MY INITIATION AS A WHORE

[Hestia]

MY INITIATION AS A WHORE
by Artemisia de Vine

It has been four years since I became a full-time sexuality professional: a whore. Wow what an incredible journey it has been! I have grown so much as a person and as a professional to become the Goddess of Conscious Kink and the Erotic Arts I am today. I have worked under many names and in many different roles and learned a wide variety of erotic arts from feathers to whips, following the erotic cookie crumbs on a journey of sweat, flesh, cum and self discovery.

This morning I let my mind drift back in time to a pivotal moment a couple of years before I decided to enter the adult industry. I now see that it was my initiation into whoredom. The memory touched me so much I wept. I want to share it with you. I want to honor the people who may not realise they played a part in making me who I am.

I’ve always been a sexually curious adventurer. My friends would say, “Can’t you talk about anything else besides sex?” I’d be quite baffled at that. It was my passion and fascination. It was my thing. I’ve also always been drawn to look into the “whys” and “hows” of the human psyche. It became a natural thing for me to want to explore sexuality with awareness. However it has been a long journey and I started with practically no knowledge and a deep, destructive sense of shame due to my strict upbringing.

My adventures in self discovery led me to try all sorts of outrageous things: BDSM, swinging, group sex, ritual sex, exhibitionism and more. You name it, I tried it. I lost count of how many lovers of all genders I’d had well and truly before I turned professional. Through it all I remained a spiritual being who aimed to have integrity. Oh I made mistakes aplenty, but my intention was to remain in integrity for my own well-being and for that of my play partners.

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She played with words pictures and poetry to create impressions: snippets of things long ago, of myth, of legend, of temples to the Goddess where sacred prostitutes were once honored, of times when Goddesses were revered. She whispered of incense, flesh, spirit, of embodied, empowered women, menstrual blood, lovers entwined, erotic pleasure, dance… the visceral and the ethereal. Cunt. Whore. Slut. Spirit. Heart. All as words of empowerment not degradation.

much more at: http://badwitch.es/initiation-whore/
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This comes from a really good site with lots of food for thought and other things...

[TexasTowelie]

1. IBTL.

[Hestia]

15. Isn't it cool that this hasn't been locked? That's why I put it in Good Reads. :)

I was actually scared to come back and see what happened to the thread. I figured someone had swooned and threw a hissy fit.

[TexasTowelie]

17. If the author of the piece is willing to call herself a whore

and the forum hosts allow it to pass then I'm not going to make an issue about it. I try not to be judgmental about the way that people describe themselves even if those words have negative connotations associated with them.

[Cleita]

2. Interesting but I don't think this will last long here.

Too many self appointed morality police here. I myself like knowledge and the historic origins of our words and present day institutions.

[William769]

3. You just like to CYA. Not fooling anyone.

[George II]

6. But the author didn't call OUR leading candidate for President one.

[Cleita]

10. Neither did I or the OP.

If you have an issue about this it belongs in GD Primaries.

[TreasonousBastard]

4. You mean a real, live, actual, honest-to-something-like-a-god...

whore? A prostitute-- someone who charges money for sexual acts.

Not an insult to all women. Not a metaphor with some mysterious meaning.

Too bad that word is forbidden around here. Even if it's the best fitting word, and found in most dictionaries, its very utterance causes flurries of angst and dyspepsia, leading to multiple alerts and possible hiding.

[Cleita]

5. It also seems to be commonly used in media. Randi Rhodes and

Stephanie Miller regularly call each other whores in a sisterly fashion.

[George II]

7. Not in reference to the most admired woman in the world.

http://www.gallup.com/poll/180365/barack-obama-hillary-clinton-extend-run-admired.aspx

[Cleita]

9. This thread has nothing to do with Hillary Clinton.

Take it back to GD primaries where it belongs.

[TreasonousBastard]

8. As you may have noticed...

a lot of words commonly used in the media and the various arts, not to mention general conversation, are verboten around here.

FWIW, on a discussion group of a more or less scientific group I'm involved with, someone complained mightily about the use of "fellowship" as excluding women. Out of general interest, I asked about this in a women's forum here and four out of five responders had no problem with it. One even mentioned she's on a list called a "feminist fellowship".

I am dismayed when the objection to a word overwhelms the actual meaning behind the usage of that word.

[Cleita]

11. It happens with regularity here among a certain clique.

It does not help make it the diverse place it should be.

[Hestia]

14. Exactly! It's getting caught up in minutia, which detracts and time sucks. It's someone who

is trying to get their 15 minutes and putting their narcissism out for display, though they would be horrified to be accused as such. It has been the ruin of many great Fellowships that could have changed the world. I can't believe that this was brought up in a scientific forum! To me, it just makes people throw up their hands and not come back. Who has time for such nonsense?

I know everyone wants to live in a perfect and just world and we are consciously co-creating this paradigm we are living in, (being confirmed through quantum science) nitpicking just delays the process.

[Hestia]

16. and when did this start and who started it? I leave for a couple of days and come back

to a thread where it is decided that oh, we can't use *that* word anymore. Who fucking decided THAT? I didn't see any conclusion or consensus that would lead one to believe that the word is now verboten.

Every word or act is not misogynistic or racial. When someone tries to ban or alert on stupid stuff, it is actually dividing people further. I could go on days about this but won't

[ismnotwasm]

12. Having lost good whore friends

To violence up to and including a serial killer, (he hunted them like they were animals) and watching street whores addicted to drug or coerced, until nobody was home, knowing old whores who can't make a living, have no health insurance and a shit ton of health problems, being friends with the daughters of whores who turned them out on the street, knowing divorced women whose now ex-husbands frequented whores and fucked the budget --so to speak, oh--and the kids they then declined to pay child support for, and any number of "victimless" examples--I don't take nearly so glamorous a view of whoredom.

(I do know one whore nearly 50, she got a little 'work' done, is more or less happy in what she does, unfortunately politically she's a libertarian. She's a feminist though, so we get along)

[Hestia]

13. Did you read the article to the ending?

Like all professions, there are a wide variety of people in the adult industry, with a wide variety of mind sets and skill sets. Some suited to the work and others not so much. What we all have in common is prejudice and persecution world-wide. Even where sex work is legal we can still be driven out of our homes, lose our kids, lose our day jobs, be socially ostracised, become unemployable. Those in places where it is not legal suffer being forced underground where they are more vulnerable to violence and afraid to seek police help in case they are jailed themselves. For, you know, performing mutually consensual acts with other adults.

I do not think she is glamorizing the profession just honestly acknowledging what she does and who she is. It was through other women that she attained the spirituality and erotic being that she is. Not everyone gets to do that, especially, I am sure, at an expensive club/retreat that most people have no desire or funding to go to.

During Ancient Roman times, returning soldiers were not allowed back into society until they had visited the Sacred Whore (actually different name) who cleansed them of their deeds and actions. They were Temple Priestesses. There are other women who are trying to bring back the Sacred Act to their followers if you will, within their own Temples that they have created. It is so much more than a sexual act.

I know that women/children who have been trafficked certainly don't feel that way and I would never ever presume to make them it either. Why does everything have to be so debased and diseased?

Banning the titles of ancient Mother Goddesses really gets us nowhere in society and actually suppresses the Sacred Feminine, IMNSHO. We live in a duality and there are two sides to every story, for ill and for good. And keeps us from actually acknowledging and having a conversation that there are trafficked women and children who desperately need all of our help.

Thank you for being adult about the OP and not alerting and actually reading the author's story.