have... I'm helping my husband fight that battle with Parkinson's now.

If you are concerned about how others perceive your posts, then make apost about your condition and how it might affect what you write on DU and put a link to it in your signature line.

I would like to think that we on DU have enough compassion and empathy to do what little message board members can to ease the paths of those traveling a rough road. Those who don't are not worth the pain they may (inadvertantly or othetwise) inflict.

We, none of us, know what challenges life will throw at us...only that the challenges will come. I sincerely hope that your diagnosis is something far more benign than ALS.

Shalom.

[WinkyDink]

72. I was a "Mrs. French." Best wishes to you from my heart, {{{Omaha Steve}}}.

[Tierra_y_Libertad]

73. Your animal posts have brightened my day many times. Thank-you.

[heaven05]

74. here's to you

[Faryn Balyncd]

75. I hope you will post more photos of the birds in your feeder eating your grape jelly next to

Fontenelle Forest. We loved those photos of yours.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10026418885

[LiberalLoner]

77. I'm so sorry, OS

[F4lconF16]

78. Been on here since relatively recently

But you're one of the best, and one of the greats. Your posts in labor and SocProg have been much appreciated. Hope to still see you around here on occasion, and that what time you have left is as warm as can be.

[Vinca]

79. I'm very sad to read your post. I had no idea.

Keep posting for as long as you can and ignore any remarks if you have a moment of confusion.

[liberal_at_heart]

80. As we all know the internet is a way for some to be mean to others with no consequence. It can

also be a place where people can connect, care, support, and help. Please, please, please don't let the mean people make you feel bad about who you are. What they say says more about who they are than who you are. I hope you will stay a bit longer but if you don't, I wish you all the best for as long as possible.

[H2O Man]

82. Brother Steve, you do

not need to feel any concern about how some other people might react or respond to anything you post here. For you are a valued and much-loved member of the DU community.The vast majority of us enjoy your contributions here. And, there's an old Irish saying that I believe applies to anyone who is impolite, or rude, to you: "Fuck 'em."

Peace,
H2O Man

[haikugal]

83. I still read and enjoy your posts, I hope this doesn't mean you're leaving us.

Your a sensitive person and I like you, please stay....we understand.

[csziggy]

84. Please stay and please continue posting even if it's only cat and dog stories

You are loved and appreciated by most people here. Don't let the turkeys get you down!

While I have found your political and union postings very informative if they are no longer easy for you and cause you grief then drop them. But please stay around as long as you can - so long as staying here is not stressful and does not take away from your real life.

x 1 million to you and to Marta. May all your days together be wonderful and may they be many.

[byronius]

85. Dude, I'm a fan, sorry to hear all this. I love your posts.

Sending you good vibes. Hang in.

[Hekate]

86. A glass to the good old days, Steve. You will be remembered with love and respect.

Thank you for explaining at last, as you said you would do before you departed. I'm so very sorry for the loss that you and Marta are experiencing.

It has been a great pleasure knowing you. And now I have to stop because I am tearing up in public coffee house.

[Arugula Latte]

87. (((Omaha Steve)))

[CreekDog]

88. I hope you stay for those of us who appreciate you

[allan01]

89. i second what the earlier posters say, please stay.

[hunter]

90. There will be many friends watching out for you if you revisit this place.

If you don't, that's a wonderful and admirable decision too. It's not about us.

[s-cubed]

91. I'll miss you.

I've always enjoyed your posts.

[awoke_in_2003]

92. Do what you think you must

But please know that you are, and always will be, a DU treasure, and defender of labor. I am proud to know you. Take care.

[Blue_In_AK]

93. You will always be loved here, Steve,

by the people who know you. Try to ignore the cruel comments by ignorant people who should know better.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

94. We love you, Steve.

I hope you stay here as long as you can - you've given us so much great information and support. Whatever happens, and whenever, I hope you know how much you are appreciated.

[Gormy Cuss]

95. Well, damn.

I knew that you were battling a terminal condition but I sincerely hope that you don't have ALS on top of it.

Please stay around here as long as you like, as long as you can.

[B2G]

96. If you go, DU will be diminished

I love your posts. Please stay as long as you're comfortable. You will be missed whenever it is you decide to leave.

xoxo

[blogslut]

97. I hope you stay with us.

I think you're wonderful and what's happening to you is so unfair.

[enigmatic]

98. You're a wonderful human being

Pretty much the only reason I come here in the rare times I do anymore are the Bernie Sanders Group and your posts.

You bring so much to this board that leaving before your time would be terrible, and so many people would miss your posts and insights.

I don't know the pain that you are going thru; how could I? What I do know, even though we've never met and have probably never talked here is this: I love you., and so do many, many people here. Never forget that.

[roody]

99. I will miss your posts,

though I rarely respond.

[Gothmog]

100. I have truly enjoyed your posts and hope that you will come back from time to time

You will be missed

[handmade34]

101. ...

[Sheepshank]

102. Oh Steve...the cruelty meted out by those who have no clue about you.

I have tears for what you have had to endure here.

I must sadly and with full embarrassment admit that I have used harsh words to others with the smug assumption I knew just where they are coming from. Clearly and with your heartbreaking example, I could have been so very very wrong.

I wish you could find a safe haven on DU at perhaps one of the "groups". But I also understand that sometimes exiting with grace is more important. I would miss seeing your name on the boards. If you decide you have more to contribute here, I will promise to have your back. If the time is now, or at some future date, just know, I will miss your posts.

