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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI was a "victim" of a hate crime on Friday
I put victim in parentheses because while I was accosted because of my sign, he started it but I well and thoroughly finished it. He's probably traumatized. I'm not.
Here's how it went down. I went to a much smaller protest in Seattle on Friday night. The front of my sign said "Where are your Taxes?", and the back said, as so many did, "This Pussy Grabs Back". There weren't many people yet and I heard someone yell, "Hey, Bitch, you want me to grab your pussy?!" I turned around, set my sign down and gave him my Terri doesn't take shit stare. It's always worked. People look away and walk away. I wasn't scared and once I knew for sure he was targeting me, I was angry. But, I was determined not to start anything. Then he walked up to me and was less than an arms reach away. He grabbed my breast, I grabbed his shoulder and my knee went up his crotch hard. He went down hard. I picked up my sign and left him with his friends.
Today, my knee hurts so I must have racked him but good.
I guess that's why I decline to call myself a victim. Yeah, it was hateful and he started it but I well and truly ended it.
BSdetect
(8,998 posts)Well done.
dickbrain concussion. It's a keeper!
AgadorSparticus
(7,963 posts)marybourg
(12,625 posts)MrScorpio
(73,631 posts)tavalon
(27,985 posts)I put every once of my Leo in it. I'm really surprised that he actually kept coming.
yuiyoshida
(41,831 posts)to the Pervert in Chief, and that for a half hour, his luggage would hurt like hell, so much he would have to sit down.
lunatica
(53,410 posts)SamKnause
(13,101 posts)That was the correct response.
I hope his balls are still on ice.
Saviolo
(3,282 posts)Good on you for your strong and *very well targeted* self-defense!
He'll have another think coming next time he ponders sexual assault.
FoxNewsSucks
(10,429 posts)C_U_L8R
(45,000 posts)Good going !!
These fuckers are gonna learn we punch back, hard.
sheshe2
(83,750 posts)I love ya tavalon.
Buckeye_Democrat
(14,853 posts)My God, that idiot was asking for it!
I took some blows down there from baseballs, bicycle top tubes (girl and boy bike designs should be switched) and other things to say... he won't forget that for awhile!
wildeyed
(11,243 posts)I would totally love to hear the convo they had after you left Bet it was not kind to your attacker.
A very young douchebag yelled 'lock her up' at me as we walked back to the car. I told him to get out of his car so we could discuss it further, but he declined. Despite being on the smallish side, I can bench more than most similar sized men and have a vile temper when physically threatened. These assholes will learn that it is one thing to talk trash behind their computer screens and a total other thing in the real world.
tavalon
(27,985 posts)I was the finisher.
wildeyed
(11,243 posts)That type eat their own. The only way they feel big is by making someone else smaller. It is an effective strategy in the short term, but self destructive in the long.
tavalon
(27,985 posts)That at the ripe old age of 53, being called a girl is odd, but whatever. I'm in good shape for my age, luckily.
2naSalit
(86,577 posts)neutralized by a woman/girl... and it really messes with the heads of onlookers when you confront the rest as though you're gonna enjoy looking at them in a heap on the ground.
I'm not a violent person but I have had to defend myself physically and always ended the ordeal with me walking away from a pile of idiot (only one body) on the ground. It wasn't pretty, didn't feel good about it but realized what I had in me and to try to harness that energy and put it to good use.
Thanks for being out there marching!
wildeyed
(11,243 posts)Divide us into people they want to fuck and people they do not want to fuck (sorry to be graphic, but it is what it is). Any woman who challenges them goes into the 'do not want to fuck' category and is then eligible for insults. Except they still look at your butt as you walk away
I was an amateur-elite athlete in my younger days. I would complete an impressive athletic accomplishment, and there were many men who couldn't even SEE the truth in front of their eyes. They would discount by saying they didn't want to have sex with me (lol, never an option that was on the table from my perspective) or whatever insulting, pointless thing they could think of. There is NOTHING that makes them feel more tiny and insecure than a woman who can beat them in typically male areas of sport and physical accomplishment.
That guy assumed he could touch your body without your consent and you corrected that pretty damn quickly! That is going to hurt him way more than his sore balls
Buckeye_Democrat
(14,853 posts)tavalon
(27,985 posts)Buckeye_Democrat
(14,853 posts)long ago.
It didn't play for me until I enabled Flash Player. I have an add-on to disable/enable it.
jimlup
(7,968 posts)tavalon
(27,985 posts)Not have his friends decide to defend his balls. I got out of there, post haste.
jimlup
(7,968 posts)kudos to you!
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Probably a short list of people with ruptured testicles at Harborview.
Not criticizing you for not reporting it, just lamenting that a creep like that belongs in jail.
nolabear
(41,960 posts)I know we have that image of liberalism but there are some serious fuckweasels in this town. I'm happy you're okay and happier he's not.
tavalon
(27,985 posts)A bit of a fiasco, actually.
tavalon
(27,985 posts)nolabear
(41,960 posts)lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)TrekLuver
(2,573 posts)He's lucky you didn't call the cops on his dirtbag ass.
