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sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 08:59 PM Aug 2017

'BY WOMEN, FOR WOMEN' Vegan cafe charges male customers 18 percent man tax and seats women first i

A CAFE is making waves after it began charging blokes more money in a bid to close the gender pay gap.
The feminist vegan owner of Handsome Her eatery in Melbourne, Australia, is making them pay an 18 per cent “man tax” as well as giving women priority over seating.

Owner Alex O’Brien told Broadsheet website: “I do want people to think about it, because we’ve had this (pay discrepancy) for decades and decades and we’re bringing it to the forefront of people’s minds.

“I like that it is making men stop and question their privilege a little bit.”
Ms O’Brien says the response from her customers has been positive, with one man even donating $50 (£30) to the cause.

She said: “There’s been nothing but positivity from everyone, males and females.”




Alex O’Brien, left, dreamed up the idea to make men take the issue of unequal pay more seriously




Read More!!!!!https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/4176712/men-tax-pay-more-melbourne-cafe/


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'BY WOMEN, FOR WOMEN' Vegan cafe charges male customers 18 percent man tax and seats women first i (Original Post) sheshe2 Aug 2017 OP
Id eat there Eko Aug 2017 #1
So, discrimination is okay as long as it aligns with your biases? brooklynite Aug 2017 #3
So leaving us behind is okay if it aligns with your beliefs? sheshe2 Aug 2017 #7
Yes, like on choice. Laffy Kat Aug 2017 #115
Hear, hear! smirkymonkey Aug 2017 #127
It has nothing to do with any "bias" for me. Eko Aug 2017 #12
I love you Eko!!!! sheshe2 Aug 2017 #19
My mom raised me and my two brothers alone. Eko Aug 2017 #23
Thank you Eko. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #29
Thank you, dude. 😬 MLAA Aug 2017 #63
Thank you for what? sheshe2 Aug 2017 #99
I was thanking Eko (he declared himself a dude) for supporting the cafe. I too support it.😃 MLAA Aug 2017 #192
Got it. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #193
np 😉 MLAA Aug 2017 #194
except that you clearly have a bias hfojvt Aug 2017 #155
Why do you see this as discrimination rather than a legitimate effort to redress the "female tax" Squinch Aug 2017 #20
Because it's not specific to the people who did the original bias. That's the definition of ... Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #73
I call it the "death gap" Lord_at_War Aug 2017 #104
You are a bit naive. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #119
so now you are arguing that janitors make too much money? hfojvt Aug 2017 #159
Can you read? Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #197
actually you did hfojvt Aug 2017 #203
I said, "Janitors get paid more than maids." I did NOT say, "Janitors are overpaid." Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #204
"Agree there's discrimination, but....." just NOPE. Obvs YOU had shitty teachers though.... bettyellen Aug 2017 #179
If for one hour, the men who are voluntarily there experience what most women live with politicat Aug 2017 #107
I'm against discrimination. You're making it sound like a funsie "volunteer" thing. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #118
Let's re-work your notion. politicat Aug 2017 #140
Exactly. And the males being charged more for the sins of others are not being charged "voluntarily. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #143
Someone is marching men at gunpoint into this vegan cafe? Squinch Aug 2017 #169
I don't care much either hfojvt Aug 2017 #158
You didn't REALLY write that, did you? pangaia Aug 2017 #39
Did I describe charging one group more than another "discrimination"? brooklynite Aug 2017 #130
So much for "nothing but positivity from everyone, males and females" Rob H. Aug 2017 #51
well men, all men, including white males especially heaven05 Aug 2017 #124
How is leveling the playing field "discrimination"? Weekend Warrior Aug 2017 #132
Fun fact: my wife makes 20X my salary... brooklynite Aug 2017 #133
Anecdotal evidence to make a point about gender. Weekend Warrior Aug 2017 #135
Before I answer that question mercuryblues Aug 2017 #142
Answers brooklynite Aug 2017 #144
So you have different jobs mercuryblues Aug 2017 #167
I work for the Government; we don't discriminate. brooklynite Aug 2017 #178
Message auto-removed Name removed Aug 2017 #212
I've been trying to come up with something to compare the current "accept pro-life anti-choice uppityperson Aug 2017 #2
This would be completely illegal in California taught_me_patience Aug 2017 #4
LOL!!! sheshe2 Aug 2017 #9
As a Californian, I'm thankful it would be illegal. David__77 Aug 2017 #18
I want everyone to receive th same pay for the same service pangaia Aug 2017 #42
+1000 sheshe2 Aug 2017 #74
Yeah, I want that too. But it usually doesn't happen. The only reason people are outraged Squinch Aug 2017 #48
I would also oppose a tax on women. David__77 Aug 2017 #67
I agree. This is blatant discrimination against people who likely have nothing to do with the... Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #75
We already have unequal accommodations. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #76
Stepping on a random person's toes because someone steps on yours just makes a lot of sore feet. X_Digger Aug 2017 #200
In what way are you opposing the "taxes" women pay every day for goods and services? Squinch Aug 2017 #170
California businesses should not charge women or men a sex-based "service charge." David__77 Aug 2017 #173
I guarantee you that there are plenty of businesses who are violating that law. Just like Squinch Aug 2017 #174
I understand what you're saying. David__77 Aug 2017 #176
In the meantime, I still pay more for everything. Squinch Aug 2017 #177
And I imagine that passage of a law would not be enough. David__77 Aug 2017 #180
So I have to pay more and bring a law suit. You just need to bring your shirt to Squinch Aug 2017 #181
I definitely think that the law should allow for recouping of legal fees from non-compliant parties. David__77 Aug 2017 #187
LOL! Or maybe we could just support the people who do things to point out the Squinch Aug 2017 #190
I understand, and would not agree with sex-based accommodations discrimination. David__77 Aug 2017 #191
this would be so spiderman17 Aug 2017 #5
And yet it's done to women all the time in every aspect of life in the US. Squinch Aug 2017 #10
Thank you Squinch. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #14
Once, out of curiosity I compared two deodorants at CVS. BigmanPigman Aug 2017 #87
Well forced ultasounds should be illegal but are not in some states. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #26
where spiderman17 Aug 2017 #69
You are new. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #80
both links say spiderman17 Aug 2017 #96
I pay for your viagra. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #98
Not only that, but everyone is born. KitSileya Aug 2017 #120
I predict that the poster will be with us a long time Orrex Aug 2017 #147
you're making spiderman17 Aug 2017 #153
Do women get prostate cancer, suffer from ED, etc.? George II Aug 2017 #122
It actually would depend on the state and or locality. Many places in the US permit such pricing... PoliticAverse Aug 2017 #46
I believe that's only when there is a difference in the service. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #78
It's not. They charge more for services and things like razors and other items Ninsianna Aug 2017 #110
Generally speaking, it takes longer to do women's hair than men's. And that's a fact. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #117
For some women it might Bettie Aug 2017 #128
Nope. Generally speaking, it takes longer to "do" women's hair. So say hairstylists. They are free.. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #145
Not true. It costs me more to get a simple trim ( I mean real simple ) and Doreen Aug 2017 #113
Not YOU. Not a particular person. But in general it takes longer to do women's hair. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #116
OK, let me be general then. I have known men who have long hair and get it colored Doreen Aug 2017 #152
So you're okay with a surcharge for women's and girls' products? crazycatlady Aug 2017 #54
both men and women spiderman17 Aug 2017 #71
No force. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #100
Women have been forced to pay more for ages crazycatlady Aug 2017 #123
+ Infinity! sheshe2 Aug 2017 #154
And they can choose not to go to this particular cafe Bettie Aug 2017 #126
just curious spiderman17 Aug 2017 #150
First: They don't say Bettie Aug 2017 #160
No, it's not. Weekend Warrior Aug 2017 #134
Message auto-removed Name removed Aug 2017 #6
Some of us, male or female, would pay 0%. bluepen Aug 2017 #8
You'd not eat a vegan meal? Once? uppityperson Aug 2017 #22
I wouldn't call it a meal. bluepen Aug 2017 #64
How about a peanut butter and jelly sandwich? uppityperson Aug 2017 #94
Pretty good snack. bluepen Aug 2017 #95
Pbj, tomato soup, chips, glass of juice vegan uppityperson Aug 2017 #105
Yep. Good snacks. Not meals. bluepen Aug 2017 #108
Fine meal, eaten by my dear old dad most of his working life for lunch. uppityperson Aug 2017 #109