Thank you for all of the time and grace you have provided to DU.

[Coventina]

103. OS, I've delayed replying, because....well, I think you know.

I hate to see you go, but you need to do what is right for you.

Any choice you make I support 100%.

I'm crying. For you, for all of us.

For the way life is so cruel at times.

Love always,

Coventina

[ebbie15644]

104. No words, just tears.

Please consider staying as long as you want to because we want you to also.

[Habibi]

105. Please keep posting as you are moved to do so, Omaha Steve.

I don't post much, but I read your posts eagerly. I think that, whatever happens, you can trust that your posts will always be welcome. This is a special community, and I believe we will hold you and your wife in our arms for as long as you are with us.

[Duppers]

106. Oh, I wish you wouldn't go...not yet, at least.

We love you so! We truly do.

And if you check your recommend names on your posts, you'll usually find mine there.

[L0oniX]

107. Thank you for all you've contributed to and for us.

[libodem]

109. .

Remember this:

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[Liberalynn]

110. You have always been one of the people I have looked up to on DU.

You are part of the heart and soul here. You have always been one of the posters I've most admired. I can't imagine what you are going through with the illnesses, I can only send thoughts and prayers and a virtual hug across the miles.

If you want to leave DU for your own sake that's one thing, but as someone once said to me don't let anyone chase you out before you really want to go.

If you do go though, it will be understood but you will be missed!

[d_legendary1]

111. You might not remember us Steve, but we will remember you

You are and always will be DU. I don't know you at all but your posts are always something else and worth the time. I've learned a great deal from all the information you've provided over the years and that will be heavily missed. But enought about that its time to live in the present! As long as you're around this place will never get boring nor ignorant. I look forward to seeing more of your work and your opinions on various subjects. Keep up the good work! I pray your health allows you to be apart of the community for a while longer. You've beaten the odds, maybe you still have another ace in the hole!

Stay well and fuck the haters!

[Diclotican]

115. Omaha Steve

Omaha Steve

Ohama Steve - I wish you the best - it is sad you deiced to leave DU, as you have been a power to reckon with - and also a good person who I sometimes have been talking with - on personal things also...

I'm sorry about your conditions - I just wish I could do something for you - to at least comfort you, make sure you are cared for the rest of your life, that you should not have any economical and other vice worry as long as you are around...

By the way - you have NOT overstayed your welcome her on DU - you have always been a voice of reason - even if some might disagree with you - and I do hope - you will be able to stay around, at least until the fall of next year - to celebrate the next democratic President of the United States of America... (The opposite is to bad to even think aloud)

I'm leaning more and more to Bernie Sanders by the way - even if I think maybe Hillary Clinton have a better chance on the nomination - but hey many was talking about that in 2008 too - when Obama got the nomination - so everything is possible.. And even if it is "out there" in the american views - in most of the rest of the world, what Bernie Sanders want is just common sense, and will most definitely not destroy the US as we know it...

I just wish you the best - even if Im not able to do something for you - if I had - I would..

Diclotican

[riderinthestorm]

117. If this post is an example of some level of incoherence, let me say you're doing just fine

this OP is better than 90% of what's posted here.

Please don't go... Yet.

We love you!

[Solly Mack]

118. For you

"The Parting Glass"


Of all the money that e'er I had
I've spent it in good company
And all the harm that e'er I've done
Alas it was to none but me
And all I've done for want of wit
To memory now I can't recall
So fill to me the parting glass
Good night and joy be with you all

Of all the comrades that e'er I had
They are sorry for my going away
And all the sweethearts that e'er I had
They would wish me one more day to stay
But since it falls unto my lot
That I should rise and you should not
I'll gently rise and I'll softly call
Good night and joy be with you all

A man may drink and not be drunk
A man may fight and not be slain
A man may court a pretty girl
And perhaps be welcomed back again
But since it has so ought to be
By a time to rise and a time to fall

Come fill to me the parting glass
Good night and joy be with you all
Good night and joy be with you all

[mia]

246. Thank you for sharing this song.

It says so much.

[merrily]

119. OS, NOTHING you or anyone could do could EVER ruin what OS has been on DU.

You have been such a font of information and inspiration. To me, you've especially been a union hero. I've loved your posts. Superbly done, is all I can say.

I am so incredibly sorry that unpleasantness has preceded your departure.

As you know, if you ever do feel like posting, we will all be delighted. If not, we will all understand.

Either way, our love is with you and your wife.

[abakan]

121. The only demented thing in your post is...

The asswipe that said such a thing to you. Don't give them the power to hurt you, use your ignore with gusto. I would rather have one of you than a million of them any time. People like that don't add anything to the conversation, they just add hurt and ugliness. Stay and continue to enjoy being here as long as you can.

[LeftInTX]

122. You're valued here and I've never seen you act snarky or anything like that

In spite of all that is going on with you, you ARE making a positive contribution to this group.

[justhanginon]

123. I have not been here as long as many old timers but

soon after joining I realized that your posts were some that I always opened and found of value. That will be missed by a lot of us I assure you. I hope you will still post as you feel up to it.
I wish you and your wife the best.

[KittyWampus]

124. You have my support and affection. Thanks for the posts.

People say mean things on the internet. Sorry someone offended you.

[reddread]

126. you teach understanding

more than priceless, this contribution alone.
thoughtless, rude posters responding with absolute lack of compassion?
worthless, every time.