You were not hateful...you fought fire with fire. You can't fight fire with a raindrop.
tavalon
(27,985 posts)Listening in anatomy class, because unless my breasts are now pussy one and pussy two, that kid had no idea what to grab.
Needless to say, I've renamed them as above.
mindem
(1,580 posts)HipChick
(25,485 posts)retrowire
(10,345 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)And even more glad that you were not harmed. I did something similar when I was in college. A guy would not stop grabbing my ass at a frat party so I turned around and grabbed his crotch as hard as I could. He went away. These pathetic men are paper tigers. Turn it back on them and they will flee.
barbtries
(28,789 posts)it's great that you hurt him back and worse, but i can't help but wish you had also had him arrested for assault and pressed charges. there must have been plenty of witnesses.
having said that, way to assert yourself! i probably would have whacked him with my sign or some other weak thing.
mwooldri
(10,303 posts)He started it for sure. You defended yourself.
You took self defence classes? If you did and paid money... money well spent. No-one grabs the boobies without permission.
tavalon
(27,985 posts)I've decided to look into it.
gordianot
(15,237 posts)A small piece of plastic about the size of a pencil you would be shocked at what it can do with a little training. I carry a tactical pen not considered a weapon I know what anyone can do the pen is mightier than the sword and much more discreet. No need for martial arts.
FailureToCommunicate
(14,013 posts)the signature moves.
http://www.womensselfdefense-seps.com/
Adrahil
(13,340 posts)Make him remember that shit!!!!!
Sunny05
(865 posts)Glad you're alright. And wish I could hang out with you, go where you go, have you go where I go! (Hey, back off, I've got DU Terri with me!)
DU, may we have a pink smiley emoticon? Or another hats-off smiley, but w/ a pink pussy hat? (Still love all original smileys and icons!). Or a pink frog thingy jumping up and down?
Generator
(7,770 posts)Only place I was ever grabbed was in Europe-by dirty old men on the street and train when I was in my 20's. This is worse because they are targeting you because you are standing up for your rights as a woman in America during the beginning of a fascist coup. Glad you fought back and are okay! Many on the other side DO hate us and this is everything Trump has enabled-hate of women and all the others he targeted. Bring someone with you if you can next time!
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,681 posts)mnhtnbb
(31,384 posts)Good for you going after his weak spot.
I have never understood why more women don't do it. Years ago--when I was in my 20's--it was very common for women
to take self defense classes and we all learned to be prepared to defend ourselves.
Now, though, I worry about how many of these predatory males are also carrying guns--to defend their phallic rights--and whether
they would escalate against a woman who would dare to defend herself.
Granny M
(1,395 posts)So glad you fought back!
ewagner
(18,964 posts)That's the only way to handle this kind of assault
IronLionZion
(45,433 posts)workinclasszero
(28,270 posts)snort
(2,334 posts)jeffreyi
(1,939 posts)Can you press charges and get the f&$#@# arrested.
Leith
(7,809 posts)Well done.
GoCubsGo
(32,080 posts)Although the physical pain from the nut-shot, and the pain of being humiliated in front of his friends, is probably enough. Hope it sunk into his thick skull.
Riverman100
(275 posts)When I was in high school I was taking classes at the local ymca. Thursday was judo, Tuesday was self defense. One Tuesday night the instructor told us that "no matter what, a good kick in the balls will cure anyone".
hurple
(1,306 posts)won the protest.
Congratulations!
N_E_1 for Tennis
(9,721 posts)Great job you nasty woman!
rurallib
(62,411 posts)I am guessing he wasn't using that junk anyway
BlancheSplanchnik
(20,219 posts)I love you!!!!!
40RatRod
(532 posts)RoBear
(1,188 posts)And I'm still of the opinion that every rapist should be put in prison and become the "toy" of his fellow inmates.
FIGHT BACK!
You are a hero and an inspiration. I hope that if I should ever find myself in a similar situation, I remember this and follow your lead. Thank you.
JPPaverage
(508 posts)He told both my sister and I that sometimes you have to just punch a bully in the mouth. Granted, that was a long time ago and things have changed, but I still feel that's the most effective way to deal with someone like that. So, great job at kneeing the sexual predator in his balls. He deserved it and may think twice before he tries that again with any other women. This is from a middle aged fat bald guy. Again, congratulations even though violence is a last resort.
I fuckin love you.
LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)That you gave worse than you got is irrelevant. You were sexually assaulted. I'm glad you weren't traumatized by it, but that was definitely assault.
martigras
(151 posts)You go girl! The sisters aren't taking this anymore!