Cool bluepen Aug 2017 #111
It was amusing to discover he didn't know how to make a sandwich at 60 yrs old. uppityperson Aug 2017 #112
Ah. Bet you do. My husband had to search for the can opener Hortensis Aug 2017 #156
Milk and eggs in the bread? brooklynite Aug 2017 #131
not necessarily uppityperson Aug 2017 #146
Happy to see a vegan threat where us vegans don't get bashed. mucifer Aug 2017 #11
Give it time. nt Codeine Aug 2017 #16
Don't take any crap..keep saving furry friends, the planet and your health. 😀 I'm with you MLAA Aug 2017 #65
Gol-danged Radical Vegan Terrists putting it to us men! JustABozoOnThisBus Aug 2017 #188
Thanks! mucifer Aug 2017 #199
Nice statement, but I doubt it will last long. Ms. Toad Aug 2017 #13
They could argue that it is a form of affirmative action aimed at reducing the pay gap. Squinch Aug 2017 #17
Unless the interpretation of their laws is vastly different than the US, Ms. Toad Aug 2017 #21
So then how are dry cleaners allowed to charge women three times what men pay to clean a shirt? Squinch Aug 2017 #24
Take it to court, and you'd win, Ms. Toad Aug 2017 #28
So an 18% tax on a veggie burrito is the same thing. It's no different, and the fact that this Squinch Aug 2017 #32
As I said - take it to court and you'd win. Ms. Toad Aug 2017 #50
So you are pointing out another, much bigger, female tax here. Squinch Aug 2017 #59
That's always the way it is, unfortunately. Ms. Toad Aug 2017 #82
Because the woman's shirt is made from Motownman78 Aug 2017 #30
It's almost universal in NYC. And no, not based on fabric. Just gender. Squinch Aug 2017 #33
Rampant though it may be, gender-based pricing is actually illegal in New York City. n/t PoliticAverse Aug 2017 #55
So, as I said up thread, in order to end the discrimination of the higher price of the Squinch Aug 2017 #62
They do it in motown too, and it has nothing to do with fabric or the ruffles etc. Ninsianna Aug 2017 #85
There is no US federal law that prohibits gender-based pricing. States and localities may have such PoliticAverse Aug 2017 #53
I never did. The dry cleaners charged the same. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #81
NOt the case for housing crazycatlady Aug 2017 #125
There are special laws for 55+ communities, Ms. Toad Aug 2017 #163
glad to hear they are ok with an 18% extra charge placed on women as well nt msongs Aug 2017 #15
They aren't ok with it. Weekend Warrior Aug 2017 #136
What say a rich white republican women walks in brettdale Aug 2017 #25
It sounds like they would tell the black man to move. David__77 Aug 2017 #31
Wow. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #91
I support equality in public accommodations. David__77 Aug 2017 #93
Where did it say patrons would be removed from their seats? sheshe2 Aug 2017 #101
It didn't. David__77 Aug 2017 #102
First, don't make stuff up when it was not said. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #103
Yes it says women are seated first. David__77 Aug 2017 #106
Well I see nothing in the article stating anyone would be thrown out of their seat. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #40
It is a fantastic way to publicize the real discrimination suffered. guillaumeb Aug 2017 #27
I think its horrible and shows the hypocrisy of some in the left brettdale Aug 2017 #34
Are you horrified by the fact that women's haircuts cost more than men's? That women are Squinch Aug 2017 #44
Punishing innocent people for the sins of others is the essence of discrimination. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #84
What goes around comes around. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #97
My last HR Director. You can call her. It's just business. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #196
I'm an innocent person who is "punished" every day in this way. So are you if you are female. Squinch Aug 2017 #171
That doesn't give you a right to punch person X because you were hurt by person B. That's wrong.nt Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #195
I haven't punched anyone and I don't plan to. But I'd support this restaurant if it were Squinch Aug 2017 #198
That is punching. That's wrong. People either believe in discrimination or they don't. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #201
No, it's not punching. It's eating a veggie burrito. There's a difference. Squinch Aug 2017 #202
Discrimination is punching, in the meaning that you used the word. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #205
Did you misread when I said "punish" as "punch?" Because I never said "punch." You did. Squinch Aug 2017 #206
I'm sorry you're uninformed on this topic. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #209
LOL! I have plenty of experience with the business world and Squinch Aug 2017 #210
Please get a life and quit stalking me. We disagree on this. I believe discrimination is wrong. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #213
Stalking you!!! You did give me a laugh! Thank you for that. Squinch Aug 2017 #214
The left wing activist sounds like an anti-Semite to me. guillaumeb Aug 2017 #47
I agree. I'm against discrimination against anyone. nt Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #83
Post removed Post removed Aug 2017 #35
Is this supposed to be funny? Are you suggesting that transgender people identify as the opposite Squinch Aug 2017 #38
Please tell me you did not say that. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #43
Not worth my time or money Loki Liesmith Aug 2017 #36
Just consider that the tip and eat there if bluepen Aug 2017 #77
The people upset with what these women are doing Eko Aug 2017 #37
it absolutely boggles the mind, does it not. pangaia Aug 2017 #49
I'm not upset with what these women are doing. I just think it's stupid. janx Aug 2017 #52
1st Eko Aug 2017 #58
It is trendy to want equal rights? sheshe2 Aug 2017 #72
I'm against it because it punishes an entire group for something OTHERS did...incl. WOMEN. Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #86
It's optional melman Aug 2017 #88
So you are against Eko Aug 2017 #90
Hmmmm. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #92
Oh good NobodyHere Aug 2017 #41
Sexism is applauded every day here, toward women. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #56
If by equality NobodyHere Aug 2017 #57
Hmm. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #66
Maybe you didn't applaud, but I doubt very much you said anything against smirkymonkey Aug 2017 #129
HaHa janx Aug 2017 #45
This is straight out of Portlandia. Neema Aug 2017 #60
Women and Women FIrst! n/t PoliticAverse Aug 2017 #61
Wow. Well, that certainly brings home the meaning of 18%! But is it legal? Honeycombe8 Aug 2017 #68
Smiling all the way to the bank Bladewire Aug 2017 #70
This article leaves a couple of important things out melman Aug 2017 #79
I wonder if this guy will dine there geek tragedy Aug 2017 #89
That's my freeper sister in law. Hassin Bin Sober Aug 2017 #161
Ewwwww. nt geek tragedy Aug 2017 #162
I think another way it could be introduced would be to have same prices, but offer female patrons Pachamama Aug 2017 #114
Love it! Payback. MineralMan Aug 2017 #121
I'm Not Digging The Business Strategy, But I've Got No Complaints ProfessorGAC Aug 2017 #137
Doesn't sound like a good business plan to me but if it works for them c'est la vie. jalan48 Aug 2017 #138
Ugh. I'll pass. stopbush Aug 2017 #139
What about genderqueer folks? oberliner Aug 2017 #141
Someone will evaluate whether or not the charge applies, and potentially invalidate their gender. David__77 Aug 2017 #166
Good thing I'm not a Vegan titaniumsalute Aug 2017 #148
They're going to be attacked by a horde of fedora-wearing neards. Orrex Aug 2017 #149
Kick... yallerdawg Aug 2017 #151
I'd go there! (If I'm ever in Australia.) Maybe the idea will spread... NurseJackie Aug 2017 #157
I love this. would love it if caught on here in the states as well. niyad Aug 2017 #164
This! sheshe2 Aug 2017 #165
Men who patronize vegan cafes... Sen. Walter Sobchak Aug 2017 #168
Ah, yes. They must be dumb, right? This must all be just badly done "patriarchy targeting" Squinch Aug 2017 #172
Apparently China decided to go a slightly different way: EX500rider Aug 2017 #175
This is kinda off the subject, but.... johnp3907 Aug 2017 #182
Yes, who doesn't love a echo chamber...lol EX500rider Aug 2017 #183
Please correct me if I am wrong about your post. sheshe2 Aug 2017 #185
No no! Just the opposite! johnp3907 Aug 2017 #186
Thank you, John! sheshe2 Aug 2017 #189
Now that's equality in the highest order. ileus Aug 2017 #184
We need one in San Francisco yuiyoshida Aug 2017 #207
Ha! sheshe2 Aug 2017 #208
I give them 3 months. romanic Aug 2017 #211

sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
7. So leaving us behind is okay if it aligns with your beliefs?
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:16 PM
Aug 2017

You know the one....we will get back to you later. We have heard that for years and we will not sit down or shut up.

Eko

(7,289 posts)
12. It has nothing to do with any "bias" for me.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:23 PM
Aug 2017

But an understanding that there is gender inequality and that to participate in this would be to help raise awareness. I'm also a dude.