[steve2470]

127. Steve, don't let ANYONE drive you from DU until YOU are ready to leave....

You obviously are much loved here. I think 99.99999999999999999% of us can understand and cut you slack and be silent when we NEED to be silent.

If you are ready to leave NOW, then, it's been a pleasure knowing you in the digital realm. God bless you and Marta.

[olddots]

128. It is a honor to read your posts

you feel like family .

[octoberlib]

129. I've always enjoyed your posts, OmahaSteve and think

you should continue posting as long as you want to. Don't let other people drive you off. A lot of people didn't know about your situation but we have your back now.

[madfloridian]

130. ......

[MissDeeds]

131. Much love and hugs to you, OS

I hope you will stay with us on DU and continue to share your thoughts and insights. The posters who have insulted and disparaged you are not worth a seconds notice. To hell with them. You are a DU icon, and have every right to be here. We are family, and families do not forsake their own. Stay. Post. Share. We value you, and we have your back.

[TuxedoKat]

132. What a brave post

Thanks for sharing your story. You had alluded to an illness and I wondered what was wrong and I'm so sorry to hear you are dealing with this. The NYT article mentioned some experimental research. Have you checked into that? Words are so inadequate I don't know what else to say. I hope you will stay here as long as you want. I've always enjoyed your posts in any forum. (((HUGS and prayers))).

[rhett o rick]

133. Look here Steve. This is a democracy and we will vote to decide if you leave or not and I'm

in charge of counting ballots. Results are in (amazing how fast in electronic era) and it's unanimous that you shall not be allowed to leave.

On second thought, you do what feels best to you. A lot of us here rely on your posts. So you do have a certain responsibility. Yikes, there I go again.

Seriously, and we've had this conversation before, don't let a few bullies ruin it for you and us. Put them on ignore.

What ever you decide you have my blessing and glad to be able to call you my DU friend.

[bearssoapbox]

135. I first noticed you because of your animal posts years ago.

That's when I was a lurker.

It's because of you, and other gentle, smart souls like you that I kept coming back and eventually joined.

Your kindness to animals hit a cord with me because my wife and I have been into animal rescue for years and your animal posts always brought a smile, and in some cases, a smile and a tear or many.

I also enjoyed your union posts and style of writing.

If this is indeed goodbye, then take care.

And thank you.

[countryjake]

136. I want to thank YOU for being one of DU's greatest Labor advocates!

There's isn't a thing you could post that would ever make me admire you less, simply because of all the years that you've wrote about, fought for, and informed us all on the struggles of the Working Class. Whatever ails you now could never detract from those years of dedication, Omaha Steve.

Those of us who know and remember are here for you.

With love, for you:

Solidarity forever, Steve!

[Generic Other]

236. I also salute you for your union activism

We will miss you, OS.

[Voice for Peace]

137. Cannabis Takes on Alzheimer’s and Dementia Successfully: Story and Studies

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I deeply believe this is worth trying. There are countless
amazing stories of cures -- I have read of cancers, late-
stage copd, late-stage alzheimers, and of course seizures --
from the use of cannabis. Can not hurt. Cannabis products
with hardly any "high" are potent and on the market.

http://naturalsociety.com/cannabis-takes-alzheimers-dementia-successfully-story-studies/

[eloydude]

171. Yes! Yes! Give cannabis a try! Consider moving to Colorado - CBD is proven an effective treatment

at least you'll have a fighting chance.... I think a lot of DU'ers (myself included) have always enjoyed your hard work with the LBN and GD as well as many of your animal posts.

You know, I don't cry that often. Last time I cried, my dad passed away.

Now I'm crying for you, brother.

Godspeed, whatever you decide to do.

You have good soul, Steve, and I truly wish you well.

[AwakeAtLast]

138. I am so, so sorry

I have only noticed your wonderful Labor History posts. You could teach a class!

Please consider this: leaving only if it gives you more time with your family, but check in here and there.

I am sorry you have go through this. You are very brave and giving a face to this awful diagnosis.

My heart goes out to you and your family.

[Enthusiast]

139. I wish you all the best, Steve. I still think you're MVP.

I hope you can stick around as long as possible.

[ohheckyeah]

140. Your post was

demented? Seriously?

My god - a great number of posts here are virtually unreadable and none of those are yours. Posts with no punctuation, no complete sentences, no capitalization, unknown (at least to me) abbreviations, off topic, and rambling are fine, but your post sounded demented?

I'm very sorry you have health issues, but I hope you stay. I like and actually understand your posts.

[navarth]

141. Steve! Don't let the clowns bring you down, bro

You're on the side of the angels and you will never be alone here.

I'd like to see the thread where somebody did this to you. Sometimes you need a scorecard to separate the assholes from the allies.

Be strong, bro. Your light still shines here.

[renate]

143. oh, please don't leave!

I understand why you might consider it, but please don't. Especially now that you've been so honest and open about what's going on--you and Marta will get a lot of support here.

I'm truly, truly, truly sorry for what you are going through.

I've always thought you were a sweetie pie. Please stay.

[philly_bob]

144. High respect for Omaha Steve posts, never noticed any decline ...

I guess I'm just clueless.

Hang in there man. Watch what happens in the world with interest, and revel in the comforts and pleasures of physical and social life.

And I'll always read what OS has to say.

