My daughter in kindergarten got her first ever taste of what privilege means!

[snooper2]

We were chatting about school while walking to the park and she was telling me about a boy in her class who throws fits. How he sticks his tongue at everyone, cries on the floor, talks without raising his hand all the time.


I explain how every other parent would-
Sweetie, just worry about you, let the teacher take care of him that is her job. Just stay away from him you got other friends already in your class.


She responds-
Yeah, but he never gets in trouble. His mom is a teacher at the school.



LOL

Note- She got in "trouble" couple weeks back for talking in line (got sent to end of line)

[riderinthestorm]

1. Are you privy to that boy's history?

Does he have medical or psyche issues that might warrant compassion instead of punishment?

Why automatically assume the child is receiving "privilege"?



I guess I'd be more inclined to give the teacher and 5 yr.old boy some benefit of the doubt rather than tell my daughter the boy's getting an unfair pass especially if I weren't privy to all the details.

[monmouth4]

2. Oh FFS...n/t

[TipTok]

11. Exactly...

[snooper2]

3. I didn't say anything about him getting a pass, told her it's the teachers problem

She figured that out on her own-

[pnwmom]

8. It's just possible, though, that she "figured out" the wrong thing.

And that others might have, too.

My young son told me lots of things about a child that he was resenting, with that child receiving privileged treatment. It turned out that the child was autistic. But they hadn't been advertising that fact to the classmates.

[Heidi]

7. Agree in general. (nt)

[riderinthestorm]

9. I helped in both of my daughters' kindergarten classes

At least 1-2 times/week. I learned to never assume.



Some of those wee babes are experiencing abuse. Some are on meds already. Some are undiagnosed autism.

Its the smart kindergarten teacher who is often the one to begin a child's journey to health, safety and/or sanity. I've witnessed it personally.

I guess the OP just caught me in a cranky mood but I just couldn't stand by and think every mis-behaving 5 yr old at school is "privileged ". Not in my experience. ..

[Heidi]

12. The OP describes a typical first-world problem,

not true privilege as experienced by truly marginalized populations. The OP, in effect, trivializes the whole concept of privilege. But I suspect that was the intent.

[snooper2]

14. thus your comment "snowflake", but I assumed what you assumed and was correct

thanks!

[Heidi]

19. The general reaction to your OP should be educational.

You're welcome.

[riderinthestorm]

16. Agreed. I'm uncomfortable with this usage of that term here too

[bettyellen]

17. Interesting, and correct about intent I think. But I wonder how this kid would be treated if he

was black and or his parents less involved that there was no diagnosis. Would he be punished more severely or get less assistance from the school? Likely the difference would come from how well funded the school is, and how overworked the teachers are.
So if this was a poor inner city school, yeah, less privilege. Within this school itself, probably not as much.

Good to see you, dear Heidi!

[tavernier]

4. My daughter and SIL are teachers

and I work at the school. My grandson gets in trouble just as often as every other kid and can't get away with anything because we hear about it right away! His idea of 'privilege' is being a kid whose parents work elsewhere! So the grass is always greener... Etc. 😄

[imanamerican63]

5. A lesson learn......

when that young will go a long way in her life. When I was in grade school, I had 2 teachers who had kids in my class. Total opposite when it came how they acted. One was a nice kid who stayed out of trouble and the other was always getting bailed out by his mom. Funny thing, the one who was always in trouble, never stayed out of trouble after he graduated. The last I heard about him, he has been in & out of prison many times for many different. Good luck to your daughter and maybe someday she will become some one famous?

[Heidi]

6. Your little snowflake has no idea what that boy is getting for punishment at home.

Both of my parents were teachers. The punishment at home for in-school misbehavior was many times more harsh than anything the school could have (and sometimes did) delivered.

[Egnever]

10. Good lord

Cause a 5 year old said it it must be true.

[Heidi]

13. "LOL" is right.

Cool story, bro.

[cwydro]

15. You might also want to advise her not to listen to gossip.

No doubt that's where she learned what she's repeating to you.

I shudder to think how the other children are treating this "fit-throwing" boy.

Wonder when mean girl syndrome starts? Probably as soon as they can point fingers and giggle.

[dembotoz]

18. wonder if the kid has an iep....the joys of mainstream

inclusion is a wonderful word and when it works.....

sometimes not so much

that teacher might have her hand full and tied all at the same time.....