Eko

(7,289 posts)
23. My mom raised me and my two brothers alone.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:30 PM
Aug 2017

Most of the time working two jobs, I was a latch key kid and ate tons of government cheese and powdered milk. I know whats up.
Thanks Sheshe, you rock!

sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
29. Thank you Eko.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:42 PM
Aug 2017

We will not sit down when told to. Our voice. Hey you, your mother rocks. Brava for doing what she had to do with no help. That is love and a determination only a mother would know. You were hers and she cared for you.

MLAA

(17,288 posts)
192. I was thanking Eko (he declared himself a dude) for supporting the cafe. I too support it.😃
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 07:03 PM
Aug 2017

I am a strong, outspoken vegan feminist (i.e. Equality for men and women in all things)

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
155. except that you clearly have a bias
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 12:19 PM
Aug 2017

a bias in favor of women at the expense of men.

Nothing unusual about that, even among males. Heck, I probably have the same bias.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
20. Why do you see this as discrimination rather than a legitimate effort to redress the "female tax"
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:28 PM
Aug 2017

that women pay on most goods and services, and to redress the pay gap? It's all in your point of view. You see bias. I see a rebuttal of a bias.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
73. Because it's not specific to the people who did the original bias. That's the definition of ...
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 11:04 PM
Aug 2017

That's the definition of discrimination. Attributing to an entire group the traits or behavior of some of that group.

It's probable that some men who go to eat there would in fact be paid less than the women they're with. And they had nothing to do with setting wages for anyone.

Also, the pay differential is not entirely what people think - that women are paid less for the same job. That still happens, of course. But some of the pay difference is because the work that the women choose to do pays less than the male jobs pay. It's a general paying less of female-dominated jobs.


 

Lord_at_War

(61 posts)
104. I call it the "death gap"
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 01:22 AM
Aug 2017

Men are 93% of all workplace deaths. The time I see a woman hanging on to the back of a garbage truck will be the first. How many women work "high iron"? How many are maintenance mechanics in a steel plant? Or, how many want to hump 5 tons of glass off a trailer in 2 hours?

Meanwhile, 99% of all Kindergarten teachers are women who can get a $50K salary with a master's degree, and all they do is stop the morons from eating their glue and say "nap time".

I will agree that women are discriminated against at middle and upper levels of management, but it's just companies that don't want to risk her deciding to have a child and taking a year or two off...

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
119. You are a bit naive.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 04:16 AM
Aug 2017

Kindergarten teachers get close to minimum wage here.

Yes...women are paid less for no other reason than they are female. It's a "Gentleman's Agreement," so to speak. Everyone knows to offer women less, so women must accept it. They can't expect to go elsewhere and get paid more, because of the Gentleman's Agreement.

There are plenty of jobs that men do that are not dangerous but which pay more than female jobs. Take janitors. Janitors get paid more than maids. Their duties are similar. But janitor is a male-dominated job, while maid is female-dominated. Female-dominated jobs are generally valued less (if you read your own words, you can see the denigration of kindergarten teachers, as an example of denigrating a female-dominated job).

But generally, if a job is unpleasant to do, or dangerous, it's harder to get workers, so it has to pay more (or get slave labor, like undocumented workers, who have no choice).

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
159. so now you are arguing that janitors make too much money?
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 12:58 PM
Aug 2017

Similar jobs are only similar, they are not the same, and pay (and benefits) vary from place to place.

When I started in the prestigious janitorial field I was making $5.50 an hour for working from 2-8 in the morning, and I had zero for benefits - no paid holidays, no sick leave, no paid vacation, no pension. Just a whopping ten cents an hour more than minimum wage.

That still seemed to me better than the $7 an hour factory job because it did not involve an hour and a half of commuting. It also allowed me to keep longer hours at my bookstore.

Then a few years later I got a job for a janitorial service owned by a woman (who acted like she owned her employees) where I got a whole $8 an hour before I quit to take awesome factory temp work (hoping to get in the union factory, but they laid off all their temps after six days).

A few years later I felt vert fortunate to get $10.69 an hour plus benefits for a part-time janitorial type job. Government work pays better than the private sector, that is for sure. But the previous person in that job was a woman, who later on became my boss's boss.

It sure can be a tough world for a woman, especially if, like that one, they are a high school drop out.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
197. Can you read?
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 08:07 PM
Aug 2017

If so, please re-read my post and notice that nowhere do I say that janitors are overpaid.

Discrimination is wrong...always. Discrimination is NOT charging more a sensible business reason, and it is NOT paying less based on a reasonable reason. Therefore, since raising fees for the men to eat at a restaurant for no other reason than they are male, is, by definition, discrimination. The men walking through the door have done nothing wrong, and do not cost the restaurant any more than female customers.

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
203. actually you did
Tue Aug 8, 2017, 03:36 PM
Aug 2017

"Janitors get paid more than maids."

You seem to feel that that is wrong and the wrongness has something to do with gender. So apparently it would be less wrong if janitors were paid less so that their pay was now equal to that (somehow) of maids.

Problem solved. You might argue for a different solution if you had stated the problem differently like "Maids are paid less than janitors".

But yeah, I guess most people do just assume that janitors can't read and that they don't need to grant them any respect in conversation.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
204. I said, "Janitors get paid more than maids." I did NOT say, "Janitors are overpaid."
Tue Aug 8, 2017, 09:19 PM
Aug 2017

You understand the difference? I don't think we have a problem with the working class being overpaid, do you? No...I do think we have a problem with WOMEN'S JOBS being underpaid.

NOW you understand the difference between "A gets paid more than B" and "A is overpaid."

I forget how some people can't discern differences in two different statements. Example: The new FBI Director was reported as saying he'd tell everyone that if they get a call from a foreign nation with dirt on opposition, to call him and report it to the FBI.

But I saw the testimony and that is not what he said. He said something like (after being asked several times to say ANYTHING about it), "Yes, I would agree that if a politician got a call from a foreign nation under those circumstances, that that is something I'd be interested in knowing about."

See the difference in the two statements? So you're in good company. Even Senators can't discern the difference. It could be that people hear what they want to hear.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
179. "Agree there's discrimination, but....." just NOPE. Obvs YOU had shitty teachers though....
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 05:55 PM
Aug 2017

With the way you talk about them, and wave away huge amounts of discrimination.

politicat

(9,808 posts)
107. If for one hour, the men who are voluntarily there experience what most women live with
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 01:29 AM
Aug 2017

Every hour... nope, sorry, I cannot spare any poor menz feels for an experience of informed consent.

Many other things harm men, from a toxic culture that keeps them out of medical and mental health care because they'd rather die than appear weak, to toxic entitlement, to socialization that handicaps (in the sports sense) their ability to form strong relationships... I have sympathy for men on a dozen fronts. Not this one.

And the pay differences in types of work? It's not that taking care of children is inherently less fatiguing or time consuming or stressful or damaging to the body than changing oil; it's just that society values it less, so daycare workers get $2 an hour less than the Jiffy-lube tech. It's not that men can't provide childcare, or women can't do oil changes. But in a daycare, nobody's going to assume she is sleeping with the boss to get the job or getting dick-pics from coworkers because way too many men find being professional is too hard. That peace of mind shouldn't have to cost $2 an hour, but it often does. Or $20K a year, because going to work to write software often depends on being willing to tolerate an environment where every coworker wants to undermine and sabotage you.

The professional choices women make are rational, but the factors that lead to those choices are 1) rarely in our control, 2) not of our own making, and 3) caused by the irrational behaviors of others.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
118. I'm against discrimination. You're making it sound like a funsie "volunteer" thing.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 04:14 AM
Aug 2017

You could say that about a woman working for less money than she thinks she deserves. She's there voluntarily.

politicat

(9,808 posts)
140. Let's re-work your notion.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 10:34 AM
Aug 2017

People of color volunteer to live in segregated, failed-the-building-code neighborhoods because they don't want to put up with the hassle of racist neighbors.

Trans people choose to work for less money in environments where their physical safety is not under daily threat, so it's all fine! No discrimination there because it's voluntary.

No, dude, none of this is voluntary. The choices we make are between "the pay sucks" and "this job could kill me, harm me, or land me in court for the next decade, if I'm lucky." That's not voluntary, because there's no option of "decent pay, fair working environment, no harassment".

People spend a third of their waking hours at work -- being stuck in a place where you're undermined, undervalued, despised and harassed because you're doing your job doesn't just harm those 40 hours a week. It affects every hour. You sound like you want to keep all of the privilege of never having to think about this because it does not affect you personally, and for all of us who aren't exactly like you to shut up and go away, and that is exactly what chauvinism is.

