My crazy first LEGAL gay anniversary.
This day, a year ago, my partner and I were allowed to legally marry in the State of Oklahoma. It has been an interesting year, but not all that different from some other years, and certainly more tame than a few years we have had together. I posted about our marriage last year, so I thought I would give people a "peek" into the wildness of a first year gay anniversary. Prepare yourself...
I had cards placed in the kitchen and den so my husband would find them when he woke up. The puppies got him up early as they often do. Of course, the raging storm helped too as my chihuahuas do not like thunderstorms. Oh yeah, he was home today because he was sick (since Saturday). Flu shot only works so well. LOL! But the real party started when I got up and went down stairs to him hacking up a lung. I was now fighting off his cold. I think I won! 
We exchanged pleasantries, no kissing for obvious reasons, and settled in to watch some TV. He promptly fell asleep. We woke up, watched some more TV, then I was off...to the doctor's office. After waiting for an hour, I was finally informed my biopsy was negative! YEA! No stomach cancer! They still have no fucking clue what is wrong with me, but hay, it ain't cancer so I am kvetching too much! Then back home with some KFC chicken pot pie. No since in cooking as he really couldn't eat too much and that is what he wanted. I did actually plan to make a Mustard peppercorn eye of round, but I wasn't about to put all that effort into something he couldn't eat. Guess what we are having tonight?!
The rest of the day was filled with more TV, napping, puppy potty breaks, MORE TV and napping, then it was time to put him to bed, where I had one final card. We hugged goodnight (remember, he is still sick and we got plans next week) and I put him and the four doggies in bed.
Boring, right? Well, even us gays have to take a day off from wild parties and what ever else bullshit the rightwing makes up about us. The point is my marriage is legal. Our lives didn't change profoundly with the exception of the following: I was now a spouse and could get insurance which reflected it; we could file as married on our taxes which greatly increased our refund (we got some serous cheddar back), we didn't have to worry about the home, cars, money, if, G-d forbid, something were to happen to him or me, it would go directly to the other, and, as of last June, my marriage didn't become unrecognized if we went from state to state.
What didn't change? Our love for each other; our commitment to one another; our desire to be with one another...in sickness and health!
I just had to share my happiness.
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... and may what didn't change never change.
Thanks for the compliment though!
What if the quakes in OK are not from fracking but from all the gay marrying?
We should ask Ben Carson! 
We are just a couple of wild and crazy guys...20 years ago! 
Behind the Aegis.
Sweet~!
PS, get well soon.
Fingers crossed for better health.
Always a here. 
I brought it up last week with my husband, and didn't remember. Shocker! But, the bigger part was he couldn't believe it had been a year. He even said, "are you sure?"
Thank you for the good wishes and seeing the underlying message too!
Yay! (no cancer)
Excellent!
Boring can be fun. 
Sometimes, better late than never will do.
It sounds perfect if you ask me. I wish you many more years of married bliss!
Also, good news on the biopsy coming back negative! That's a nice addition to a beautiful day. 
I would've been here sooner if it wasn't for a 16 hour power outage! (We had one of our November storms) Happy Anniversary! 
Hey, we had some bad ass storms last night...two in fact!
(PS, I still owe you a PM...I promise I will get to it soon!)
Coincidentally enough, the 1 year anniversary is actually colloquially known as the KFC Chicken Pot Pie anniversary. Who knew?
ps. Glad your results came back clear. 
...as long as it didn't require getting off the couch! 
Thanks for the good wishes.
Love makes it all worth while.
I am glad to have lived long enough to see the day.
And I wish you many more. time at our house. 
to you and your wife!
I am so happy for you, BtA! You are good people.
ps: YES!, on the test results.
It was a nice, albeit lazy day, and I enjoyed sharing it with him and y'all!
Many more happy, healthy years to you both! 
Destroying the fabric of Christendom, one mundane day at a time.
Perhaps we should plan a trip to NOLA, we haven't been back since we left. 
and that has to be hard on you.
And thank you for your lovely story - it was very sweet!
But I couldn't fuckin' be happier for you.
SO happy for the two of you
Funny thing is, I have spent many anniversaries, birthdays, and other occasions that we tend to celebrate in the manner in which you explained having spent your recent anniversary. I am a widow now, but for many years my husband and I celebrated occasions such as anniversaries etc., when we could. When we had children, we couldn't always drop everything and celebrate, after the children were old enough, and we could have maybe taken a bit of time for ourselves, we were too busy trying to help shape their future. We did party sometimes to celebrate, don't get me wrong and when we did, those few parties that we did have probably meant a lot more to us than if we had partied to celebrate every occasion.
As you state in your comment, the true and most important thing about marriage is love and commitment and to add to that, I would say also a shared responsibility for each other and a continued ability to learn to give and take rather than constantly accept. Thank you for sharing your happiness, I wish many more years of love and happiness for you and your husband. Also too, let me say congratulations on your negative finding in regards to the biopsy test. Take advantage of your good fortune, use that occasion as a reason to go out and celebrate when your husband gets well. You'll find that moments of joy like this one and many others you will have will be moments that you will celebrate with just as much feeling as you would an anniversary, birthday, etc.
After so many millennia, it's a glorious that we are all alive to witness this sea change in the evolution of the human spirit.
Every bit of bigotry and hate that anyone vanquishes elevates each and all of us.
congratulations on your anniversary
Happy Anniversary my friend. I hope you have many more wonderful years together.
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you old married couple, you!!!
(hope you both get well soon!)
Congratulations on the negative biopsy.