AgadorSparticus
(7,963 posts)47of74
(18,470 posts)You were one. I hope that piece of shit is in a lot of pain.
hollowdweller
(4,229 posts)I think maybe the one lesson we need to take from the election is we need to stop taking shit.
Orrex
(63,206 posts)More to the point, how did your knee ever manage to find his tiny genitals?
LeftInTX
(25,287 posts)dae
(3,396 posts)even if they are neanderthals.
lpbk2713
(42,757 posts)Now he can sing soprano in the church choir.
Their brains are locked into fifty year in the past. They still
think Dems are Flower Children who won't retaliate.
I admire you for being there and for doing what you did.
LittleGirl
(8,285 posts)wtf! Good job, I hope your knee feels better soon.
TeamPooka
(24,223 posts)is a crime and he should have been arrested.
heaven05
(18,124 posts)we're going to have to do this and I'm afraid a lot more aggressive retaliation in these upcoming 4 years.
tavalon
(27,985 posts)I really wasn,t expecting such an outpouring of kindness. I'm a nightshifter so I've been asleep and I'm heading back to sleep. Thanks again.
Lint Head
(15,064 posts)But happy you stood up for yourself. That's what we need. We need to fight these idiots and stand up for ourselves.
You have courage.
HassleCat
(6,409 posts)We want to make sure his DNA gets passed on.
Lucky Luciano
(11,253 posts)It could have been much worse.
You should press charges if possible.
MFM008
(19,806 posts)Tomorrow. I would kiss you if I could!
llmart
(15,536 posts)Love that you're a Leo like me I don't take shit from anyone if they start it first. Though I've never had the opportunity to do it in the way you did, I'm pretty sure I'd do the same thing if some guy grabbed my breast or anything else. I'm just not intimidated by anyone - never have been.
From one nasty woman to another, I am really, really proud of you!
MuseRider
(34,107 posts)Who knows what he was going to do? <--- isn't this often an excuse used by others to get away with their violence?
I am non violent but I feel this changing, only slightly. I would approve of your response but not shooting, surely. If this kind of crap becomes normal I may start wearing knee pads and they will not be for the reason some might think.
This always gets worse for women when men are encouraged to do what many of them wanted to do all this time but felt some restraint. It is just another ism that usually does not get taken seriously. Of course there are men who would never consider this kind of behavior, (there it is guys, the essential qualifier ) but the others are out there, I cannot even imagine this happened to you.
I hope you are OK. This can really take a toll on a person, many times much later when they realize they were treated this way.
ProudProgressiveNow
(6,129 posts)Warpy
(111,254 posts)You really know you've finished it if they puke on themselves.
And if you go to your local city's snot-nosed-male-nobody-will-ever-fuck board, you'll find him bragging about groping you.
bluecollar2
(3,622 posts)Crash2Parties
(6,017 posts)They - white supremacists, misogynists, "righteous' conservative Christians, Men's Rights Advocates, and just general Trump "fan" a**holes are becoming more and more bold.
Knicks007
(73 posts)I'm proud of you for standing up and defending yourself!
Runningdawg
(4,516 posts)YoungDemCA
(5,714 posts)But in all seriousness, what you did was absolutely within your rights. Self-defense.
And thanks for posting this on here. Others who read your post - especially women - could very well be inspired by you if/when they face the same threat from a would-be attacker. We may not appreciate the impact that we can have.
Thank you.
spanone
(135,829 posts)TheFrenchRazor
(2,116 posts)malaise
(268,966 posts)rock
(13,218 posts)Vinca
(50,269 posts)pnwmom
(108,977 posts)roamer65
(36,745 posts)He should be brought to court over it...IMO.
It's your choice, of course, but I like to see people like him have a criminal sexual assault record.
If he did it to you, he's done it to other women.
Very glad you are safe and sound!
kimmylavin
(2,284 posts)And haha, all I could think of was this:
DFW
(54,369 posts)Once this Republican scum put his hand on your breast all forms of self defense were justified
GaYellowDawg
(4,446 posts)Then you squashed one or both testicles up into the pubic bone. You really did a number on him! WELL. DONE.
tavalon
(27,985 posts)I'm a righty so it was an angled knee. The left would have gone straight. Whatever, it feels better today.
JoeOtterbein
(7,700 posts)The Wizard
(12,542 posts)trocar
(243 posts)CousinIT
(9,241 posts)You WERE a victim but you aptly defended yourself and left the dirtbag behind. Well done.
napi21
(45,806 posts)your response takes the same action if ever in that situation. Maybe those dickheads will learn the hard way they should not mess with any women!
cstanleytech
(26,287 posts)You must always use protection
7962
(11,841 posts)iluvtennis
(19,852 posts)Ilsa
(61,694 posts)Get his testicles re-descended.
Great job!
mountain grammy
(26,619 posts)Always remember this: men are afraid women will embarrass them, women are afraid men will kill them.. don't be afraid but please, be careful, always watch your back.
That said, good for you!