And I'm done. Good day.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
143. Exactly. And the males being charged more for the sins of others are not being charged "voluntarily.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 11:03 AM
Aug 2017

Thanks for making my point.

I am against discrimination, period. It is wrong. It is never right.

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
158. I don't care much either
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 12:44 PM
Aug 2017

any man foolish enough or whipped enough to put up with that is free to do so.

However, I doubt there would be this kind of tolerance if there was a "Men's rights cafe" that did the same thing in reverse. Even though nobody HAS to eat there if they don't want.

I am not at all sure that the problems most women live with every hour are all that different than what anybody else lives with, if not less than average.

I seem to have fallen down a slippery slope as now we have gone from equal pay for equal work to believing that a jiffy-lube tech should be paid the same as a daycare worker.

"way too many men". Well, at least you didn't say all, but does there seem to be just a hint of misandry there? Damn those men.

I am sure my niece the software writer could tell me some horror stories and I would agree that she has faced some b.s., but she can also share pictures of her trip to Norway. Me, I could tell some horror stories too and have put up with some b.s. and have never been to Norway or 1/10th of the other places she has been in her 18 less years of life. She's 37 and I did not get to Europe until I was 40. I haven't really had much choice in my work life, unless begging for a job counts as a choice.

brooklynite

(94,552 posts)
130. Did I describe charging one group more than another "discrimination"?
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 09:58 AM
Aug 2017

Suppose I had a business in a urban area and determined that I was more likely to be robbed by black people. Would charging black customers more to compensate be appropriate?

Rob H.

(5,351 posts)
51. So much for "nothing but positivity from everyone, males and females"
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:14 PM
Aug 2017

the owner talks about. Good job.

 

heaven05

(18,124 posts)
124. well men, all men, including white males especially
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 09:30 AM
Aug 2017

have all discrimination laws to pick from and use. And have chose and used them for many, many generations against all women and all minorities. Especially in the good ole USof A....

If I'm ever in the area, I will eat there and pay every charge.....

brooklynite

(94,552 posts)
133. Fun fact: my wife makes 20X my salary...
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 10:02 AM
Aug 2017

Does she get seated seperately, or can I be an honorary woman if we walk in together?

 

Weekend Warrior

(1,301 posts)
135. Anecdotal evidence to make a point about gender.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 10:07 AM
Aug 2017

I've seen where that is a popular way to explain things away among a certain group.

mercuryblues

(14,531 posts)
142. Before I answer that question
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 10:44 AM
Aug 2017

I need a few answers

Do you and your wife work in the same occupation, for the same amount of time?
Does your wife have a higher education than you?
Do you earn more than a woman working the same job as you?
Does your wife earn the same as her male counterpart?

brooklynite

(94,552 posts)
144. Answers
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 11:04 AM
Aug 2017

My wife is a lawyer, I am a senior transportation manager (the managing Director for the organizaiton is a woman)

My wife has a law degree; I have a master's degree.

No

Yes, her firm allocates salary to all partners based on seniority.

mercuryblues

(14,531 posts)
167. So you have different jobs
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 02:06 PM
Aug 2017

with different education. If I was your wife, I wouldn't be so sure about equal pay. Of course you boss should earn more than you. What I asked about was a woman in the same position as you.

Response to Eko (Reply #1)

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
2. I've been trying to come up with something to compare the current "accept pro-life anti-choice
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:10 PM
Aug 2017

Democrats to get Dems elected, you purist" kefuffle going on here at du.

What rights are men willing to pass by to elect Dems? Be charged more?

It's not the same as having health care autonomy, but is a loss by gender. I hope this makes sense.

This is an interesting act.

sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
9. LOL!!!
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:18 PM
Aug 2017

They discriminate against women. We are not paid the same as a man and do not get the jobs before they do.

David__77

(23,396 posts)
18. As a Californian, I'm thankful it would be illegal.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:26 PM
Aug 2017

I want public accomodations to charge the same price and provide the same service regardless of sex.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
48. Yeah, I want that too. But it usually doesn't happen. The only reason people are outraged
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:09 PM
Aug 2017

at this is that the tax is on men rather than where it is usually charged: on women.

David__77

(23,396 posts)
67. I would also oppose a tax on women.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:50 PM
Aug 2017

i get the point. I don't think providing unequal accommodations is the way to make it.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
75. I agree. This is blatant discrimination against people who likely have nothing to do with the...
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 11:06 PM
Aug 2017

original wages that are being protested. That is the essence of discrimination. And terrorism, too, for that matter (punishing those other people over there for the wrongs committed by these people over here, because they are of the same general group).

X_Digger

(18,585 posts)
200. Stepping on a random person's toes because someone steps on yours just makes a lot of sore feet.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 09:35 PM
Aug 2017

Seriously, most people give up the "well <x> did it first!" school of thought in elementary school.

Fair play is equal pay. It's not taking from one to make up for another.

David__77

(23,396 posts)
173. California businesses should not charge women or men a sex-based "service charge."
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 05:32 PM
Aug 2017

I support California's laws against discrimination in public accommodations, and believe that this cafe would be in violation of laws, were it operating in California.

Whether it's called a "tax," a "discount," or a "service charge," it would violate the laws on public accommodations.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
174. I guarantee you that there are plenty of businesses who are violating that law. Just like
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 05:35 PM
Aug 2017

in New York.

And no one cares about it. And the only redress a woman has is to bring a very expensive lawsuit.

This goes on under everyone's noses, always has, and yet this café turns it around and everyone is outraged. It's the height of hypocrisy.

David__77

(23,396 posts)
176. I understand what you're saying.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 05:47 PM
Aug 2017

I'm glad that this issue is being discussed.

I think that one thing people can do is to do a little research on sex-based price discrimination, and support action aimed to curb it, including legislative action (see, for instance: http://www.sandiegouniontribune.com/news/politics/sdut-pink-tax-2016apr29-story.html).

David__77

(23,396 posts)
180. And I imagine that passage of a law would not be enough.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 05:58 PM
Aug 2017

I imagine that it would need to be implemented, in part, with the assistance of litigation against non-compliant businesses.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
181. So I have to pay more and bring a law suit. You just need to bring your shirt to
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 05:59 PM
Aug 2017

the cleaners and it gets cleaned for the lower price.

David__77

(23,396 posts)
187. I definitely think that the law should allow for recouping of legal fees from non-compliant parties.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 06:17 PM
Aug 2017

...

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
190. LOL! Or maybe we could just support the people who do things to point out the
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 06:34 PM
Aug 2017

discrimination rather than being outraged at those people.

Because the idea that people are going to bring law suits over these things is not practical.

David__77

(23,396 posts)
191. I understand, and would not agree with sex-based accommodations discrimination.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 06:42 PM
Aug 2017

Not for the purpose of pointing something out, or for any other purpose.

I do not see how this method, perhaps having the intention of pointing out discrimination, will mitigate discrimination.

BigmanPigman

(51,590 posts)
87. Once, out of curiosity I compared two deodorants at CVS.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 11:31 PM
Aug 2017

They were the same brand, size, even ingredients and the one for women was 75 cents more. I had no idea the color pink is so expensive to produce and manufacture.

I have often thought over my lifetime how much I have spent on tampons and all the rest that goes with it and I did the math. If men had to pay this tampons would probably be free and they would get 5 paid sick days a month too.

It all adds up to what we all already know...we have been penalized in a zillion ways by men for over two thousand years.

sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
26. Well forced ultasounds should be illegal but are not in some states.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:36 PM
Aug 2017

Unequal pay should be illegal, but it is not.
Charging a woman more for healthcare should be illegal but it is not.
Paying us less per hour should be illegal, but it is not.
Taking away preventive healthcare through planned parenthood should be illegal, but it is not.

Why is that? Because so the white men tell us so. They are, so they believe superior to us.

 

spiderman17

(27 posts)
96. both links say
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 12:30 AM
Aug 2017

women use more medical services than men. it does not say that women pay more for the exact same medical procedure.

if women consume more health care services, wouldn't you expect them to pay more? in any case gender rating is now not allowed in the indivdual exchanges under ACA

sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
98. I pay for your viagra.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 12:37 AM
Aug 2017

I don't use it.

Yes we use more in some cases. Childbirth for one. Since when is childbirth a one way street. Men and women have babies. Should only the women pay for them, and not the fathers? One more thought. I have no children and beyond child bearing years, I have no problem covering theirs. Why do you?