[MannyGoldstein]

145. OS, your writing voice is the same as it's always been.

Strong, honest, and decent. Not a hint of disorganization. Whoever told you otherwise is a fool and a knave.

Do whatever is best for you, but I hope that you can continue to post, this place wouldn't be the same without your presence.

Mostly, peace to you and your family. You are loved, and you deserve it.

[sheshe2]

187. Hey Manny...

Steve posted this thread for me.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/1017220580

He is sick and dying, yet he posted this for me and my dad. Almost a month to the day my dad died. Yup, I knew. No clue why he trusted me, yet I knew.

Damn, I am crying here, for Steve and Marta, for my dad. For the rest of us.

[Jesus Malverde]

229. This^^^^^

[Punkingal]

146. Don't stop posting....

I have been on DU for a very long time, although I don't post much. I was a moderator during the 2004 primaries, and we thought DU was tough then! I have always liked your posts, even if I don"t comment much, as I said. Stay! Those of us who remember how it used to be and why this site exists need you here.

[sheshe2]

147. You are a kind gentle man, Steve.

You posted this for me and I have listened to the song many times. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/1017220580

You must do what is right for you and Marta. However, I believe that you need us too. Please continue posting for as long as you can. We love you~

[Jefferson23]

148. Of course, doing as you feel is best is up to you, but if it is because of some other people

here who don't appreciate you. Well, re-read this thread and you may change your mind.

peace

[Ms. Toad]

149. If you want to stay, here are some suggestions.

My spouse has some form of dementia (the current diagnosis is mild cognitive impairment consistent with the early stages of Alzheimers). From my experience with her, your posts generally, and your posts referencing your illness, I expected you had a similar diagnosis.

With my spouse, because it is not yet obvious to most people, people expect her to be herself. In many ways she is, but in other important ways she is not. So people count on her to do things she is no longer capable of doing - and because she has always been capable of doing them they are sometimes cranky with her when she falls on her face. Her family, who she has not told keep making "jokes" about dementia. They are seeing her deficits, but don't recognize what they are seeing.

So some of what I have seen in your posts, and in how people respond, is very familiar to me. People who know you are seeing you aren't yourself. Others who don't necessarily know you are seeing dementia, without recognizing what they are seeing and using it as a put down.

Now that you have announced your diagnosis, people who know you will be more understanding when you aren't yourself. The challenge is that not everyone will see this thread. I think you could nudge people to being gentle with you by making your condition more visible. Perhaps include it in your signature line (with a link to this thread - or the articles you have linked to) and in your profile. That would likely mean you could keep posting quite happily here for some time (particularly with nudges to those being rude from your friends).

But it is a good reminder to everyone here that each of us is dealing with things that are invisible to others. I see several comments in this thread from people who would have been kinder or more understanding had they known. Perhaps we should work harder at not needing to know in order to be kinder and more understanding.

[Omaha Steve]

157. .

[Ms. Toad]

160. .

back at you - and Marta, too. Dementia, of whatever flavor, impacts the whole family. I wish you days with glimpses (and more) of a you that you both recognize.

[Hekate]

188. Oh, Ms. Toad...

[yadig]

198. wisdom and kindness

Good heart felt advice. You are very wise and kind dear lady.

[dreamnightwind]

150. Do what is best for you

I would hope it would help you to be part of this community. It has certainly helped the community to have you in it.

So very sorry to hear of your challenges, unbelievable. I will think good thoughts for you.

I've told you before but I'll say it again, I greatly value your contributions here, you are one of the good ones.

[daleanime]

151. I put off reading this because I could kind of guess the topic.....

enjoy every golden moment my friend and may both hands be full when you step into the night.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

152. "Always be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."

Not sure who said that, but Steve's experience on DU should remind us of this truth. Argue, but don't be mean.

[kcr]

153. I'm so sad to see you go, even though I understand why

I'll miss your posts

[carolinayellowdog]

154. you have touched so many lives here

and the beauty of your soul has a permanent record, for which we all owe you thanks

[annabanana]

155. Please don't go my friend.....

I have been a huge fan of your posts, whichever OS was posting...

I would miss you in a very palpable sense.
Ann

[AngryAmish]

156. I admire you.

I have made my own plans.

About 2 more years my kids won't have to work in their lives. In 5 to 10 my genetics catch up with me, I figure. I have a few years on the golf course before then.

[vive la commune]

158. Hi Steve,

I've only been on here a few months, but I enjoy reading your posts, especially your labor history posts. I can see that a lot of people here love and care about you. I hope you are able to stick around.

[blackspade]

159. What horrible news!

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I'm so sorry.
I have enjoyed your posts over the years.
Take care of yourself.

[luvspeas]

161. I hope the unkind people take note...

I have enjoyed your posts and I have never seen you be mean. I hope that you will continue to come to DU. Here's some incentive...I know you love the animals.

[yadig]

196. coot factor off the scale

I bet those little guys will remember him with love when they get bigger.

[rurallib]

162. mark to come back to

I am crying

[marym625]

164. You make a difference in my life

A difference for the better.

I don't want to see you go. I won't let you go from my life even if you decide to no longer post here.

You are such a dear, brave, caring man and every single person that reads this site is better informed, and I am sure for many, a better human being because of you

[sinkingfeeling]

165. I hate to see you leave. You will be missed OS.

[LiberalElite]

166. Please stay. nt

[Buns_of_Fire]

167. Even if you choose not to post, you will still be with us.

[Oilwellian]

168. I will always think of you and Marta fondly, Omaha Steve

Please don't cry any longer. Focus on those you love and leave no words unspoken. That is the best gift and legacy you can leave them. Take care and much love.

