Now HERE'S a thought.......

[dixiegrrrrl]

[Kath1]

1. Amen.

Beautiful.

Peace!

[cwydro]

2. Words to live by.

I've never been able to hold grudges, and I'm deeply grateful for that.

[CTyankee]

3. I have learned this with two people in my life and it is a transforming experience...

I can't tell you how much pain and suffering it takes away...it's a good feeling and you don't have to be religious (I am not) to do it.

[Kath1]

4. And this....

Wishing everyone a new year of peace.

[Baitball Blogger]

5. As long as they don't see it as a sign of weakness and take another run at you.

[vanlassie]

12. But you are 100% in charge of your reaction.

It's both the good news and the bad news!

[dixiegrrrrl]

21. The other person does not necessarily need to know you have let go of your resentment

The important point is that YOU have let go.

[840high]

6. Amen.

[Wilms]

7. David Crosby - Set That Baggage Down

[Faux pas]

9. Kickin'

[Depaysement]

10. Whenever you kill another

You kill part of yourself too.

[malthaussen]

11. Does not compute.

Forgiveness is not something that is "deserved," so one forgives from charity. Forgiving from enlightened self-interest would seem to miss the point of the exercise.

-- Mal

[vanlassie]

13. Who cares? You do it for yourself, period. Not for the points.

It's not about them.

[Mira]

19. Well, you can forgive from charity given to your own self

Peace of mind is a wonderful gift to get as a byproduct as you deserve to make your life the happiest it can be.

[Uncle Joe]

14. Kicked and recommended.

Thanks for the thread, dixiegrrrrl.

[R. P. McMurphy]

15. I like this. nt

[Stuart G]

16. Thanks for posting..k and r

[sarge43]

17. Ultimately, it's pointless to hold a grudge.

The person(s) you hold one against doesn't know, doesn't care or enjoys watching you stew. In the mean time you're building up emotional bile which just hurts you. On the other, being happy bugs them no end.

[Stuart G]

18. This is a quote of ..Jonathan Lockwood Huie..more of his quotes on this subject:

Forgiving others is a gift to yourself,
given not because the other deserves pardon,
but because you deserve the serenity and joy
that comes from releasing resentment and anger,
and from embracing universal forgiveness.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Forgiving is not a gift to someone else.
Forgiving is your gift to yourself -
a great gift - the gift of happiness.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Forgive those who have injured you -
not because they deserve your forgiveness,
but because you can never be happy
until you release your anger and grant forgiveness.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Forgiveness is the cleansing fire
that burns away old regrets and resentments.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Forgiveness of all people and all acts -
is a sure path to happiness.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

[dixiegrrrrl]

20. Thank you for sharing the source of that idea.....