KitSileya

(4,035 posts)
120. Not only that, but everyone is born.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 08:55 AM
Aug 2017

That's why men and women should pay for pre-natal care and childbirth - everyone goes through labor by being born regardless of whether they themselves choose to have children.

Orrex

(63,210 posts)
147. I predict that the poster will be with us a long time
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 11:27 AM
Aug 2017

Looking forward to many years of positive contributions.

 

spiderman17

(27 posts)
153. you're making
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 12:13 PM
Aug 2017

a normative argument not an economic argument. My point is that women pay more for health care because they use more health care. This doesn't seem to me as discrimination. Whether males should subsidize women's health care costs is a separate issue.

How do you feel about young male drivers paying more for car insurance than older female drivers?

PoliticAverse

(26,366 posts)
46. It actually would depend on the state and or locality. Many places in the US permit such pricing...
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:09 PM
Aug 2017

differences based on gender.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
78. I believe that's only when there is a difference in the service.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 11:10 PM
Aug 2017

Like haircuts, when women haircutting is more involved or takes more time.

Ninsianna

(1,349 posts)
110. It's not. They charge more for services and things like razors and other items
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 01:41 AM
Aug 2017

that are identical to ones marketed for men. These are the defenses they use, but they're pretty thin. There is a surcharge for being a woman.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
117. Generally speaking, it takes longer to do women's hair than men's. And that's a fact.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 04:12 AM
Aug 2017

The fact that YOU don't take longer is an argument for them to evaluate and price each person individually. If they'd rather just set prices generally male and female, that's up to them.

If you go to Supercuts, it's the same price, BTW. They don't do fancy stuff there, so the time consuming women's hair isn't a factor, I guess.

Bettie

(16,107 posts)
128. For some women it might
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 09:46 AM
Aug 2017

for most of us, not really.

A woman getting a trim takes about the same amount of time and effort as a man getting a trim.

Women's short haircuts take about as much maintenance as men's short haircuts.

Color/perms etc. are not a woman only thing anymore either.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
145. Nope. Generally speaking, it takes longer to "do" women's hair. So say hairstylists. They are free..
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 11:06 AM
Aug 2017

They are free to charge that gender more, or the other less, if they want. They could also charge everyone the same price, taking into account the add'l time that women take. They could also evaluate each and every person when they come in, and then tell them how much it'll be. That means the customer won't know the price until he or she gets there. That's up to the business.

You can always go to Supercuts or some such place, which does charge everyone the same.

But there is a basis to charge women more in the case of hairstylists, whether the customer agrees with that or not.

Doreen

(11,686 posts)
113. Not true. It costs me more to get a simple trim ( I mean real simple ) and
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 02:08 AM
Aug 2017

it costs more than a man to get a standard hair cut. My hair takes no longer to do a simple trim than a man to get a standard hair cut. It costs a woman more to get the hair on the back of her neck shaved off than it does a man and the same damn thing is done and it does not matter if she has long hair or not. I got the back of my neck shaved at a barbers shop and my hair was short then and it still cost me more.....explain that. Hair care is a very bad example.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
116. Not YOU. Not a particular person. But in general it takes longer to do women's hair.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 04:10 AM
Aug 2017

They don't evaluate each and every person individually, but pricing on the general time it takes can be justified.

Doreen

(11,686 posts)
152. OK, let me be general then. I have known men who have long hair and get it colored
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 12:03 PM
Aug 2017

or permed and even though it takes just as long and is the same difficulty level they get charged less. I have heard conversations between men and women comparing prices for the same level of difficulty for hair care at salons and it is always less for the men. Who knows, maybe it is because I live in a red county but I doubt it because just half an hour up the road to Olympia it is the same and Olympia is blue. Maybe it is just Washington State.

crazycatlady

(4,492 posts)
54. So you're okay with a surcharge for women's and girls' products?
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:19 PM
Aug 2017

It is commonplace. Go to the toiletries aisle in any given store and see the markups for women's products.

http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2015/12/26/gender-pricing-men-products_n_8875336.html

Go to a toy store and look at the price premium that a parent (or loved one) would pay for a pink version of the same product for little girls (yes you can get the non pink ones but kids like my niece won't touch anything that is 'for boys')

http://fortune.com/2016/05/25/pink-toy-prices-higher/

 

spiderman17

(27 posts)
71. both men and women
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:59 PM
Aug 2017

pay the same price for the pink toys.

the coffee shop here is forcing men to pay more

sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
100. No force.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 12:52 AM
Aug 2017

Lol...unlike some women they have a choice what to do with their bodies. They can go down the street for a cup of coffee. Women have to cross states to get an abortion if that is their choice. Also the GOP is desperately closing Planned parenthood clinics because of said abortions. You do know that PP does far far more than that, correct??????

crazycatlady

(4,492 posts)
123. Women have been forced to pay more for ages
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 09:30 AM
Aug 2017

And on top of that they're paid less. Somehow when the shoe's on the other foot all the fragile MRAs are coming out of the woodwork. One cafe owner is simply forcing reality on men to show them what women have always faced.

Tell me dear man

When was the last time you were catcalled in the street?
Do you feel that you can walk by a construction site without people treating you like a dog does a piece of meat?
When was the last time some random stranger told you to smile?
Has your body ever been violated to the point where if you reported it, the authorities would question what you wore that day?
Have you ever had a boss say things like "good boy" to you?
Have you ever been told to step aside and let the 'big boys' handle this?
If someone running for POTUS 'joked' around about grabbing you by the dick, would you take it seriously or dismiss it as 'locker room talk?'
Name one incident where your reproductive rights were decided by a legislator

Bettie

(16,107 posts)
126. And they can choose not to go to this particular cafe
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 09:42 AM
Aug 2017

if they object.

No one is being forced, the policy is stated up front anyone who disagrees with the policy can simply choose not to eat there.

 

spiderman17

(27 posts)
150. just curious
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 11:41 AM
Aug 2017

how do you feel about cafes with signs that said "no blacks served" ? They can always eat at the next cafe.

Are you arguing that establishments open to the public should legally be allowed to discriminate who they serve or how much to charge?

Bettie

(16,107 posts)
160. First: They don't say
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 01:00 PM
Aug 2017

"no men served".

Second, the purpose of this is to highlight a social problem.

Third, from another article: the surcharge is in place one week per month and is not compulsory.
[link:http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/food/restaurants-bars/handsome-her-cafe-in-brunswick-melbourne-charges-men-18-gender-gap-surcharge/news-story/81fc5074b7e9be8aa05240f157774e31|

The extra is being donated to a charity.

So, in the end, it is exactly NOTHING like saying "no ____ served".

 

Weekend Warrior

(1,301 posts)
134. No, it's not.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 10:06 AM
Aug 2017

It happens to women in this country every single day. Look at the wage gap. I get that more people take offence when it is directed at men.

Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

bluepen

(620 posts)
8. Some of us, male or female, would pay 0%.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:16 PM
Aug 2017

Unless they started selling chicken and beef. But even then, hard to beat Five Guys and In-N-Out Burger. So, hard pass, either way.

bluepen

(620 posts)
64. I wouldn't call it a meal.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:40 PM
Aug 2017

But I understand others do.

Some people would never eat meat. I know some who won't on principle, and some who just won't and never have (raised that way).

I like meat. No big deal. People are different.

bluepen

(620 posts)
95. Pretty good snack.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 12:27 AM
Aug 2017

Although sometimes I just go for the peanut butter. No jelly. Good snack for getting you through a long afternoon after lunch, especially if you're having a late dinner. Much better than a bag of chips or candy or something like that.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
112. It was amusing to discover he didn't know how to make a sandwich at 60 yrs old.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 01:51 AM
Aug 2017

My mom or one of us kids made his lunch. He finally asked us to teach him how to make a sandwich, scrambled eggs, etc, finally ended up cooking ok. But the first time, asking us to show him how, took us aback. I miss him.

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
156. Ah. Bet you do. My husband had to search for the can opener
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 12:20 PM
Aug 2017

for the first 15 years or so of our marriage. Now as I continue working while he's retired, he makes his own breakfast and makes great scrambled eggs. Similar to your dad, though, he now makes himself cereal one day, eggs the next and will go to some trouble to make sure that routine isn't upset. Also uses only his one, favorite coffee cup out of the entire collection, and rarely buys anything for sandwiches but sliced turkey. I have a picture of how he would live if anything happened to me, but he'd have our daughter and DIL, both strong minded women, to contend with if his regression got too weird. He might not even have a say about whose house they moved him to.