Kathryn Omaha Steve

[likesmountains 52]

169. I don't post all that often, but always read you...

Please stay, we understand.

[KoKo]

170. Just post when you can and we can deal.

I hate to see you give up just because someone trashed a post. It happens to all of us ....so, don't think it's just because of you and the difficulties you are going through. I didn't see the post...but, from your description it just sounded like it hit some the wrong way...and that on DU is to be expected in Campaign Season.

You will know your own condition and when it's time to stop posting. I haven't seen anything from you that sounded "Off."

I'm not a fan of some of your animal posts because I can't deal with people being cruel to animals...and no offense to you that I don't kick those posts...but, your Labor/Political Posts are spot on...and would hate to lose your voice (as long as you feel able) to post in the Political Arena..I will certainly read and Recommend.

It's up to you, though. What you feel about yourself.. is more important than what goes on here, about when you want to stop contributing.

[LiberalEsto]

172. I've enjoyed every post of yours that I've read

Thank you for everything, particularly your support of labor issues.

Please keep us posted on how things are going for you, if at all possible. We will miss you incredibly.

You have my thanks, my sincere condolences on your illness(es), and my strongest blessings of peace, healing and contentment during your remaining time.

[bigtree]

173. on my way to work right now

...not enough time to say what I want...I'll write more later.

[bigtree]

212. what I wanted to say, Steve

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...the first thing my wife said to me when I read her your post was that it's just typical for someone here to come onto a post and literally try to suck the life out of it. You took it as well as you probably could. People are like that. It's easy to forget - I know from experience - that there are real live people on the other end of the cable when typing out a judgmental response; often people with all sorts of challenges and difficulties. It's easy to forget that. Your post is as good a reminder as any I've ever come across.

I don't know how I knew what was ailing you, but I read between the lines and just knew, somehow, that you were in a fight to hold onto the essence of what's essentially 'Omaha Steve.' You're doing a damn fine job of it, in my opinion.

Thing about DU is, Steve, there isn't ever going to be a point where you should be as critically judged - as you were, on how cogent you are - on any post you make; no matter who you are or what you're state of mind. Still, it's going to happen and I'm as sorry as anyone that it's prompted you to withdraw from the forum. - in fact, I'm mad as hell about it.

Thing is about your life, Steve, is that many, many folks are gratified to read anything you relate - however you relate it here. We only have this one shot -this miracle of life - to look out to the stars and back to Earth again, and, if we're lucky or fortunate enough, to relate with each other.

I don't speak of this often because I feel so much about it that I've thought a mere mention would trivialize the experience and I'd lose the preciousness of it all, but, let me say this...

My dad suffered with Alzheimer's disease at the end of his life and I spent four amazing and gratifying years with him living with me. We were the best of buds, he and I - no doubt because he had forgotten what a hard-ass he used to be. Yep, those were the most gratifying years of my life taking care of him and I don't think I'll ever match them. I treasured each and everything he said to me; no matter how mundane, incoherent, or confused. That's the way it is with folks you love.

And yes, Steve, there was a long period at the end of his life when he didn't speak, at all. What I would have given to hear him again chattering on about...anything. The last time he really communicated with me was the night before I was to take him to a nursing home.

He hadn't spoken in almost a year and my Dad looked up at me and said, 'You did a good job."

I was so shocked I thought I was going to choke on the tears welling up. "What?" was all I could manage to say.

"You really did a good job," he said.

"S-So did you," I answered him as soon as I could catch my breath.

Yep, the last thing he ever spoke directly to me. I value that moment more than any in my entire life. That's the way it is with folks you love and care about. It really doesn't matter how we relate to each other - it's more important that we can and do.

I was listening to this new song on the radio on the way home as I was thinking about what to say to you and it's running through my head as I type this. It's nothing as nearly morose as what I wrote and that's a good thing...

It's a song by 'The Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band' - Let's Jump A Train …

Let's paint your house

Into the dark

Outside the city lights

You can still see the stars

*Let's go everywhere

Let's do everything

Let's raise a sail

Let's jump a train*

We can't be heard

Chained to the floor

I say we take a chance

Outside the door

*Let's go everywhere

Let's do everything

Let's raise a sail

Let's jump a train!*


Jump a train, Steve.

[Liberal_in_LA]

174. stay.please

[DisgustipatedinCA]

175. Thank you for everything, Omaha Steve

We've spoken a few times over the years, but not that much. I just want to take a minute to tell you that I appreciate you. I'm not very good with knowing what to say on an occasion like this, so I'll just tell you that I care about you. Oh, and for years I've thought you had an enviable marriage. I've never known Marta, but you've always spoken so highly of her, and I've always thought the two of you must have a great marriage. I'm heartened to know that you have such a wonderful person in your life, and I wish you both the best that can be. Thank you.

I bid you peace, and I'll affix my signature using the sincerest form of flattery.

Santa Rosa Don

[bbgrunt]

176. OS, I usually don't say much here,

but I will say this: You are a great asset to DU and your coverage of labor and animal issues has made this place worth visiting. You are big-hearted and insightful and as far as I'm concerned you should keep posting as long as you can. You will always have friends here who appreciate you and your contributions. I feel very sorry for your troubles and wish you all the best in this journey. But please don't quit us because of a few jerks. Many would like to stay in touch and assist in any way possible. Know that you are loved and will never be irrelevant.

[3catwoman3]

178. Dear Omaha Steve -

I have not been a member as long as some, so have not benefited from your wisdom and eloquence as much as some. Your posts were among those that I took consistent note of early in my participation here.

The one I treasure the most is the exquisitely touching one about the stained glass window you found for your wife. I remember thinking, "What woman would not thrill to know her husband loves her as much as Omaha Steve obviously loves Marta, and what woman would not wish he could express it as beautifully." There is poetry in your soul.

Your presence here has unquestionably touched many people very deeply. I think you are a shining example of the world, both at large and here on DU, being a better place because you have been part of it.

I hope this is not the last we see of you, but that, of course, is up to you and you must do what is best for you.

[undeterred]

179. You're a terrific DUer.

I wish you and your family all the best.

[Terra Alta]

180. Please stay as long as you can.

You are one of my favorite DUers and you have my full support. I always look forward to your posts. Please don't leave.

[polly7]

181. I'm so sorry Ohama Steve for what you're going through.

You've never been anything but kind, and so generous with all of the information you've provided. I hope you see how many people here care very deeply for you and that it's some bit of comfort.

[hay rick]

182. I hope you will stay with us a little longer.

You have earned a lot of good will here. If you stumble, you are not a burden. You are a brother.

[NRaleighLiberal]

183. .

[BeanMusical]

184. ...

[Maraya1969]

185. Steve I hope you don't go and I hope you don't listen to bratty people.

You are one of the ones I know and feel comfortable with from a long time ago. Who cares if you fuck things up on here sometimes. Which one of us is a Pulitzer prize winner?

My mental illness has shown up on this board more than a couple times. I've had some people be mean to me because of it. But most often I find that people here are considerate and kind and those are the ones I think of when I think of here.

You are so cared for here Steve. I've seen it over the years. I wish you peace and contentment. You deserve it.

[Person 2713]

186. I just started posting myself but have long lurked and enjoyed your postings and wondered

about some mentions of illness.
Your Union posts , activism ,your political run,bits of history and nature and just entries about life. Whew !
So many great posts, and I hope , if you can to see more of them with a touch of demented or not! You want to stay others want you to stay but you also know what is best for you too
So I willl just raise a glass with you but make mine a frosty mug

And to that win in November

[midnight]

189. kick... I have always enjoyed your posts.

[whereisjustice]

190. Very sorry to read this heartbreaking news. I'll miss your posts, but you'll continue to inspire.

[lostnfound]

191. Bless you and I'm glad you've stayed on this long

I wouldn't have known of you at all if you'd left earlier, because I was gone from DU for a few years through my own personal life disruptions.

Peace on your journey as you go through whatever transformations, may you find yourself and be happy at every stage.

[yadig]

192. Brought me into the light

Hey Big Steve, you don't know me but I feel as if I know you and a few others that regularly post here. I have been lurking on this site for several years now. I guess I never joined because You guys kinda intimidated me with your knowledge and obvious intelligence. I am just an old guy who never went to collage so I thought it best to stay silent and try to learn a little bit, Steve (same name as my little brother)
I want you to know that you taught me a lot, not just about politics and stuff like that. You taught me about how to be a good human being and that means the world to me. You are so honorable and brave. Well my eyes are kinda wet and I keep hitting the wrong keys on this dang computer, but that's ok cause I can fix the damage to this fumbling text, I just wish I could fix the damage in you. I feel helpless, all I can do is try to pray to a God that I don't know and most of the time am skeptical if he is even there. Steve, I feel your pain and a lot of other people do too, I know because one of the things I have learned here is to scroll down before I start running my mouth. I think it would be a damn shame if you quit posting because some turds on here left a bad taste in your mouth, heck use some mouthwash and spit them down the drain so they can mingle with rest of the sewage. Omaha Steve your plight brought me into the light and there are other people out there who are scared or nervous that you could bring into the light too. Think about it big man, this ain't your swan song yet.

[mountain grammy]

193. Wishing the best for you, Steve.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

194. Oh my dear Omaha Steve...

Blessings on you...

I was honored to be one of those you trusted. When it's time for you to go, you'll know. We'll live with the consequences of that.

I will miss you...

[NCarolinawoman]

195. I can't stand the thought of your leaving.

I had to turn off the computer and cry--I mean really cry. A family member wanted to know what was going on.

Your animal stories, both the good ones and the sad ones were of a great deal of interest to me. Your photos, like the recent ones of the summer tanager, are breathtaking. You still make a whole lot of sense to me --I never thought otherwise. Your beautiful soul always shines through.

Only you know what you feel comfortable in doing now, but I selfishly hope this is not a total and forever good-by.

[Violet_Crumble]

197. I like yr posts and hope that you do visit and post when yr up to it...

Yr a fixture here and yr a great DUer as well as being a really good Host

[WillyT]

199. Hey Omaha Steve...

When My Old Man was dying of cancer in 1975... everybody danced in denial.

Meaning friends, family, community members, et.al... Didn't want to deal with it. Denial.

And is wasn't malicious... it was a defense mechanism guarding against the truth... and the pain...

One day... I waltzed my ass into the bedroom where my dad was waiting to die.