Bluepen, my husband's long broken in and eats meatless, and even vegan if it happens to qualify as that, when that's what's served, part of the wide range I prepare the rest of the time. He usually asserts himself by commenting, "No meat?," though.
Fwiw, I don't care for this restauranteur's approach and doubt I'd eat there for that reason, but if she can make a living with that stand, fine. No skin off my nose, and I like people doing their things as long as their fists do stop short of where others' noses begin. People could argue that last in this case, of course.

Ms. Toad

(34,069 posts)
13. Nice statement, but I doubt it will last long.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:23 PM
Aug 2017

It appears to violate sex discrimination law - that prohibit discriminating on the basis of sex with respect to provision of goods, services, and facilities.

https://www.humanrights.gov.au/sites/default/files/GPGB_quick_guide_to_discrimination_laws_0.pdf

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
17. They could argue that it is a form of affirmative action aimed at reducing the pay gap.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:25 PM
Aug 2017

Legitimately, I would think. How can we say that there is no discrimination allowed when we all know that women are paid less than men?

Ms. Toad

(34,069 posts)
21. Unless the interpretation of their laws is vastly different than the US,
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:29 PM
Aug 2017

that won't fly.

Only prohibitions against age discrimination in the US are one-way (you can discriminate against people under 40 at will, but discrimination against people over 40 is prohibited by law). Everything prohibits discrimination by category - not viewpoint (i.e. using age as a category is perfectly fine, as long as you don't use it to discriminate against people over 40; using gender as a category is prohibited, regardless of who is being discriminated against.)

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
24. So then how are dry cleaners allowed to charge women three times what men pay to clean a shirt?
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:31 PM
Aug 2017

And why doesn't that make international news?

And we both know that's only one of a thousand examples I could come up with.

Ms. Toad

(34,069 posts)
28. Take it to court, and you'd win,
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:39 PM
Aug 2017

unless they could justify it by the work required. The laws are not self-executing - the injured parties have to take the offending party to court.

E.g. if both shirts are button-down long fitted sleeve with a collar and cuffs, without bust darts, same fabric content, they have to charge the same. Part of the difference is that men's shirts tend to be plainer (both as to decorations and as to seams - women's tend to have more seams (darts included), more decorative collars, slightly to significantly gathered sleeves - all those things do require additional care in cleaning, so once there is a non-gender-based difference, they can charge more - however I'm sure there are some who are merely looking at the gender of the owner.

So when local dry cleaners get away with it, it is because no one takes them to court - an example of why class actions were invented. The amount paid for each shirt is so small that the cost of one individual litigating it makes taking it to court prohibitive. If it did happen to make national news, and it was a national chain, chances are that a class action suit would result and the practice would end.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
32. So an 18% tax on a veggie burrito is the same thing. It's no different, and the fact that this
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:48 PM
Aug 2017

makes international news tells us that this outrages people while the dry cleaning and the thousand other examples where women pay more (e.g. services, toiletries, repairs of all kinds, hair care etc.) do not outrage people.

Something else: you are right. No one does put together a class action suit against the local dry cleaner. But it will not surprise me at all if someone goes after those women for their 18% tax on the veggie burrito.

And just an aside, I don't know about dry cleaners where you live but no one around here "has to" charge the same for the same kind of shirt, and no one is pricing it out based on darts and gathers. A woman's oxford shirt, for example, costs more than a man's oxford shirt to dry clean.

Ms. Toad

(34,069 posts)
50. As I said - take it to court and you'd win.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:14 PM
Aug 2017

As long as the shirts are identical.

As I said, the laws are not self-executing - so someone has to file suit to force compliance. But you'd pay thousands of dollars to end the practice and if it is truly a local dry cleaner you would solve the problem at one store. Which is why it continues - no one takes legal action. But dry cleaning is a public accommodation and is not permitted to discriminate based on gender. So if the shirts are identical, by law, they have to charge the same amount.

I don't know if Australia has class action suits - but if they do, I wouldn't be surprised because it has obviously made international news. Get your dry cleaner into international news, and the chances of litigation will increase dramatically.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
59. So you are pointing out another, much bigger, female tax here.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:25 PM
Aug 2017

The discrepancy in price is discrimination.

If a woman does not want to be subject to this discrimination, she has to spend a fortune to bring a law suit. Not to mention the time and aggravation it costs her

So now she's paying the higher price AND the legal fees.

The man just pays his lower price and his shirt gets cleaned.

Ms. Toad

(34,069 posts)
82. That's always the way it is, unfortunately.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 11:14 PM
Aug 2017

The Obergefell plaintiffs had to pay, and go through the inconvenience of having their out-of-state marriages recognized by the states in which they were living, as did Edie Windsor before them, as did Loving while recognition was automatic for all of the same gender couples (and, as to the Lovings, all of the intra-racial couples).

And, even after Obergefell, same gender couples in Kentucky had to go through the inconvenience and sue to establish that the ruling really did apply in a different state.

That's why there are organizations that fight to enforce civil rights laws (e.g. Lambda Legal - which funded our appeal in in re the Adoption of Jane Doe, but not the $10,000 or so we paid out of pocket for trial level case. Yes - it stinks that it takes someone with enough money, time, and knowledge of the law to enforce the laws that exist. But that's the reality.

 

Motownman78

(491 posts)
30. Because the woman's shirt is made from
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:42 PM
Aug 2017

different fabrics? I have never heard of a dry cleaner charging different prices for the same shirt.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
62. So, as I said up thread, in order to end the discrimination of the higher price of the
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:30 PM
Aug 2017

dry cleaning (and that is only an example. Most goods and services cost more for women) the woman NOW has to pay the even BIGGER "female tax" of financing a lawsuit to enforce that existing law.

Men don't have to hire a lawyer to get a fair price on dry cleaning, healthcare, car or home repairs, clothing, insurance, grooming services and on and on and on....

Ninsianna

(1,349 posts)
85. They do it in motown too, and it has nothing to do with fabric or the ruffles etc.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 11:22 PM
Aug 2017

they claim women supposedly have on their shirts.

PoliticAverse

(26,366 posts)
53. There is no US federal law that prohibits gender-based pricing. States and localities may have such
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:18 PM
Aug 2017

laws prohibiting it though.

There's actually an extensive Wikipedia article on this issue:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender-based_price_discrimination_in_the_United_States

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
81. I never did. The dry cleaners charged the same.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 11:13 PM
Aug 2017

If it's a dress shirt, it's one price, whether male or female. If it's a suit, it's one price, whether male of female.

Maybe if there's a tendency for women to dry clean fancy shirts, the place starts charging more for women, rather than looking at each shirt individually.

Tailors charge women more, though, I think. Even for just hemming, which is the same for both genders.

And clothing stores provide hemming and basic alterations for FREE!

crazycatlady

(4,492 posts)
125. NOt the case for housing
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 09:33 AM
Aug 2017

In my neck of the woods, if you want to buy a new construction house and you're under 55, you're SOL. The only new houses being built are in 55+ communities. How is that not discrimination?

Ms. Toad

(34,069 posts)
163. There are special laws for 55+ communities,
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 01:23 PM
Aug 2017

Which also impose additional obligations related to the (presumed) special needs of that population. But - those communities also have to accept individuals with certain disabilities of any age (my knowledge of the details of the law are fuzzy as to whether it is all, or merely certain ones).

But anyone with money to invest can choose to invest it in any legal project - so if the investors are choosing to invest in developing communities that are lawfully permitted to discriminate based on age (as 55+ communities that meet the other restrictions are) - rather than in developments that accept everyone, it isn't unlawful discrimination.

If, on the other hand, they chose to invest in whites only or blacks only communities, then it would be unlawful discrimination.

Aside from which, if you want new construction you can always build your own house - so you're not exactly SOL.

brettdale

(12,381 posts)
25. What say a rich white republican women walks in
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:32 PM
Aug 2017

And asks a black liberal man to move out of his seat because she has priority seating.

David__77

(23,396 posts)
31. It sounds like they would tell the black man to move.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:43 PM
Aug 2017

They've determined that black men should get out of the way for white women, because this public accommodation is a women's space.

I think it's terribly backward and at all progressive.

sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
91. Wow.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 11:41 PM
Aug 2017

Here you are making it a racial issue when it is not. They just said women, all women they never mentioned the women's color, would be seated first. Why are you bringing up black men here? I saw no mention of black men. Did you?

This was never said in my post!

David__77
It sounds like they would tell the black man to move.

They've determined that black men should get out of the way for white women, because this public accommodation is a women's space.