I sat next to him on the bed, hugged him, told him "I Love You", and then told him all the stories I remembered as to why.

We hugged and sat in long sileice... but I'm so glad I had the courage to do it.

And while many people don't think it necessarily courageous...

Most people have never worn those shoes.

I love my dad... I'm currently taking care of my mom... but know this...

In what ever small way...

YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN HERE!

Or by your friends, family, acquaintances, et. al.

You ain't retired yet... and I expect some major Labor posts coming...

But just know this... we love you... and are better because of you.

[Samantha]

200. I know you already carry DU in your heart, so how can you leave us?

From the NYT article you posted:

“Where do you carry my heart?” she asks him, referring to a poem they love by E. E. Cummings.

He smiles and pats his chest.

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in

my heart)i am never without it(anywhere....

We are a part of your family and you are ours. Although you might find some days you cannot visit us, you cannot leave us. And we will never leave you.

From that article, I found there is hope for you. And from this thread, I found the wonderful suggestion of cannabis.

So don't say goodbye to those you love when you most need them. And we will always need you.

On a small, humorous note may I add this: my brother says we all suffer from some stage of dementia -- the only difference is that some of us know it and some of us do not! And there is not a person at this site who posts frequently who has not at one time or another written something which was not what he or she thought it was. And some of us -- including me -- more than once.

So as H20 Man says above, if anyone is rude to you, f*ck them. You are here for us, not them, and in a time of crisis, you should hold your friends close, because they love you unconditionally.

Best of everything to you, Omaha Steve. I hope you change your mind and stay.

Much love and respect,

Samantha

[hedda_foil]

201. Of all of the great DUers, there have been a handful or so who honor us by their presence.

You, Steve, are one of those exemplary people. We love you and will be much diminished when you leave. Remember that we are your extended family and hundreds of us have your back. I have always read and loved your posts and hope that you will decide to offer them to us for a while longer. Above all, we are and always have been your friends.

[Frustratedlady]

202. OS...stay as long as you can. As for changes in spouses? Yes!

My husband had ALS and I also came to a point where I considered divorce. No one could understand what was happening between us and I certainly couldn't. It was a total change from his normal personality and quite a shock when it struck. I was almost relieved when a diagnosis came. I know, that sounds cruel, but it provided answers to us both and knowing where we were heading was the end of the disputes.

A friend also went thru this with her husband when he had a heart attack. He would be extra nice and friendly to the nurses and visitors, but would barely speak to her. When he did, it was in icy tones. When they sent him home, he changed back to his old self.

[Boudica the Lyoness]

204. Sorry to hear you are unwell Steve.

Don't stress yourself and try to enjoy your life. You have done well.

BTW; My sister-in-law has Primary Progressive Aphasia, which is a type of frontotemporal degeneration. She was diagnosed 9 years ago.

Take care of yourself.

[Omaha Steve]

227. I've read every reply

[Boudica the Lyoness]

228. Bless your heart.

[Iwillnevergiveup]

205. Steve, the jury is in

Nearly 3,800 people have read your post, and just look at the feedback you've gotten from a couple of hundred of us. Besides being so knowledgeable on a range of topics, I really feel that you are the antidote to mean spiritedness. So, if you elect to stay, some very good things will happen:

(1) You will continue to make us smarter.
(2) You will continue to make us wiser.
(3) You will be at peace knowing this.

WE LOVE YOU, STEVE. UNCONDITIONALLY.

[Quayblue]

206. My mother always, always told me to ignore people

and I used to think she was wrong until lately... sometimes, people dig at you because they can and then, they don't have shit else to do.

a lot of us like to see you here. I hope you stay.

[lbrtbell]

207. Steve, don't let assholes chase you away

I don't post much here, but I lurk often, and your posts are always informative. If anyone doesn't get that your illness makes you less sharp than you used to be, it's their problem, not yours.

Nebraska used to be my home state, and I like keeping up with what's happening there. You make that so much easier.

It's been bad enough for us, knowing that at some point you wouldn't be able to share with us here at DU because of your illnesses. To lose you even sooner because of the words of idiots is tragedy heaped upon tragedy.

Please reconsider, as we would miss you terribly.

P.S. - GO BIG RED!

[azurnoir]

208. Dear Mr Omaha

we had some dealings earlier this week and you were extraordinarily kind and thoughtful, DU would not be the same without you, you've kept us informed for years with your posts

You must do what you think to be best for you but as others have said, please do not a few unkind words influence you too much

If youdecide your time here is over you will be greatly missed

[Pooka Fey]

209. Dear Omaha Steve

I am so sorry to read about all this. You are world's away from your average DUer. Your absence will make this place much colder, much less attractive as a forum. I wish you every good and joyful moment from here on. No more tears over DU especially, 90% of what made DU cool is rare and fleeting, alas. We had some good times though!
That being said, I am glad to have "known" you on DU.


An Old Irish Blessing

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind always be at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
and rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of His hand.

[gademocrat7]

210. OS, you are an amazing man.

Sending love and peace to you and Marta.

[randome]

211. By sharing so much with us, Steve, you've inspired us all.

You have always been a force for good in the world at large and in the little world that is DU and you will always be in our thoughts and always welcome to return if you want.
[hr][font color="blue"][center]“If you're not committed to anything, you're just taking up space.”
Gregory Peck, Mirage (1965)[/center][/font][hr]

[mmonk]

213. I don't make demands but...

stay.

[ColesCountyDem]

214. As someone you trusted enough to tell, I beg you-- please stay.

You are one of DU's shining lights, Steve, and one of the kindest, gentlest and most loving people I've ever met. Furthermore, even on a bad day, you STILL make very worthwhile contributions here.

I will join others here in asking you to reconsider your decision to leave. There will come a time when no longer posting will be the best decision for you, but as someone who knows you well, that time has not yet arrived. Please reconsider.

You are loved, Steve, and I beg you not to deprive DU of your presence prematurely.

[intheflow]

215. Steve, your posts have meant so much to me.

When I've wanted to know what was happening in the labor world, you have been my go-to guy for at least a decade. You may be slipping away but I hope some part of you always remembers the positive influence you've had on DU, and by extension, the world.

And if you don't remember this tomorrow, I hope you're comforted at least for today in knowing that you are more than your illnesses, more than your betraying brain and body. You are inherently good, you are inherently worthy, you will always be a cherished member of humanity.

Much love and strength to you and your family as you progress on this difficult journey.

[stage left]

216. You introduced me to the Animal Rescue site.

And I've enjoyed your postings on animals. Thank you for being here. Please post as you are able.

[SHRED]

217. Pro Union and...

...Pro Steve!

[rurallib]

221. I am so thankful that I crossed paths with you

All of us have learned so much from you. We are lucky to have had you in our lives. Thank you so much. And thanks to Marta for sharing you with us.

If you leave it will leave a big hole in DU. You are one of the very few that really shape and drive DU.

It is a tough, tough decision for you. There are no right answers.

Once more, thanks.

I am crying now. I feel like I am losing a very close friend.

[Autumn]

222. Stay.

[PADemD]

223. Please stay.

[susanr516]

224. We will miss you

I always enjoyed reading your posts, especially those about organized Labor. I generally just lurk, but you're one of about 5 members whose OPs I always read.

Hugs to you and Marta. My father died of this (and his brother of ALS.) I'm 61 now. Every time I lose my train of thought or drop something, I wonder if it's coming for me.

[Dems to Win]

225. Thank you for all the great posts

I've enjoyed reading your nature and labor posts and links, a lot.

All the best to you and your family.

[Stargleamer]

226. Whenever I thought of the best DU has to offer. . .

I always thought of you, Steve.

I'm sorry to see you go and I'm so very sorry for your plight. I hope you will be with those who love, cherish and understand.

[highplainsdem]

230. Please stay, Steve.

And count me among the many who are heartbroken to hear about your health problems. You have always added so much to this website with invaluable posts, with so much intelligence and compassion. I still see that intelligence and compassion shining through, and I hope you will not leave us yet.

[NYC_SKP]

231. .

[question everything]

233. I am selfish. I cannot imagine DU without you

Looking forward to continue seeing your posts, even if they are far and few.

Hang on. We need you.

[historylovr]

234. I've always enjoyed/learned something from your posts

even though I may not say so, because I usually lurk. And I'm so sorry you're going through this.

[locks]

235. I've only been in DU

for a few years but I always read your posts and the articles you refer. Thank you; you are an inspiration for so many.

[JCMach1]

238. I don't know what to say...

You will be missed and I hope the stinking Dr.'s are wrong.

[babylonsister]

239. Awwww. Just know that

you are loved and I thank you for your prolific contributions here that has made DU so much better.
I also think you should stay as long as you want. Also, thank you for sharing.

Never forget-you are loved, by so many here.

[catrose]

240. You make DU NOT suck, Steve

I love your animal and union posts (very educational, even after 20 years in a union).

I knew you had health issues; I didn't know what. I'm so sorry.

My favorite writer just died of early onset Alzheimers, not exactly the same thing, but lumped into the "brain quitting before you're done with it" category. When he couldn't type, he found another way to record his stories; I think there's still a book or two in the publishing pipeline. I particularly love the top photo in this article:
http://wordpainting.tumblr.com/post/113650360126/michaelallanleonard-like-wot-i-do-terry

All to say that I hope you find ways to do what you love for as long as possible. If that includes posting at DU, we're blessed. Petting the cat and feeding the birds also are good, and I understand if you'd rather do so.

In honor of Sir Terry, I've been embroidering lilacs on my clothes. (The book that tells you why is Night Watch.) When he was diagnosed in 2007, his fans began wearing lilacs then, to show support for him in his illness. But now whenever I put on one of my lilacs, I'll think of you too and send good thoughts/prayers in your direction.

[laundry_queen]

241. Dear Omaha Steve

I for one would love for you to stay but understand why it would be hard. My SIL's dad had the same disease, and it's tough - he was an intellectual (he was a university prof) and for years he tried to hide the symptoms from his wife and kids. He never did get violent...sometimes he would wander though. When he died, it was peacefully, surrounded by his family.

I wish you all the best. I'll be thinking of you and pulling for you. I do hope you stick around.

[Omaha Steve]

242. .

[Ilsa]

243. Please stay as long as you wish.

Still hoping for the best for you.

[Dont call me Shirley]

244. You are in my meditations of Healing, Caring and Love. Know that you matter to myself and to

many others. Peace Comfort and Ease, Shirley

[TheBlackAdder]

245. K&R

.


My thoughts and hopes are with you.


.

[mia]

247. Thank you for sharing your story with us.

I'm overwhelmed with such admiration and love for you. You helped me to understand what my father went through.