I think it's terribly backward and not at all progressive.
Many of us are allies to black men and women here. Are you? Do not take away from women's rights by trying to make this racist when it is not.

David__77

(23,396 posts)
93. I support equality in public accommodations.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 12:09 AM
Aug 2017

And giving "priority" on the basis of sex or race strikes me as backward.

I hope that I'm wrong, and that priority doesn't mean making seated patrons move. I do not agree with creating public accommodations "spaces" on the basis of race or sex. In the US, laws prohibiting discrimination in public accommodations are progressive and worthy of support, in my opinion.

David__77

(23,396 posts)
102. It didn't.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 01:07 AM
Aug 2017

Ok the bus where I live, "priority seating" means that non-elderly, non-disabled people are to give up the seat for those who are elderly or disabled. I don't know what "priority" means in this establishment. I think it would be best not to create a distinction in the public accommodation based on sex.

sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
103. First, don't make stuff up when it was not said.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 01:14 AM
Aug 2017

Second

Ok the bus where I live, "priority seating" means that non-elderly, non-disabled people are to give up the seat for those who are elderly or disabled. I don't know what "priority" means in this establishment. I think it would be best not to create a distinction in the public accommodation based on sex.


Not sure how you could not know what the article said was "priority" seating meant. It was clearly stated that women would be seated first. How did you miss that?

David__77

(23,396 posts)
106. Yes it says women are seated first.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 01:28 AM
Aug 2017

It didn't say that that was what was meant by "priority" seating.

I agree with my state's laws against discrimination in the realm of public accommodation that, I believe, judges would find prevent seating customers on the basis of race or sex.

sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
40. Well I see nothing in the article stating anyone would be thrown out of their seat.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:02 PM
Aug 2017

Did you? It just said women would be seated first.

Methinks you are making a racial issue when there is none. There are a lot of women of all colors that support women of color and they them. They are called allies. Stop making problems where there are none.

guillaumeb

(42,641 posts)
27. It is a fantastic way to publicize the real discrimination suffered.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:37 PM
Aug 2017

And yes, it can be seen as lighthearted and somewhat silly, or even as discriminatory by some, but everyone of us suffers when some of us are treated unequally. No matter if it is discrimination based on color, or sex, or sexual preference, or any other difference, if we allow discrimination for one we implicitly allow it for all.

Recommended.

Plus, as a vegetarian of over 30 years, I give a cheer for every vegetarian restaurant.

brettdale

(12,381 posts)
34. I think its horrible and shows the hypocrisy of some in the left
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:50 PM
Aug 2017

I remember here in New Zealand a decade back, there was a cafe owner that refused to Serve Israelis until Palestine was free,
we had a left wing activist who would always back people's rights, for example another business wanted to ban
gang members for wearing their patches in his store, he stood up for the gang members.

He was/is known in New Zealand for protesting anything he believes to be discrimination.

I emailed him and asked him, would he be protesting this cafe that wont serve Israelis?

He emailed back and said

"I couldnt care less if two Jews cant get a cup of coffee"

This cafe in aussie reminds me of him.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
44. Are you horrified by the fact that women's haircuts cost more than men's? That women are
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:04 PM
Aug 2017

routinely charged more for appliance, car and home repairs than men? That women are paid less than men? That women's toiletries cost more than men's for the same formulations? That identical items of clothing are priced higher when sold to women than they are when sold to men?

And how about that health care? Are you outraged that women have traditionally paid more for that?

I could go on for days about the "female taxes" we have to pay all day, every day. And no one ever seems to be outraged by them.

Odd, huh?

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
84. Punishing innocent people for the sins of others is the essence of discrimination.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 11:19 PM
Aug 2017

Unless they know that a particular man has been involved in paying a woman less, they are discriminating based on gender, and have lost any credibility on the issue.

Besides, there are women HR people who pay women employees less than males, or pay female-dominated jobs less than the male-dominated jobs.

This shows a big misunderstanding of wage inequality.

sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
97. What goes around comes around.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 12:31 AM
Aug 2017

also please provide a link where

Besides, there are women HR people who pay women employees less than males, or pay female-dominated jobs less than the male-dominated jobs.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
196. My last HR Director. You can call her. It's just business.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 08:04 PM
Aug 2017

You don't pay anyone any more than you have to.

And that's the case whether HR is male or female.

It's common sense.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
171. I'm an innocent person who is "punished" every day in this way. So are you if you are female.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 05:22 PM
Aug 2017

I am finding this outrage when that shoe is put on the other foot to be hilarious.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
198. I haven't punched anyone and I don't plan to. But I'd support this restaurant if it were
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 08:22 PM
Aug 2017

in my town.

And in this case, those men who choose not to experience the tax are free to not go to the café. When you and I pay these taxes, often we have no such choice.

It's a good message. I support them.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
201. That is punching. That's wrong. People either believe in discrimination or they don't.
Tue Aug 8, 2017, 09:33 AM
Aug 2017

It's not a belief where it's okay if you don't like the people being discriminated, it's okay. That is of course at the heart of all discrimination.

Is it okay to charge blacks more, if the owner's sister was killed by a black?
Is it okay to charge gays more, if the owner lost out on a job once to a gay person?

There is no end to rationalizations for discriminations.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
202. No, it's not punching. It's eating a veggie burrito. There's a difference.
Tue Aug 8, 2017, 02:30 PM
Aug 2017

And it is being done to provide a message. I sincerely doubt that these women think that men are worth less than they do, but they are making a statement about the universal acceptance of the idea that women are worth less.

No punching involved.

Now you will write back to say that someone is punching someone, but we'll just have to agree to disagree.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
205. Discrimination is punching, in the meaning that you used the word.
Tue Aug 8, 2017, 09:26 PM
Aug 2017

Discrimination is wrong. Period. If you take out wrongs on people who are not responsible for those wrongs, but because they are of the gender or race or ethnicity of someone who wronged you, that is the discrimination, pure and simple.

It's amazing how some people are fine w/discrimination, when they hold something against the group being discriminated against, generally.

As I said...women are involved in paying female jobs less. More men, because there are more male decision makers. But still there are women. Just as there are women who think that women take jobs away from men, shouldn't work unless they absolutely have to, should have children, should be paid less because they get pregnant, etc. All the things that men think.

Notice that the molester Trump who has a history of denigrating women, has women supporters?

It is not just men who are responsible for 18% less pay.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
206. Did you misread when I said "punish" as "punch?" Because I never said "punch." You did.
Tue Aug 8, 2017, 09:40 PM
Aug 2017

And so now it's women's faults that women are paid less?

This conversation has gone from bad to worse.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
209. I'm sorry you're uninformed on this topic.
Tue Aug 8, 2017, 10:15 PM
Aug 2017

Do some research, and maybe have a few life experiences in the business world. Take a course on the history of women. Remember Phyllis Schlafley?

My point is that, yes, women are involved in paying women less than men, to the extent that women make those decisions in the business world. It's mainly men.

The point being that discriminating against men who have done nothing wrong to women, as far as you know, is sheer discrimination against men just for being men.

I and others who are against discrimination will not change our minds. It's clear that some think discrimination is fine, as long as they have something against the group being discriminated against. Even if I don't like things about a group, I totally believe that discrimination is wrong, that people should be judged as individuals.

I and others who believe in this are right, and you know it. That is why it is the law of the land in this country. Discrimination on the basis of gender is illegal.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
210. LOL! I have plenty of experience with the business world and
Tue Aug 8, 2017, 11:12 PM
Aug 2017

and know as much as you on the history of women. Get a grip.

You can continue to believe that an 18% surcharge on a burrito, charged to make a very valid point, is just as bad as the discrimination that women have always experienced in every aspect of their lives.

You can continue to believe that the women making that very valid point are evil incarnate.

You can continue to throw personal insults at me because you can't think of a better way to argue.

I will continue to believe that your position is asinine.

And by the way, discrimination on the basis of gender is endemic in every aspect of our country, law of the land or not. That is exactly the point you are missing.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
213. Please get a life and quit stalking me. We disagree on this. I believe discrimination is wrong.
Wed Aug 9, 2017, 08:38 AM
Aug 2017

Get over it. Move on. Placing you on ignore.

guillaumeb

(42,641 posts)
47. The left wing activist sounds like an anti-Semite to me.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:09 PM
Aug 2017

Calling into question how committed he is to rights for all.

I do not see this a discrimination, but as activist theatre for the restaurant.

Response to sheshe2 (Original post)

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
38. Is this supposed to be funny? Are you suggesting that transgender people identify as the opposite
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:58 PM
Aug 2017

sex based on inconsequential, casual whims?

That's pretty gross.

bluepen

(620 posts)
77. Just consider that the tip and eat there if
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 11:08 PM
Aug 2017

You like Vegan.

If not, don't go.

I know, I know. Some are objecting to it on principle (I just wouldn't eat there because it's vegan) but if it's about the money, an 18% tip to be seated will wash out in the end.

Eko

(7,289 posts)
37. The people upset with what these women are doing
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 09:58 PM
Aug 2017

remind me of the people who are upset with affirmative action because it discriminates. Totally dismissing the reason that the "discrimination" is occurring in the first place and are just upset at the "discrimination". Cant see the forest for the trees I tell ya.

pangaia

(24,324 posts)
49. it absolutely boggles the mind, does it not.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:12 PM
Aug 2017

people arguing, Oh this is illegal in.. _____ name your state..
Oh this is reverse discrimination...

aarrgghhh.. This is ruining the Dan Dan Mian i just made....


I mean at the least, at the VERY least can one not see at least a LITTLE bit of humor in, it tongue stuck in cheek.. irony,,,

eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeiiiiiiiiiiiii




janx

(24,128 posts)
52. I'm not upset with what these women are doing. I just think it's stupid.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:14 PM
Aug 2017

It's trendy and has nothing to do with affirmative action. They have not had to live through that.

Eko

(7,289 posts)
58. 1st
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:25 PM
Aug 2017

I never said it has to do with affirmative action, only that the people complaining about it remind me of those complaining about affirmative action in that it discriminates. 2nd, trendy? Sure, trendy since 1848. “We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men and women are created equal.”

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
86. I'm against it because it punishes an entire group for something OTHERS did...incl. WOMEN.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 11:25 PM
Aug 2017

It shows a misunderstanding of wage inequality. Females participate in the wage discrimination, too. They choose to pay female-dominated jobs less, or to pay women workers less.

It's also not entirely that women get paid less for the same jobs. It's also that female-dominated jobs are valued less and so pay less.

I am against discrimination against anyone. This is gender discrimination. It would be different if they knew a particular man participated in paying women employees less. Then it would be tit for tat.

I suspect most of their customers are female, though, and that's why they did it. They didn't stand to lose much male business, to begin with.

 

melman

(7,681 posts)
88. It's optional
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 11:38 PM
Aug 2017

That's what the article leaves out, you can say 'no thanks. I'd rather not pay that.'




However co-owner Alex O’Brien told Seven News the surcharge, which is in place one week out of every month, wasn’t compulsory.
She also said none had so far refused to pay it and in a Facebook post overnight said the idea has been well supported overall


“If people aren’t comfortable paying it or if men don’t want to pay it, we’re not going to kick them out the door,” she said.
“It’s just a good opportunity to do some good.”



“If people aren’t comfortable paying it or if men don’t want to pay it, we’re not going to kick them out the door,” she said.
http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/food/restaurants-bars/handsome-her-cafe-in-brunswick-melbourne-charges-men-18-gender-gap-surcharge/news-story/81fc5074b7e9be8aa05240f157774e31

sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
56. Sexism is applauded every day here, toward women.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:21 PM
Aug 2017

You only have an issue when it is applied to men?

Is it okay when our voices are silenced in the Senate? Harris, Warren censored. They persisted. I am sure you stood for them.

When women are told time and time again our rights are second to a mans. I am sure you stood for them.

When Viagra is more important than birth control. I am sure you stood for them.

When we are raped and the GOP tells us to lay back and enjoy it. Did you stand for them? This is about us. Our bodies. Our lives. Our means to support ourselves. We just want equality. Is that to much to ask?

 

NobodyHere

(2,810 posts)
57. If by equality
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:23 PM
Aug 2017

You mean applauding preferential seating and gender based fees, then yes it is asking too much.

And I don't ever remember applauding for the things you mentioned.

sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
66. Hmm.
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:43 PM
Aug 2017
If by equality

You mean applauding preferential seating and gender based fees, then yes it is asking too much.


Guess you missed the point, It is already applied to women.
 

smirkymonkey

(63,221 posts)
129. Maybe you didn't applaud, but I doubt very much you said anything against
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 09:55 AM
Aug 2017

those things. They probably weren't something that you considered important enough. But now that the shoe is on the other foot, you see a reason to speak up.

Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
68. Wow. Well, that certainly brings home the meaning of 18%! But is it legal?
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:53 PM
Aug 2017

Is it legal to do that in a public restaurant?

 

Bladewire

(381 posts)
70. Smiling all the way to the bank
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 10:57 PM
Aug 2017

... while making a bang on the world stage with a statement on the pay gap. Nice!
 

melman

(7,681 posts)
79. This article leaves a couple of important things out
Sun Aug 6, 2017, 11:10 PM
Aug 2017

Namely that the tax is one week a month and it's optional.

Hassin Bin Sober

(26,327 posts)
161. That's my freeper sister in law.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 01:12 PM
Aug 2017

Every holiday party she marches in to announce how gluten has caused projectile diarrhea and weight gain.

It's a step up from having to hear about her uterus ablation.

Pachamama

(16,887 posts)
114. I think another way it could be introduced would be to have same prices, but offer female patrons
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 02:39 AM
Aug 2017

....an 18% discount in acknowledgement that they are paid that percent on average less than men in the gender pay gap. That way, there would still be a way to drive the message home of the inequalities and to benefit the women.


ProfessorGAC

(65,035 posts)
137. I'm Not Digging The Business Strategy, But I've Got No Complaints
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 10:15 AM
Aug 2017

It's their business and they aren't completely excluding people.

I do think they might want to do something like a man comes in with his wife/girlfriend and there is no surcharge. Just men on their own. Then they could couch as it as a way to assure a woman friendly environment.

A wife wanting to go there and taking her husband would be good for business (two instead of one) and wouldn't necessarily diminish the friendly environment.

But, like i said, it's their business, and while it might seem like discrimination, it's hard to see where the actual harm exists.

David__77

(23,396 posts)
166. Someone will evaluate whether or not the charge applies, and potentially invalidate their gender.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 01:53 PM
Aug 2017

It's a bad idea, and, I believe, would be illegal where I live.

titaniumsalute

(4,742 posts)
148. Good thing I'm not a Vegan
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 11:29 AM
Aug 2017

And frankly I think this is stupid. I would think a steakhouse that charges females 18% tax would be just a dumb.

 

Sen. Walter Sobchak

(8,692 posts)
168. Men who patronize vegan cafes...
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 04:53 PM
Aug 2017

Sounds like they're targeting the patriarchy with some laser-guided hellfire through the window precision right there.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
172. Ah, yes. They must be dumb, right? This must all be just badly done "patriarchy targeting"
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 05:28 PM
Aug 2017

rather than simply pointing out an undeniable discrimination. And they must not know that REAL men only eat meat, right? They aren't reading the men right, so this is just stupid, right?

EX500rider

(10,847 posts)
175. Apparently China decided to go a slightly different way:
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 05:42 PM
Aug 2017
Chinese restaurant offers bra-size discounts

A Chinese restaurant has come under fire for offering discounts to women depending on their bra size, it's reported.
According to the Qianjiang Evening Post, local people complained to the council after seeing posters advertising discounts for the Trendy Shrimp restaurant at a mall in Hangzhou, the main city of coastal Zhejiang province.
The company's adverts showed a line-up of cartoon women in their underwear with the slogan "The whole city is looking for BREASTS". It listed discounts for women depending on their cup size, with greater offers available to women with bigger busts.




http://www.bbc.com/news/blogs-news-from-elsewhere-40851224

johnp3907

(3,731 posts)
182. This is kinda off the subject, but....
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 06:02 PM
Aug 2017

I love the ignore function! As I write this there are 179 comments, but I only see 8! (I saw a few more earlier, but I added 2 jerks to my ignore list since then.) I logged out just now to see what all those comments I can't see were all about, and Holly Cow! What a bunch of privileged crybabies!!!! It's funny how so many of their comments boil down to "It's not fair!!!!" Bingo!

sheshe2

(83,758 posts)
185. Please correct me if I am wrong about your post.
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 06:10 PM
Aug 2017

Are you saying women are privileged cry babies? I hope not.

johnp3907

(3,731 posts)
186. No no! Just the opposite!
Mon Aug 7, 2017, 06:16 PM
Aug 2017

It's the men being crybabies. And sadly, they don't even learn the very lesson that they themselves are inadvertently pointing out with their cries of "No fair!"
I think these cafe owners are doing a wonderful thing.

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